Hiebz
01-19-2006, 06:35 AM
okay, so looking for your opions/responses to this situation:
background - my wife's friend sent us a sort of invitation, she is having what they call here a PACS celebration. It's legally like a marriage because they sign the papers and stuff, but it is usually more low-key: not the big production, only those close are usually invited, quickly done. Not the religous ceremony. (All the same, it's a male - female union for those wondering). My wife and I will be signing witnesses at the town hall (where all the legal procedures are done for marriages and the like before the religous parts or after celebrations). On the letter sent is a date, time, and place for rendez-vous.
situation - normal, yes. However, they have a menu of what is going to be served with the prices and how much it would cost to ride go-carts too, but there is a sunshine below the menu saying all the drinks are not included in the price but offered by the "bride" and "groom".
nice, huh? so, we both are witnesses, and because it is not a regular wedding, they are having it on a Friday. Because it is a Friday and my company works the saturday after, I get vacation time for the Saturday and this will count as two days off. Same for my wife. It's a town half an hour - 45 minutes away, and seeings how at the moment I only have a company car to drive around, we'll be taking the train and catching rides to the events.
ettiquette in me says two things - one, this is normally a once in a lifetime thing, they should have had the ettiquette to offer the meal free (at least).
two, it is normally a once in a lifetime thing, we should be good friends and make extra the sacrifices without complaint, or at least voice our opinion to them afterwards so as not to spoil the mood of the day.
My wife wants to send an e-mail before hand saying she is surprised to be paying all of that since they are nearly playing the PACS up like a wedding and will have a limitted number of people there anyway, also since we are the witnesses too. Do you, BBMB'rs, think it that would be an okay approach or, no complaint, or a note back to them afterwards (i.e. Thanks for the invite and day out, BUT ...)
GO!
background - my wife's friend sent us a sort of invitation, she is having what they call here a PACS celebration. It's legally like a marriage because they sign the papers and stuff, but it is usually more low-key: not the big production, only those close are usually invited, quickly done. Not the religous ceremony. (All the same, it's a male - female union for those wondering). My wife and I will be signing witnesses at the town hall (where all the legal procedures are done for marriages and the like before the religous parts or after celebrations). On the letter sent is a date, time, and place for rendez-vous.
situation - normal, yes. However, they have a menu of what is going to be served with the prices and how much it would cost to ride go-carts too, but there is a sunshine below the menu saying all the drinks are not included in the price but offered by the "bride" and "groom".
nice, huh? so, we both are witnesses, and because it is not a regular wedding, they are having it on a Friday. Because it is a Friday and my company works the saturday after, I get vacation time for the Saturday and this will count as two days off. Same for my wife. It's a town half an hour - 45 minutes away, and seeings how at the moment I only have a company car to drive around, we'll be taking the train and catching rides to the events.
ettiquette in me says two things - one, this is normally a once in a lifetime thing, they should have had the ettiquette to offer the meal free (at least).
two, it is normally a once in a lifetime thing, we should be good friends and make extra the sacrifices without complaint, or at least voice our opinion to them afterwards so as not to spoil the mood of the day.
My wife wants to send an e-mail before hand saying she is surprised to be paying all of that since they are nearly playing the PACS up like a wedding and will have a limitted number of people there anyway, also since we are the witnesses too. Do you, BBMB'rs, think it that would be an okay approach or, no complaint, or a note back to them afterwards (i.e. Thanks for the invite and day out, BUT ...)
GO!