Sexual harassment in the workplace.

[ericlee]

Has anybody ever encountered it before? I did yesterday but it wasn't from me or directed towards me. It was this lady who works under me and is in her 50's while she was talking to a customer who is a soldier.

I walked into the room when she was helping this customer and I noticed she had a hold of his hand looking at his watch which was a rather big watch.

Next thing I knew, I heard her say, "Oh my, such a big watch. You got a big dick too?"

He was very disturbed, just by looking at the expression on his face.

I just took her to the side and told her that I've got to report it to my supervisor and it should be of best interest for her to start looking for a new job.

I know she flirts with the soldiers alot but I wasn't sure of the extent of it and now I know. I've also had reports of her sleeping on the job but I've never caught her.

This is a military base and sexual harassment is a very sensitive issue and the last thing I need is C.I.D breathing down our necks.

[ms.peachy]

Yeah, that's well over the line. She's a definite liability.

[Qdrop]

what did the soldier say?

or did he just whip it out....?

[kll]

My first "real" job out of college had me interviewing with a guy who, during the interview, told me he was "in charge of sexual harrassment". I realized after I was hired that this did not mean that if you had problems, then you went to him... he was in charge of dishing it out.

[ericlee]

what did the soldier say?

or did he just whip it out....?

I'm telling ya, if you see her, your manhood would act like a turtle and put it's head back in the shell. She's like 400 lbs and wears perfume by the buckets. That's besides the point though. Even if she was beautiful, I can't tolerate that manner in my shop.

He was being very professional about it and didn't say anything. He just pulled his hand back and noticed I was standing there and gave me this look as in, "yeah, she's busted" and then he left.

[hpdrifter]

Wow, I have never encountered this in the workplace. I went on a business trip with a male coworker once and I was pretty sure he was throwing out some signals, but he wasn't overt about it.

[Sarky Devotchka]

at my first retail job there was this lady who was in a wheelchair who thought she could pretty much say or so anything because she was in a wheelchair. She used to make suggestive comments to the stock boy (who later became my first boyfriend) and make him climb up ladders in front of her. I can't remember what the last straw was, but she got fired.

he did have a nice bum though. and he technically sexually harassed me, but I liked it.

[Knuckles]

I worked as a dishwasher at this Chinese restaurant called the Moon Palace when I was 19. It was connected to this sleazy little lounge called the Lotus Room where all of serious drunks in town came to waste their days away. This place was run by a 60 year old, chain smoking, ex-stripper named Pat. She used to curl up on the bar like some nasty, old cat who should have been put to sleep years ago and smoke on these cigarettes that were about three feet long. She always called me “sweetie” or “sugar” or something like that but it never really bothered me too much. One day she stepped over the line though… big time. After I had put all her clean glasses away she said, “Hey Sugar, have you seen my mouse?” I just looked at her funny and shrugged my shoulders. She then proceeded to pull on the elastic waistband of her tight, black granny pants, look down at her hoo-ha and said, “Oh it looks like pussy ate it all up.”

[ericlee]

^^^sounds more like her sticky rat trap paper caught it.

[Rock]

........ Or maybe I was right in the first place and u guys are really unlucky.
Unlucky or just so irresistable?

[Qdrop]

is there a reason why Faithbanks stole turd's avatar?

was a bet lost or something?

[Rock]

faithbanks IS turd. DUH!

edit: looky at what i found in another thread

No, I just copied Turdy's avatar to piss him off for awhile :D

[Astra]

On a military base it would seem very dangerous to behave as the woman with the watch did.
As a woman sexual harassment is basicly going to work.. There will be someone almost always who will be inappropriate. If someone touches me I offer to break their hand/wrist. Ususally, they laugh, b/c I'm small in size, but, I'm not joking. o_o I've only had one guy go to the point where I put his hands in position and told him "next time, there won't be a next time, don't fucking touch me."
Most cases are minor but some go beyond the point of decency..

[beastieangel01]

Yeah. I've gotten someone fired over it. Not that I wanted them to be fired but I went to the managers with the problem and the regional manager came in to talk to me and said it was best that they let him go so it didn't happen to anyone else.

