Do you mind when people you find unattractive find you attractive? [Archive]

avignon

07-14-2005, 02:40 AM

OK, this is how much of a strange duck I am. I don't really like to be noticed at all. Seriously. In most situations, I am so shy that I would just rather people not look at me. Among my friends, well, I find them all attractive in some way, and I suppose they find me attractive in some way as well, or we wouldn't have become friends. But for me attraction is something much different than just physical appearance. I am not going to be pretentious and say "it's what is inside that makes you beautiful", or any other kind of bottled crap. But physically, I am attracted to people who carry themselves a certain way and have a certain temperament, to me these things are part of the physical appearance. So to answer the question, if a drunken redneck with muscles and boyish good looks stares at my boobs-I don't like it. But if a man or woman who appears less than the physical standard of beautiful but who carries themself in a way that draws my attention and projects an irresistible image of themself is attracted to me, then that's a good thing.

sam i am

07-14-2005, 02:42 AM

Yeah, that's why you got to think these things through before you answer, see? You never know when somee dude with extra teeth on the side of his neck is gonna be like, "Oh, reeeeally?".

That's hilarious...hahaha....I happen to HAVE extra teeth on the side of my neck.....what's wrong with that? ;) :D :eek: :o :confused:

Seriously, though, as a man, I like it when women find me attractive. It's always BETTER when their attractive as well, but I'll take a few not-so-attractive ones too. Ego boost. Teeth on side of neck, unibrow, and more than two breasts are where I would draw definite lines, however....

Medellia

07-14-2005, 02:48 AM

Freebasser

07-14-2005, 06:11 AM

A punk-chick with a moustache once tried to ask me out.

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 06:44 AM

I don't care one way or the other.

Junker

07-14-2005, 06:45 AM

A punk-chick with a moustache once tried to ask me out.

hahahahaha................did you accept?

Junker

07-14-2005, 06:46 AM

she didn't mind the teeth (http://www.mailonsunday.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=355630&in_page_id=1770)

(there's a better picture in the paper but i can't find it online. give it a week)

Thats disgusting. I think the old lady deserves a better looking person.............. :D

ms.peachy

07-14-2005, 06:49 AM

timmie

07-14-2005, 06:54 AM

Ouch!!! I can understand people who love each other with some form of age gap, but 39 year gap??!! 31 & 70 something? I mean come on! thats wrong!

Junker

07-14-2005, 07:01 AM

Ouch!!! I can understand people who love each other with some form of age gap, but 39 year gap??!! 31 & 70 something? I mean come on! thats wrong!

Imagine a naked woman with 70 years old..........ewwwwwww.........
disgusting. Its just like see your grandma naked and thats not a good thing to be seen.

JBernas

07-14-2005, 07:23 AM

I think a compliment is a compliment....I'm flattered anyway (unless it's some weird, creepy, molester type).

timmie

07-14-2005, 07:24 AM

Oh, please!! your putting me off my food, infact you have, I'm ruined for life, I'm just going to have these images in my head now!! eeeeewwwwwwwwwww.......mmmmmmm......smithers!!!!!! !

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 07:32 AM

Imagine a naked woman with 70 years old..........ewwwwwww.........
disgusting.
I guess it depends on what your grandma or that 70-YO looks like.
Have you seen Jane Fonda lately.

There are some >60 YOs and grandmas in the social part of my gym who are in much better shape than most <30 year olds.

Nuzzolese

07-14-2005, 07:52 AM

I'm confused by this question also, because I'm thinking, why wouldn't you want everyone to think you're attractive?

Loppfessor

07-14-2005, 07:59 AM

I'm not sure I understand the question. Is it just that these 'people' find you attractive, or that they are hitting on you?

Either way though, I can't see as it would bother me per se. I mean, it's just a compliment, isn't it?

Umm ditto. I take it as a compliment if someone finds me attractive but that doesn't mean that just cus some girl thinks I'm hot that I have to bone her. If they start hitting on you just let em down gently or say "Yeah right fugly...seen a mirror lately? I'm waaay outta your league!"

