looks / personality or both

[71kap]

I am working on a paper for my social psychology class. It is on stereotypes, prejudice and relationships. In looking for a person do you solely go on looks? or Do you look at the person as an individual regardless of size (boobs, butt, stomach, etc) This goes for guys and girls. There are already stereotypes that guys are only going on for what is on the suface (the way you look) but is that the overall views of everyone? I look forward to hearing from you and what you look for. I know that as I have gotten older my views have changed - I can say it is not always about the looks anymore.

[QueenAdrock]

I go for personality first, but looks do have a say. I'm not gonna date some guy with a great personality who looks like ass, because my libido tells me no.

However, I met my current boyfriend online where I got to know his personality before I saw him. I think he's cute, and his sense of humor is amazing. I wouldn't be able to date a trophy boyfriend who couldn't make me laugh, I'd get bored and irritated.

So most important, personality (sense of humor, for me) and then looks.

[CrankItUp!]

(lb) No matter how attractive a person is - if their personality stinks, then they begin to look like fucking shit real fast.

[DipDipDive]

Personality comes first. A physical attraction is just a bonus. It's definitely a cliche, but I do think that people become more physically attracted to one another the more they realize that they are a good fit mentally (ie having good communication, similar value systems, beliefs, common interests, etc.). Unfortunately, that level isn't usually reached unless there's some form of physical attraction initially. Relationships based strictly on looks tend to fizzle out quickly when the parties involved realize they have nothing in common and can't relate to one another on any kind of real level. That's been the case in my experience, anyways.

[71kap]

DipDipDive - I agree once the attraction is gone if you have nothing in common it makes for miserable company. Imagine marrying someone soley based on the sexual attraction. Then fifteen years later you realize how different you both are and you have nothing in common. I will definately never marry based on attraction again. It is nice but it can no longer be the basis of a relationship - As said before it is the bonus!

[iceygirl]

both.

personality is a huge factor as is looks. when you have commited to someone for the rest of your life, both have to play a key, for me anyway.

[QueenAdrock]

I think that once you know their personality, they become even more attractive physically. I think it's a mental thing, but I remember thinking guys weren't attractive until I got to know them. Weird.

[Sarky Devotchka]

I love me a beautiful boy, but sense of humor and personality are key.

I have a couple guy friends who I'm attracted to and sometimes fool around with, but I don't want to date either of them because we really don't have very much in common when we're not drunk.

ew, that came out really trashy. ah well.

[TurdBerglar]

umm

first you single out the hot ones. then from the hot ones you pick the one with the coolest personality