Alright...girl talk.

[Anne Lauren]

Since all my friends that are girls seem to be caught up in their passionate, exciting, and romantic relationships with their sole mates and are currently too enthrolled with the guys to talk to me about a situation I'm in. Well, they talk, but it's obvious they don't really give a damn because their responses are really generic and not helpful at all. Like, one said, "Do what you feel is right." Then, her boyfriend called and she asked if she could call me back. And, yes, I am jealous! And my guy friends don't really give a damn one way or another. One said, "If your worrying about him this much, than fuck him!" That's not helpful at all. So, here goes...and I'm being dead serious. No dumbass attempts at being witty. Because I want to discuss this damnit! And no one else really seems to want to.

Alright, I met this man, he's not just some guy, one night through some mutual friends. His friends knew some of my friends, etc...Well, he almost immediately started showing interest in me. Like, he got my number through one of my friends and started texting me. I was really depressed during that time because that was the week my divorce was finalized and even Brad Pitt couldn't peak my interest, as far as getting to know another man is concerned. Anyway, months past, literally, and he continued to randomly text me. Then, we started talking and getting to know one another. And I started to realize that he and I had a definate connection there. It was almost bizarre because he reminds me a lot of Scott, my ex. It's not just sexual at all...I love his personality. We fit each other. Which could be bad because, obviously, I got a divorce for a reason. However, it's difficult to meet up with someone like that, too. So, I gave him a chance and we went on a date. Now, I really really like him...a lot. So, of course, being in Anne fashion, as soon as like someone...I fuck up because I analyze shit too much and before I wouldn't give a shit and for some reason that made the guy persue me more. Now, this is driving me nuts because I'm wondering stuff like, why hasn't he called me, etc. ? And, with out realizeing it, I must be doing something to make him not as interested in me because he's not persueing me as much. Of, course, now that I like him. Plus, he's really intelligent and extremely confident and I kinda think for fun he likes to play head games with women because he likes the attention. Like, he's almost too confident. He's an attorney and drives a brand new BMW and lives in a condo on the lake. He's a great catch, but I have a reluctent feeling about him. I mean, why is he giving me all this attention? We've already slept together. Which was really fucking dumb on my part, but I'm human. I'm really vulnerable right now and I'm not going to play mind games. But, I don't want to pass up a chance for a great relationship because I'm extremely paranoid...like seriously, it's a problem. I'm tired of being lonely and need to move on. And, it has to be all or nothing here because I like him too much. Anyway, how should I handle this?

[Anne Lauren]

And, I know this is a long ass thread, but bare with me. I'm tired of analyzeing this shit too much.

[Audio.]

both of you slept together and he never said a peep about ya later on....its obivious what went on.

[Kid Presentable]

I have a smelly nuts yo.

[tracky]

then stop analyzing

i didn't read your long ass post cause i'm not a girl, but I do the same, over thinking shit. Just don't worry about it and whatever will be will be.

[Anne Lauren]

both of you slept together and he never said a peep about ya later on....its obivious what went on.

No, not at all. That would be too obvious. It's not about sex. I know how guys are and I can read people pretty well. Guys are generally pretty predictable. Their not as complex and emotional as women. But, I can't figure this guy out. It's almost like he's too perfect...seriously. But, why would he still bother now, if he's just putting on an act. Or maybe he really is like that...then again, that's too good to be true. Maybe, he's married or something and wants to start a fling because he's not as sexually attracted to his wife anymore? Seriously. Then again, he is in his thirties and is mature and responsible. All, I've ever dated was immature men in their twenties.

[fucktopgirl]

ha you are remind me of my sister.going out with some guy,sleeping with them and wandering if it the right man,the right relationship,why he dont call,analysing everything that he said !
she like man that are wise and like to catch women under their reign,spell!


i mean maybe you should just not analysing the thing!take it easy,and no stress.If its the guy you need in your life its gona come naturely.I mean you dont need to stress about it.Maybe except he is rich and a lot of women gona be around him? :D

relationship come naturely ,you dont need to force thing,or stress about it!
if he is the man,its gona come ,otherwise dont waste your energy on him,just go on and do your thing!

