harassment on the message board?

[Knuckles]

Does anyone take this place seriously?

[Ace42X]

Does anyone take this place seriously?

Hah.

[TurdBerglar]

this is a question i should be asking

[Knuckles]

this is a question i should be asking
Has anyone been so pissed at you they pm'd the admins about it?

[TurdBerglar]

not that i know of


why don't you pm the admins and ask them

[Knuckles]

not that i know of


why don't you pm the admins and ask them
I should just call Minton. I got him on speed dial (y)

[TurdBerglar]

were you around when i told that chick to have a miscarriage?


i bet she said something

[Knuckles]

were you around when i told that chick to have a miscarriage?


i bet she said something
JENNY J (y)

[TurdBerglar]

jenny j was mighty fun

[enree erzweglle]

There are a couple of people who have gone off on me in PMs. One was scary--out-of-control angry. That was weird.

I wouldn't report anyone to anyone else unless I felt physically threatened. As far as I know, only one person from here knows my address.

[TurdBerglar]

i rarely pm people unless they pm me first

[Bob]

There are a couple of people who have gone off on me in PMs. One was scary--out-of-control angry. That was weird.

I wouldn't report anyone to anyone else unless I felt physically threatened. As far as I know, only one person from here knows my address.

i can't imagine anyone being that angry at you, you're so inoffensive. who was it?

[cj hood]

Does anyone take this place seriously?


you take bf away and some will be drinkin the funky lemonade......

[TurdBerglar]

where can i get that?

[Knuckles]

you take bf away and some will be drinkin the funky lemonade......
Funky Lemonade was a sweet Chi Ali song (y)

[cj hood]

Funky Lemonade was a sweet Chi Ali song (y)


kudos bro....that's why i used it.....

[Documad]

I tend to take things seriously because there are underage people here. On the other hand, I don't want to live a PG-13 life.

I haven't been harassed. If I was, I'd probably call that person out in public, which is probably not the best response. But at my age, I'd feel pretty silly asking admins to fight my battles.

[enree erzweglle]

i can't imagine anyone being that angry at you, you're so inoffensive. who was it?
Thanks for saying that. I don't want to say the names because I think that would breach the confidence that's implied with PMs.

I posted about it in this thread because the two series that I'm thinking of happened more than once. (The same-natured PM came through a few different times from the same couple of people.) One set in particular stuck with me because I think the person needed help and I didn't know how to give that help. Anything I said made things worse.

I take aspects of this forum seriously and there are several people here that I take seriously too. Other aspects of the boards and various people on them are here, I think, strictly for fun and lightness. I think I recognize that and see it for the good things that it offers. But getting there meant climbing a learning curve because I came here from places that weren't at all like that (that were gravely serious).

[Documad]

Re enree's comments about PMs: Is it ever right to go public with PMs?

Sometimes a person sends you a PM to manipulate you--saying the opposite of what he said publicly. It's clearly meant to shut you up. I think that deserves to be made public if it continues.

I've also had someone lie publicly about something I said privately in response to his PM. It wasn't important to me so I didn't post his PM, but I think it would have been justified.

I think enree would have been justified to out a harasser, but I also understand not wanting to escalate the matter--especially if you feel sorry for the harasser on grounds of mental impairment or instability. Which is why enree is wiser than I am. :)

[enree erzweglle]

Re enree's comments about PMs: Is it ever right to go public with PMs? I don't think it's ever right to post a PM or email or contents of a chat session without first getting permission from everyone involved. (But I'm old school when it comes to the internet. I think people circulate stuff more freely now and it's understood or is a given to them.) I try to take that into consideration when I PM or email with people.
I think enree would have been justified to out a harasser, but I also understand not wanting to escalate the matter--especially if you feel sorry for the harasser on grounds of mental impairment or instability. Which is why enree is wiser than I am.:o I don't know if I'd say that, though. I think I just avoid online confrontations because they can loop infinitely.

