Anger Management

[TonsOfFun]

Anyone else suffer from this?

I have, a little all my life. 98% of the time, I'm easy going, call me a fat cunt, nerd, wanker and it won't bother me at all.

But sometimes, I see red at a situation (generally not a person) and will kinda lash out at something or someone (more or less innocent). I try to keep out of peoples way because I know it'll pass but that doesn't stop me from punching a hole through a plasterboard wall and nearly break my hand or destroy something, normally of mine, just because I think it'll make me feel better. Which it doesn't cus, then I have to buy it again or repair it.

I've tried all sorts of stuff. I sometimes go out for a run at a 110% pace of what my muscles and lungs can cope with just because I know it'll kill any energy I have and I'd do that just to see how out of breath I can get. The pain of not enough oxygen getting to your muscles feels good. Sadistic you might think, but it's a coping stategy. Probably a more extreme version of this would be someone who self-harms. I know a few who have and (I beleive) still do but they are all for different reasons.

I've seen a doctor and councellor about it which didn't really help.

The reasons for this thread was because last night I was in such mood over nothing it made me more angry.

So does anyone else suffer from anger mangement? How do/did you cope/what do you do. I've tried that counting to 10 crap but doesn't help me. I won't take perscribe drugs for it, although I will smoke pot which helps. But then probably doesn't help in the long term. I did suffer from it before I started to smoke and probably more then. I'm not justifying smoking pot here cus I know it's bad but I've had people say to me before, it's because I smoke. I'm not so sure because when I've quick I feel I suffer more - not for the addiction. This is not a thread about pot though, I said that to get it out of the way cus that'll be one of the first things people will attack me on. So it's just more of; does anyone else suffer and what do you do? :)

[Jayrock5054]

Anyone else suffer from this?

I have, a little all my life. 98% of the time, I'm easy going, call me a fat cunt, nerd, wanker and it won't bother me at all.

But sometimes, I see red at a situation (generally not a person) and will kinda lash out at something or someone (more or less innocent). I try to keep out of peoples way because I know it'll pass but that doesn't stop me from punching a hole through a plasterboard wall and nearly break my hand or destroy something, normally of mine, just because I think it'll make me feel better. Which it doesn't cus, then I have to buy it again or repair it.

I've tried all sorts of stuff. I sometimes go out for a run at a 110% pace of what my muscles and lungs can cope with just because I know it'll kill any energy I have and I'd do that just to see how out of breath I can get. The pain of not enough oxygen getting to your muscles feels good. Sadistic you might think, but it's a coping stategy. Probably a more extreme version of this would be someone who self-harms. I know a few who have and (I beleive) still do but they are all for different reasons.

I've seen a doctor and councellor about it which didn't really help.

The reasons for this thread was because last night I was in such mood over nothing it made me more angry.

So does anyone else suffer from anger mangement? How do/did you cope/what do you do. I've tried that counting to 10 crap but doesn't help me. I won't take perscribe drugs for it, although I will smoke pot which helps. But then probably doesn't help in the long term. I did suffer from it before I started to smoke and probably more then. I'm not justifying smoking pot here cus I know it's bad but I've had people say to me before, it's because I smoke. I'm not so sure because when I've quick I feel I suffer more - not for the addiction. This is not a thread about pot though, I said that to get it out of the way cus that'll be one of the first things people will attack me on. So it's just more of; does anyone else suffer and what do you do? :)

I go through that allot too. I'll go play basketball, or go for a walk, just lock myself in my room and play a video game till I calm down. Of course if I lose at the video game it only makes it worse. Just find something you really like to do that will help you either forget what got you mad or at least calm you down some.

[TonsOfFun]

easier said than done.

there probably is no simple answer I'm looking for. I become 'out of charactor'. Doctor said it was a defence mode. Humans are built to have adreniline release when danger is about from when we had to hunt to survive. We don't have to do this now but we still get this release but for minor situations because we have to cope with less now and the adrenilne will make us either stand up and fight or run away - like any animal threatened would.

Going for a walk for me, festers it. I feel I need to attack the source or put it into something else. The source is generally me...

[tracky]

I don't suffer from anger management, per se. On the contrary, I suffer from lack of it ;) I know you didn't want to go down the pot path, but it's when I'm off it that I'm at my worst (right now). I need to get some in me. Working 2 peoples jobs because someone's on holidays and stressing like hell at work isn't helping things either :( I don't deal with it well. I've still got scars and i think i permanently depressed a knuckle from a wall punching incident 6 months ago. Better the wall than his face, but "he" was "faceless", unfortunately. (someone fucked with my car one night, and u dont wanna fuck with my car!) but I'd rather it if I hadn't punched so hard and so many times. It's very rare that I do snap, but when I do, like you, I see red. One time in school it was someone's face, and according to a doctor I was lucky I didn't kill him. I dunno how many punches I layed on him. It was a lot. He was just on the ground and I kept beating and beating, all the while being cheered on. No one really liked the guy, but I know now that's no excuse for what I did (or what everyone else did. Anyone could've pulled me off him at any time. I had lost it and had no control). That's the kinda shit that gets you expelled, too...


Now, as for controlling it. Pot :D

[Jayrock5054]

It's not easy at all. But a hobby does help. Playing a sport do doing something physical helps too. I go play basketball so I can have a structured way to take it out on someone else.

[TonsOfFun]

I do Tae Kwon Do and I took up Buddhism which I enjoy like nothing else I do. What I do for a living now is exactly what I want to do as a living short of playing in a band/being a sports star cus I don't have the talent.

so it probably all does help, last night was the first time in a good few months I've had this problem which is probably a bit of a record.

I might turn into Ned Flanders and freak out if I surpress too much...

[Jayrock5054]

I might turn into Ned Flanders and freak out if I surpress too much...

Or freak out like Homer and think you are the Hulk. I wouldn't swet it. It happens to everyone now and then. Just don't start drinking because of it.

[zorra_chiflada]

yeah, i have a terrible temper that i really can't control. it's like an all-encompassing rage and i become a completely different person. my father had the same thing, so maybe it's genetic, who knows.
i've never done anger management or anything like that, but i was prescribed zoloft a few years ago, and i never lost my temper once :confused: strange shit.
apart from that i haven't done anything to control it. i know i should.

[TonsOfFun]

The problem I have with being perscribed for it is, I don't want something that'll numb the senses. Enhance the senese is good. As long as it does good senses...

[Freebasser]

You should buy a blow up doll and let 'er rip.

[tracky]

I've considered buying a boxing bag to work it out. Probably should, would get me a bit fitter too.

[Kid Presentable]

I had a murderous temper on my boards, I used to throw them, stomp them. I hit a kid who got in my way at a skatepark, and threw his board in the bushes.

It got to the point where I was getting injured a lot, which was making me less able to meet my own ridiculous standards, and just got me madder. People didn't like me, I was a seething mess.

And there you have half an analogy.

[TAL]

Crap & annoying movie.

[Kid Presentable]

Perhaps my anger stemmed from the moment I realised the world didn't revolve around me; and life, it's no fun at all.