People who don't have the sense to keep their personal shit personal in public

[ms.peachy]

This morning getting the bus, there was this chick on the phone to her boyfriend, and it's kind of a new relationship, and they're having some problems. It seems she got an email from someone named Steve that seemed to suggest that the relationship between her and Steve was headed towards something more than just a platonic friendship. Well this chick, see, she didn't iknow why Steve was sending her this and forwarded it to her friend Kim, asking Kim what she thought Steve meant by saying some of the stuff he did. Now, the new boyfriend read the mail from Steve, because the chick had left her email open on the computer yesterday and he wanted to know, just wha the hell is up with this Steve guy and why is she carrying on with this Steve on one hand and then on the other telling him that she wants things to get more serious, and how is he supposed to trust her? And the chick is like, if she was trying to hide something, wouldn't she have deleted the email, or at least not left her mail open on the computer where he could find it? But he thinks maybe she wanted him to find it, maybe that's her game? So she tells him, look for yourself you can see I forwarded it to Kin asking her what the hell she thought Steve is playing at and maybe Steve does have feelings for her or something and now he iknows she is getting closer with new boyfriend and he is trying to sabotage it she doesn't know because she hasn't talked to him since she got this message that she would have deleted if she thought that it was going to cause all this trouble when new boyfriend really shouldn't have been reading her mail in the first place. But anyway if he doesn't believe her is should call Kim and ask her about Steve.

And so on, and so forth. And how do I know all this? Because she was having this conversation at full volume for a half an hour on the bus, complete with numerous teary "Listen to me! You're not listening to me. Listen....no, listen....listen to me...please listen....okay just stop... listen..." pleas.

Seriously, what is with people like this, that they think a bus full of strangers is an appropriate place to have this conversation? On a phone? With everyone staring at you like you're a lunatic?

[yeahwho]

That same chick was in Borders bookstore last nite yacking at (in a bookstore mind you) 90+ decibals how to make spring rolls straight from a shelf cookbook. Fucking bitch is pissing me off and I don't see the point of why God keeps putting her in my path....maybe she's staying over in the UK for awhile.....she has no tact.

[na§tee]

ha!
oh yes. i would be lovin' it, all up in their business like that, making a fool of themselves, social car-crashes really entertain me.
[while the same time strongly pissing me off]
it could have waited, couldn't it? but no, they are just way too important to wait until they have a quiet spot.
it's a bit like public snogging.
me, i think it's fine to maybe have a little kiss when you are, say, on a park bench or you are just greeting each other. not when you are at the traffic lights and the green man has gone on and you're too busy chewing each other's faces off to realise the army load of people behind you who really want to get to the other side to eat an over-priced pret sandwich and make there boyfriend-less day better but NOOOOOOOO!
gah.

[yeahwho]

I just had an awakening, God put her in my path to record her stupid inane conversations about life on my cell phone so I would play them back over the store intercom for her to fucking understand.

[discopants]

Beat this one for the slime of humanity:
I was on the bus last week and this scally dumbshit retard (scally= on the dole, knock off bling, thicker than pigshit) was havin an arguement with his girlfriend (seperated) who was claiming she'd kill herself if he didn't go back to her. The fucking Manc was givin it some becasue he didn't want little filth-bag junior there at time.
Sometimes life makes you so sad. This is what we won WWII for.

[jackrock]

And so on, and so forth. And how do I know all this? Because she was having this conversation at full volume for a half an hour on the bus, complete with numerous teary "Listen to me! You're not listening to me. Listen....no, listen....listen to me...please listen....okay just stop... listen..." pleas.

steve or whatever has some bad listening problems.


I think some people completely shut out others and what's going on, and just focus on their situation without even thinking about their privacy and others.

[discopants]

^alternatively. some people are just cunts.

[ms.peachy]

I just wonder if there aren't just like a whole shitload of morons out there who have no clue that it's pretty damn crass to go about airing your dirty laundry in a public forum. Look at all these pathetic 'talk shows', with people coming on and carrying on about every detail of their imbecilic lives on national television. I don't care how wrapped up I am in my personal problems, I know better than to hash out my love life on a friggin bus.

[Planetary]

yeah, i always wonder, whilst being throughly entertained, why these people go on national television to resolve there 'problems'. probably 'cause it's free.