RobMoney

07-14-2005, 08:00 AM

I'd like to think I'd be attracted to someone for more than just their "looks"

Beauty fades with time
Personality lasts forever

Qdrop

07-14-2005, 08:04 AM

eh....i used to find it an ego boost, and still kinda do....

but it gets annoying....

i say this because, for some fucking reason....obese ugly chicks ALWAYS find me attractive....seriously.
like without fail.

not the skinny bucktooth chicks....not the big-nosed mustache chicks...

the obese ugly ones.
i don't understand this.i'm very slender...i weigh like 158 or some shit and i'm 6'. these women would crush me in sexual foreplay....i mean crush me- i would not survive.
why do they find someone a fraction of thier wieght to be attractive?

wanton wench

07-14-2005, 08:49 AM

Ouch!!! I can understand people who love each other with some form of age gap, but 39 year gap??!! 31 & 70 something? I mean come on! thats wrong!

ok since this was brought up, i have a question for everyone. what is the oldest or youngest person you have ever dated? and what was the age gap between you and them??

i have a friend that i have been hanging out with alot lately! he is a great guy. i get along better with him than anyone. we have so much fun together and we seem to always be thinking on the same page. he's about the only one who can drink as much as me and still stand straight! (ya we drink alot together, kinda bad) he is kinda cute and the more we talk the more attractive i find him but he is considerably older than i am. and i am having a problem with that. he is definitly interested but understands my situation and that i just want to be friends. he is very respectful, funny and intelligent. (unlike all the guys my age around here) so i am asking because i find myself thinking about him but the final thought is always "damm he's near perfect, if only he was 10 years younger" so what to do?? any advice??

wow! that just got real personal! :o

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 08:51 AM

i'm very slender...i weigh like 158 or some shit and i'm 6'.
I totally did not picture you looking like that.

these women would crush me in sexual foreplay....i mean crush me- i would not survive.
I have a co-worker who has expressed interest in me on/off over the years.

He's my height (5'6).

I weigh about 126-128# and exercise lots so there's a lot of muscle on me.

He weighs about 105 and does not exercise. No muscle.

If he can avoid it, he won't oopen doors for himself because they're too heavy. He grunts when he does open doors.

I'm not close to being overweight but I'd break him. No doubt.

He's attractive otherwise; he's just tiny thin. He doesn't like to sweat.

avignon

07-14-2005, 08:52 AM

beastieangel01

07-14-2005, 08:52 AM

I think a compliment is a compliment....I'm flattered anyway (unless it's some weird, creepy, molester type).

pretty much. It's not like I'd be "ok! I want to date you!" or something if I found them unattractive, but if they told me, I would say thank you.

avignon

07-14-2005, 08:54 AM

I totally did not picture you looking like that.

I have a co-worker who has expressed interest in me on/off over the years.

He's my height (5'6).

I weigh about 126-128# and exercise lots so there's a lot of muscle on me.

He weighs about 105 and does not exercise. No muscle.

If he can avoid it, he won't oopen doors for himself because they're too heavy. He grunts when he does open doors.

I'm not close to being overweight but I'd break him. No doubt.

He's attractive otherwise; he's just tiny thin. He doesn't like to sweat.
That would annoy the piss outta me. I want a man who can pick me up and toss me onto the bed.

Freebasser

07-14-2005, 08:58 AM

hahahahaha................did you accept?

I said no, which is odd, because I always found Klinger from M.A.S.H. to be highly attractive :/

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 09:00 AM

That would annoy the piss outta me. I want a man who can pick me up and toss me onto the bed.
I remember watching an episode of Friends (!) where Phoebe was dating a scientist (played by Hank Azaria). She was trying to get him to be more spontaneous--she wanted him to clear everything from a cluttered desk in one mad, crazed sweeping motion. Then she wanted him to put her onto the desk and go at it with vigor.

He couldn't do it. (Although he tried.)

I know people like that. Even though they look the part, they can't play it.
It's always disappointing. :)

Qdrop

07-14-2005, 09:00 AM

I totally did not picture you looking like that. what did you picture?

i have pics on sure shots....didn't think it was a mystery any more.

avignon

07-14-2005, 09:01 AM

what did you picture?

i have pics on sure shots....didn't think it was a mystery any more.
chin cleft

Qdrop

07-14-2005, 09:03 AM

The nerds always end up with the fat chicks. It's universal law.

yep.

wait, are you calling me a nerd?

my girl is tiny and light...hmph.

Qdrop

07-14-2005, 09:03 AM

chin cleft

oh, i got surgery for that.

mickill

07-14-2005, 09:14 AM

I'm not sure I understand the question. Is it just that these 'people' find you attractive, or that they are hitting on you?

Either way though, I can't see as it would bother me per se. I mean, it's just a compliment, isn't it?

Just that they find you attractive. They don't have to be hitting on you. And by "unattractive" I don't mean that they'd necessarily be perceived that way by absolutely everyone, just say they're not really your type. This is sort of a vain question, I know.