[Audio.]

you analyze us guys too much. Maybe you met your man. Give him a call see what ups.
How long was it since you last seen him?

[Audio.]

ha you are remind me of my sister.going out with some guy,sleeping with them and wandering if it the right man,the right relationship,why he dont call,analysing everything that he said !
she like man that are wise and like to catch women under their reign,spell!


i mean maybe you should just not analysing the thing!take it easy,and no stress.If its the guy you need in your life its gona come naturely.I mean you dont need to stress about it.Maybe except he is rich and a lot of women gona be around him? :D

relationship come naturely ,you dont need to force thing,or stress about it!
if he is the man,its gona come ,otherwise dont waste your energy on him,just go on and do your thing!
bravo!

[Anne Lauren]

then stop analyzing

i didn't read your long ass post cause i'm not a girl, but I do the same, over thinking shit. Just don't worry about it and whatever will be will be.

This thread is just me thinking out loud. If this guy really is just fucking around with me and has a girl just like me in several different cities...I will be pissed! I don't trust men...I'm too emotionally vulnerable right now and most of them know how to spot women like that from a mile away. They prey on them like animals. :D Well, a general rule of thumb is that if I'm attracted to someone...something is more than likely up with them. Nice guys just bore me, I guess.

[tracky]

That's ok, I don't trust women

[Audio.]

just stop stressing. forget about the divorce. get drunk. have fun. go shop.

[fucktopgirl]

bravo!
thank you

[fucktopgirl]

just dont play the victim

[Anne Lauren]

ha you are remind me of my sister.going out with some guy,sleeping with them and wandering if it the right man,the right relationship,why he dont call,analysing everything that he said !
she like man that are wise and like to catch women under their reign,spell!


i mean maybe you should just not analysing the thing!take it easy,and no stress.If its the guy you need in your life its gona come naturely.I mean you dont need to stress about it.Maybe except he is rich and a lot of women gona be around him? :D

relationship come naturely ,you dont need to force thing,or stress about it!
if he is the man,its gona come ,otherwise dont waste your energy on him,just go on and do your thing!

That's funny. I asked my friend why all the sudden I'm into this guy and she's like, "Because you slept with and your a fucking woman!" And, you know what...damnit, it's true. I mean I have to really like the guy to begin with in order for that to happen, which is rare...but, once I give it up...the deal is sealed. The thing is that I haven't really found someone that I really like this much...seriously. I've been on a ton of dates with different guys trying sow my wild oates or something. But, it gets lonely after a while. However, I'm just now starting to get over one of the darkest times of my life...no, really it was bad! And I'm not ready to move on. It really is best for me to focus on bettering me right now, like focusing on moving up in my career, etc. I mean, that's part of the reason why I took a job in a big city, away from my friends and family.

[fucktopgirl]

That's funny. I asked my friend why all the sudden I'm into this guy and she's like, "Because you slept with and your a fucking woman!" And, you know what...damnit, it's true. I mean I have to really like the guy to begin with in order for that to happen, which is rare...but, once I give it up...the deal is sealed. The thing is that I haven't really found someone that I really like this much...seriously. I've been on a ton of dates with different guys trying sow my wild oates or something. But, it gets lonely after a while. However, I'm just now starting to get over one of the darkest times of my life...no, really it was bad! And I'm not ready to move on. It really is best for me to focus on bettering me right now, like focusing on moving up in my career, etc. I mean, that's part of the reason why I took a job in a big city, away from my friends and family.


what your job/
anyway yea,just do your thing,and when you need to have a orgasm ,you call theguys.Dont let yourself be dependant of that guy.To be byyour own its good too.make yourself stronger with your dream,your vison,the prince charming gona pop up ,no worrie!
like i said my sister is in the same deal as you;
she has the choice to focus on her and her dream
or'
to focuse on some illegitimate dick who manipulate her

[Anne Lauren]

just stop stressing. forget about the divorce. get drunk. have fun. go shop.

That's funny you should mention that...I did that very thing. Too much! I mean, it got really bad!