I just can't resist watching Jeremy Kyle rip into some stupid dumbass who is ruining theirs and their family's lives.

[Ace42X]

Personally, I'm all for airing of problems in public. If you are that ashamed, it is generally something you should be trying to resolve.

[tracky]

So she tells him, look for yourself you can see I forwarded it to Kin asking her what the hell she thought Steve is playing at and maybe Steve does have feelings for her or something and now he iknows she is getting closer with new boyfriend and he is trying to sabotage it she doesn't know because she hasn't talked to him since she got this message that she would have deleted if she thought that it was going to cause all this trouble when new boyfriend really shouldn't have been reading her mail in the first place.


you lost me with that sentence ;) :p

[jabumbo]

i think this boyfriend of hers is a jerk, and steve isn't worth the trouble.

if you see her tomorrow, tell her to just hook up with kim and move to an island

[abcdefz]

This morning getting the bus, there was this chick on the phone to her boyfriend, and it's kind of a new relationship, and they're having some problems. It seems she got an email from someone named Steve that seemed to suggest that the relationship between her and Steve was headed towards something more than just a platonic friendship. Well this chick, see, she didn't iknow why Steve was sending her this and forwarded it to her friend Kim, asking Kim what she thought Steve meant by saying some of the stuff he did. Now, the new boyfriend read the mail from Steve, because the chick had left her email open on the computer yesterday and he wanted to know, just wha the hell is up with this Steve guy and why is she carrying on with this Steve on one hand and then on the other telling him that she wants things to get more serious, and how is he supposed to trust her? And the chick is like, if she was trying to hide something, wouldn't she have deleted the email, or at least not left her mail open on the computer where he could find it? But he thinks maybe she wanted him to find it, maybe that's her game? So she tells him, look for yourself you can see I forwarded it to Kin asking her what the hell she thought Steve is playing at and maybe Steve does have feelings for her or something and now he iknows she is getting closer with new boyfriend and he is trying to sabotage it she doesn't know because she hasn't talked to him since she got this message that she would have deleted if she thought that it was going to cause all this trouble when new boyfriend really shouldn't have been reading her mail in the first place. But anyway if he doesn't believe her is should call Kim and ask her about Steve.

And so on, and so forth. And how do I know all this? Because she was having this conversation at full volume for a half an hour on the bus, complete with numerous teary "Listen to me! You're not listening to me. Listen....no, listen....listen to me...please listen....okay just stop... listen..." pleas.

Seriously, what is with people like this, that they think a bus full of strangers is an appropriate place to have this conversation? On a phone? With everyone staring at you like you're a lunatic?



...these people are cloned for San José area busses.

I think people still think that having a cell phone makes you a big shot, and holding the public hostage with your loud conversations means you have power or something.

The cool kids don't have to talk so loud.

I have no idea why radios are banned on busses but not overloud conversations. Noise pollution is noise pollution.

[ms.peachy]

It just occurred to me me that since this conversation had already started when I got to the bus stop, and was still carrying on when I got off the bus, for all I know the dopey broad may still be blathering away now.

[jackrock]

how long ago were you on the bus?

[ms.peachy]

six hours ago.

[jackrock]

yeah they're still at it.

[Echewta]

I've been riding the train for years. I've heard everything. Lawyers yelling it up about cases which I'm sure should be considered confidential but hey, they aren't talking about me and how I cheated or can't read a zoning law. Then there was this time where a really horrible looking lady was chatting up on how she was going to throw on her bikini when she got home, sit in the spa and toss back some gin. Then theirs the people who call their doctors office and ask questions or call their friends and talk about their results.
And of course the pretty girl who argue with their "i could give a shit about you" boyfriends who are clueless.

[enree erzweglle]

I overheard this guy on a cell while I was in Texas. He said: "So far, the coroner is still ruling it an accident." The way he said it made my skin crawl.

I read an article a couple of weeks ago about how more and more colleges are reading the facebook accounts of perspective students and using the information they're finding there to help them make admissions decisions.

I keep so, so much of myself private in terms of public conversations, cell phones, cordless phones, what I say here and on the internet generally.

[abcdefz]

facebook accounts




...what's that?

[enree erzweglle]

...what's that?
http://www.facebook.com/

I think it's like myspace, but it's intended for high school and college kids.