Ok, say you design clothes. Would you mind going the Calvin Klein route and allow Sears to carry your line, or would you want your line to be a little more exclusive like say, Marc Jacobs? If it were up to you. This is a stupid analogy, but I don't really know how else to ask it.

mickill

07-14-2005, 09:16 AM

I'm confused by this question also, because I'm thinking, why wouldn't you want everyone to think you're attractive?
But see, you're a glutton for praise and attention. I already knew your answer.

mickill

07-14-2005, 09:22 AM

"Yeah right fugly...seen a mirror lately? I'm waaay outta your league!"
This is sort of what I'm getting at. A lot of people DO feel this way. I'm not saying that I'm one of them, but I've known people that feel kinda repulsed when people whom they think are unattractive find them attractive for whatever reason. Like it offends them a little. Even if they just heard it from someone else.

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 09:25 AM

what did you picture?

i have pics on sure shots....didn't think it was a mystery any more.

I pictured you to be shorter and a weight-liftier kind of guy. Not tall and leanish.

I rarely go into Sure Shots. Every now and then I get in there completely by accident and then I can't find an escape route.

Qdrop

07-14-2005, 09:31 AM

I pictured you to be shorter and a weight-liftier kind of guy. Not tall and leanish.

basically, you figured my online persona points to "short-man syndrome"...complete with filling my stubby little limbs with creatine and picking fights with every tall guy at the bar.

avignon

07-14-2005, 09:32 AM

basically, you figured my online persona points to "short-man syndrome"...complete with filling my stubby little limbs with creatine and picking fights with every tall guy at the bar.
Haahahahahaahah! You just described my ex!

Nuzzolese

07-14-2005, 09:35 AM

Just that they find you attractive. They don't have to be hitting on you. And by "unattractive" I don't mean that they'd necessarily be perceived that way by absolutely everyone, just say they're not really your type. This is sort of a vain question, I know.

Ok, say you design clothes. Would you mind going the Calvin Klein route and allow Sears to carry your line, or would you want your line to be a little more exclusive like say, Marc Jacobs? If it were up to you. This is a stupid analogy, but I don't really know how else to ask it.

That's a bad analogy for a myriad of reasons. But I know what you're saying, it's like having someone you don't respect thinking you are fantastic. You don't respect their opinion so their high one of you becomes an insult. However, this is different because it's just aesthetics and some people can't help the way they look. Are you asking if their is any guilt when the feeling isn't mutual, or is there a sense of disgust at unwanted attention?

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 09:37 AM

This is sort of what I'm getting at. A lot of people DO feel this way. I'm not saying that I'm one of them, but I've known people that feel kinda repulsed when people whom they think are unattractive find them attractive for whatever reason. Like it offends them a little. Even if they just heard it from someone else.
I've made almost the opposite assumption. Particularly when I was younger. Assumed that a guy wouldn't look twice at or be interested in me because I thought he'd think he was out of my league. I learned that not all attractive guys have massive egos.

Before I deleted my long ass response earlier in this thread, I said something about how I'm not usually in the position to meet a guy and then WHAM start to go out with him--I don't go to clubs or bars. The dating that I've done has happened from having met people at university, work, through the sports that I do, or through volunteering. With that comes a slower evolution of the friendship and a different development of attraction--done over time. That lets me get rid of those superficial, often-inaccurate first impressions and has helped me to think of "leagues" differently. I might be out of someone's league looks/physique-wise, but I might not not even be close intellectually or spiritually or <x>ly.

Nuzzolese

07-14-2005, 09:38 AM

This is sort of what I'm getting at. A lot of people DO feel this way. I'm not saying that I'm one of them, but I've known people that feel kinda repulsed when people whom they think are unattractive find them attractive for whatever reason. Like it offends them a little. Even if they just heard it from someone else.

It's like they're afraid or something, as if their beauty makes them vulnerable to attack. I guess I understand it though, not the feeling beautiful thing but the wish to not have someone else's admiration. Last night I was wearing a push-up bra and a couple of tight shirts (I like to layer) and an old ugly guy blatantly looked RIGHT at my chest twice, which for me was kind of cool because normally that doesn't happen but I briefly felt disgust and I wonder if I would have felt excited if he had been an attractive young man, or if I would have just felt cheap. As it was, I felt flattered in a looky-no-touchy way.

Nuzzolese

07-14-2005, 09:42 AM

I've made almost the opposite assumption. Particularly when I was younger. Assumed that a guy wouldn't look twice at or be interested in me because I thought he'd think he was out of my league. I learned that not all attractive guys have massive egos.

I've known some ridiculously nice attractive people who seemed to feel guilty for being so good-looking, and they always wanted to reassure people that they were understanding and kind, but deep down they seethed with bitterness at having such a responsibility. Boy, I'm lucky I'm average. It's like the security that comes with being middle class. Mediocrity is easy, and inviting in its bland absence of intimidation and offense.

avignon

07-14-2005, 09:45 AM

Yesterday, I went to the produce market to buy a melon, and this woman wasn't looking in the direction she was walking, and she bumped into me. I felt the soft give of her breasts against my arm and felt her gasp in her chest. Then we looked at each other for a minute and then giggled at the same time. She was so cute. If I was gay and single I would have hit on her.

