Sometimes relationships suck

[mp-seventythree]

:( It's true

[wanton wench]

very true!

[NurfBallJeaneus]

yup

[beastieangel01]

shit happens, yo. Just gotta see if you two can get through it, compromise, etc.

But yeah. They are stressful at times.

[mp-seventythree]

Well at the moment I'm thinking more about finishing it, I can't see it being the way it used to be.

[HEIRESS]

sometimes relationships suck like a cheap whore

:(

[QweenOfBoggle]

i hope you guys can work things out. :(

[Abe Froman]

Sorry to hear that MP. You wish it would just be easy. It should be...

[wanton wench]

Well at the moment I'm thinking more about finishing it, I can't see it being the way it used to be.
ya know i could say alot about this statement but i dont want to influence you!

[mp-seventythree]

Feel free to try and influence! The only way I can feel any better than I do now is to end my relationship.

[HEIRESS]

how long have you guys been together again mp????

Im at the three year hump aka the lack of hump

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[CrankItUp!]

That's the turmoil that most relationships have to deal with. The sugar will turn to shit eventually.

[mp-seventythree]

how long have you guys been together again mp????

Im at the three year hump aka the lack of hump

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Four years, and at the moment it feels like a lifetime

[miss soul fire]

Oh, I'm sorry, mp.:(

When you said "lifetime", did you mean it in a good or bad way?

[mp-seventythree]

Bad :(

[wanton wench]

Feel free to try and influence! The only way I can feel any better than I do now is to end my relationship.
well see thats the point i was going to make.

if you know you cannot be happy then its time to move on!
i was just divorced in march for this reason (not the only reason)
but once i knew things would never be the same i knew i would not
be happy so i gave up (ya i'm a quitter) but what is the use of
trying to make things better for years and years and hurting all that time only to find yourself in the same position?

i dont know what your situation is, but to me being happy is the most important thing!

[miss soul fire]

Is the problem too serious or this is just about the "got old" thing?

[mp-seventythree]

My relationship was always pretty good. But we've been "discussing" buying a house together, and she doesn't seem to want it as much as I do (her current living situation is pretty comfortable so I can't blame her for that). So I'm buying a place on my own, we had a bit of an arguement at the weekend and she pretty much blanked me all week - trying to get any conversation out of her on the phone was as painful as having teeth pulled, really hard work. And today she calls me like nothing happened and invites me out for the day.

When it's good it's good, but when it's bad it's unbearable. I don't want to be in a relationship where my partner sulks and blows me out for a week when we don't agree on something.

[kll]

My relationship was always pretty good. But we've been "discussing" buying a house together, and she doesn't seem to want it as much as I do (her current living situation is pretty comfortable so I can't blame her for that). So I'm buying a place on my own, we had a bit of an arguement at the weekend and she pretty much blanked me all week - trying to get any conversation out of her on the phone was as painful as having teeth pulled, really hard work. And today she calls me like nothing happened and invites me out for the day.

When it's good it's good, but when it's bad it's unbearable. I don't want to be in a relationship where my partner sulks and blows me out for a week when we don't agree on something.


knowing you on here for the past few years, i would have to say that you know exactly what you need to do, but getting the motivation/courage to do it is what you are seeking...

[mp-seventythree]

Yeah, ain't that a bitch?

[kll]

yep. i was there a bit ago and it isn't easy. for me, it was like i had already figured it out in my head and somehow went on automatic mode and it just happened - the "it's over" conversation that is...

if it's any help, at least you aren't living together and you have to deal with the whole moving out part... and it's also exciting that you are buying yourself a place, which is going to allow you to start new...

[mp-seventythree]

Yeah, that's the one thing I'm looking forward to right now (buying the house that is).
I just feel sick like I might be making a huge mistake, it's been bugging me all week and I just feel miserable.

[mp-seventythree]

Thanks for your replies boys and girls. I need to try and get some sleep now, and forget about this stuff for a few hours.

[mp-seventythree]

Another day, another meh

[monkey]

have you told her how that behavior bugs the living crap out if you?


but, yea. ending long term relationships is terrible. i wish you the best of luck, whichever you decide to do.

[mp-seventythree]

We had a long discussion / arguement / shouting session in Tesco's car park and the air has been well and truly cleared. We're both a lot happier now, and have agreed if one of us is bugging the other in any way we'll just tell them, and not bottle it up so long that we want to explode through rage.

It's a start, I'll keep you updated.....you may not want to be updated but you have no choice in the matter ;)

[QweenOfBoggle]

yay! :)

[ToucanSpam]

Sometimes after a long relationship has long since lost it's excitement, both people involved think about ending it, for whatever reason. I think that becoming so used to having the same person there all the time, you take it for granted, and some of the passion leaves. I personally am very inexperienced with relationships myself, so I don't know how valuable my opinion would be on this matter.

I think that an honest attempt at getting back that passion should be done before calling it quits. If both people can't do this and contribute equally, then there's a good reason to shut 'er down.

I think it really sucks when the 'suger goes to shit', as someone mentioned. I have a friend who is in a 3 year relationship and she has no idea what she wants. She goes on about being in love with this guy, and I don't doubt it, but she has known no other lover but him. You can tell too that the relationship has very very frosty times....

Never give up, there's always hope something can change. :)

[mp-seventythree]

Your input is always appreciated TS :)

[ToucanSpam]

I have my moments. :D

[mp-seventythree]

No, you're pretty cool. Although having seen your post count, I'm thinking that maybe you should get a bit more fresh air.

[ToucanSpam]

Well, today I am happy to report I helped clean my friends car out, and tonight looks like a nice little gathering avec les amis.


Last night I got crazy drunk.......so I get around. :D

I need to get away from this place though.


..anyways that aside, what is going to happen? Do we get an update?

[Kid Presentable]

I'm always surprised by the amount of heat you attract, Toucan.

I feel you're paying your dues because unbeknownst to yourself, you have something big in store for these boards.

If that isn't the case, then why would you mess with me like that? :(

[HEIRESS]

me too!