[Nuzzolese]

Why do we have to isolate ourselves from one another? We get in close proximity in closed-in areas and the interpersonal receptors shut down, we read, we listen to our ipods, pretend to be checking text messages. And it's polite to keep to yourself and pretend the other people aren't there. I think if someone is exposing her life to the public then she's wide open for you to walk in and make comments or offer suggestions. I usually like to turn to another stranger and strike up a conversation about the loud person on the phone as if we're watching a drama together. "So, you think this Steve guy is really serious or what?"

[bigblu89]

I hate hate HATE cellphones.

My wife and I share 500 minutes on our phones, and each month, I usually count for about 8-12 of those minutes.

I went 28 years without having to have oral communication in my pocket at all times, and I turned out just fine.

Emergency purposes only, people.

[bigblu89]

Why do we have to isolate ourselves from one another? We get in close proximity in closed-in areas and the interpersonal receptors shut down, we read, we listen to our ipods, pretend to be checking text messages. And it's polite to keep to yourself and pretend the other people aren't there. I think if someone is exposing her life to the public then she's wide open for you to walk in and make comments or offer suggestions. I usually like to turn to another stranger and strike up a conversation about the loud person on the phone as if we're watching a drama together. "So, you think this Steve guy is really serious or what?"

Making a broad generalzations here but...

You're probably the same type of person though that would give a guy that's hitting on you a hard time if you didn't find them all that attractive, but have no problem yapping it up with some stranger that's just trying to read their paper, drink their coffee, and get to work before the busdriver decides to take a turn too fast and roll the bus.


Most people in public keep to themselves because we all tend to gravitate towards people similar to ourselves, and a 5 minute walk or 10 minute busride isn't enough time to find out about another person.

[Knuckles]

I hate hate HATE cellphones.

My wife and I share 500 minutes on our phones, and each month, I usually count for about 8-12 of those minutes.

I went 28 years without having to have oral communication in my pocket at all times, and I turned out just fine.

Emergency purposes only, people.
I agree.

I use my nextel for work and that's pretty much it. No cell phone on the weekends.

[Nuzzolese]

Making a broad generalzations here but...

You're probably the same type of person though that would give a guy that's hitting on you a hard time if you didn't find them all that attractive, but have no problem yapping it up with some stranger that's just trying to read their paper, drink their coffee, and get to work before the busdriver decides to take a turn too fast and roll the bus.


Most people in public keep to themselves because we all tend to gravitate towards people similar to ourselves, and a 5 minute walk or 10 minute busride isn't enough time to find out about another person.

I don't understand what you're saying. We're trying to hurry up and not live if we can help it because we might die?

[bigblu89]

I don't understand what you're saying. We're trying to hurry up and not live if we can help it because we might die?

No, what I'm saying is between work, family, and other assorted obligations, most people only have that 10 minute busride to use as time for themselves, to be left alone. The don't want to hear loud phone conversations, or other people commenting on loud phone conversations.

The bus rolling thing was just there for effect.

[abcdefz]

...I don't care if people talk -- that's pretty nice, actually -- but I do care once it starts invading people's space.

Think of the bus as just a roomier elevator, and we'll all get along fine.

[Nuzzolese]

No, what I'm saying is between work, family, and other assorted obligations, most people only have that 10 minute busride to use as time for themselves, to be left alone. The don't want to hear loud phone conversations, or other people commenting on loud phone conversations.

The bus rolling thing was just there for effect.

But if you're already being subjected to the loud phone conversation ANYWAY...

Why is it important to ignore the world around you and close yourself off from the rest of the world? I do it, most people do it, but it always feels awkward to be so close to people and not acknowledge them. Not to make conversation, just to live in the moment instead of wallowing in the pathetic quiet helpless confession that you wish you were somewhere else.

[bigblu89]

But if you're already being subjected to the loud phone conversation ANYWAY...

So, two rude's make a right?

[cosmo105]

the thing that's the worst is when someone's trying to talk to you AND have a conversation on the celly. i'll be ringing someone up and trying to tell him/her the total as people wait in line behind him/her and he/she is trying to tell the pool boy just how much chlorine is needed this week or something as everyone in line turns red and i see smoke coming out of ears. THAT'S just rude. i don't mind if someone walks around shopping on the phone. but when it's time to actually interact, put the razr away.

