I think im single

[HEIRESS]

until xmas anyways
Im confused
why does shit have to be so messed up
:(

[cosmo105]

:(

that sucks. it'll work out for the best, eh?

[bigblu89]

Santa Bringing you a new man for Xmas?

[Qdrop]

hahaha...
half the guys on this board just shot to attention...

[Echewta]

please see Dandy's thread.

[bigblu89]

hahaha...
half the guys on this board just shot to attention...

Q, I was thinking the same thing.

[mickill]

I am offering you my comfort, Heiress. This is it...you can't see it, feel it, hear it, smell it or sense it in any way really, but trust me, it's there. You can have it until the end of the day.

[na§tee]

awwh babes.
i thought i would be too for a while.
my thoughts are with you!
winter is shitty sometimes.
relationships are shitty on even more occasions.
big hugs!
xxx

[HEIRESS]

we are on a break until xmas officially where further breakaging of different proportions will be discussed or somethingsomething...

blargh

comforting is good, thank god I have doggies to play with at new abode

and yeah, long distance winter relationships are probably the shattiest of all

[Gareth]

stink, brah

[bigblu89]

So, not to sound like a dick, or Turd, but how much of it is "I don't think we can last as a long distance couple." and how much of it is "I don't have any money to buy you a good Xmas present."?

[hpdrifter]

Getchaself some mistletoe. Like now.

[HEIRESS]

Im loaded that's all that matters

[Echewta]

yea but with cheap canadian beer :(

[Qdrop]

So, not to sound like a dick, or Turd, but how much of it is "I don't think we can last as a long distance couple." and how much of it is "I don't have any money to buy you a good Xmas present."?

or else how much of it was "i really want to get with this other person real bad, so...uhhh..."

[Qdrop]

Im loaded that's all that matters
we figured.

[beastieangel01]

I hope it whatever happens is for the best, miss.

[CiaoBellaXO]

Just think . . on new years eve, you can make out with as many boys as you want.

[abcdefz]

until xmas anyways
Im confused
why does shit have to be so messed up
:(



:(

[kll]

Just think . . on new years eve, you can make out with as many boys as you want.
she said UNTIL xmas... i guess that's his way of controlling who she does kiss on new year's


and does that mean he still wants/expects a xmas present?

[cosmo105]

why until xmas? why not just break it off cleanly? i mean, you guys weren't happy for a while right?

[Qdrop]

Just think . . on new years eve, you can make out with as many boys as you want.

Toucan just booked his plane ticket.

[DIGI]

Im loaded that's all that matters


Wanna fuck?

[miss soul fire]

I'm sorry about that, HEIRESS. Well, being single for a while will be good for you, you probably need some space, but never stay away from the doggie! The dog is always a big help! They're heroes.:D

[ToucanSpam]

Think of it this way Heiress.




You could be me. :(

[HEIRESS]

can I get his digits? kthanks. :)

he is pretty, Ill give him that
:/

[synch]

I knew he couldn't be too bright after seeing him in an AS Roma shirt.

I'd try not to let it all linger for over a month though... being in limbo until christmas would kill me. Unless this is some time you both need to work stuff out... but otherwise it's just cruel.

Hang in there.

[monkey]

it sucks that it's happening. but... you know how awesome you are and if it doesnt work out, then... you can concentrate on spending more time being awesome (and next time, get a guy that tells you how gorgeous you are at least once a month).

cheeeeer upppppp. put some lipgloss on and go be airesse :cool:

[paul jones]

Don't worry Airesse, it won't last (y) :)

[Echewta]

I have some episodes of Dance Party USA on tape if you'd like a copy. Helps me sometimes.

[King PSYZ]

Sorry lead nuts is now lead for brains (n)

[WhoMoi?]

I have some episodes of Dance Party USA on tape if you'd like a copy. Helps me sometimes.

Teehee. (y)

[TurdBerglar]

how the fuck could you let something like heiress go

[HEIRESS]

I want/wanted it to work
I love him, probably always will
but
I cant handle being ignored and being given the silent treatment for more 24 hours at a time, sometimes more
or having his health obsession take over my life as he tries to control every morsel that crosses my lips
or having so little sex that I can count the number of times ive gotten some in the past 6-7 months on two hands
or being a generally sad person because Im attempting to love someone thats not giving back even a 1/3 of the goodness im throwing out there at them
and yeah the whole having even lower self esteem when im with him cause he never tells me that im cute or enticing, its his job dammit!

its killin me smalls :/

[TurdBerglar]

oh baby it's ok

[Freebasser]

*cue 70s porn music*

[TurdBerglar]

fuck off wierdo


i saw her first

[QueenAdrock]

who the fuck wouldn't tell you you're cute? and i'm not trying to kiss your ass here, but you are beautiful, and should be reminded by a good boyfriend at least once a week.

