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[QueenAdrock]

A friend's ex-boyfriend just IMed me and randomly started talking to me. Mind you, she's been broken up with him for over a year. Our last New Year's was spent with her drunk off her ass, crying her eyes out, saying "He said he wanted to be friends!" and then passing out. Needless to say, he did the breaking up, and she was devestated.

He IMs and randomly starts talking to me. I ask him why he broke up with my friend, and he starts listing off maturity levels as being the number one reason (previously, she thought it was because she was a bigger girl). He said she also had no self-esteem, and it was rough on him. She kept saying that he was going to leave her for a "prettier girl." Then he tells me when they had sex, she kept insisting they didn't use a condom, and she wanted him to cum inside. He figured she wanted to get pregnant so he wouldn't leave her.

Now, is there any other possible explanation as to why she would request something like that? I don't see any, but I really don't want to think my friend is a psycho. But I'm also technically not supposed to know about any of this, so how the hell can I let her know that letting some guy cum in you when you're not on any birth control is FUCKING RETARDED without telling her about this new knowledge?

[SobaViolence]

she's fucking nuts.

QA, kick her in the ovaries...do us all a favour.

[QueenAdrock]

That's what I was thinking. She's got some major problems though. I truly do think she's nuts, but her self-esteem's so low, if you try to help her she'll turn it into "I fucking suck, I should go kill myself," which no one wants. I was thinking institutionalization.

Or a swift kick to the ovaries, too.

[jabumbo]

a kick to the junk never did no one any real harm

[like2_drink]

just watch any number of porn's and be like GODDAAAAAMN anyone who isn't psycho wouldn't have unprotected sex while not on birthcontrol and theeeen let the buddy cum in them

then stare at her

[Documad]

Sometimes you start reading a long post and you think it's going one place, and then it goes to a whole other place. I didn't see the cum question coming. :)

[QueenAdrock]

I was thinking of something along those lines. Talk about an unknown friend to her, and be like "This fucking idiot lets her boyfriend cum inside her without birth control, what kind of crazy-ass bitch does something like that? She could get pregnant so easily, and she's only 22, unmarried, no college degree and is living with her parents."

Though that may sound too specific.

[QueenAdrock]

I didn't see the cum question coming. :)

No one does. :cool:

[Freebasser]

Hit her with a brick and take her to get her tubes tied.

[ToucanSpam]

wtf?


I need to get back to work...

[Documad]

It's none of my business, but since you started the thread ... Did he just blurt all that out at one time, or did you start some innocent email exchange that somehow led to that?

Instantaneous yet faceless communication is dangerous. My sister-in-law sent me a series of freaky emails after I asked her a general question about something I heard that my brother did.

[QueenAdrock]

It was really random. He IMed me like "So, remember me?" "Yeah, I guess..." I'm thinking to myself, 'And what do YOU want?' And he said how badly he felt for breaking up with her and he knew how much he meant to her and never wanted to hurt her, he just wanted a clean break. So I asked why he broke up with her, and he gave me all these reasons. It was all within 10 minutes of talking to him, too. It was a wee bit personal for just 10 minutes of chatting, in my opinion.

[Documad]

It's an odd choice to tell your ex's friend about your former sex life with the ex. But I can imagine it happening to me. I'm always getting an answer I don't expect.

Is there any way you can say, "I had the craziest conversation with this other female friend and she mentioned she was having unprotected sex and I thought it was outrageous because it's just so stupid! And then she said that she was actually hoping to get pregnant and she's not married so how stupid is that?"

A woman I work with actually did that to a really young guy and got pregnant. It's just evil. I have friends with male children who talk about how they're going to have that conversation with their boys as they get older--"wear a condom no matter what she says."

[TAL]

come on boys don't be silly, wear a condom on your willy

[ms.peachy]

It sounds to me that in a roundabout way, he actually wants you to get what he's said back to her, because he actually really does care about her and is worried that the next guy is going to oblige her request, and a kid will be brought into the world by a chick who doesn't think herself worthy of love so she wants a baby that will love her 'unconditionally' no matter how fucked up she is, and a guy who just wanted to get his nut off and will resent the hell out of her and the kid for the rest of his life.

[Loppfessor]

why do you care now if this was like a year ago?

[adam_f]

A year ago I bet Peter Jackson was still pretty hefty.

[DandyFop]

why do you care now if this was like a year ago?

Because, estupido, she will probably try to do this with the next guy she's with, so QA wants to be a bud and help her from making big mistake.