Hold on, it made sense to post this here a minute ago. Oh yeah! So does that whole scarey dude checking you out creepy feeling happen when women check you out. I think I look at attractive women more than I look at attractive men. Men make me shy, but women don't. And I just like to look at them.

mickill

07-14-2005, 09:48 AM

That's a bad analogy for a myriad of reasons. But I know what you're saying, it's like having someone you don't respect thinking you are fantastic. You don't respect their opinion so their high one of you becomes an insult. However, this is different because it's just aesthetics and some people can't help the way they look. Are you asking if their is any guilt when the feeling isn't mutual, or is there a sense of disgust at unwanted attention?

More disgust than guilt. Like you don't want their business. You don't want Emilio Estevez to express interest in endorsing your product, you want that fag from LOTR or Pirates of the Caribbean...what's his name...ORLANDO BLOOM. Yes, I'm trying to come up with a better analogy.

Echewta

07-14-2005, 09:50 AM

I'm just a cave man. This question frightens and confusses me. I don't much about being attractive but I do know this, there are some women who still like the whole club thing.

mickill

07-14-2005, 09:51 AM

I've known some ridiculously nice attractive people who seemed to feel guilty for being so good-looking, and they always wanted to reassure people that they were understanding and kind, but deep down they seethed with bitterness at having such a responsibility.
Hey man, don't go airing my dirty laundry out in public like that.

Nuzzolese

07-14-2005, 10:01 AM

Hey man, don't go airing my dirty laundry out in public like that.

Why? We're not good enough to look at your dirty laundry? That's it, isn't it? You're disgusted with us and our attention on your laundry because it's so out of our league. Whatever. You ain't no Orlando Bloom, honey, so get over yourself. *snap snap*

mickill

07-14-2005, 10:06 AM

Why? We're not good enough to look at your dirty laundry? That's it, isn't it? You're disgusted with us and our attention on your laundry because it's so out of our league. Whatever. You ain't no Orlando Bloom, honey, so get over yourself. *snap snap*

Well, if you're gonna look at it, at least wash it for me. And make sure you separate the whites from the colors. I don't believe in laundry integration.

Nuzzolese

07-14-2005, 10:13 AM

Well, if you're gonna look at it, at least wash it for me. And make sure you separate the whites from the colors. I don't believe in laundry integration.

I separate the ugly clothes from the pretty ones.

mickill

07-14-2005, 10:17 AM

I separate the ugly clothes from the pretty ones.
Yes, keep your laundry separate from mine, thank you.

kll

07-14-2005, 10:36 AM

Back when I was younger and less wise, I didn't agree with When Harry Met Sally. I thought men and women COULD be friends with sex never falling into the equation. Now that I am older, I realize that sex doesn't have to occur, but men really are not friends with girls unless they have wanted to have sex with them at one time or another. I am not saying that your best guy friend wants to bend you over your desk right now, but at one time or another he has or will have those thoughts... Because of this, I find that being friends with a guy that you have never had any interest in, can at times, be annoying or untimely... I tend to tolerate males a lot more if I am attracted to them...

Nuzzolese

07-14-2005, 10:48 AM

Do men casually strike up conversations with women they aren't attracted to?

Freebasser

07-14-2005, 10:49 AM

I have before.

adam_f

07-14-2005, 10:51 AM

I haven't mainly because I'm afraid that their cooties are more contagious.

cosmo105

07-14-2005, 10:57 AM

there's a very regular customer that shops at my store allllll the time that very obviously has a thing for me. the thing is...he's in his mid- to late forties, and just...uggghhh. i mean, he's a REALLY nice guy and i think he's great, but...hurggghlfff. it's so blatantly obvious, too. my coworkers tease me about it to no end. when he sees me, his face lights up, he smiles, says in the most sunshiney voice, "HI, JESSICA! :):):)" and i turn bright red. i used to be flattered but now it's just embarassing and half the time i go in the back room and wait until he leaves...

thank god he finally saw me there with steger. after that trip he would mention my boyfriend...and ask me what lip balm did i like best for kissing him :(

i doubt he would ever really come on to me to the point where i felt it was harassment, but it still bothers me. he'll thank me way too much when i order something for him or tell him we got in what he ordered or even just ring him up. i'm just doing my job and being polite, and i DEFINITELY don't do anything to egg him on. it used to be just funny, and my manager and i would joke about it all the time, but it's gotten to the point where i just wish he would leave me alone :\

Freebasser

07-14-2005, 10:58 AM

You heard the girl, Mickill.

adam_f

07-14-2005, 11:00 AM

Your avatar matches the thread nicely.