Plus, it was obvious in the one situation that I was thinking of that the person maybe just wanted to argue or was projecting onto me. Knowing that or intuiting that made it easier for me to let that go, but a few things that were said came WHAM right out of the blue and they were said with what felt to be incredible anger. That that person escalated to an angry flashpoint so quickly was alarming and raised a flag with me. (I've had people flash like that in person and I could watch it happen even if it happened quickly. With this particular set of online things, it happened in the background and it absolutely caught me by surprise.)

[TurdBerglar]

i think i've found two new people to give shit too

[Tzar]

i think i've found two new people to give shit too
whom? i wanna give them shit too.

[TurdBerglar]

get your head out your fuckn' ass and look

[Documad]

i think i've found two new people to give shit too
bring it :p

[Tzar]

get your head out your fuckn' ass and look
but it's nice and warm in here.

[roosta]

yo knuckles, who is pissed at you?

[tracky]

My guess is the red x's where toucanspams pictures once were has something to do with it...

[Ace42X]

Re enree's comments about PMs: Is it ever right to go public with PMs?

I regard PMs to be like private coversations - whether you would go public on them depends on the same factors it would be if you were to relay a conversation to another party.

For example, it depends on the contents of the PM, and the context of the relationship. If someone you dislike PMs you, you have no obligation to keep it quiet any more than you have an obligation to not tell anyone what someone you dislike said to you in person.

[synch]

My guess is the red x's where toucanspams pictures once were has something to do with it...
I miss absolutely everything.

What happened?

[venusvenus123]

Re enree's comments about PMs: Is it ever right to go public with PMs?

Sometimes a person sends you a PM to manipulate you--saying the opposite of what he said publicly. It's clearly meant to shut you up. I think that deserves to be made public if it continues.

I've also had someone lie publicly about something I said privately in response to his PM. It wasn't important to me so I didn't post his PM, but I think it would have been justified.

I think enree would have been justified to out a harasser, but I also understand not wanting to escalate the matter--especially if you feel sorry for the harasser on grounds of mental impairment or instability. Which is why enree is wiser than I am. :)

a few years back i went public with a PM from a girl on here who took a public argument private. she got very nasty and personal with me, slating me as a mother and a wife. it was just incredible how she saved all the really nasty stuff for a PM, so i posted it up on the forum.

being on a message board is like being stuck in a bubble and i didn't want to have to deal with her away from the main board. i also thought it was so lame to say all the seriously nasty stuff (especially about my son, then 2) to me in private.

those were the golden days.

[tracky]

I'm not really sure I was just speculating. I think it was in the tattoo thread.

[Tzar]

I miss absolutely everything.

What happened?
yeah me too.

i've had this kind of conversation with TS already, about taking the board really seriously.

[beastieangel01]

There are a couple of people who have gone off on me in PMs. One was scary--out-of-control angry. That was weird.

I wouldn't report anyone to anyone else unless I felt physically threatened. As far as I know, only one person from here knows my address.


crazy...

luckily I escaped any scary harassment.

Any harassment I've received has been harmless and just annoying if anything. And I never really cared, because the people that did it I didn't care about.

[Bob]

a few years back i went public with a PM from a girl on here who took a public argument private. she got very nasty and personal with me, slating me as a mother and a wife. it was just incredible how she saved all the really nasty stuff for a PM, so i posted it up on the forum.

being on a message board is like being stuck in a bubble and i didn't want to have to deal with her away from the main board. i also thought it was so lame to say all the seriously nasty stuff (especially about my son, then 2) to me in private.

those were the golden days.

i think i remember that, actually

[cosmo105]

what the hell's going on?

[mickill]

I've been reported to mods several times now. But the mods never come to me with anything, so I figure I'm good.

I don't post PMs only because I consider it sort of unnecessary. For me, anyway. I usually don't run into too many problems verbally bitch slapping people on this board when I need to.

What's that? You want some of this? Huh? Huh?

[cosmo105]

*shoves mickill*

the only PMs i've ever posted were the really hilarious ones that made no sense, like this one i got from someone asking about my product assignment thread and it said something like "LET ME GET SOME OF THAT HAIR ACTION ITEM!!!"