[TurdBerglar]

hey heiress you're HOT :cool:

[Freebasser]

fuck off wierdo


i saw her first

I was actually setting the scene for you and her to go at it.

Dumbass.

[TurdBerglar]

that's sick dude. go watch someone else

[Freebasser]

Fuckin' moron...

[Documad]

who the fuck wouldn't tell you you're cute? and i'm not trying to kiss your ass here, but you are beautiful, and should be reminded by a good boyfriend at least once a week.
Yeah, I don't even know you Heiress so this isn't going to be helpful, but it's seriously messed up if you're being taken for granted and worse.

And your total dish-i-ness aside, you're super smart and funny and if it's so flipping obvious over a stupid message board then he should be seeing that too. I suck at relationship advice, but this guy has me really pissed off. If I was in Canada I would shake you by your shoulders and/or hit you in the head with something.

[Musik]

So are you going to hook up with someone before Xmas, and throw that break in his face. Hey I live in Seattle you live in B.C.(Vancouver?), so comfort is only 2 hours away. :D

[DandyFop]

I want/wanted it to work
I love him, probably always will
but
I cant handle being ignored and being given the silent treatment for more 24 hours at a time, sometimes more
or having his health obsession take over my life as he tries to control every morsel that crosses my lips
or having so little sex that I can count the number of times ive gotten some in the past 6-7 months on two hands
or being a generally sad person because Im attempting to love someone thats not giving back even a 1/3 of the goodness im throwing out there at them
and yeah the whole having even lower self esteem when im with him cause he never tells me that im cute or enticing, its his job dammit!

its killin me smalls :/

I could always tell this is what's going on by some of your posts n shit. You are seriously, so beautiful, funny, smart, awesome. I know how it is to be with someone like that, and though it's hard to imagine not being with him, you will feel so much better in the long run (this is, if he doesn't realize what a huge mistake he would be making and clean up his act). Even the best relationships turn sour. I've seen way too many great women get caught up in stuff like this but still stay with someone who treats them like that.

I felt like that after a long relationship, and i was worried that no one else would want me. Man we think dumb shit.

Love ya lady.

[jabumbo]

heiress and dandy fop should hook up for the benefit of themselves and society

[befsquire]

I want/wanted it to work
I love him, probably always will
but
I cant handle being ignored and being given the silent treatment for more 24 hours at a time, sometimes more
or having his health obsession take over my life as he tries to control every morsel that crosses my lips
or having so little sex that I can count the number of times ive gotten some in the past 6-7 months on two hands
or being a generally sad person because Im attempting to love someone thats not giving back even a 1/3 of the goodness im throwing out there at them
and yeah the whole having even lower self esteem when im with him cause he never tells me that im cute or enticing, its his job dammit!

its killin me smalls :/
this is exactly why i have an ex mr. beth. once my relationship slid that far downhill, i knew it couldn't ever be what i wanted and needed. so, i figured out exactly what i needed from love and decided i was not going to settle for anything less. then i found exactly what i wanted and needed, plus extras i hadn't even considered. i have everything now; and he's a dr too! :D

i'm very sorry you're going through this right now, and regardless of how it goes, you'll eventually be happy. if it's with him, take him back on your terms, not his. you deserve everything you want out of love.

<3

[synch]

I suck at relationship advice, but this guy has me really pissed off. If I was in Canada I would shake you by your shoulders and/or hit you in the head with something.You weren't kidding when you said you suck at relationship advice eh? Shaking her and hitting her in the head? :(

;)

[Justin]

Whats a relationship?

[The Notorious LOL]

dump him then.

[DandyFop]

Whats a relationship?

It's when you go to the guy at the Subway place and are like "Hey man give me a meatball sub", then he asks you what kind of cheese you want. That's a relationship.

[hitmonlee]

Im loaded that's all that matters

is that working for you?
if i get loaded i tend to ring or sms the guy in question
so its like - stay sober and possibly message him
or get wasted - forget for a while until i'm at the wasted/lonely point then message him

(n)

[Gareth]

i think she means that she has sizeable stacks of cash.
edit: nah i think i'm wrong...but drink chicks with money are cool when they buy you drinks.

[synch]

Not nescessarily.