[abcdefz]

One thing that blows me away about the cell phone use these days is, like...

Okay: you call a buddy to make plans to get together, then you get together, and each person is talking on a cell phone to someone else.

I mean, what is that?

[ms.peachy]

just to live in the moment instead of wallowing in the pathetic quiet helpless confession that you wish you were somewhere else.

Personally, the only time I really get to really listen to music anymore without also doing something else (housework, work work) is that time in the morning and/or evening on public transport. So I look forward to that.

[Nuzzolese]

So, two rude's make a right?

Two rudes make you face the reality of a situation you can't wish your way out of.

[Nuzzolese]

Personally, the only time I really get to really listen to music anymore without also doing something else (housework, work work) is that time in the morning and/or evening on public transport. So I look forward to that.

And the pesky outside world interrupts your schedule. Damn. Oh well, that's life with other people.

[cosmo105]

nuzz has such a way with words. it gives me literary boners.

[Nuzzolese]

One thing that blows me away about the cell phone use these days is, like...

Okay: you call a buddy to make plans to get together, then you get together, and each person is talking on a cell phone to someone else.

I mean, what is that?

Ha! you sound like Jerry Seinfeld. I like seeing couples walking together, each on cell phones. Makes me think they're talking to each other.

[Planetary]

nuzz has such a way with words. it gives me literary boners.

lol

[Nuzzolese]

nuzz has such a way with words. it gives me literary boners.

Aww you're just saying that cause I said you're pretty!

[abcdefz]

Ha! you sound like Jerry Seinfeld. I like seeing couples walking together, each on cell phones. Makes me think they're talking to each other.



I saw that yesterday, sort of:

A woman's phone rang and she answered it and from her side, I could tell it was a "Hey, I see you!" call and, sure enough, some guy came into the picture and hung up his phone and they hugged and said, "What are you doing here?" sort of thing. It was sweet.

[fucktopgirl]

Why do we have to isolate ourselves from one another? We get in close proximity in closed-in areas and the interpersonal receptors shut down, we read, we listen to our ipods, pretend to be checking text messages. And it's polite to keep to yourself and pretend the other people aren't there. I think if someone is exposing her life to the public then she's wide open for you to walk in and make comments or offer suggestions. I usually like to turn to another stranger and strike up a conversation about the loud person on the phone as if we're watching a drama together. "So, you think this Steve guy is really serious or what?"


haha,yes!Thoses people who expose their life in public is almost better then watching thoses crapy show on tv.
People are offended by this kind of comportement yet talking about them on a board.SO it seem that people,in the bottom of their a..really enjoy thoses spectacular live performance.
Ant the gossip/phatic conversation cirlce keep going on!

[cosmo105]

Aww you're just saying that cause I said you're pretty!
no i'm not. you're an eloquent poster.

[bigblu89]

Two rudes make you face the reality of a situation you can't wish your way out of.

So inconveniencing others so you have entertainment is a perfectly OK scenario for you?

If you were in the middle of the really good part of your favorite book, and some lughead came up to you, yapping about something you had no interest in, you'd strike up a conversation lasting as long as that person decides?

When telemarketers call you in the middle of dinner, do you let them go through there entire rant before you tell them you aren't interested. EVERY SINGLE TIME THEY CALL?

Every so often, people want to just be left alone.

[Nuzzolese]

So inconveniencing others so you have entertainment is a perfectly OK scenario for you?

If you were in the middle of the really good part of your favorite book, and some lughead came up to you, yapping about something you had no interest in, you'd strike up a conversation lasting as long as that person decides?

When telemarketers call you in the middle of dinner, do you let them go through there entire rant before you tell them you aren't interested. EVERY SINGLE TIME THEY CALL?

Every so often, people want to just be left alone.

Not by ME, silly! I'M a delight at every turn!

[Sarky Devotchka]

when I was at a mall with my mom in arizona we were at a store with a tiny shoe section in the middle by the registers where I was looking for boots. nobody else was in the shoe section but me and this chick who was sitting in a chair talking about how she just got dumped. "I don't know why, he just told me he loved me last week!" and then she'd be like, "okay, bye", then she'd call another person! and tell the exact same story! she called like 4 different people! the girl that worked there was kind of just looking at her confused.

anyway, I didn't find any boots. I blame her.

