Relashionship question

[Rawr]

not for me, for a friend.
i rarely have relashionships, so im looking towards you guys.
just think back when you first ever got a girlfriend/boyfriend, if you guys were shy its even better.
shes wondering how to start a conversation cause apparently "We're both scared of eachother, since we both like eachother alot.

What should I do? Like...how do I communicate with him, without actually screwing things up?

Yes, I know dumb questions. But....I'm so scared of him. I'm such a dork. All we ever say to eachother is Good Morning and See Ya. And everytime I do talk to him, his face goes stark red and I get tongue tied. For a fact I know I'm his first girlfriend and first girl to ever actually like him(ALOT)."



anyyy one?

[cosmo105]

relationship.

r-e-l-a-t-i-o-n-s-h-i-p.

relationship.


you're only 15. okay. so. if you don't talk to each other, how do you know you like each other so much? is it just based on looks? just sit down and remember he's just another person and he's already your boyfriend, so you know he digs you. and talk to him like you would any other person. you're not going to marry this guy. it's not the end-all, be-all thing your whole life has been leading up to. just have a conversation with him. find out more about who he is, his interests, his personality.

tell your "friend" to relax. :rolleyes:

[Rawr]

thanks, but it seriously IS a friend. lol.

[cosmo105]

oh i see lol.

[ASsman]

Haha, talk about unicorns and rainbows. Or whatever it is 15 year olds talk about these days... World Politics?

Talk about school, parents, what you think about sex, kissing, what you think about each other. Whatever, gossip, school politics, how much homework sucks...

If you want it to last (conversations) find something you both like, something in common. Two airhead teenagers, plenty in common.. (y)

I don't have the problem because I can talk up a storm, about nothing... Put in a joke here and there and blam conversationist.

[Auton]

if you cant even talk to eachother why would you want to date anyway

[Chicka B]

She probably has stuff to say, but she's just too embarrassed to say it! Tell her to just chill, because the whole point of being in a relationship is to get to know and like eachother. If she aint comfortable and able to talk around guys, then she aint mature enough to be in a relationship.

[jabumbo]

your looking for one of us guys for a relationship? is that what your asking?

[B4BY 4NN]

Well, if you're in a relationship, conversation shouldn't be a problem.

But if you're on a DATE, start off with "Yeah... So.. How about them Yankees?" Or, just let the other person ramble on about bands'n shit.

[TurdBerglar]

this is the best place to ask for relationship advice!

[Bob]

well allow me to tell you all i know on the subject

[alexandra]

i don't understand how you could get together without talking. but i'm sure you're not scared of each other, more like scared of yourselves, and that you might say something embarrassing or whatever. you gotta chill. the world won't explode or anything.

[Anne Lauren]

Confidence...that is what is totally lacking here. Talk about whatever you feel like talking about at the time. I guarentee if your friend spends more time concentrateing on that and not about trying to analyze the person and worrying about if the person thinks what they are saying is stupid or not...then things will definately flow much easier. It's funny because people will doubt themselves and worry that what they are thinking or wanting to say is weird and people will judge them like some permanent stigma or something...when in all actuality, the other person was thinking the same thing they were. Just say it. What is the absolute worst that can happen...think about it. They're gonna throw tomatos and boo you off the stage or something?!

[guerillaGardner]

Your friend should actually be quite up front, tell the guy she is a bit shy and and bring a conversation starter. There's no shame in admitting she doesn't what to say.

For example there is a book called the Book Of Questions that's full of moral dilemma questions like "If your mother, father and partner all got bit by a poisonous snake and you only had one dose of vaccine who would you give it to?" Perhaps not that specific question but that kind of thing.

There's about a hundred questions as I recall and usually just one question ends up taking you off in all kinds of directions and you forget about the book until conversation runs dry.

If she doesn't want to buy the book she can think of her own questions beforehand and make it into a game, or she can buy the book, memorise some questions and ask them on a date.

[Anne Lauren]

Plus, too, in situations like that...it might be a good idea to go on a group date with other people or go to the movies or something like that. Then, it's not just about trying to focus all your attention on converseing with that particular person the entire time. You run out of things to say or if you're having a hard time thinking of something to talk about to begin with...these kinds of dates provide other outside stimuli to help devert y'all's attentions away from one another and gives you something to talk about, also.

[ASsman]

Or they are both complete inbreds and the conversation will crash and burn, since neither have anything "worthwhile" to say.

Half full, half empty... whatever.

[Anne Lauren]

Or they are both complete inbreds and the conversation will crash and burn, since neither have anything "worthwhile" to say.

Half full, half empty... whatever.

Hehehehe... :p

[little j]

tell them to have sex and get it over with already. then they can talk about how much fun it was and then do it again. just make sure your friend has safe sex.
yay sex

[Freebasser]

next time your 'friend' meets him, tell her to turn up naked, that'll break the ice, thats what I do at parties.

[kaiser soze]

Haha, talk about unicorns and rainbows.

what's wrong with talking about unicorns and rainbows?

[jackrock]

next time your 'friend' meets him, tell her to turn up naked, that'll break the ice, thats what I do at parties.
and to shatter the ice, actually turn up naked, then be all like just kidding!

[kll]

not for me, for a friend.
i rarely have relashionships, so im looking towards you guys.
just think back when you first ever got a girlfriend/boyfriend, if you guys were shy its even better.
shes wondering how to start a conversation cause apparently "We're both scared of eachother, since we both like eachother alot.

What should I do? Like...how do I communicate with him, without actually screwing things up?

Yes, I know dumb questions. But....I'm so scared of him. I'm such a dork. All we ever say to eachother is Good Morning and See Ya. And everytime I do talk to him, his face goes stark red and I get tongue tied. For a fact I know I'm his first girlfriend and first girl to ever actually like him(ALOT)."



anyyy one?

is your 'friend' tpk?

[Qdrop]

For me, my first and only girlfriend...we talked all the time. When I first met her, before being together, we spent hours talking, when it should have only been an hour at most. No problem talking.

i don't anyone was asking about your relationship.

she was asking how to fix hers.


was it really necessary for you to use this little girls question thread as soapbox to tell everyone how "wonderful" YOUR relationship is?