[Bob]

how the fuck could you let something like heiress go

women are not objects turd :rolleyes:

let's just stop degrading women, please

[The Notorious LOL]

DEGRADING HOES AND BITCHES WORD LIFE SON! ;) ;)

[beastieangel01]

I want/wanted it to work
I love him, probably always will
but
I cant handle being ignored and being given the silent treatment for more 24 hours at a time, sometimes more
or having his health obsession take over my life as he tries to control every morsel that crosses my lips
or having so little sex that I can count the number of times ive gotten some in the past 6-7 months on two hands
or being a generally sad person because Im attempting to love someone thats not giving back even a 1/3 of the goodness im throwing out there at them
and yeah the whole having even lower self esteem when im with him cause he never tells me that im cute or enticing, its his job dammit!

its killin me smalls :/


haha@smalls.

Seriously, that is some shit. I've had some of those things happen to me in past relationships. He's not even worth it then. Telling your s.o. that they are attractive may seem silly to some, but those some are stupid. It's NICE and good to know that you are attractive to your partner.

Ugh. I think you should run far away from him anyway.

I'd offer to date you, but there is a long line, and I don't think my bf would be happy if I broke up with him for you. But hey, if there is a chance...

:p In all seriousness though, I hope that things improve for you. I'm sure they will. You'll find someone better (y)

[Echewta]

Heiress,

I can rip off your leg and beat you with it, if you'd like.

[TurdBerglar]

women are not objects turd :rolleyes:

let's just stop degrading women, please


what's so degradeing?


or did i miss a joke or something?

[wanton wench]

I want/wanted it to work
I love him, probably always will
but
I cant handle being ignored and being given the silent treatment for more 24 hours at a time, sometimes more
or having his health obsession take over my life as he tries to control every morsel that crosses my lips
or having so little sex that I can count the number of times ive gotten some in the past 6-7 months on two hands
or being a generally sad person because Im attempting to love someone thats not giving back even a 1/3 of the goodness im throwing out there at them
and yeah the whole having even lower self esteem when im with him cause he never tells me that im cute or enticing, its his job dammit!

its killin me smalls :/

loving someone doesnt make them love you!
you deserve better!
sorry your dealing with this!

[ms.peachy]

My imaginary sassy black auntie once told me, "You can't never fix no broke-ass man."

And you know, she's absolutely right. Even if she doesn't actually exist.

[mickill]

I just realized that the title of this thread is "I think im single". Now, let's just disregard the fact that you left out an apostrophe and failed to capitalize your I'm for a minute here and take another look at your choice of words. You think you're single. Think? I hope you're not just waiting for him to allow you some sense of actual certainty regarding the future of your own relationship.

I'm not sure, but I guess I'm assuming that it's not him waiting for a decision from you, but more the other way around. If that's the case, then you're more or less empowering him; you're allowing him to have his proverbial cake and eat it too. You might even say that he's free to explore his options, and meanwhile, he's still got you as a cushion. I'm sure he cares about you considerably, but caring alone doesn't necessarily keep people from making bad decisions. You have to ask yourself some difficult questions here: Is he trying to let you down easy? Is he just stringing you along? Are you holding onto someone that's trying to let go?

I mean, I obviously don't know the entire story here, so I could be getting a bit ahead of myself. But from the sounds of it, you want things to work, you're willing to try to make things work, you're allowing him time to decide if he wants to try to make things work but you're unsure if he wants to make things work. I'm just saying, that sounds like a lot of tolerance on your part and not enough consideration on his. I suggest that you try being more assertive with him. I'm pretty sure you'd like to know the fate of your relationship before Christmas.

On a separate note, I've never believed in taking "breaks". I mean, what's a "break"? It's half of the term "break-up" and it's more or less a way of slowing down the inevitable. It's always just one person's idea, too. It's like pausing a movie because you don't like where the scene is going. Does it change the outcome of the movie, though? No. Obviously that's not always the case. Some relationships benefit from it. But it's more commonly just an evasion of responsibility. Sorry about comparing your reality to a movie, but I felt it was an apt analogy.

Anyway, sorry about the book. But I'm sure I made at least one decent point there.

[SobaViolence]

i feel your pain.

i fell out of love a little while back, but whenever shed call i went a crawlin'. she forgot my birthday, blew me off and other shit. i couldn't tell which hurt worse, when she crushed my heart or when i stopped loving her.(sappy (n) )

people are idiots. i'm an idiot for thinking anything would change, and she's an idiot for letting my love go to spoil.

i'm seeing this girl who went through the same kinda deal too. except she went so far as to get engaged... :(

do not compromise. it sucks, but you gotta let go. then you can heal properly.


i recomend Let It Die by Feist. (y)

be strong, ma'.

[BangkokB]

My imaginary sassy black auntie once told me, "You can't never fix no broke-ass man."