Anyway, I don't want to give the impression like I'm some emotional nut case. I'm actually really pretty normal and easy going. I have and have always had a great life...seriously, I've really been blessed.
I mean, everyone has shit in their life. And in the overall perspective of things...this really isn't a big deal at all. I'm just merely discussing something, that my friends are fucking tired of hearing about.

Anyway, I was reading through my posts and I sound like some attention-seeking whiney-ass...and I can't stand people like that! They get on my nerves.

[Audio.]

I wish I was that manipulate dick. ;) (y)
jaja Karma que gay.

[Audio.]

That's funny you should mention that...I did that very thing. Too much! I mean, it got really bad!

Anyway, I don't want to give the impression like I'm some emotional nut case. I'm actually really pretty normal and easy going. I have and have always had a great life...seriously, I've really been blessed.
I mean, everyone has shit in their life. And in the overall perspective of things...this really isn't a big deal at all. I'm just merely discussing something, that my friends are fucking tired of hearing about.

Anyway, I was reading through my posts and I sound like some attention-seeking whiney-ass...and I can't stand people like that! They get on my nerves.
well no shit sherlock. ;)
No wonder why you friends get tired of it. All I can say is forget about it and walk you own way. You have you own life and don't depend on a guy to be your main man. I guess you analyzing guys is screwing it up for ya.

[Anne Lauren]

what your job/
anyway yea,just do your thing,and when you need to have a orgasm ,you call theguys.Dont let yourself be dependant of that guy.To be byyour own its good too.make yourself stronger with your dream,your vison,the prince charming gona pop up ,no worrie!
like i said my sister is in the same deal as you;
she has the choice to focus on her and her dream
or'
to focuse on some illegitimate dick who manipulate her

Nah, I'm not in that boat...I'm too selfish and too "all about me" for that. :D Just Kidding. I just don't want to deal with being disappointed again. A broken heart sucks! But, I'm sick of seeing all these couples, too. My little brother is getting married and I'm all bitter. Nah, I'm kinda jealous, really. I'm not a mooshy person at all, but no body like to be alone.

[fucktopgirl]

Nah, I'm not in that boat...I'm too selfish and too "all about me" for that. :D Just Kidding. I just don't want to deal with being disappointed again. A broken heart sucks! But, I'm sick of seeing all these couples, too. My little brother is getting married and I'm all bitter. Nah, I'm kinda jealous, really. I'm not a mooshy person at all, but no body like to be alone.


well you are alone for a reason!
to be stronger!
(that is so deep)

[Anne Lauren]

well no shit sherlock. ;)
No wonder why you friends get tired of it. All I can say is forget about it and walk you own way. You have you own life and don't depend on a guy to be your main man. I guess you analyzing guys is screwing it up for ya.


How old are you, anyway?

[zippo]

i didn't read your long ass post cause i'm not a girl

[Audio.]

I like being alone. I'm young I'm in no rush. I'll take it easy with someone. Love is not that important to me. So its not true that everyone needs love.

[TAL]

Zippo's a guy.

[zippo]

in a midsummer nights dream i saw love appear before me, whisper into my ear, and tell me things, things ive always wanted to hear


if that doesnt help clear things up for you then i dont know what will

its all in your heart

[zippo]

i didn't read your long ass post cause i'm not a girl

[Audio.]

How old are you, anyway?
Vingt y o veinte. how do you spell 20 in english?

[fucktopgirl]

in a midsummer nights dream i saw love appear before me, whisper into my ear, and tell me things, things ive always wanted to hear


if that doesnt help clear things up for you then i dont know what will

its all in your heart


zippo,is gay :D
or really romantic

[Anne Lauren]

well you are alone for a reason!
to be stronger!
(that is so deep)

I appreciate your comments...not quick to have some dumbass fucking response in an attempt to be "cool" in front of some strangers on the internet. When, in all actuality, the person is probably some social retard to begin with. God, that shit irratates the hell out of me. I mean, it's all the time...give it a fucking rest. Knowing when to say certain things and when not to defines social intelligence. It's all about the timeing. And you obviously just aren't talented at it.

