getting in touch with an ex...

[cookiepuss]

Do you relish it or do you dread it?

I know it generally depends on what the relationship was and how long ago it ended.

I find that now that I'm in a secure, stable, loving relationship, I get a kick out of talking to old boyfriends. I mean even if they broke my heart at the time, I just think it's really fun to find out how they are doing now, how they've changed or how they haven't. Sometimes it even makes you (and them) even more glad that your relationship with them ended. And sometimes it gets really good cause the person admits that they were an idiot when they were with you and that letting you go was the biggest mistake of thier life. that's the icing on the cake for me, when that happens. (y)

A friend of mine just ran into one of my old flames and apparently he'd like to get in touch with me. It's so juicy, i can't wait to hear what he's been up to! My fling with him really changed my life, so I'm really curious as to how things have turned out for him. :D

[cosmo105]

i'm totally with you on the whole "i'm so stable and happy now and your life is CRAP" thing. at least, that's how i feel :o that's the beauty of myspace. catching up on old flames, even in high school, and seeing how fat/lonely they are now is hilarious to me. TAKE THAT, MOTHERFUCKERS! a few of them have even tried to rekindle something, and that's even funnier. but here and there some of them have been good to talk to, just to say hi and all because there was never really any bad blood there.

god, some of my exes, though...i don't ever, ever want to get in touch with. *shudder*

[ToucanSpam]

I haven't spoken to my first girlfriend in like 2 years. She cheated.

Do I need to go back to that shit? Nopers. Fuck that. I'll just keep living a happy life now.

[Ace42X]

I like getting in touch with my exs, finding out how their asses are healing.

[Loppfessor]

Cookie n cos you both sound kind of petty. I just like to move on once a relationship is over. If it didn't end badly I usually stay friends but even if it did I would really not want to take joy in the other person's unhappiness.

[cosmo105]

yes, but you don't have a vagina.

[ToucanSpam]

yarharharharharhar


Isn't your ex like, nucking futs, Cosmo? I don't blame you for being 'petty' then.

[cosmo105]

well yeah, one of them is. i don't keep in touch with him at all. he's a continent away and that's exactly how it should be.

[Loppfessor]

yes, but you don't have a vagina.


I have lots of them

[ToucanSpam]

I bet you think that's rather clever, don't you?

[cookiepuss]

Cookie n cos you both sound kind of petty. I just like to move on once a relationship is over. If it didn't end badly I usually stay friends but even if it did I would really not want to take joy in the other person's unhappiness.


Um I don't nessarrily take joy in thier being unhappy. I mean if they were that big of an ass I really wouldn't want to get in touch with them in the first place. I'm just slightly evil, so if they end up giving me an ego boost by admiting that they screwed up with me and regret it, I'll eat that up. yeah. that's right. I don't see anything wrong with that. For the most part i'm a good person, but I have my petty moments.

But like I said getting an admission of fault in the former relationship is icing on the cake. Mainly I enjoy getting in touch because I'm genuninely curious about how people change or don't change. And in all reality it's more of the relif to me to hear that they have also moved on and are happy. that way I know they aren't gonna make a hair doll and stalk me for the next 20 years.

[Loppfessor]

^ yeah that makes sense I suppose, but lemme ask you this. You stated that you are happy and very much in love now but if you weren't would you still be eager to hear from exes?

[QueenAdrock]

I don't have any exes. I have one who I really, really liked, and was my first case of puppy love from freshman year of high school. He introduced me to the Beastie Boys. And then this whore came along, and decided she liked him too, so she told him all this shit about me about how I was trying to kill myself over him, so he decided to stop our friendship for my "safety" and it really really sucked because he didn't believe me when I told him it was bullshit. And then this whore became obsessed with him, and they never went out, and Wayne and I saw her last year at the mall and I whispered to him "Yeah, that's the girl who sabotaged my relationship with that guy," as we were passing. He turned and saw her and said really loud "THAT'S the girl? That fat cow made you upset? Come on, Diana. You're so much better than her. Don't be stupid." :)

Annnnnyways, um. I think I'd be nice to him if I saw the guy because I don't really blame him for what happened, but I've still got a lot of bitterness I haven't gotten closure with so a nice "Wow looks like your life sucks and mine is pretty damn good if Idosaysomyself," would be greaaaat. (y)

[cookiepuss]

(in response to Lopp) ^ yeah that I'm not sure about. I think part of the reason I fell secure about talking with them is that I'm not looking for for a partner. So it's not about rekindling a flame or looking for anything in particular form the person. Some of the guys I really liked (I wasn't just hot for them but I liked thier friendship too) and now I feel I can be friendly with no hard feelings cause I'm over whatever may have happened.

if I was single, then I'm sure I'd only want to reconnect with the guys I was really hot on or felt I had unfinished business with. I probably wouldn't be about our friendship but discovering if it's really over between us.

[jennyb]

My ex, that I moved out to California with, I talk to now with no issues what so ever. It's utterly amazing cuz when we were in the relationship the communication was volatile and painful!

As a matter of fact, he runs a landscaping business in town and I hired him to work on my yard! Yeah, my current man even helped him and his guys out. God, being an adult is so liberating at times! (y)

I'm all about letting bygones be bygones. I've got no time for tha drama cuz stress is for kids.

[cosmo105]

it IS wonderful when a guy says "god, i really screwed up and treated you like crap. i'm sorry." that's much better than finding out he's a loser now. (y)

[Kid Presentable]

I ate an ex for dinner once.

[fucktopgirl]

I ate an ex for dinner once.

carnibal :D