I was so close to not having to attend a funeral this year

[mickill]

And then my cousin passed away yesterday.

I just really hate funerals. Not that most people look forward to them or anything. But it's the worst way to spend a Sunday morning.

[cosmo105]

i'm sorry to hear that, mike. i hate funerals too. i'd really rather not have to go to them...but they're just one of those ceremonies that people need to feel like something has really changed in their lives. i especially hate when they make kids go to those things. ugh.

[TurdBerglar]

the whole concept is very disturbing to me



i've never been to one. everyone i've ever know that has died has been cremated

[cosmo105]

my dad was cremated but we still had a service for him. i wanted to stand at the podium and scream but i couldn't speak.

[Nuzzolese]

Is this going to be difficult for you?

[avignon]

Have you ever been to a veiwing (or showing, sitting, wake, whatever they call it where you live/die), and looked around at all the people who are so intentionally NOT looking at the dead person? It really creeps me out. I just stare and stare until people start trying to get me to look away. They'll actaully try to stand directly in front of you and block your view of the casket with their body. It's weird. I mean, you're not going to see this person ever again.

[TurdBerglar]

is a person really a person when it's dead? isn't is a just a mass of organic meterial?

[Nuzzolese]

I guess no more than a dog is a dog when it's a dead dog,

[mickill]

Not sure, Turd.

I don't know about it being "difficult". It's more just something I dislike a lot. I'm pretty numb, though.

Everytime someone I know dies, there's a viewing. I don't really have an opinion on it, really. I don't mind it as much as some people seem to, though.

Thanks Jess.

[abcdefz]

Sorry, mickill. But: let the dead bury the dead, is what I say.

I don't go to funerals. I'll help with arrangements or printing programs or whatever, but I won't go.

It's kind of like waiting until Christmas to show generosity; it's like, if you don't know my feelings by now, it's a little late.

(For the bereaved, too.)

I think that if funerals ceremonies were pretty radically altered from the way we Americans tend to do them, then there's a chance it could be a really good thing. But not the way they are now; no.

[synch]

Sorry to hear that man, my condoleances.

[mickill]

Thanks guys.

I think that if funerals ceremonies were pretty radically altered from the way we Americans tend to do them, then there's a chance it could be a really good thing. But not the way they are now; no.

Well, they aren't nearly as tasteless as some weddings can be. But I'm sure that's more to do with the difficulties of marketing towards people for such somber occasions and not for lack of trying.

[beastiegirrl101]

You go for the living, not the dead.

I'm sorry Mike...*hugs*

[abcdefz]

You go for the living, not the dead.







That's what I mean: if the ones left behind already don't know you care about them without being forced to endure an hour or so of morbidity including hanging out with a dressed-up, made-up, CORPSE IN THE ROOM, then there's probably no convincing them, anyway.

To me, a real friend would be the one who said, "Hey man, it's a grotesque pagentry. Please don't attend."




Well, they aren't nearly as tasteless as some weddings can be. But I'm sure that's more to do with the difficulties of marketing towards people for such somber occasions and not for lack of trying.



Maybe. I think the average funeral is awfully tasteless, insincere, grotesque, and a fiction in general.


--and have you priced caskets and urns lately?


"Is there a Ralph's around here?" :D

[cosmo105]

^hahahaha. :D the night before we spread my dad's ashes, my oldest brother insist we watch that. and we had never seen it before. we were trying so hard not to snort while we were spreading them - they actually came in something that looked like a can of coffee. certainly lightened the mood.

[abcdefz]

I am truly sorry. Thoughts and prayers.



Yeah, mickill. I know I come off harsh about the whole funeral thing and don't seem to have sympathy for your family. I am indeed sorry for your loss. I just thought this was more a thread about having to go to a funeral than the departing of a loved one.

My condolences.

[cookiepuss]

^hahahaha. :D the night before we spread my dad's ashes, my oldest brother insist we watch that. and we had never seen it before. we were trying so hard not to snort while we were spreading them - they actually came in something that looked like a can of coffee. certainly lightened the mood.

We still have my dad's ashes in a wooden box. The anniversary of his birthday was on December 3rd and my mom thought that my dad would have gotten a kick out of us all going to dinner to celebrate his b-day and taking his ashes with us. I said yeah, that'd be awesome, especially if we inisit on ordering his ashes a meal too...and then send it back the first time; "He said he wanted the steak rare Goddamn it, do it again!" hahahahah! we are fucking sick.