I try to talk quietly on my cell phone when I'm on the bus or public places. The buses even run an automated thing that says something about keeping cell phone conversations to a minimum so as not to disturb other customers.

[ms.peachy]

And the pesky outside world interrupts your schedule. Damn. Oh well, that's life with other people.
Now, I don't think that that's fair. If I was driving to work in my own car, rather than taking public trans, would be wrong of me to keep my windows rolled up and listen to music, instead of engaging other drivers in conversation at red lights? Why am I less entitled to my own thoughts because I'm on a train or bus, rather than in a seperate vehicle?

[Sarky Devotchka]

the other day this crazy lady in slippers came up to me while I was reading and said, "are you waiting for the bus?" and I said, "um, yes", and she said, "oh, me too" and I was like, "cool" and she says, "how old are you?" and I said, "uhh, I gotta read this book". because, seriously, where was that conversation going to go? she just said, "okay! sorry!" in a very friendly shout.

maybe sometimes I should let the crazies talk to me. but I'm shy. :(

[Nuzzolese]

Now, I don't think that that's fair. If I was driving to work in my own car, rather than taking public trans, would be wrong of me to keep my windows rolled up and listen to music, instead of engaging other drivers in conversation at red lights? Why am I less entitled to my own thoughts because I'm on a train or bus, rather than in a seperate vehicle?

No it's not fair, it's just the way it is, right? You get impeded on by other people because you're in public and you have given up certain freedoms by placing yourself in such a situation. It's hard to live with a bunch of other people and also remain unagitated, I just think it's ironic that we avoid potential connections with other people around us and then get online to talk to people. And I'm not saying I am perfect and talk to strangers. I try to be left alone at all times, I am always wanting people to leave me alone and I avoid interaction with them. I'm speculating on my own behavior as well as everyone else's.

[abcdefz]

....I think there's a big difference between choosing to interact with strangers -- presumably, giving them a choice as well, like taking social cues to leave them alone if need be -- and imposing yourself on them.

[Nuzzolese]

....I think there's a big difference between choosing to interact with strangers -- presumably, giving them a choice as well, like taking social cues to leave them alone if need be -- and imposing yourself on them.

I agree. I don't think what I'm saying here is appropriate to this thread because I think you're thinking I'm defending the loud people. Forget it. This is too tiresome. I'm sort of trying to change the subject and talk about it like, philosophicll,,.,fuckit

[abcdefz]

No, I get it, I just --

For instance, there are two people on my morning bus ride who have made it pretty clear that they want to chat with me. And I will, for a minute, and then I go to another seat and read the paper. I'm not very interested in the stuff these guys talk about.

I guess my analogy would be that if I weren't interested in the things said on this board, I'd pick up my paper and go read elsewhere, too.

[Nuzzolese]

The point of interest here, for me, is what defines an imposition and why people feel so cut off from each other. Like, all these people in the bus are experiencing the same situation, are listening to the same girl on the phone being loud and no one can say anything to her or to one another to acknowlegde that something is happening because that would make the situation even worse? I would think it only heightens the discomfort of it. I'm a small town girl I guess. I get worried that I am undervaluing relationships with people around me because I want to pretend other people aren't there. But they ARE there, so it seems like denial to deny them. Of course, bigblu stating the obvious and being dramatic says you can't do this everytime but when someone is imposing on you you can admit to what is happening I guess, or tell them to be quiet. Why avoid confrontation? I know why I do...cause I'm scared. I don't like that I'm scared though. I would like to be a part of the situation instead of the victim of it.

[marsdaddy]

I've been known to move near people talking loud on their cell phones in public places -- elevators, buses, while waiting in line at Starbucks -- and start talking to people. Sometimes it's direct -- "you realize everyone in here can hear what you talking about". Other times it's more subtle -- "I think you're next..."

I also have been known to say to people who contribute inappropriately on conference calls, "You know you're not a mute, right?"

[abcdefz]

...something else I'm seeing and hearing more and more is the person who's got their phone cranked up so loud that you can hear what the other person is saying, too. A couple of days ago, the voice was clearer than ever and I turned and saw that the woman was even holding the phone away from her ear. So -- it's too loud even for her, so why not turn it down!?

