I'm still in third grade.

[beastieangel01]

Random rant/information. Feel free to ignore it.

So, I have a hard time making friends that are girls. I think large in part due to my interests. I remember once being around a large amount of girls one time and everyone shared their interests and blah blah. They got to me:

"I like video games, drawing, dancing, music, art, zombie movies are GREAT! um, yeah..."

NOT ONE tried to befriend me after introductions were made and all that. I was for the most part, ignored. Haha.

Anyways, the few girl friends I have are never come out much anymore. They are all grown up now; pregnant, engaged, etc. And I have a total of two girl friends that live here.

There is a new girl at work that took my position and she is around my age. My co-worker has already talked to her about herself and what not, while I unfortunately have not quite yet in depth. Saturday is my boyfriends birthday and he just wants to do the usual of going to this bar we like, and so my co-worker is coming. He said the new girl should come too and I said yes, so he said to ask her.

Then I felt all weird and awkward because I haven't talked to her in depth about herself yet so inviting her to this bar on the day of my boyfriends birthday... yeah weird. Anyways, I asked my co-worker to invite her for me. Kinda like "anyone can come and you should come out blah blah."

I feel so retarded. Especially because in the back of my head I'm like "I hope she's cool and we can be friends heehee."

Ugh. :(

[Freebasser]

Pull her pigtails and run away.

[beastieangel01]

haha it's not like that. I just want to be her friend!

(and saying that, again, I feel like I'm in third grade, heh).


:/ being an awkward girl sucks, man.

[TurdBerglar]

pinch her ass too

[Freebasser]

You should just ask her yourself.

For all you know, she likes Resident Evil 2 as well.

[alruggs]

Crystal,

WILL YOU BE MY FRIEND?

CIRCLE ONE:

YES or NO


ANDREA

[Nuzzolese]

I find it hard to believe that women won't be your friend because of your interests. It's not like many women share the same interests anyway, and go do things and talk about things they each like. Maybe because you're self conscious about other women, then that shows and you don't expect women to be your friend, so it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Maybe?

[DroppinScience]

It's weird how girls can have a hard time getting along with other girls.

My girlfriend tells me she tends to prefer the company of men because girls are just so catty and are always conniving and manipulative.

Yeah, I guess "Mean Girls" is an accurate depiction of how girls act when around other girls. ;)

[TurdBerglar]

i said this many times before. 90%(if not more) of the time, if i a guy is friends with a chick it's a failed attempt to fuck the chick or to be in a deep committed realationship with the chick. and that guy probably has a huge crush on the chick if he's still sticking around and being "friends" with chick. it's very difficult for most guys to have a truely platonic relationship. for the most part guys don't really want to talk to women unelss they are attracted to them and if they do talk it's mostly teasing or slight or heavy flirting. most guys aren't very interested in being friends with women the way they are friends with other guys. so all you women with guy friends, those guys are probably thinking about you and jerking off.

[HEIRESS]

all my male/female friends know Im a bi-platonic good time to be around

ifyahknowwhatimeannnnnn

I want to go makeup and cheap underwear shopping with crystal at walmart
(!)

[bigblu89]

i said this many times before. 90%(if not more) of the time, if i a guy is friends with a chick it's a failed attempt to fuck the chick or to be in a deep committed realationship with the chick. and that guy probably has a huge crush on the chick if he's still sticking around and being "friends" with chick. it's very difficult for most guys to have a truely platonic relationship. for the most part guys don't really want to talk to women unelss they are attracted to them and if they do talk it's mostly teasing or slight or heavy flirting. most guys aren't very interested in being friends with women the way they are friends with other guys. so all you women with guy friends, those guys are probably thinking about you and jerking off.

Agreed.

[adam_f]

Originally posted by beastieangel01
NOT ONE tried to befriend me after introductions were made and all that. I was for the most part, ignored. Haha.

I totally just got a vision of you going Carrie on their asses.

[monkey]

girls are iffy. i dont have THAT much in common with most of my girlfriends, but we make things in common. i think that's part of building a friendship is to make something fun and different that you two can share. maybe you both loved he-man as children and now you can go on a massive he-man shopping adventure.

also... there could be the evil shit of some girls being jealous of your awesomeness and beauty. then you dont want those chicks.

but, *tear*, youve got a friend in me *wipe tear*

[Nuzzolese]

What about those girls who are beloved by all other girls, but who never seem to have a boyfriend? I've known several like that. They're not ugly either, they're just as pretty as many other girls and they have a ton of female friends, and they always like guys; but for some reason I never understand, most guys don't see anything in them. In all three cases coing to mind, I'd also describe these girls as slight pushovers, almost too generous and forgiving. I wonder if guys think they're too innocent or too weak or something.

[Lindsey_1535]

I have more guy friends then girl friends, their just easier to get along with. And don't take as long to get ready to go out.

[Rock]

spinning and drinking gets boring.

drinking and having the room start spinning gets bad.