Echewta

07-14-2005, 11:00 AM

Do men casually strike up conversations with women they aren't attracted to?

Totally.

mickill

07-14-2005, 11:04 AM

You heard the girl, Mickill.
What? Is there a law against stalking people or something?

wavin_goodbye

07-14-2005, 11:04 AM

i guess it depends... if you're talking solely whether they think you are good looking, it doesn't really matter.. because all people have standards.

but going a bit further, i would find it more annoying if they "were interested" in you .. because it's always a pain "rejecting" someone

cosmo105

07-14-2005, 11:10 AM

What? Is there a law against stalking people or something?
look, i just don't like it when you stare at me like that. i'm fully clothed, man. stop squeezing the papayas and mangoes and winking suggestively. it's just creepy.

Freebasser

07-14-2005, 11:12 AM

I bet it's worse when he arrives with Chewie in tow :(

mickill

07-14-2005, 11:13 AM

look, i just don't like it when you stare at me like that. i'm fully clothed, man. stop squeezing the papayas and mangoes and winking suggestively. it's just creepy.
WTF? Who buys papayas and mangoes without doing the squeeze test first? I can't help it if I happen to look up and see you at the same time....

...and I have a twitch. :(

Qdrop

07-14-2005, 11:17 AM

after that trip he would mention my boyfriend...and ask me what lip balm did i like best for kissing him :(

ewww...
all future conversation with him should just stop right there....
what a perv.

Nuzzolese

07-14-2005, 11:20 AM

ewww...
all future conversation with him should just stop right there....
what a perv.

Nah that's just something cute old men say. They like to delight in the charm of youth.

Qdrop

07-14-2005, 11:27 AM

Nah that's just something cute old men say. They like to delight in the charm of youth.

yeah, keep telling yourself that....

perv lover....

enabler....

Echewta

07-14-2005, 11:32 AM

I bet it's worse when he arrives with Chewie in tow :(

Whoa whoa, I dont hang out with Mickill. Thats his turf, I got my own.

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 11:49 AM

kll

07-14-2005, 11:50 AM

yeah, keep telling yourself that....

perv lover....

enabler....

you know, that's a good point, Q...

nuzz never mentions her disgust for the pervs - only men in general... pervs are in a whole other category...

Qdrop

07-14-2005, 11:54 AM

A little bit, yeah. That's not you, huh?

not quite.

go to sure shots.

mickill

07-14-2005, 11:55 AM

go to sure shots.

Make her.

*shove*

Nuzzolese

07-14-2005, 11:55 AM

A little bit, yeah. That's not you, huh?

No he's a big nerd, probably gets into heated passion over midnight Dennys Axis and Allies marathons.

avignon

07-14-2005, 11:56 AM

Goddamn, Q, you are so peddling your wares.

Just tell everyone that you look like John Travolta because of the chin cleft thing.

Freebasser

07-14-2005, 12:00 PM

Whoa whoa, I dont hang out with Mickill. Thats his turf, I got my own.

nuh uh (http://img252.imageshack.us/img252/4215/evidencetothecontrary9km.jpg)

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 12:02 PM

not quite.

go to sure shots.
You say that like it's easy to go in there and easily find a picture without mucking around and having to trudge through it all.

Is there a search feature that I'm missing--like something that says, go to Sure Shots, find all *photos* of Qdrop (not just mentions of him), display photos in chrono order. If not, then I'm not goin in there.

Echewta

07-14-2005, 12:03 PM

No he's a big nerd, probably gets into heated passion over midnight Dennys Axis and Allies marathons.

Whoa, your nerd hotness level just went up like 10 points.

Echewta

07-14-2005, 12:04 PM

nuh uh (http://img252.imageshack.us/img252/4215/evidencetothecontrary9km.jpg)

She's kissing my shoulder, I win.

Freebasser

07-14-2005, 12:04 PM

I woulda put Cos in there too for added OMGROFL effect, but it took about 3 attempts to get Photoshop up and running without this hunk of junk overheating.

mickill

07-14-2005, 12:05 PM

You say that like it's easy to go in there and easily find a picture without mucking around and having to trudge through it all.

Is there a search feature that I'm missing--like something that says, go to Sure Shots, find all *photos* of Qdrop (not just mentions of him), display photos in chrono order. If not, then I'm not goin in there.
Just ask Freebasser to send you some pictures from his Q folder.

And Aid, that poster seriously brings back memories.

Qdrop

07-14-2005, 12:18 PM

No he's a big nerd, probably gets into heated passion over midnight Dennys Axis and Allies marathons.

that's so obscure that it's not even remotely funny.

for shame....