I'm sorry for your loss Mike. May you have the strength and ability to cope. *hugs*

[cosmo105]

gahahah that is messed up.

my crazy catholic mexican family decided to have a birthday party for my grandma this year.

two years after she died, of course. yeah, no thanks.

[fucktopgirl]

yea ,sorry about your lost! :o

[synch]

Hardly the thread to be bitching about my own spelling in, but I seem to have written condolences in dutch/french.

The last funeral I went to was my grandmothers. Italian funerals are weird.

[mickill]

Yeah, I was wondering about your odd choice of spelling.

No, it is more a thread about how I hate funerals. And how I have to go to one again. I just didn't know how to work around the whole somebody actually dying part.

[synch]

I tend to mix up my languages occasionally, especially if the words are almost identical.

Anyways, my grandma's funeral was a very bizarre experience, they needed someone to carry the coffin and I stepped up because my cousins seemed to dissapear at the time.

Very bizarre.

[mickill]

I bet you can bench well over 300, man.

My grandmother passed away earlier this year. I didn't go to the funeral, though. But that funeral was on the other side of the world.

[ToucanSpam]

Sorry to hear your cousin passed away. :(

[Nuzzolese]

It sucks, I'm sorry. It's just a ceremony that has to be done. It will be over then and you move on with life.

[cosmo105]

oh yeah, real sensitive, Ann Landers

[Nuzzolese]

oh yeah, real sensitive, Ann Landers

Don't joke! I don't know what to say about stuff like this. I feel like I ought to say something.

[mickill]

I was feeling so much better after all the kind words from everyone and then Nuzzolese posted what she posted and now I just want to go throw-up somewhere by myself.

[Nuzzolese]

I'm going to go cut my hands off, excuse me.

[abcdefz]

I was feeling so much better after all the kind words from everyone and then Nuzzolese posted what she posted and now I just want to go throw-up somewhere by myself.




...grab a 14 year-old girl from San Fernando so at least you have some company.

[synch]

I bet you can bench well over 300, man.

My grandmother passed away earlier this year. I didn't go to the funeral, though. But that funeral was on the other side of the world.
My arms are fairly useless, leg presses are a different story though. That's good though as far as coffin transportation is concerned, it's mostly in the legs.

Where was your grandmothers funeral?

[mickill]

In the Philippines.

[marsdaddy]

When my grandfather died, we had a big party afterwards where everyone ate, listened to music, and chatted. He would have been the life of that party and I like remembering him that way.

I'm thankful I wasn't the guest of honor at a funeral this year -- it was closer than I want to think.

[SobaViolence]

And then my cousin passed away yesterday.

I just really hate funerals. Not that most people look forward to them or anything. But it's the worst way to spend a Sunday morning.

poor you. it sounds like you have such a hard existence. you know, why do people have to die, and then expect you to go attend their funerals?

fuck, i feel sorry for you.

[mickill]

I don't like funerals because I don't like seeing my friends and family members in that state, not because I feel unmotivated to make the effort, genius.

[fucktopgirl]

I don't like funerals because I don't like seeing my friends and family members in that state, not because I feel unmotivated to make the effort, genius.


like i said funeral should be more a happy reunion where you are telling funny stuff about the person,,that would be more,,,,less,,,depressing !

[SobaViolence]

I don't like funerals because I don't like seeing my friends and family members in that state, not because I feel unmotivated to make the effort, genius.

didn't see that in your post...sorry i can't read minds.

it's the worst way to spend a Sunday morning.

saw that though.

[mickill]

didn't see that in your post...sorry i can't read minds.
No, I'm sorry. I'll be sure to specify whether or not people I care for dying is a good or bad thing in the future.

saw that though.
Okay. Viewing dead loved ones and watching people cry is the best way to spend a Sunday morning. Better?

[SobaViolence]

No, I'm sorry. I'll be sure to specify whether or not people I care for dying is a good or bad thing in the future.


Okay. Viewing dead loved ones and watching people cry is the best way to spend a Sunday morning. Better?

not really.

[CrankItUp!]

Yeah - going to a funeral aint no damn party. Sorry to hear about your family loss and your arrangement situation to attend on a Sunday morning Mickill.