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King PSYZ
07-11-2005, 01:33 AM
So I had talked with my Dad (he's been living with me for a while and a part of me feels obligated to see he's okay) and my girlfriend about getting a nice house to rent for all of us making life happily ever after.

So I went with my Boss (she's buying the home I will rent) and a co-worker who's moonlighitning real estate on Saturday to look at some houses in the pricerange we had discussed.

Well right now houses are selling within 48 hours in Vegas, so I didn't have as much time as I'd been hoping for to give my vote. My Father wanted to "sign off" on whatever place I choose (regardless of his oppinion I planned on moving). Well I didn't have the chance, I was told if I wanted a decent place I could afford we had a small window of a few hours to put in our bid. I made a judgement call based on the neighborhood and other factors and said yes.

Well fuck me if the bid wasn't accepted, problem is my Dad is being very standoffish about it all leaving me holding the bag because it seems this is a done deal and I feel obligated. Oh and my Girlfriend's Mom basiclly asked her to not move out of their home and in with me so there's another big part of this equation. Oh and my pops and I argued on the phone when he was being a douche to me about it all and now she's telling me she can;t see sharing the same space with me and him...

FUCK, so now I may be either spending a 1/3 of my income to maintain this house by myself because I feel obligated, or taking a roommate I don't know or really like for that matter, or having my Dad there but being somewhat bound to him until I move out of Vegas or until I can afford to buy my own place.

The capper was a comment from my girlfriend, who don't get me wrong I love, but said she has a bad feeling and thinks I won't be around as much because I'll be spending close to three times what I spend now for rent so logiclly I'd want to be in my house more than twice a week... GAH! It's only 5 minutes away from her place so it's not like I coldn't come and go on a moments notice.

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cosmo105
07-11-2005, 01:38 AM
eee, that's rough. i hope it works out for you man.

King PSYZ
07-11-2005, 01:41 AM
me too...

I should also add, because of me owning a rottweiler it is more than difficult to find decent affordable housing. So I am limited in what I can do without an "in" (AKA my boss being the owner of the home and a rotti owner herself)

alruggs
07-11-2005, 10:20 AM
Tell her it's either me or her that lives with you to help with the rent. I assure you she'll move in quickly.

kll
07-11-2005, 10:22 AM
wait - so let me get this straight- your g/f originally agreed to move in with you and your father, then at the last minute decided she didn't want to live with both of you or didn't want to move in together at all?

King PSYZ
07-11-2005, 10:32 AM
well originally, she said she couldn;t move out of her moms house because it's kinda co-dependant.
her mom watches her kid for her during the day and my g/f watches over her mentally challenged uncle.

well then some weirdness came about and they ended up taking on two pit bulls for a familly member who went to puerto rico for a three month vacation.

well they have three dogs already and these new dogs do not play well with others so they've had to cordon off half the house to keep them seperated. so she asked if she could move in with me and i made sure on several occasions she was serious.

i could go on for hours on all the idiosyncracies involved...

i always assumed this would happen and it would be me doing her a favor as i know she couldn't pay her share right now, but i was going to do that for her. oh well.

kll
07-11-2005, 10:33 AM
what a mess!


good luck!

King PSYZ
07-11-2005, 10:37 AM
it is a mess indeed...

i don't mind making concessions for my relationship because i do understand having a child involved complicates things. but i love both of them so i don't mind. but sometimes it would be nice if maybe some concessions were made for me.

marsdaddy
07-11-2005, 02:30 PM
If you want concessions made for you, tell both of them that. Then deal with the consequences/results.

Like everyone said, shit'll work out.

King PSYZ
08-23-2005, 09:06 PM
Like everyone said, shit'll work out.
Yup, it did. My boss the owner, got a great rate and is absorbing $200 of the payment making the rent only $1250/mo. about $250 more a month each than me and my Dad pay now.
He loves the place and we should be fully moved in by next Monday. Water gets turned on tomorrow, with power, phone, satellite, dsl, and gas to follow.

There are some issues, pool was left in horrid shape, so the $500 holdback wil mostly go to that. And there is some serious garden work ahead. But all in all we found a great place and a great deal. I guess my dad uncovered a black widow hive/nest whatever, so that was unnerving.

The only plus to not having my g/f live there is now we're gonna have a game room in the back with a air hockey table or something, since I don't need that much space now and took a smaller room.

DandyFop
08-23-2005, 09:59 PM
I met your dad! And your dog!

Anyway, glad it seems to be working out. I don't know your girl but it sounds a little excuseish to me, so maybe she's just not ready for that??

King PSYZ
08-23-2005, 10:01 PM
possibly, but i also know her mom and don't want to get into details cause I know Livy has read the board and she wouldn't want some things out there and I respect that.

but I do know her mom has asked serveral times for her to not leave her.

King PSYZ
08-23-2005, 10:02 PM
I met your dad! And your dog!
omg
sidd is gonna go bananas with a whole yard to frollic in!