everybody that said that life would get better in college was a big fat liar

[insertnamehere]

It's a million times harder to make friends than in highschool. Also I hate my roommate. I mean really hate her. Shes a fat slutty redneck who talks to her boyfriend on the phone all night and even though she whispers her voice annoys the hell out of me so i can sleep and all she says are things like "baby i love you, i miss you, i love you, what'cha thinkin?" and she watches CMT and i hate her stupid friends and they're always hanging around and she's claimed over 2/3 of the room and stapled sheets to the ceiling cause she thought it was ugly to look at and she snores and turns the heat up as high as it will go. Im gonna fail all my classes but one because i went through a phase for a couple weeks where I coudln't get out of bed and since it was near the beggining of school it fucked me over cause I dont know the easy stuff that comes before the hard stuff. And my bed sucks and my shower burns me and I don't have any friends and I'm miserable and lonely.

[Lemmy's Liver]

life sucks (y)

[insertnamehere]

yeah. i wish i had a time machine and could go back to some time that didnt su ck. cause i know i wasnt always this miserable.

[Lemmy's Liver]

you should start pulling poo poo-tricks on the fat bitch.

[insertnamehere]

im trying to move to a different room. actually ideally i'd get a singles room, which would cost a little more (actually it would be less if i can get in the two basic, as opposed to premium buildings).

then i can start my career being a sad lonely old hermit. except it'll take awhile to nail the old part.

[Beastie's Boy]

I think somebody needs a hug. You cant choose your family but you can choose your friends. Think about it. ;)

[sheesh]

Get used to your life 'cause it's all downhill after high school.

[kleptomaniac]

^^^ in that case, i'm staying in high school forever! :eek:

[Auton]

eh, college still rocks my socks.

[Funky Pepp]

Perhaps you shoul go to a german university. It's more fun here.
You can get an appartment of your own. And you don't have to
be there too often, so you will have enogh time to get pissed
every night with your friends. I really liked this time. :)

Now, I'm old, I've got to go to work every day from 9 a.m to 7 p.m
and I feel too tired to go out most of the time. And the vacations
are way toooooo short. As a student in Germany you've got nearly
3 months of vacation between the semesters...

If you get your time machine, perhaps I can borrow it someday???

[yeahwho]

OK, ok.....we lied. BUT, life will get better, WAY better after you get into the workforce.

[insertnamehere]

i cant wait till retirement



maybe in the workforce i'll be able to make some friends. or at least slight aquaintances i can pretend are friends

[monkey]

being human tends to suck, in general. but attempt to make the most of it. apply for a room switch. start going to club meetings about things that interest you and then, perhaps, you'll meet people you'll like with stuff in common with you.

[QueenAdrock]

Maybe you just haven't found the right college for you? It's really hard to adjust sometimes and it may take a semester or more to feel like you fit in, but if you can't after about a year, maybe you should try looking around for a new school. Or try joining some clubs. I joined Search and Rescue, because I wanted to help people and I knew the girls there wouldn't be these stuck-up Jersey trash girls that love to populate our school. They're down to earth and adventurous, so it works out well.

[jabumbo]

yeah, college has lots of weird and random groups that are mostly formed so people can have a reason to get together. its cool.


here, you can start your own official club if you have 15 people and a good enough explanation then you can do it. and then you can start applying for funding

[insertnamehere]

i was doing aikido for awhile and it was kinda fun but the dues were way too much, and i tried these free leadership workshop things and they hardcore sucked. also (be prepared to mock)... yeah, i played d&d for awhile. it was actually fun, but i was terrible at it and then everyone in the group stopped playing.

anyway i have the worst social skills ever and of aikido and this other club i was in i never talked to anyone. i dont even know the names of anyone in any of the clubs or in my classes. well, i know a couple people's name in my japanese class. but friday we had to do these group skits and people went up to the front to do their skit, and id be like "who the hell is that girl i dont remember her" of course, i sat in front and never actually turned around and saw the class.

[jabumbo]

i don't really socialize with people in my classes either. the only ones i really know are ones that i have either done group projects with, or ended up talking to because we always worked on a homework assignment at the same time and place

[QueenAdrock]

i don't really socialize with people in my classes either. the only ones i really know are ones that i have either done group projects with, or ended up talking to because we always worked on a homework assignment at the same time and place

I only talk to the kids who are in several of my classes, or have been in classes of mine before. It's easier just to walk up to someone, even if you haven't ever talked to them and say "What grade did you get in so-and-so's class last semester?" or "How'd you do on the Nazi Germany exam?"

I've got a core group of probably 20 history kids that I talk to. I don't befriend them, we're mutual acquaintances and we use each other for projects and tests. But I wouldn't naturally just turn to some random kid and strike up a convo. That's weird. I have to have a reason to talk to people.

[jabumbo]

yeah, i know what you mean, but you would think i would talk to more people like that by now because we've had basically the same classes for the past 4 years. and even if we didnt take it together, we all have the same core of courses that we have to take

[beastieluver85]

life sucks (y)
... and then you die"-Vince Mcmahon

[Documad]

INH: I don't know you, but it's nice to have you back. I was thinking about the DDR stuff lately and it reminded me of you and I wondered how you were doing. Anyhow.

My first year of college sucked. I did well in school but I had an amazingly difficult time making friends. I felt completely out of place. The few people I knew all dropped out in the first year except for one who lasted two years. I eventually found a little group and we stuck together despite being very different people. Some people have a blast in college -- others don't. I've made most of my long term friends at work--even at crappy jobs I found good people.