I would just do the random "omg so this chick at my work told me she doesn't have her man wear condoms so she can get pregnant" and just see what she says. Who cares if she realizes its her, just get her into a dialogue about it.

[Loppfessor]

Because, estupido, she will probably try to do this with the next guy she's with, so QA wants to be a bud and help her from making big mistake.




Hey there's no need for name calling. Anyway the lesson here to all the fellas is to take birth control matters into your own hands cus you just can't trust women

[Ace42X]

Then he tells me when they had sex, she kept insisting they didn't use a condom, and she wanted him to cum inside. He figured she wanted to get pregnant so he wouldn't leave her.

Urm, is it certain that she was not on the pill?

[abcdefz]

It was really random. He IMed me like "So, remember me?" "Yeah, I guess..." I'm thinking to myself, 'And what do YOU want?' And he said how badly he felt for breaking up with her and he knew how much he meant to her and never wanted to hurt her, he just wanted a clean break. So I asked why he broke up with her, and he gave me all these reasons. It was all within 10 minutes of talking to him, too. It was a wee bit personal for just 10 minutes of chatting, in my opinion.



...yeah; I'd hang onto that train of thought. He might be lying, for whatever reason. He's defnitely not a gentleman.

[ms.peachy]

Urm, is it certain that she was not on the pill?
If it was you, and you already knew that the girl was clingy and needy and shit and was already saying stuff like "you're going to leave me for someone better", what would you think she was up to?

[Ace42X]

If it was you, and you already knew that the girl was clingy and needy and shit and was already saying stuff like "you're going to leave me for someone better", what would you think she was up to?

Clingy and having low self-esteem doesn't make you a psycho.

[DandyFop]

yeah but it can make you have a very irrational thought process

[ms.peachy]

Clingy and having low self-esteem doesn't make you a psycho.
True, but I would argue that it does make you more prone to thinking stupid things like "If we have a baby together then he won't leave me." (Despite all evidence to the contrary.)

[abcdefz]

Clingy and having low self-esteem doesn't make you a psycho.




My last girlfriend was paranoid about everybody. Seriously. She thought I was having an affair with the pastor's wife, the (male) music minister, the 80-some year old lady who folded our bulletins each Friday... there was just no reasoning with her.

It's really, really bizarre what some people's brains will do to them. Considering that the body is the host organism for the brain, you'd think the brain would treat it better so the body didn't just put a bullet through the brain or something.

[QueenAdrock]

why do you care now if this was like a year ago?

I should be asking him this. He just IMed me two days ago, but they went out a year ago. He said he hadn't wanted to talk to her until "she was over him." I still don't think he wants to talk to her, but he asked me how she was doing.

But the reason why I care is because she's a girl that doesn't learn from her mistakes. She went back to her OTHER ex-boyfriend like 5 times. Even when he talked shit about her. And then another time after he got married. Granted, if I told her what a fuckin' idiot she was, she wouldn't listen. But then I wouldn't feel as responsible for when she gets knocked up.

Urm, is it certain that she was not on the pill?

Positive. We've talked about it, and she says she doesn't want to go on it because it's expensive and she doesn't have health insurance right now. Plus, if she had been on it in the first place, she would have just told him "Don't worry, it's okay, I'm on the pill," and she wouldn't have let him use a condom at all. They usually did use condoms, except a few times when she told him not to.

It's all just very weird. And I don't know how to bring it up to her. I mentioned I talked to her ex-boyfriend and her eyes just kinda glazed over and was like "Yeah, he won't want to talk to me." :-/

[QueenAdrock]

Anyways, I've figured out the plan. I'll mention it about another friend I have and see her reaction.

Either that or junk-mail-flood her email with "Not wearing condoms gets you pregnant, dummy!" as the title.

[Loppfessor]

Just punch her in the ovaries every day to remind her that you're on her like white on rice

[ms.peachy]

Either that or junk-mail-flood her email with "Not wearing condoms gets you pregnant, dummy!" as the title.
Yeah but if that's what she actually WANTS, then that's not a very good plan.

Personally, I would just flat out confront her and say "Ex-B says that he thinks you wanted to have unprotected sex with him because you actually wanted to get pregnant so that he would not leave you. If that's true, that's really fucked up and you need to get some help." Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind, is the way I see it. I know it's not the easy route, but seriously, chicks that play those kinds of games because of their own insecurities really piss me off, because it's not just their life that their fucking around with, it's the guy's, his family, her family, and a baby's as well, which is just shit.