forgiveness...

[cookiepuss]

Does everyone deserve to be forgiven?

Do you forgive people quickly or do you hold on to your anger for a long time?

What is the hardest thing to forgive? (i.e. dishonesty, infidelity, etc? etc.)

what is the most hurtful thing that was done to you, that you were later able to forgive?



I was out this weekend getting a bit tipsy at a bar, when I saw a girl that I had reason to believe may have fooled around with my boyfriend behind my back almost three years ago (in the first year of our relationship we broke up after about six months-there were some problems in the relationship, I was going through depression and he was dangerously close to becoming an alchoholic. we broke up for about 2.5 months and he quit drinking, I worked on my issues and we forgave the problems of the past and gave it another go. Happily we are doing great now.) Anyway, being drunk I said something to the effect of " yeah I'm pretty sure that girl over there fucked my boyfriend a few years ago." and my best friend said oh you sound like your angry about it and gave me this huge lecture on forgiveness, which actually just pissed me off a little bit.

I don't dewl on the past on a regular basis, but yeah every now and then I see someone from that era of people we use to hang out with and I still get disgusted over the amount of depception that these folks delt out to thier "friends." As far as I'm concerned they are not good people and really don't deserve my "forgiveness". They just suck ass.

My friends point was that the anger just eats away at me and does nothing to them and that's why I should forgive. And there's a good point to that but I guess I'm not ready to do that. I don't feel there is anything wrong with being angry with these people. Having a little of that anger helps to remind me of the type of people I should be careful about in my life. Because I am someone who is sometimes too forgiving and I have let people walk on me because of it.

so yeah forgiveness.

[monkey]

Does everyone deserve to be forgiven?
No. there are some people that do things that are beyond MY comprehension. if someone killed someone i love maliciously, i could not forgive.

Do you forgive people quickly or do you hold on to your anger for a long time?
i forgive quickly. mostly cause i forget. i dont like harboring negative feelings.

What is the hardest thing to forgive? (i.e. dishonesty, infidelity, etc? etc.)
dishonesty is definately the hardest thing to forgive. i think in the root of everything, there is dishonesty. of course, the hardest thing EVER would have to be the harming of a loved one. again, nearly impossible.

what is the most hurtful thing that was done to you, that you were later able to forgive?

someone lying to me. im not sure if i forgave, or just drove it out of mind. but now i dont really care as much. i like thinking of karma in moments when i dont want to forgive.

[zorra_chiflada]

nah. forgiveness is for christians

[CJM]

^nice one.


i can forgive pretty easily. i think the person it's hardest to forgive is yourself. there are things i've done that i don't think i could forgive myself for....at leaste, not at the moment, anyhow.

[CJM]

phew, the weight's been lifted off my shoulders.

[cosmo105]

if someone's sorry, i forgive him/her. if he's not sorry, i forgive him/her still.

most of the time. there are some things i've never forgiven people for, but maybe someday i will.

but i never forget.

[mickill]

I may forgive or forget, but rarely if ever both. Not with things that actually matter to me. Probably never both, actually. I don't know if it's entirely possible to do both; you either forget all about it and one day it pops back in your head and you're like, "oh yeah" or you forgive someone but sort of use/hold it against them or just dwell on it a lot in your mind. I'm talking about with actual significant issues, not petty garbage.

[cosmo105]

so do you forgive me for that time i accidentally dunked your copy of The Ghost of Tom Joad in lube and left it on your pillow?

[Mr. Boomin'Granny]

no, i hate you.

[cosmo105]

i remember each and every dutch oven you've ever subjected me to. at the pearly gates, you can bet your southern ass i'll be listing them all to saint peter.

"and then one time, he had just had about half a sausage and pepperoni pizza...i mean, seriously, it was just messed up..."

[Mr. Boomin'Granny]

what about that time you were at a bad angle and OUCH!! :mad:

[cosmo105]

hey, it couldn't be helped. it's not my fault you can't do it in the back of a go-kart.

[Mr. Boomin'Granny]

it was a go-cart game at dave and busters idiot.

[cosmo105]

you mean the jurassic park game at gameworks. look, they're moving in herds! they do move in herds! oh look, we're getting attacked again!

[miss_bhaven]

Does everyone deserve to be forgiven?
Depends on what they've said or done.

Do you forgive people quickly or do you hold on to your anger for a long time?
Again, depends on what they've said or done. But if they've truly fucked me around, forgiveness is the last thing on my mind.

What is the hardest thing to forgive? (i.e. dishonesty, infidelity, etc? etc.)
Those who have or are willing to break my trust (n) I doubt I'd ever be able to forgive them.

What is the most hurtful thing that was done to you, that you were later able to forgive?
Hmmm.... I guess a few things some of my mates have said... and a few things my g/f has said when we're in an argument... But I was willing to forgive them.

"Because I am someone who is sometimes too forgiving and I have let people walk on me because of it". <--- Ditto...Sux :(