I'm sick of...

[miss_bhaven]

having to hide the way im feeling to keep others happy or to keep others from feeling sympathetic toward me. I'm sick of saying 'yer I'm fine', when really I'm not, just to keep others from smothering me and hating those who are getting me down. I'm sick of people thinking im angry with them because I'm not talking, when really I'm just upset and need time to myself. Sometimes I wish time could stop, just so I can sort my head out.

Does anyone else hide their feelings to keep those around them happy?

This thread is probably pointless, but I just wana see if anyone else understands where I'm coming from and if they're going through the same shit.

[adam_f]

When I broke my nose the third time, I wasn't able to breathe out of one nostril, and I didn't tell anyone because I didn't want my mom to take me to a doctor. Figured she would've. Still can't breathe out of it.

[insertnamehere]

im in an especially screwed up situation where i have to do exactly what you're talking about. theres somebody that i cant tell how im feeling or it gets him upset, and i cant just not talk to when im down cause he gets offended if i wont tell him whats wrong when something is obviously wrong. so no matter how much i hurt i have to pretend like everything is ok. well, to the best of my abilities. i must say, i should never try to make it as an actress.

[miss_bhaven]

im in an especially screwed up situation where i have to do exactly what you're talking about. theres somebody that i cant tell how im feeling or it gets him upset, and i cant just not talk to when im down cause he gets offended if i wont tell him whats wrong when something is obviously wrong. so no matter how much i hurt i have to pretend like everything is ok. well, to the best of my abilities. i must say, i should never try to make it as an actress.

Sux eh? :( I can't pretend much for shit either, which doesn't help me, when I have to hide my feelings. I couldn't be an actress either haha :p I'd be an exceptionally shitass one at that! Let me know if u find any ways out of it dude, or anything that may help us (y)

[alexandra]

i always try to work shit out on my own first, so i hide my feeling in the meanwhile.

[miss_bhaven]

i always try to work shit out on my own first, so i hide my feeling in the meanwhile.

Ah yeah, I find it hard to work shit out by myself...I'm always needing someone else's opinions (my threads on here are a hint that I do) before I act upon anything...I don't know why :confused:

[alexandra]

there's nothing wrong with asking for opinions/advice/any kind of help tho', it's often a wise choice.

[miss_bhaven]

there's nothing with wrong asking for opinions/advice/any kind of help tho', it's often a wise choice.

Yeah I guess ;) I try to get as much advice and as many opinions as possible before deciding on anything...

[miss_bhaven]

I understand it can be rough, but at at least you have people that care about you. Sometimes you want to be left aloneand that cool, people should respect that. However, sometimes it really helps to let it out, and talk with people, like what you did right here. The only difference is the people that are around you just want to help you too. Anyway, good luck working it out.

Yeah, I do let it out...but that's only when I feel I really have to otherwise I'm just gona burst or for that matter, do something relatively stupid (n) I know there are people that care about me and want to help, but alot of them don't understand what I'm feeling...well, at least I don't believe they do. When I say hiding my feelings, I mean having to pretend everything's ok when it's not...which makes matters worse, because most of the time I just wana let it out and cry...and I can't.

Thanks dude :)

[ToucanSpam]

Don't hold back.


And roll with the punches.

[Anne Lauren]

Hey, and not to sound like some cheesy 80's sitcom where there's a lesson at the end of every show...but, you're never alone in how you feel. EVERYONE has "problems" and insecurities and weird thoughts and everything else you can think of, in which they think that no one else knows how they feel. You just have to learn to find a way to "correct" it. And, as you get older, so I'm told, you start caring less and less about what people think.

I guess, I'm in-a-way sorta the opposite...I have a bad temper and I'm always telling people how I feel. And, I disreguard a lot of other people's feelings. And I know this sounds bad, but a lot of times I find myself "useing" people. I'll step on a lot of people to get what I want. I don't realize it at the time, but later on people bring it to my attention that I'm acting that way. People that have known me for a long time and know me really well. It is a problem...seriously. I've done a lot of thinking and "sole searching" since my divorce. I sometimes come across as an unsympathetic and shallow person, but I'm really not. It's kinda like a defense mechanism, I guess. It's just parts of my personality and I'm haveing to really become more conscious of my actions and work on it.

[DapperDiverge]

having to hide the way im feeling to keep others happy or to keep others from feeling sympathetic toward me. I'm sick of saying 'yer I'm fine', when really I'm not, just to keep others from smothering me and hating those who are getting me down. I'm sick of people thinking im angry with them because I'm not talking, when really I'm just upset and need time to myself. Sometimes I wish time could stop, just so I can sort my head out.

Does anyone else hide their feelings to keep those around them happy?

This thread is probably pointless, but I just wana see if anyone else understands where I'm coming from and if they're going through the same shit.

how old are you??

I ask this because every young person is trying to please others just so they can be accepted into society... especially when you're a teen or young adult... ya know, trying to please classmates to fit in clicks or please older adults just for a job or anything else really.

I'm young and talk to a lot of older people and they all say the same thing... as soon as you reach 40 you just stop giving a fuck... people, bills, life!!

By then it's like, well I've seen it all... nothing else is going to please me...

I think not giving a shit is biological... I can't wait til I can be a complete asshole and nobody will care... cuz by then, just about every middle aged person is an asshole (y)

[miss_bhaven]

how old are you??

I'm 18...Not wanting sympathy or anything, but I have been through alot though - considering relationships with people.