And you know, she's absolutely right. Even if she doesn't actually exist.

That's exactly what Mrs. Butterworth (http://www.tvacres.com/admascots_mrsbutterworth.htm) once told me about women once. But I think she was a jealous wench with the short syrup womans complex

[wanton wench]

But I think she was a jealous wench with the short syrup womans complex
HEY watch it!
dont put that old hag in the same category as me. she aint no wench!

[BangkokB]

HEY watch it!
dont put that old hag in the same category as me. she aint no wench!
Ok, you got me. I miss eatting breakfast and not hearing her side notes as she dripped her sweet goodness. Or maybe that's the acid talking

[cookiepuss]

I'm sawy Ms. Heiress. :(

Forget him...no seriously even though that sounds lame because obviously you aren't going to forget...this is a love TKO and as Teddy Pendergrass said: "I think I better let it go." let it go baby. be free!

I've been through what you're going through and I know from expereince that there is/will be someone better out there for you. have faith.

[wanton wench]

Ok, you got me. I miss eatting breakfast and not hearing her side notes as she dripped her sweet goodness. Or maybe that's the acid talking
she only talks to me when i drop acid but when i'm really high sometimes she stares at me! i dont like it! its creepy!
:D

[miss soul fire]

I want/wanted it to work
I love him, probably always will
but
I cant handle being ignored and being given the silent treatment for more 24 hours at a time, sometimes more
or having his health obsession take over my life as he tries to control every morsel that crosses my lips
or having so little sex that I can count the number of times ive gotten some in the past 6-7 months on two hands
or being a generally sad person because Im attempting to love someone thats not giving back even a 1/3 of the goodness im throwing out there at them
and yeah the whole having even lower self esteem when im with him cause he never tells me that im cute or enticing, its his job dammit!

its killin me smalls :/

Seriously, HEIRESS. Your relationship with this guy already sounded a marriage. If something hadn't happened yet, I would tell you to keep distance from it.

I know it's hard, but as everyone says time will heal it. I hope the colors of your new room help.:)

[roosta]

i would throw the whole thing round in his face.

confront him head on with the things that are upsetting you and see what he says, cuz either way, either its gonna end or he's gonna have to change his ways.

thats what i was gonna do, but she dumped me JUST before i could say it. saved a lot of hassle tho....

[HEIRESS]

I am the one who asked for the break
it took me a good 5-6 months to even work up the courage to get to this point
and yes, we should breakup completely but I wanted this to work so badly that maybe im not ready to do that yet, im holding onto something that's just not there
he is clinging onto to me too even though Ive been highly verbal about my unhappiness, but nothing changes
its like he just content to know im there and that he can call me his girlfriend, Im just "good ole airesse"
its not even like he technically treats me badly, he just treats me so goddamn neutrally and asexually that it is equally degrading

3 years is a long time to date someone, it aint no marriage
but still, its alot to let go of all at once

FECK

[Freebasser]

Order a pizza and dress up sexy.

[synch]

People often don't realise what they have 'till it's gone.

If you do break up with him he might suddenly wake up and realise what he lost or is risking to lose.

That might cause him to start fighting to keep you... and if he doesn't... well... then you'll know you've made the right decision.

Either that or take Aid's advice and snog the pizza delivery boy.

[DipDipDive]

The whole "you'll find someone better" shit that people are saying is hilarious to me. Not because it won't happen, but because that's always the go-to statement that's supposed to make someone feel better in the midst of a breakup. I say fuck all that. Do you, Airesse. If you're not happy, then get out of this relationship. It's not going to change. If you feel unappreciated, then you shouldn't put up with it. My best advice to you would be to really give yourself some time to heal and learn how to love and appreciate yourself the way you wish to be loved and appreciated.

[synch]

I think you are underestimating canadian pizza delivery boys DDD.

[mickill]

I think you are underestimating canadian pizza delivery boys DDD.
This is true. She may be doing exactly that.

During my brief 4 year tenure as one such Canadian pizza delivery boy, I was flashed boobies twice, greeted at the door by a female customer sans any upper garments once, frequently requested by several regulars to deliver their food and met two of my past girlfriends while on the job. Listen to synch. He is indeed wise...ish.

[synch]

You stopped delivering pizza?

Never mind then.

Not going to be very comforting in that case.

