one of my friends is married

[Bob]

that's new! i wasn't invited to the wedding but it's ok, we hadn't really talked for a few years, in fact the last contact we should of had was me RSVPing to her christmas party, but i didn't and i dont know why and we didnt talk since, but that's not important, the point is, it's made me realize something.

it hadn't occured to me previously how grown up i ought to be by now. i mean, i'm 21, and i still haven't had a steady girlfriend yet. my friends are going beyond "hooking up", a few of them have been with their significant others for long periods of time now, and now this new development. it's like, if you follow the standard life formula, i should have met my wife (or husband, as far as i know)-to-be by now (it'd end in divorce, but still), and i haven't even met anyone i really like. but everyone else in my age group is running off and getting serious, hell, even on this message board, there's more board couples than i can keep track of. not that i'm looking for love on here or anything, it's just an observation that coincides with everything else going on right about now. when i first started posting here, the whole board couple thing wasn't happening at all, but now it is.

it's not like i'm about to start doing anything about any of this mind you, in fact i'm not sure what to do with this new information. it's just that i realized i've been oblivious to all this change up until right about now. i think i'm getting left behind or something.

anyway i haven't had a thread like this in a while, i guess i was due

[ericlee]

Bob my friend, since I married my wife in China and it wasn't all that special (I signed a paper and she signed a paper and bam, we're married), we will be re marrying in the states so my family and friends can attend.

It's probably going to be next year but you are more than welcome to come.

[ericlee]

as a matter of fact, the whole mb is welcome

[Audielicious]

Nearly all of my friends from the Bay Area are either married, or Mommies. Which makes me wonder, had I stayed there...would I be a Mommy by now too?

Oh, and I didn't go to any of their weddings. In fact, I've never even been to a wedding in my entire life.

[TurdBerglar]

bob

you're only 21. don't do things becuase society says so. one of the worste things the typical person your(our) age is to get married and settle down.

[Kid Presentable]

bob

you're only 21. don't do things becuase society says so. one of the worste things the typical person your(our) age is to get married and settle down.

He's right.

The worst part about settling down is that it will lead to the mortgage and babies bundle booby prize.

If you can find somebody who doesn't want all of that shit right away, you're on to a winner. (y)

[QueenAdrock]

Don't think that steady girlfriends/long term relationships are all that great. I mean, yeah, in some ways, they are. But do you know how annoying "WHEN ARE YOU TWO GETTING MARRIED?" gets? I mean holy shit. I want to scream at them "One, I'm still in college, and only 21, I don't want to be married before I'm 24. TWO, call me old fashioned, but isn't it up to the guy to decide when we're getting married? I'm sure as hell not asking him!" So that's another thing. You'd get all the old people asking you when you'd pop the question. And after that, it's like, when are the babies coming? When are you going to have kids? I just want to yell at them "NEVER! I'M NEVER GETTING MARRIED, OR HAVING KIDS! BUT SAY, YOU'RE MARRIED AND HAVE KIDS, THE NEXT STEP FOR YOU IS DEATH. WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO DIE, HMM? WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO DIE?"

Um, yeah. Don't feel bad. Don't listen to "society" or feel pressured to do anything you don't want to, because society's a bunch of sheep.

[The Notorious LOL]

If you were a girl Bob, Id buy you a drink, and tell you that "money doesnt grow on trees" and "you should appreciate that free drink" because it was "your amazing tits" that convinced me to buy it.

[DandyFop]

^Don't let him use that line on you Bob :mad:


Anyway. 21 and you should be grown up? Geez, no fucking way man. Everybody has their own pace. It does feel weird when people around you are involved like that, but sometimes people jump into things too quickly when they are young which can be a mistake. At least you aren't doing that.

And besides, like you said, there's nothing really that you can do to change these things, unless you decide to wear a yamaka and go to a Jewish singles night or something.

[zorra_chiflada]

that's new! i wasn't invited to the wedding but it's ok, we hadn't really talked for a few years, in fact the last contact we should of had was me RSVPing to her christmas party, but i didn't and i dont know why and we didnt talk since, but that's not important, the point is, it's made me realize something.

it hadn't occured to me previously how grown up i ought to be by now. i mean, i'm 21, and i still haven't had a steady girlfriend yet. my friends are going beyond "hooking up", a few of them have been with their significant others for long periods of time now, and now this new development. it's like, if you follow the standard life formula, i should have met my wife (or husband, as far as i know)-to-be by now (it'd end in divorce, but still), and i haven't even met anyone i really like. but everyone else in my age group is running off and getting serious, hell, even on this message board, there's more board couples than i can keep track of. not that i'm looking for love on here or anything, it's just an observation that coincides with everything else going on right about now. when i first started posting here, the whole board couple thing wasn't happening at all, but now it is.

it's not like i'm about to start doing anything about any of this mind you, in fact i'm not sure what to do with this new information. it's just that i realized i've been oblivious to all this change up until right about now. i think i'm getting left behind or something.

anyway i haven't had a thread like this in a while, i guess i was due

well, i think you're perfectly normal. you don't have anything to worry about. :)

[Tzar]

as a matter of fact, the whole mb is welcome
i'll come... only if i get to Sierra Hotel Oscar Oscar Tango your Golf Uniform November (the Mike One Six with the Mike Two Zero Three on it). :cool:

[enree erzweglle]

it's like, if you follow the standard life formulaYeah, don't do that.

[Bob]

well i mean, it's not like i feel i ought to be married right now, or even engaged, or dating, or anything, it's like...well, when i was younger (i'm only 21, so i sound stupid saying that, but bear with me), i could be single and say "oh, i'll meet someone, there's time, there's time", but i'm realizing that the longer i wait, the fewer people there are gonna be to meet, because everyone's running off and finding soulmates. i suppose worrying about it doesn't help, though.

[wanton wench]

there's time, there's time"
there is always time!
you need to keep following your standard bob life formula :D

[JBernas]

Yeah, don't do that.

Agreed....there's no set time table to do anything. Everyone I know that got married at your age, is now divorced (I'm 31). I got married at 27 and I felt like I was ready to grow up and be an adult. At your age, I was still screwing around and partying....in fact, I did that until about 25. You have plenty of time. Don't waste your youth by thinking about how you're not doing this or that.....have fun. There's plenty of time to get serious.

[jabumbo]

think of it this way...by the time you are ready to go at it, so will the girl who has the same thought as you, and it will work out better than you trying to get together with some girl now who wants 2 kids and a mini van in the next year and a half

[mickill]

Just think, in the 1920s you'd have had at least 6 children, a car, a home and a wife tending to the young'ns and making sure your grub was ready for you as soon as you walked through the door by now.

And you'd probably have had an underpaid "negro" servant to push around too, wouldn't you Bob? Wouldn't you?

[cosmo105]

enjoy being young while you are young, bob, and don't worry about meeting someone or settling down or anything. you're the same age as me and i sure as hell don't feel old. these are the best years of our lives...all that other stuff comes later, so don't worry about it now. someday you'll meet an awesome woman that will make you really insanely happy and hopefully she'll be good enough to deserve you but for now party on bob.

[jabumbo]

Just think, in the 1920s you'd have had at least 6 children, a car, a home and a wife tending to the young'ns and making sure your grub was ready for you as soon as you walked through the door by now.

And you'd probably have had an underpaid "negro" servant to push around too, wouldn't you Bob? Wouldn't you?


the 1920's bob isnt rich enough to afford a model-t

[mickill]

the 1920's bob isnt rich enough to afford a model-t
My Model T would have been sitting on 20" rims with candy paint. And I'd have been rolling down the strip bumping some Count Basie on my car phonograph too.