It's none of my business, but given the stuff you've been saying here and elsewhere, I'm saying it: You need some good female friends really, really bad. I don't know what your problem is and I'm too old to remember how 19 year old girls make friends. You should ask some of the younger women on this board how they make friends in the real world because there are some marvelous young women here and they could help you. One think I know is that no one likes to hang around with someone who is always a downer. No one wants to hear about your woes with men all the time. Even if you feel like crap, sometimes you have to pretend that you're having a blast, and you'll find that people want to spend more time with you. You also need to make time to do things with them, be the one who asks if they want to have lunch/coffee/see a movie, don't ignore them when guys are around, and don't cancel plans with them for a guy.


Sorry this is so random, but last week a family member was asking me why I have so many friends and she doesn't. It's hard to tell someone you care about the truth so you're getting some of what I didn't have the courage to tell her. :o

[insertnamehere]

i just dont do girl stuff. i mean, i dont know waht girls do, but i cant relate to them. i play video games and go on covert late night missions of mayhem. i dont even know what girls do together.

[QueenAdrock]

I'm a girl and that sounds pretty good. You're thinking of the girlie-girls, and they most of the time, suck. They live for shopping, shoes, gossip, men, and all that crap, which isn't fun to quite a few females.

Me and my friends shoot pool, play video games, go out to eat, and all that other crap. Sure, we still go to malls every so often, but I don't ever go actually "shopping" with them, unless it's Christmas. You just need to find the right womens.

[Documad]

I agree with QA. You sound like fun. I hate shopping and I've never been able to hang out with women when they're shopping.

I remember that in my first year of college, it seemed like most of the girls spent ages curling their hair and applying makeup (it was the 80s after all) whereas I barely rolled out of bed and got to class with a clean shirt on. It was easier to meet people when I got into my major.

FYI. You don't have to be a lesbian to have lesbian friends. I have a lot of lesbian friends because we have other things in common. It occurs to me that lots of lesbians play videogames. Don't write the lesbians off.

[Rancid_Beasties]

I wish there were more video game playing, pool shooting, covert late night missions of mayheming girls and less girlie girls. Especially at my university. I mean I only know about 5 girls that aren't girlie girls from there.

3 months of vacation between the semesters...
I calculated we get 5 months total off. 2 swat-vac weeks, 2 mid semester break weeks, 3 middle of the year weeks and 3 1/2 months between the end of the year and the start of the next.

[Funky Pepp]

Girl's stuff really sucks. It's not only that shopping, hairstyling, or the films
and TV-Shows. But a lot of girls are so bitchy. I like hanging around with
boys better, too. :) What kinds of Video games do you like then?

[boys_beastie]

just ask her if she's ever heard of the film misery.

[jabumbo]

FYI. You don't have to be a lesbian to have lesbian friends. I have a lot of lesbian friends because we have other things in common. It occurs to me that lots of lesbians play videogames. Don't write the lesbians off.

this is very true

[QweenOfBoggle]

are you in the freshmen dorms? I got put in there because I wasn't 21 in September when I moved up here to go to school and ALL freshmen are scrambling for friends and networking. It was nice because everyone was in the same boat. Maybe you could live there after christmas?

[insertnamehere]

i cant be in freshmen dorms cuase im not a freshman, im a transfer student. it seems like all the girl here are sooooo girly. i think its just becasue of the schools programs. its an engineering sciency mathy type school, and well over half the population is guys. all the girls are in the school of apparel design or whatever its called. lame.

i dont actually have video games of my own so i play whatever happens to be the current game amongst the people i know. this year we've gone though halo2, street fighter, super smash bros, guitar hero, the sonic games, and back to smash brothers. i like video games but im no good at them.

ps- when playing sonic 2 with sonic and tails, if you go to options, select to play as tails only, get all 7 chaos emeralds and 50 rings afterwards, get pissed off that no super tails exists and reset the game, select to play as sonic only, after you collect your first 50 coins in act 1, super sonic is activated.

[WhoMoi?]

Insertnamehere, I transferred my sophomore year of college and it was sooooo hard for me to make new friends there. It seemed like everyone had already formed their groups freshman year and I was sort of on my own. I was stuck with a couple of roommates that I really didn't have anything in common with, and in an all-girls dorm with some very strange girls in it. I was so lonely, it sucked! I ended up moving to a different dorm the next semester, got a little more involved, and met some new people that weren't really good friends, but I could at least go eat with them and hang out with them here and there. The following year, I somehow ended up in a dorm with some really great people on my floor, and I made a bunch of new friends. So my last two years of college were really fun.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is, hang in there. I definitely sympathize with you, I can remember how lonely I was...it was awful. But if you move out of your room, that is a good first step. Sharing a room with someone you really don't like or get along with can make everything suck 100 times worse (I've been there too).

[Beastie's Boy]

im assuming your not a popular chap in collage. Am i wrong?

[Rancid_Beasties]

Nah when it comes to collages her picture is always the first one to be glued to the paper. In fact, shes quite often the centrepiece (y)

[QueenAdrock]

She's the centerpiece of my collages too. (y)

[Rancid_Beasties]

Shes the centrepiece of our hearts :o

[Beastie's Boy]

awwwwwww. :o how sweet.