[Nuzzolese]

you'd be my friend if we knew each other in person!

oddly enough, I like hanging out with women more than men.

newsflash (http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v199/rossmac/ross-prior/Howard-Beale_whores.jpg)

[ms.peachy]

i said this many times before. 90%(if not more) of the time, if i a guy is friends with a chick it's a failed attempt to fuck the chick or to be in a deep committed realationship with the chick. and that guy probably has a huge crush on the chick if he's still sticking around and being "friends" with chick. it's very difficult for most guys to have a truely platonic relationship. for the most part guys don't really want to talk to women unelss they are attracted to them and if they do talk it's mostly teasing or slight or heavy flirting. most guys aren't very interested in being friends with women the way they are friends with other guys. so all you women with guy friends, those guys are probably thinking about you and jerking off.
There's probably some truth to that for younger guys, but it changes as you get older and 'settled down' and stuff. It's not that you stop finding other people attractive, it's just that that whole actively 'wanting to fuck them' thing kinda takes a back seat and men and women can enjoy eachother's human company a bit more, without all kinds of ulterior motives.

[beastiegirrl101]

I recently cleaned house as far as all my HS friends go, they were just so petty and acted like we were still in HS. I have few close girl friends and the mojority of my friends are guys...but I have those girls I can call when I just want to party. I think you just have different friends for different reasons. . .but it can never hurt to have more friends...guy or girl.

[TurdBerglar]

There's probably some truth to that for younger guys, but it changes as you get older and 'settled down' and stuff. It's not that you stop finding other people attractive, it's just that that whole actively 'wanting to fuck them' thing kinda takes a back seat and men and women can enjoy eachother's human company a bit more, without all kinds of ulterior motives.

yeah


i'd say around 65 for the guy or when the women the guys age start to get old and ugly

[ms.peachy]

yeah


i'd say around 65 for the guy or when the women the guys age start to get old and ugly
LOL I dunno about that.

It's just that things move on from and active "I wanna get naked with you" phase to more of a contemplative "I wonder what it would be like to get naked with you" situation, which is much more conducive to regular friendship.

[synch]

for the most part guys don't really want to talk to women unelss they are attracted to them and if they do talk it's mostly teasing or slight or heavy flirting. most guys aren't very interested in being friends with women the way they are friends with other guys. so all you women with guy friends, those guys are probably thinking about you and jerking off.
How when harry met sally-esque of you.

Sadly you are right about the fact that there are many guys that think like that but please tell me it's not over 90%.

Doesn't anyone here have any female friends that they aren't interested in sexually? Not even guys that already have a girlfriend? :/

[synch]

I'd also describe these girls as slight pushovers, almost too generous and forgiving. I wonder if guys think they're too innocent or too weak or something.
I think that a certain type of male would be extra attracted to innocent and "too weak". I think a strong woman is more of a turnoff for some guys than a weak one.

[zorra_chiflada]

How when harry met sally-esque of you.

Sadly you are right about the fact that there are many guys that think like that but please tell me it's not over 90%.

Doesn't anyone here have any female friends that they aren't interested in sexually? Not even guys that already have a girlfriend? :/

yeah, and what about ugly girls huh?

yeah, but anyway i think it's pretty laughable when people try to speak on behalf of their gender, like they know what every single other male in the world thinks. do they think they're fucking clairvoyants or something?

[Loppfessor]

^ nah he's actually pretty right. I have mostly female friends and I think about sleeping with them a lot or at least once in a while. For a while I had a bad habit actually doing it though which sucks.


Anyway more on topic I felt kinda third grade-ish myself. One of my closest friends here is this girl I work with and she's really cool we hang out all the time and such. Anyway I'm going to a Beers around the World thing tonight and it's going to be like 99% dudes with a few wives there as DDs. Anyway she wanted to go but I had to pull the old "Sorry boys only...." I felt bad but what can you do right?

[TurdBerglar]

yeah, and what about ugly girls huh?

yeah, but anyway i think it's pretty laughable when people try to speak on behalf of their gender, like they know what every single other male in the world thinks. do they think they're fucking clairvoyants or something?


i can say shit about your gender and pretty much be right as well. i just notice things about people. other peopel should be able to notice the things i see.

[miss soul fire]

Hmmm. Maybe you have already put yourself on a totally different level because of the experiences you had in the past. Now you are a young adult and you might still be thinking that just because you still like boyish stuff all the girls in the planet won't be friends with you. There are other girls with the same interests, but you'll never find someone with the exact same interests, you know that. And girls can be fun.

I have a very close friend who turns out to be totally different than me. She's totally girlish and have very different interests if compared to mine, but I love talking to her because in some way, we fit. We don't talk only about our totally different taste in men, our skirt or movies, we talk about life, and reactions and anything that comes up to our minds. You gotta be compatible with one girl, right?! Girls are human beings before being girls.:p

Also, you may hinder yourself of making any girl friends because that way you will be more competitive. It's like, if you got the same gender, the person is more like you, which could make you act like you are in a constant competition, so you prefer to avoid that. Not to mention we all know that cool girls don't have girl friends, but boy friends.