Qdrop

07-14-2005, 12:19 PM

Chicka B

07-14-2005, 12:26 PM

Ok seriously, if some unattractive dude finds me attractive then I don't really mind I'm just like, nevermind, but if he tries to ask me out then I'll be like "I already have a boyfriend" or something. I'm a real nice person. But it seems like guys my age are never attracted to me, I guess they like more outgoing girls or something, and I'm quiet and shy. I'll break out of that someday I hope, or maybe not. :(

Freebasser

07-14-2005, 12:36 PM

You say that like it's easy to go in there and easily find a picture without mucking around and having to trudge through it all.

Is there a search feature that I'm missing--like something that says, go to Sure Shots, find all *photos* of Qdrop (not just mentions of him), display photos in chrono order. If not, then I'm not goin in there.

Here he is, girls... (http://img351.imageshack.us/img351/1407/me21oj.jpg)

ScarySquirrel

07-14-2005, 12:46 PM

I take what I can get. Which isn't that much to begin with.

Realisitcally, I think people shouldn't care though. Someone finds you attractive... be grateful. Big whoop if you don't think they are attractive. Forget about it and be glad that you got something someone else wants and they'll never get it.

Never gonna get it, never gonna get it. Never gonna get it, never gonna get it.

tulla

07-14-2005, 01:07 PM

if someone is talking to me who i find unattractive and/or annoying i usually tend to be very bitchy, distant, and rude to them.

i think it's something that i need to change about myself because when other people, perhaps even attractive people who i wanna bang, see me acting this way toward other people, they then gain a disliking towards me, i'm sure.

so i gotta stop that.

Qdrop

07-14-2005, 01:39 PM

Here he is, girls... (http://img351.imageshack.us/img351/1407/me21oj.jpg)

how long did you labor on that?

it actually looks pretty good.

now i'm considering growing a mustache.

Nuzzolese

07-14-2005, 01:43 PM

so i gotta stop that.

Not because it hurts their feelings or anything, but because it might prevent hot people from banging you? :p Whatever the reason, I suppose the outcome is the same. Sometimes I touch people only because I think they seem like the kind of person that no one ever touches. It feels insincere, like pity not genuine respect, and it's not much better than me touching them in the hopes that a hot guy will bang me for it. Let me know if you have any questions regarding this post. I'm not sure it will be as clear as I'd like it to be.

done

07-14-2005, 01:44 PM

how long did you labor on that?

it actually looks pretty good.

now i'm considering growing a mustache.
don't

Nuzzolese

07-14-2005, 01:46 PM

now i'm considering growing a mustache.

You should do it if you can, Burt Reynolds style. Not many guys can grow one so if you can you should take adavantage of your follicle abilities.

Freebasser

07-14-2005, 02:07 PM

how long did you labor on that?

About 45 seconds.

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 02:10 PM

Fuck. I stand corrected. So you're easy on the eyes.

If you're into that good-looking guy sort of thing.

Nuzzolese

07-14-2005, 02:14 PM

Sometimes I doubt the depth of my appreciation for Q and wonder, do I only like him for his looks?

Qdrop

07-14-2005, 02:16 PM

Fuck. I stand corrected. So you're easy on the eyes.

If you're into that good-looking guy sort of thing.

so you assumed i was some short hairy troll or something?...
dang.

Qdrop

07-14-2005, 02:17 PM

About 45 seconds.

oooooooooohhh...

are you vying for the "photoshop god" vacancy that knuckles left?

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 02:21 PM

so you assumed i was some short hairy troll or something?...
dang.
You know what? Your posting voice sounds JUST like a few guys who look...not like you. Yeah, I made that connection in my head and assumed. :( I do it lots here and probably should go to Sure Shots more just to stop it.

Nuzzolese

07-14-2005, 02:35 PM

You know what? Your posting voice sounds JUST like a few guys who look...not like you. Yeah, I made that connection in my head and assumed. :( I do it lots here and probably should go to Sure Shots more just to stop it.

Before you do, tell us your other assumptions. I'm interested. I have a mental image of what I think you look like and even though you've told me it's not true, that doesn't change things much.

beastiegirrl101

07-14-2005, 02:38 PM

just say thank you, smile and walk away.

Echewta

07-14-2005, 02:44 PM

I learned alot about Tulla today. Can't say that very often.

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 02:45 PM

Before you do, tell us your other assumptions. I'm interested. I have a mental image of what I think you look like and even though you've told me it's not true, that doesn't change things much.
Oh no. Or at least not for all of them.

Obviously, I'm off. WAY off.

I will say that I just think of you as looking like Jennifer Connelly.
Maybe just because of your avatar. I don't think she'd be as well-spoken/articulate as you are. I know that sounds sucky-uppy.
I don't mean it to.