[ms.peachy]

I am the one who asked for the break
it took me a good 5-6 months to even work up the courage to get to this point
and yes, we should breakup completely but I wanted this to work so badly that maybe im not ready to do that yet, im holding onto something that's just not there
he is clinging onto to me too even though Ive been highly verbal about my unhappiness, but nothing changes
its like he just content to know im there and that he can call me his girlfriend, Im just "good ole airesse"
its not even like he technically treats me badly, he just treats me so goddamn neutrally and asexually that it is equally degrading

3 years is a long time to date someone, it aint no marriage
but still, its alot to let go of all at once

FECK

I know you're feeling really shit about all this right now, and there really isn't anything anyone can say or do to make it easier. But I promise you that one day, not even so very far into the future, you are going to look back at this time and think "JEEEzus H Christ, what the hell was I doing, wasting all of that time moaning about that sad geezer?" Trust me. Make the break. I know it's a weird time, there's all this pressure around the holidays and whatnot, but seriously, face the New Year single and free of all of this excess baggage. He's dragging you down, girlfriend, and neither of you are doing eachother any favours by hanging in there.

[HEIRESS]

aww miss P

rob delivered pizzas for almost exactly 4 years too M-dawg :/

[synch]

:eek:

I blame Aid for mentioning them first :(

[mickill]

aww miss P

rob delivered pizzas for almost exactly 4 years too M-dawg :/
Yeah, but did he get flashed with the boobies by his customers a lot? Probably not.

But yeah, let's blame Freebasser for this one.

[beastieangel01]

I know you're feeling really shit about all this right now, and there really isn't anything anyone can say or do to make it easier. But I promise you that one day, not even so very far into the future, you are going to look back at this time and think "JEEEzus H Christ, what the hell was I doing, wasting all of that time moaning about that sad geezer?"

what she said (y)

also sorry to comment so much on this Heiress. I just can relate way to well to the situation. I hope that the rough part goes fairly quickly for you.

[CJM]

I am the one who asked for the break
it took me a good 5-6 months to even work up the courage to get to this point
and yes, we should breakup completely but I wanted this to work so badly that maybe im not ready to do that yet, im holding onto something that's just not there
he is clinging onto to me too even though Ive been highly verbal about my unhappiness, but nothing changes
its like he just content to know im there and that he can call me his girlfriend, Im just "good ole airesse"
its not even like he technically treats me badly, he just treats me so goddamn neutrally and asexually that it is equally degrading

3 years is a long time to date someone, it aint no marriage
but still, its alot to let go of all at once

FECK


it seems like you already know what you want to do, you just have to follow through with it.

[cosmo105]

if i was your girl i'd do you and pet your hair in the morning afterward.

[Kid Presentable]

I want/wanted it to work
I love him, probably always will
but
I cant handle being ignored and being given the silent treatment for more 24 hours at a time, sometimes more
or having his health obsession take over my life as he tries to control every morsel that crosses my lips
or having so little sex that I can count the number of times ive gotten some in the past 6-7 months on two hands
or being a generally sad person because Im attempting to love someone thats not giving back even a 1/3 of the goodness im throwing out there at them
and yeah the whole having even lower self esteem when im with him cause he never tells me that im cute or enticing, its his job dammit!

its killin me smalls :/


That sounds like a dying relationship. Put each other out of your miseries.

[Echewta]

has anyone said "mingle" in this thread yet?

[HEIRESS]

yeah, the more I think about it the better I feel about doing this

thanks dudes

if i was your girl i'd do you and pet your hair in the morning afterward.

ahh damns girl! ahh damnssss

[synch]

has anyone said "mingle" in this thread yet?
Every time I glance that post I read "minge" instead of "mingle". I blame the flash thing that mickill posted earlier.

[Freebasser]

:eek:

I blame Aid for mentioning them first :(

Wait, you mean you didn't know he was a pizza boy?

That was the whole point of the joke :/

[Musik]

So are you going to hook up with someone before Xmas, and throw that break in his face. Hey I live in Seattle you live in B.C.(Vancouver?), so comfort is only 2 hours away. :D

Ok. I did post this remark earlier because I thought it was funny at the time.(cuz i was just messing around).

But, now I realize that this is exactly what is wrong with America. This girl has just went from takin a casual break, which is common, to pretty much ending it in 4 days. 4 freakin days! All becasue of advice on relationships from people who live in a country where the divorce rate is higher than 50%. How fucked up is that. Lets be honest who doesn't have some problems in there relationships.

[synch]

I don't know every single detail but this wasn't a casual break...

[zippo]

hey heiress,i dont usually feel apt to comment on personal situatoins like these on the board,but it clearly sounds like he doesnt respect you or the relationship enough, like hes not dedicated. id say the burdens of being lazy and not a hard worker also apply to relationships, not just to the office in the morning.

congratulations on being a strong person and realizing whats good for you (y)