[synch]

^ nah he's actually pretty right. I have mostly female friends and I think about sleeping with them a lot or at least once in a while. For a while I had a bad habit actually doing it though which sucks.
Ok, thinking about it once in a while, noticing cleavage, finding a friend attractive... fair enough, but that doesn't mean that your sole purpose is to sleep with said person, wouldn't hang out with them if you didn't want to sleep with them or would sleep with them if they came on to you. Even if you aren't in a relationship.

Is it? :/

[bigblu89]

I can only speak for myself, but every female friend I have had that didn't start out as a "friend of a friend" were all females I wanted to get with.

Now I have pleanty of female friends, mostly females that I met through my wife. Most who I have no desire to get with, even if I was single. But every female friend I have that I met through my own doing are either women I hooked up with, one ones I wanted to, but got shot down.

[QueenAdrock]

It's strange, because majority of my girlfriends don't act like girls, so that's why it was easy for me to befriend them. We're all a bunch of dorks.

I'm only friends with one or two really girly-girls, who dress up really pretty and talk about boys and jellybeans and glitter and whatever else. But most of us shoot pool, play video games, veg out in front of the T.V., and have conversations of whether or not Neo from the Matrix could kill Luke Skywalker. Seriously. Think about it. :cool:

But I know what you mean, Crys. I was really excited when I met a girl at a Search-and-Rescue meeting at UMD, because she started making fun of finding dead bodies, then I joined in, and then I found out that she <3ed Steve Buscemi, so I was like WOW! This girl is cool! ...and then she never came to another meeting again and I was so let-down. :(

[DroppinScience]

How when harry met sally-esque of you.

Sadly you are right about the fact that there are many guys that think like that but please tell me it's not over 90%.

Doesn't anyone here have any female friends that they aren't interested in sexually? Not even guys that already have a girlfriend? :/

I have made friends with girls that I wasn't attracted to. Perhaps not initially. But it is just plain inevitable that you start thinking about sleeping with them, no matter what. I dunno, we're guys. It's just how we think.

Well, except the ugly ones. Never thought of doing that.

[beastieangel01]

I find it hard to believe that women won't be your friend because of your interests. It's not like many women share the same interests anyway, and go do things and talk about things they each like. Maybe because you're self conscious about other women, then that shows and you don't expect women to be your friend, so it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Maybe?

Maybe. The two girlfriends I have I knew since high school and befriend me right off the bat, no questions asked when I was new to the school (I knew one person total there haha). They are WONDERFUL. I have little in common with them, but as Pauli said about her friends, we find things in common. They are such good people too, pure hearts, as good as gold. I love them so much.

ANYHOW, yeah, maybe they see that I am self-conscious :/ I dunno. I've always had a bad streak with befriending girls. I try! I am trying, rather.

[beastieangel01]

Also, you may hinder yourself of making any girl friends because that way you will be more competitive. It's like, if you got the same gender, the person is more like you, which could make you act like you are in a constant competition, so you prefer to avoid that. Not to mention we all know that cool girls don't have girl friends, but boy friends.

I think that it's that other girls tend to be more competitive?

I am a totally passive person with being competitive (unless I am playing video games). Seriously, I HATE having to even deal with competition, so I avoid it. I think that's why I never got in to sports in high school because they took it so seriously. I wanted to have fun, not be so competitive to the point that people would get pissed at others for missing a shot or whatnot.

I just want everyone to get along :p

[beastieangel01]

I want to go makeup and cheap underwear shopping with crystal at walmart
(!)


yes please (!)

I never did find those neon underwear in my size. :(

[ledbatz]

Chicks worry too much about stuff. Like, everything. I am a guy so i laugh most of it off. You all overanalyze every friggin thing in the world. you all need to lighten up. and one more thing, yeah, most guys do want one thing. i guess ya got us on that one. but the good news is, you're in control of it. that gives U power. word up.

[Freebasser]

^ are you ACTUALLY in third grade?

[TurdBerglar]

I have made friends with girls that I wasn't attracted to. Perhaps not initially. But it is just plain inevitable that you start thinking about sleeping with them, no matter what. I dunno, we're guys. It's just how we think.

Well, except the ugly ones. Never thought of doing that.


i would never expect to here this from you

[Loppfessor]

Ok, thinking about it once in a while, noticing cleavage, finding a friend attractive... fair enough, but that doesn't mean that your sole purpose is to sleep with said person, wouldn't hang out with them if you didn't want to sleep with them or would sleep with them if they came on to you. Even if you aren't in a relationship.

Is it? :/


No you are right dude. My sole purpose is hardly to sleep with them. It just happens that we get along and I care for them then shit happens. However I have been really good abou that the past few years and learned to appreciate them for the friends that they are. In fact a very close female friend of mine reallly wants to take it to that next level with me but i'm being strong cus I care for her a lot and know that our friendship will outlast any relationship we could have