Good times. :/

[Bob]

i don't get why people do it. do they expect it to work? it's like, if i'm being sleazy and trying my best to pick up a girl, but she's very obviously not interested and i can tell that she's physically revolted by my presence, i'm pretty much just going to give it up, there's really no incentive here for me to keep trying. what's the mentality of people who do this? can they not tell that the other person wants nothing to do with them, or do they just not care?

[hpdrifter]

Well, if they could get dates the traditional route, they wouldn't need to use sexual harassment so to me these are 2 different things.

And they just don't care.

[ericlee]

i don't get why people do it. do they expect it to work? it's like, if i'm being sleazy and trying my best to pick up a girl, but she's very obviously not interested and i can tell that she's physically revolted by my presence, i'm pretty much just going to give it up, there's really no incentive here for me to keep trying. what's the mentality of people who do this? can they not tell that the other person wants nothing to do with them, or do they just not care?

This lady thinks she's hot shit. I've heard stories about how she acts. I even heard her talking on the phone with her girlfriend saying, "she's so lazy and that's why she's so fat." I'm just wondering if she ever took time to look at herself.

She uses work as her cattin' ground and it's very noticeable by the amount of perfume she uses.

Needless to say, her cattin' days here are done with and I don't think it will be easy for her to find a job due to her cause of getting fired from here.

[Bob]

well yeah, i recognize that they're losers, but i wouldn't expect that sexual harrassment would ever lead to any dates, in fact i can't imagine that it would yield any positive results at all...it just makes me wonder why it's such a long-lasting and widespread practice, considering all it does is get you in trouble and make you a scumbag

[enree erzweglle]

Well, if they could get dates the traditional route, they wouldn't need to use sexual harassmentIt's not always completely about sex and attraction, although I think that fuels a lot of it.

Some of it is power wielding or a sort of marking of territory.

[marsdaddy]

It usually works in porn.

Harassment is about power.

[TurdBerglar]

the hot vendor girl at work was showing me her peircings and tats one day. she had to like tug her pants down to show me her tats(she had one of those tats on the small of her back and something else, i couldn't really tell, just below he beltline in the front) and pulled her shirt up to show me her belly ring. and as she was showing me that tat on her back she was like pooching he ass out. so it's not something you expect to see someone doing at a grocery store from a customer's point of view on a busy saturday afternoon. so a customer complained and lawfully the company is suppose to do something but we basically told her to fuck off and later on i was basically congratulated.

[adam_f]

Remember that movie where Demi Moore rapes Michael Douglas? I haven't seen it.

[hpdrifter]

It's not always completely about sex and attraction, although I think that fuels a lot of it.

Some of it is power wielding or a sort of marking of territory.

That's what I meant, I was not articulating well.

I don't think people use sexual harassment to get dates, its 2 different things. They use sexual harassment to feel powerful.

[enree erzweglle]

That's what I meant, I was not articulating well.

I don't think people use sexual harassment to get dates, its 2 different things. They use sexual harassment to feel powerful.
Oops, now that I re-read what you posted, I see that that's what you meant. Sorry about that, hp. :o

[marsdaddy]

Oops, now that I re-read what you posted, I see that that's what you meant. Sorry about that, hp. :oYou can admit you were exerting your posting power. It's okay.

[yeahwho]

That's what I meant, I was not articulating well.

I don't think people use sexual harassment to get dates, its 2 different things. They use sexual harassment to feel powerful.

I have dated co-workers before, on a very mutual agreement. I don't anymore because I just am sick of talking about work when I'm not at work.

I also have busted a dude who was making some real demeaning comments about a co-workers body and told him straight up, apologize to her now or go through the legal channels set up for harrassment.

I have never understood how some people find sport in harassment. At work we all have the avenues to prevent it, we should use them.

[enree erzweglle]

You can admit you were exerting your posting power. It's okay.
You mean because of The Council? I'm not a seeker of power, but I could spend some time in that tree. :p

About dating (or sometimes just even befriending or confiding in) co-workers. Man, that's tough. If he's reasonable, then it seems like there'd be no harm in that. But I've known guys who started out being VERY reasonable and in several cases, they became obsessed and it escalated to a point where it was sick and ultimately became dangerous. Certainly, it interfered with work, but by then, that was the least of my worries. Given these things, I don't think I'd date someone from work. And I can completely understand why couples are often split into different divisions.