Beckalina

07-14-2005, 02:54 PM

hahahahaha................did you accept?
yes he did ;)

mickill

07-14-2005, 02:58 PM

I will say that I just think of you as looking like Jennifer Connelly.
Maybe just because of your avatar. I don't think she'd be as well-spoken/articulate as you are. I know that sounds sucky-uppy.
I don't mean it to.

Ugh...get a room, you two.

Nuzzolese

07-14-2005, 03:00 PM

Oh no. Or at least not for all of them.

Obviously, I'm off. WAY off.

I will say that I just think of you as looking like Jennifer Connelly.
Maybe just because of your avatar. I don't think she'd be as well-spoken/articulate as you are. I know that sounds sucky-uppy.
I don't mean it to.

I think two people said I looked like her, it's just because we have the same coloring that's all. Be sucky-uppy if you want, I'll still respect you. *Purrrrrr*

I imagine you looking young, but tall and ripped like Angela Bassett arms, and for a long time I pictured you as a blonde but now I picture you looking like a woman I used to work with who had a sharp jawline and was tanned and freckled, with curly brown hair.

Qdrop

07-14-2005, 03:02 PM

if someone is talking to me who i find unattractive and/or annoying i usually tend to be very bitchy, distant, and rude to them.

anyone who was surprised by this, raise your hand....

yeah, that's what i thought.

Nuzzolese

07-14-2005, 03:02 PM

Ugh...get a room, you two.

room (http://www.durabilt.com/grph/3season-patio-room.jpg)

Freebasser

07-14-2005, 03:02 PM

oooooooooohhh...

are you vying for the "photoshop god" vacancy that knuckles left?

To be fair, I had it before he came along.

hpdrifter

07-14-2005, 03:16 PM

I wouldn't find it annoying unless the person I found unattractive was being really pushy about trying to date me. If they found me attractive and were just nice and low-key about it that would be awesome.

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 03:20 PM

ToucanSpam

07-14-2005, 03:22 PM

I find I am usually on the shitty end of the stick in this scenario. Not that im unattractive, but maybe it's just my luck.

If someone is attracted to me and I'm not attracted to them I just say and do nothing and hope they give up.

Nuzzolese

07-14-2005, 03:23 PM

There is a movie called the great white hope with james earl jones. The people at the gym say that I look like the woman in that movie during the bedroom scene, when her hair is not pinned up. Which of course made me TiVo that movie up and look at it. I was watching James Earl Jones mostly. :p Sucky movie. I could see why they thought I looked like her. Mostly, I think it's because I wear wife-beater shirts lots and that's what she was wearing.

My kid said my arms are too thin. I love you too boy. So I don't think they're ripped. :( My hair goes from straight to curly to straight...depending on how much I beat it into submission. I don't know about the jawline thing. I have a long nose. Green eyes. Olive skin. Or maybe the other way around. :)

I have a long face and big ears, and my teeth aren't straight. Besides that, I look like my older brother except he got pretty angled green eyes and I got round brown ones. Green eyes seem so rare and special, I admire them. I don't remember what the woman in the movie looked like, but I thought it was pretty good anyway, and kind of an oldie too, I'm surprised it's one so readily referenced by the gym-people. Hey which reminds me, isn't the gym a way to meet people? You mentioned how you needed the safety walk.

adam_f

07-14-2005, 03:23 PM

Originally posted by enree erzweggle
There is a movie called the great white hope with james earl jones.

I always figured you for a seventy year old black man.

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 03:34 PM

I have a long face and big ears, and my teeth aren't straight. Besides that, I look like my older brother except he got pretty angled green eyes and I got round brown ones. Green eyes seem so rare and special, I admire them. I don't remember what the woman in the movie looked like, but I thought it was pretty good anyway, and kind of an oldie too, I'm surprised it's one so readily referenced by the gym-people. Hey which reminds me, isn't the gym a way to meet people? You mentioned how you needed the safety walk.

I'm giggling. I needed the safety walk at work not to meet guys--I have guy friends--but to meet people that I work with. It was a stupidly worded joke. I was referring to this: I more often than not ghost-write entire reports and articles for people without ever having met them. We do everything in email or by phone.

I'm okay on the dating front. :o

The gym--the people that I hang out with there are early morning types and they're all 30-50ish. Some are older; some are younger. The ring-leader of the early morning crowd is 44 and he looks like David Hasselhoff. He assigns celebrities to the regulars who look like celebrities. What can I say--in the dead of winter, it's boring in there sometimes.

I think crooked teeth are fine. Not just because mine are that way but because sometimes they make a person look more genuine/sincere, less plasticy and fixed.

My sister is 4 years older than I am. She looks lilke she's 4 years younger and her green eyes are like the green swirls inside of marbles. Mine are more the color of olives. Drabby.