Maybe she didn't know how.

[Rock]

There is an empty cubicle next to me. So this dude sits there during his break and gets on his celly. He starts talking to some girl about how he wants to keep the fetus that is in her womb. So forth and so on, and he is loud about it. I'm thinking...dude, something like that should be handled in discreetly. But then the kicker was when he said, "Yeah, i can see by the scoreboard you aren't that busy today. I better get going." So basically he knocked up some girl in my department. It made me feel weird knowing about what was doin' inside her.

[cosmo105]

^whoa. that's gotta be an odd feeling.


i love when i call my mom's cell and she's at the grocery store or something and she picks up and basically screams into the phone. (i think it's a requirement that moms think you have to talk extra loud into cellular phones or something.) i always have to hold the phone away and whisper that she can just call me when she gets home. a couple times i've been with her when she gets a call and i start walking away and pretend i don't know her when she's yelling about how much she'd like to see my grandparents this weekend.

[Nuzzolese]

Course, sometimes I wonder though, how is it any different than if there were two people talking there? You'd be able to overhear them in that case too probably.

[cosmo105]

the thing is, if it was two people talking that loudly, it wouldn't slide as easily as a cell phone convo would. because usually on a cell the offender doesn't realize how loud and rude he/she is being, and is completely oblivious. if you're holding your conversation out there in the ether, it's difficult not to realize that there are other people around.

[mickill]

But you'd only hear half the conversation, Nuzzer. Unless it was cosmo and her mom.

I don't even feel comfortable enough to have family members or friends in the room when I'm having a phone conversation. I like my privacy.

[bigblu89]

No it's not fair, it's just the way it is, right? You get impeded on by other people because you're in public and you have given up certain freedoms by placing yourself in such a situation. It's hard to live with a bunch of other people and also remain unagitated, I just think it's ironic that we avoid potential connections with other people around us and then get online to talk to people. And I'm not saying I am perfect and talk to strangers. I try to be left alone at all times, I am always wanting people to leave me alone and I avoid interaction with them. I'm speculating on my own behavior as well as everyone else's.

So in other words, you're just disagreeing for the sake of disagreeing?

[abcdefz]

I think these overloud cell phone conversations are a kind of way for insecure people to feel important. Like: my life/conversation is so important, I don't HAVE to care about anybody else's personal space.

Hopefully, soon, people will realize that it doesn't seem prestigious: it just seems trashy.

[cosmo105]

i DEFINITELY agree with a-z on that point. i've noticed that the people that do have ridiculously loud conversations that you have to notice are generally abrasive and short with me anyway, and you can't help but imagine them wanting desperately to feel important and worthy of waiting on for THEIR conversations to end.

or maybe it just feels like that to me because they're rude shitheads.

[marsdaddy]

If two people are conversing loudly in public, you can look them BOTH in the eye and chances are one will blink. On a cell phone, one party is clearly oblivious and the other is problably unaware.

[Sarky Devotchka]

I don't like it when people know eachother on the bus and talk loudly. it's annoying, like they're showing off. WE'RE ON THE BUS AND WE'RE GOING SOMEWHERE VERY IMPORTANT!

once I heard this guy talking to this girl about how he'd been talking to some chick on the internet for about 2 months and how she's married, but he might like her, yadda yadda. I was like, "dude, you're not supposed to talk about the internet in public!"

OH, BUT THE WORST IS THOSE WALKIE TALKIE PHONES! *clrnk* *muffled speaking* "yo dude, what's up?!" *clrnk* *mumble* "what?!"

[cosmo105]

oh dear lord yes. those are one of my biggest peeves. (i like that word. the sinular, peeve, is even better)

*boop* yeah honey i'm gonna need you to pick up jenny after all, i got held up at the store because i couldn't find the dressing you wanted crrckk
*boop* what? the chipotle ranch? i told you it should be right there, in the deli case, next to the thousand. ksshhhh
*boop* i know where it should be but it's not there, okay? they're out of it. that's not my fucking fault. crrcck
*boop* please don't start this right now. i just don't see why you're incapable of one simple fucking thing. just some goddamn salad dressing. i'm eating salad now because my doctor said i had to watch my cholesterol so i can live twenty more miserable years with you.ksssshhhk
*boop* i got you plain ranch instead.crrckkk
*boop* that's fine.kshhsk

[Bob]

I don't like it when people know eachother on the bus and talk loudly. it's annoying, like they're showing off. WE'RE ON THE BUS AND WE'RE GOING SOMEWHERE VERY IMPORTANT!

once I heard this guy talking to this girl about how he'd been talking to some chick on the internet for about 2 months and how she's married, but he might like her, yadda yadda. I was like, "dude, you're not supposed to talk about the internet in public!"