[ToucanSpam]

*shoves cosmo into dumpster*


I think posting a PM is like slapping someone full force with your cock. There is a reason why it is a private message, right?

[cosmo105]

so, kind of a very mild woosh of air in your case, right?

[ToucanSpam]

so, kind of a very mild woosh of air in your case, right?
Well, if you are referring to my tiny penis, then yes.

[mickill]

I've seen people get slapped by the mighty Toucan vag, and let me tell you, it was not nice.

*kicks cosmo in the throat*

[cosmo105]

*squeezes one of mickill's testes until it pops*

[ToucanSpam]

[cosmo105]

*hands toucan a bib and spoon*

[mickill]

*throws other testicle at cosmo's eye*

[ToucanSpam]

*wears bib and spoon.....*

[boys_beastie]

people take this place way to seriously! dear me!

*pulls out kazoo and starts jamming*

[sam i am]

*** joins in on drums ***

*** looks to sign a record deal with hit song : "My testes in your eye but I ate the other one and it was gooood...." ***

[TurdBerglar]

has any one saved the pics of those knuckles did of toucan?

[kll]

has any one saved the pics of those knuckles did of toucan?
what were/are they of?

[TurdBerglar]

toucan sucking some dudes dick


they made me hot

[kll]

toucan sucking some dudes dick


they made me hot


only cuz it was YOUR dick

[TurdBerglar]

he only wishes

[King PSYZ]

this shit is bananas

[zorra_chiflada]

i always thought it was
"this shit is my nana's
M-Y-N-A-N-A-S"

listen to it, it sounds like it.

[Lindsey_1535]

A guy I work with though it was " I aint no Harlem black girl".

[Documad]

If I ask someone something in a private message and he/she responds, I think that's private. But if someone I don't know sends me some icky message that I didn't agree to receive, I don't think it's protected.

This thread is now more interesting and confusing.

[Bob]

toucan sucking some dudes dick


they made me hot


HAHA

that doesn't sound like something knuckles would do, but it's funny all the same

[TurdBerglar]

you need to see the pj lava lamp one

[synch]

HAHA

that doesn't sound like something knuckles would do, but it's funny all the same
No nudity, TS on his knees in front of a guy wearing just jeans.

[miss_bhaven]

Does anyone take this place seriously?

Depends on the subject - I don't take any harrassment on any message board seriously. It's the Internet...Why would anyone take any verbal abuse over the web seriously?! :p I most certainly don't, because no-one (apart from Tzar) on this message board (or any msg board) knows me well enough to take the piss out of me?! Therefore if anyone did, I wouldn't take anything to heart (because I know they don't know me in reality) Get me? ;)(y)

[Beckalina]

nah, I don't take this place seriously

but if someone steps on my eye, you better hope I am wearing protective goggles, cause if I aint then I'll throw pie at them. :mad:

[miss_bhaven]

nah, I don't take this place seriously

but if someone steps on my eye, you better hope I am wearing peotective goggles, cause if I aint then I'll throw pie at them. :mad:


A pie. Hehehe (y)

[Lemmy's Liver]

I remember back in the day when there was this big-headed chick who was all like "aaarrgghhh I'm not like this in real life you don't know me at all, don't even try to annoy me cause I won't get annoyed aaarrghhh!". ahh, she had the sense of humour size of an atom. what was her story anyway? skipped the internet classes of '93?

and me, sprewell, dusty, all the good ones having great laughs on her expense, oh those were the Jolly Days [TM] (y)

[enree erzweglle]

Help me to understand something...

In your mind, what's the difference between the conversations that happen here and the ones that happen otherwise?

If someone says threatening things to you, say, on the phone or in physical mail, is that more intimidating to you than if someone does it here? If so, why?

Do you perceive there to be a buffer of safety because what's said is delivered anonymously or privately? ...is there an implicit relaxing of the rules because it's the internet and because of that perceived privacy and anonymity?

I am curious about this and I'm not challenging anyone--I just don't 100% get the "it's the internet" defense, but I want to. Right now, to me, the internet is merely a way of relaying a message. What's disturbing is the message, not the way that it's delivered. I want to understand this a little better, though.