[fucktopgirl]

I appreciate your comments...not quick to have some dumbass fucking response in an attempt to be "cool" in front of some strangers on the internet. When, in all actuality, the person is probably some social retard to begin with. God, that shit irratates the hell out of me. I mean, it's all the time...give it a fucking rest. Knowing when to say certain things and when not to defines social intelligence. It's all about the timeing. And you obviously just aren't talented at it.


"and you obviolsly just aren;t talented at it"


maybe i am paranoid or french,are you saying that to me?

[Anne Lauren]

Vingt y o veinte. how do you spell 20 in english?

See, that's an example right there. Couldn't you just have written 20? And what you did write wasn't even remotely humorous. It was gay!

[zippo]

i might read it after posting this one

[Anne Lauren]

I like being alone. I'm young I'm in no rush. I'll take it easy with someone. Love is not that important to me. So its not true that everyone needs love.

That's a good thing...you're a guy and you're 20 years old. I would hope you're not out confessing your love to everyone. Good Job! (y)

[Audio.]

See, that's an example right there. Couldn't you just have written 20? And what you did write wasn't even remotely humorous. It was gay!
ouch! I did ask how do you spell 20 in english! Besides it was the only way to tell you that. I just want know how do you spell 20 in english writing. Fuck cut me some slack! I have a reading comprehension problem and its like late at night here en Southern Francis. Peace out. I'm going out bombing some trains. Post pic tommorow.

And stop it already, anne. We know what is the problem and we answered back.

[hellojello]

you spell 20 - twenty. I thought your question was legitimate and anne's reply was a little unwarrented!

Same with yours fucktopgirl I have no idea if she was talking about you or someone else?? And I"m not french.

Anne - I read your thing and I think you should either get over this guy or just ask him wtf is up with him being all interested then not interested all of a sudden...maybe it's the thrill of the chase for him, I've known a lotta guys like that.

[hitmonlee]

ask HIM what he wants

[kll]

No, not at all. That would be too obvious. It's not about sex. I know how guys are and I can read people pretty well. Guys are generally pretty predictable. Their not as complex and emotional as women. But, I can't figure this guy out. It's almost like he's too perfect...seriously. But, why would he still bother now, if he's just putting on an act. Or maybe he really is like that...then again, that's too good to be true. Maybe, he's married or something and wants to start a fling because he's not as sexually attracted to his wife anymore? Seriously. Then again, he is in his thirties and is mature and responsible. All, I've ever dated was immature men in their twenties.


Chances are he's not married if you all have mutual friends. Maybe he's feeling things about you that scare him and make him feel vulnerable, so he's pulling back. Maybe he's dating more than one woman and seems distant because he has to be. Or it could be that because you have decided that you like him... a lot... you have become hyper sensitive to how much time you spend together, how often he calls and all of your overanalyzing has played mind games with yourself.

[Qdrop]

maybe he's just using you for sex.
nothing less, nothing more.

guys do that sometimes.

[adam_f]

Originally posted by Qdrop
maybe he's just using you for sex.
nothing less, nothing more.

guys do that sometimes.

Except for Jimmy 'J.J.' Walker.

[kll]

maybe he's just using you for sex.
nothing less, nothing more.

guys do that sometimes.


yeah. i guess that could always be an option.


anne - does he take you on dates and do you spend quality time together and was there anything that made you think that you were exclusively dating?

[cookiepuss]

If he's not calling you after you had sex it could be for many reasons, but from what you said about him...more than likely he is some one who really enjoys the chase. He likes courting women and the prospect of getting them into bed. once that happens though he starts to loose interest because he accomplished what he set out to do.--- now maybe he is that way because he's a commitment phobe. If he's confident an knows he's a catch he may think most women are after his money and so he pulls away when things get intimate because he feels that women are more interested in his money than him.

Or he could be the kinda guy that once he sleeps with someone he figures he's got them and he becomes complasent and dosen't make as much effort to court them because "hey, they're already mine. what more do I need to do?" kinda thing.