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 03:35 PM

I always figured you for a seventy year old black man.
I thought you were the 70-year old black man? :confused:

ToucanSpam

07-14-2005, 03:37 PM

I always figured you for a seventy year old black man.
Um, dude thats my mom.

Nuzzolese

07-14-2005, 03:46 PM

I think crooked teeth are fine. Not just because mine are that way but because sometimes they make a person look more genuine/sincere, less plasticy and fixed.

I've heard that too but I still feel self conscious about it. My new guy I'm talking to told me he could never be with somene who didn't have a nice smile, and how important a nice smile was to him - and my heart sank and then he told me he liked mine and it turns out he meant a sincere smile or something like that, not perfect teeth (obviously) unless he was lying to try to sleep with me which is always a possibility. But he's going to take me to his gym next week to show me how to lift weights, as soon as his hand heals. He had a power tool accident. He'd probably be like a Dash Mihok.

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 03:48 PM

Um, dude thats my mom.
This made me laugh. (But I thought I was fired.)

You should tell me what yer ma looks like and I'll tell you if we come close.

Does she own an apron?
Does she iron and cook...and bake?
...roll her hair up in curlers?
...she dust with a featherduster or dust at all?
Does she read True Confessions and Better Homes and Gardens?
Is she a Mrs. Cleaver ma to you?

I'm not any of that.
Yer ma's goin down or I'm gettin fired again.

edit: I redid this post to make it very g-rated but I could ask a lot more. She's still goin down.

Echewta

07-14-2005, 03:49 PM

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 03:51 PM

I've heard that too but I still feel self conscious about it. My new guy I'm talking to told me he could never be with somene who didn't have a nice smile, and how important a nice smile was to him - and my heart sank and then he told me he liked mine and it turns out he meant a sincere smile or something like that, not perfect teeth (obviously) unless he was lying to try to sleep with me which is always a possibility. But he's going to take me to his gym next week to show me how to lift weights, as soon as his hand heals. He had a power tool accident. He'd probably be like a Dash Mihok.
I totally have to get braces to fix a problem. That'll be a hell of a smile for a year.

Your guy friend sounds sweet and he goes to the gym so I like him already. :)

ToucanSpam

07-14-2005, 03:51 PM

This made me laugh. (But I thought I was fired.)

You should tell me what yer ma looks like and I'll tell you if we come close.

Does she own an apron?
Does she iron and cook...and bake?
...roll her hair up in curlers?
...she dust with a featherduster or dust at all?
Does she read True Confessions and Better Homes and Gardens?
Is she a Mrs. Cleaver ma to you?

I'm not any of that.
Yer ma's goin down or I'm gettin fired again.

edit: I redid this post to make it very g-rated but I could ask a lot more. She's still goin down.
Let's see here.
She does not own an apron.
She cooks. No Not a real baker, but can. She does not iron.
Never uses rollers.
NO featherduster.
She loves romance stories. And Jane Auel. And Harry Potter, and some others I cannot remember.
Not Jude Cleaver. Definately not.

You're my e-mom. And I wuv ooo for that!! :D

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 03:53 PM

You're my e-mom. And I wuv ooo for that!! :D
I'm still going after yer ma.
Maybe after I make her read some better literature. :)

ToucanSpam

07-14-2005, 03:58 PM

I'm still going after yer ma.
Maybe after I make her read some better literature. :)
yeah, safe to say bad taste in books doesnt run in the family hahaha

enree erzweglle

07-14-2005, 03:58 PM

I always find it interesting to be attracted to someone via their postings having seen or not seen their pictures. This is one of the few places where, if they are honest, you can get to know someone and not have the attractive/unattractive get in the way.
(y) You can tell when people are being truthful for the most part, too.
You have to be a little more discerning but it's possible.

I've met so many of my current friends online at school or work. Like I said in an earlier post, most of the people I work with, I communicate with online exclusively or it starts out that way and moves into a friendship.

I've known some online people for a long, long time and those friendships mean a lot to me. It's one of the reasons why I always cringe a little when people discount the validity/realness of one of the internets.

mickill

07-14-2005, 04:31 PM

You're my e-mom. And I wuv ooo for that!! :D
Could you put a sock in it with the e-mom shit, already? Do you even know how annoying you're being? Like, do you have ANY way of surmising this kind of thing on your own or do you constantly require other people to tell you what a pain in the ass you're being? How about if everybody refers to you as their e-douche. I'm gonna follow you from thread to thread and refer to you as my e-douche. How about that? Not that I require a douche...ok, bad illustration. Either way, you're being an FRICKIN' moron and you need to stop. You're lucky enree is too polite to verbally slap you on your fat head..