If you don't want to post, feel free to PM me.
Or if you want, I can give you my private phone numbers and mailing address. :)

[TAL]

Or if you want, I can give you my private phone numbers and mailing address. :)
Yes please :)

[enree erzweglle]

Yes please :)
After seeing your photo in the Baby Pics thread, how could I resist. :)

[TAL]

That was my plan.

[Kid Presentable]

Somebody once told me to 'cool out' on here.

It bothered me, and as such I couldn't work out which of the two of us was taking the shit too serious. :confused:

[enree erzweglle]

Somebody once told me to 'cool out' on here.

It bothered me, and as such I couldn't work out which of the two of us was taking the shit too serious. :confused:
That happened to me too. Like the person misunderstood me and then without applying any benefit of the doubt, blasted off a relatively harsh and judgmental message. It was somewhat funny and then disturbing when I realized that the person was completely 1) serious, and 2) pissed (American pissed). I didn't engage in it--I don't do that online and I avoid it hard in face-to-face meetings.

I would not want to have to find my way around that kind of anger, although I empathize deeply when people battle with trying to get it under control. This person wasn't even close to that phase of it and I just backed out of the room so to speak.

[Kid Presentable]

That happened to me too. Like the person misunderstood me and then without applying any benefit of the doubt, blasted off a relatively harsh message. It was somewhat funny and then disturbing when I realized that the person was completely 1) serious, and 2) pissed (American pissed). I didn't engage in it--I don't do that online and I avoid it hard in face-to-face friendships.

I would not want to have to find my way around that kind of anger, although I empathize deeply when people battle with trying to get it under control. This person wasn't even close to that phase of it and I just backed out of the room so to speak.

I see, so the best response is often no response.

My incident involved a comment on how I operate on the board, in terms of threads and posts. I took exception to it because I never try to police anybody here, and felt highly patronised in that instance.

It got me, though. And I hated it.

I poke too much fun, it's true. But if you're genuinely offended by me, you probably have sex with your cousin and have a sloping forehead.

[enree erzweglle]

I see, so the best response is often no response.

My incident involved a comment on how I operate on the board, in terms of threads and posts. I took exception to it because I never try to police anybody here, and felt highly patronised in that instance.

It got me, though. And I hated it.

I poke too much fun, it's true. But if you're genuinely offended by me, you probably have sex with your cousin and have a sloping forehead.
Maybe it's a matter of getting to know the personalities. If you don't spend a whole lot of time here, you won't be able to differentiate the people who are serious in their insults or anger from the ones who aren't. It took me an unbelievably long time to even start to get that because I didn't spend a whole lot of time here at first and because you [young] people think differently than I do and have confusingly abbreviated ways of saying things.

In the instance that I mentioned, I did defend myself (in that I re-explained, succinctly, my position) and then said that I wouldn't engage in that sort of back-and-forth stuff. Half of that was motivated by, like I said, my aversion to that sort of thing to begin with; the other half was motivated strongly by the suspicion I had that the person was just being off, acting irrationally.

And I have eyed up my cousin on occasion. He's a cousin a few times removed so that makes it maybe a little more okay. Neither of us have sloping anythings.

[Kid Presentable]

Maybe it's a matter of getting to know the personalities. If you don't spend a whole lot of time here, you won't be able to differentiate the people who are serious in their insults or anger from the ones who aren't. It took me an unbelievably long time to even start to get that because I didn't spend a whole lot of time here at first and because you [young] people think differently than I do and have confusingly abbreviated ways of saying things.

In the instance that I mentioned, I did defend myself (in that I re-explained, succinctly, my position) and then said that I wouldn't engage in that sort of back-and-forth stuff. Half of that was motivated by, like I said, my aversion to that sort of thing to begin with; the other half was motivated strongly by the suspicion I had that the person was just being off, acting irrationally.

And I have eyed up my cousin on occasion. He's a cousin a few times removed so that makes it maybe a little more okay. Neither of us have sloping anythings.


Yeah, a lot can get blurred between posts. You lose an awful lot with written words, compared to the luxury of intonation, context, beers.

My forehead slopes, and my parents look alike. (y)

[Ace42X]

You lose an awful lot with written words

Three words:

Grammar, vocabulary, precision.

[enree erzweglle]

Three words:

Grammar, vocabulary, precision.
And the serial comma.

[adam_f]

Originally posted by enree erzweglle
If you don't want to post, feel free to PM me.
Or if you want, I can give you my private phone numbers and mailing address. :)

1-900? Can't remember the rest.






















Wait for it.....
























:D

[Echewta]

It all changes when you finally meet people. Then it becomes real. Then you know they could actually find you and rip your heart out like in that Road House movie when Patrick got pissed at that ninja white guy that the dude with the helicopter hired.

[sam i am]

It all changes when you finally meet people. Then it becomes real. Then you know they could actually find you and rip your heart out like in that Road House movie when Patrick got pissed at that ninja white guy that the dude with the helicopter hired.

I LOVE Road House! What a kick-ass guys movie. (y)

I don't think that white dude that Swayze tore his throat out of was a ninja, though. He was more of a hired hitman who HAPPENED to know some karate or kung-fu or some such shit.

Anyhow, back to the serious discussion.... :cool:

[Echewta]

His heart dude. Not his throat. Patrick had his heart in his hand and then threw it like in the river or at a bail of hay. Patrick was only disgusted with himself for a little while because blondes heal everything.

[Knuckles]

I prefer the play (http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.roadhousetheplay.com/images/roadhouse-flyer-front.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.roadhousetheplay.com/&h=768&w=522&sz=98&tbnid=RCtnRzoZohAJ:&tbnh=141&tbnw=95&hl=en&start=8&prev=/images%3Fq%3Droadhouse%26svnum%3D10%26hl%3Den%26lr %3D%26safe%3Doff)

[paul jones]

I prefer the play (http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.roadhousetheplay.com/images/roadhouse-flyer-front.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.roadhousetheplay.com/&h=768&w=522&sz=98&tbnid=RCtnRzoZohAJ:&tbnh=141&tbnw=95&hl=en&start=8&prev=/images%3Fq%3Droadhouse%26svnum%3D10%26hl%3Den%26lr %3D%26safe%3Doff)

jesus fuckin christ almighty on a pogo stick through a big cow pat! :eek:

[cj hood]

It all changes when you finally meet people. Then it becomes real. Then you know they could actually find you and rip your heart out like in that Road House movie when Patrick got pissed at that ninja white guy that the dude with the helicopter hired.


weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeesssssss ssssleeeeeeeeeeeey!

[synch]

I refuse to believe that that link is for a real play Knucks.

It said road house was a classic and everything :(

[sam i am]

His heart dude. Not his throat. Patrick had his heart in his hand and then threw it like in the river or at a bail of hay. Patrick was only disgusted with himself for a little while because blondes heal everything.

No. He tore out his throat. Remember?

The heart thing was in Dumb and Dumber.

[sam i am]

I prefer the play (http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.roadhousetheplay.com/images/roadhouse-flyer-front.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.roadhousetheplay.com/&h=768&w=522&sz=98&tbnid=RCtnRzoZohAJ:&tbnh=141&tbnw=95&hl=en&start=8&prev=/images%3Fq%3Droadhouse%26svnum%3D10%26hl%3Den%26lr %3D%26safe%3Doff)

HOLY CRAP!!!!!! :eek:

I can't remember the last time I laughed that hard.

What a GREAT link. Kudos to you, knouckles. You are my new hero.

[cj hood]

No. He tore out his throat. Remember?

The heart thing was in Dumb and Dumber.


it was his throat.....and the heart scene is from IJ-Temple of Doom!

[Documad]

I can't believe how many men admit to having seen Road House. And remembering the plot.

[TurdBerglar]

my internet persona is the shit i don't say outloud in real life becuase i would get punched in the face

[TAL]

Are you doing an all-nighter again?

[TAL]

Yeah, I was just sitting here and suddenly it's 7am. So no sleep for me either.