OH, BUT THE WORST IS THOSE WALKIE TALKIE PHONES! *clrnk* *muffled speaking* "yo dude, what's up?!" *clrnk* *mumble* "what?!"

where you at dawg!

[abcdefz]

...one day a guy carried the cell onto the bus and he was in full-on counseling mode, saying this kind of encouraging stuff to whoever was on the other end. LOUDLY. I mean, LOUD. I turned around and kind of gave him my best, "Hey, amigo, a little lower, dude" gesture, and -- it was so funny -- he pulled this amazing glowering face on me. I smiled back pretty kindly and said thanks and turned back around. He said about one more sentence very loud, still, but it was him saying something like "Okay -- I'll talk to you another time" and you could tell he was reuctant to hang up, 'cause he was going to persist in being loud, but apparently his client had to go. It was pretty satisfying.

Plus, I LOVE the idea of counselors being emotional cripples in any way. That's always a plus.

[abcdefz]

oh dear lord yes. those are one of my biggest peeves. (i like that word. the sinular, peeve, is even better)

*boop* yeah honey i'm gonna need you to pick up jenny after all, i got held up at the store because i couldn't find the dressing you wanted crrckk
*boop* what? the chipotle ranch? i told you it should be right there, in the deli case, next to the thousand. ksshhhh
*boop* i know where it should be but it's not there, okay? they're out of it. that's not my fucking fault. crrcck
*boop* please don't start this right now. i just don't see why you're incapable of one simple fucking thing. just some goddamn salad dressing. i'm eating salad now because my doctor said i had to watch my cholesterol so i can live twenty more miserable years with you.ksssshhhk
*boop* i got you plain ranch instead.crrckkk
*boop* that's fine.kshhsk




Nicely done. (y)

[Nuzzolese]

So in other words, you're just disagreeing for the sake of disagreeing?

Give it up

[enree erzweglle]

I've assumed that people speak up into cell phones because they're oblivious in most cases. In other cases, I've thought that reception is bad and equipment is cheap, and they overcompensate by shouting.

More cell phone users should show courtesy to checkout people by at least putting the phone down for a second. They're checking out, they're on the phone, they're miming instructions to the cashier, trying to balance the phone on their shoulder while they get everything together. They treat cashiers like machines.

[abcdefz]

Yeah; that's rude, too.

When I've been in public and gotten a call, I'm speaking at what I think is a polite level. When/if the person says they can't hear me, I say "I'm in a store right now -- hang on while I go outside" or "let me call you back." Pretty simple solution.

[bigblu89]

Give it up

You're the one that was counterpointing me.

And then admitting you have the same view that I did.

It's ok. There's a lot of people out there that love to argue for the sake of arguing.

[Nuzzolese]

You're the one that was counterpointing me.

And then admitting you have the same view that I did.

It's ok. There's a lot of people out there that love to argue for the sake of arguing.

I'm not trying to argue though.

[DapperDiverge]

I blame those tv talk shows!! everybody airing thier dirty laundry in public!! :mad:

maybe we should do like in japan and have cellular booths in stores and restaurants so they won't bother people with their shitty lives!!

I also think more places should put those filters... especially at the movies!!

I think people have forgotten how life was before cell phones... everybody made it through the day fine without being interrupted... if there were emergencies, people solved them... :o

[Nuzzolese]

I don't even feel comfortable enough to have family members or friends in the room when I'm having a phone conversation. I like my privacy.

Me too

[ms.peachy]

My original point in posting this wasn't so much an "I hate mobiles" thing. I don't mind if people make mundane calls. I mean, you're on the bus, it's kind of 'dead time'. I usually phone mr.p once I'm on the bus home after the tube and we have the same conversation: have you left the office yet, what time will you be home, here's what we're having for dinner, did you rmember to call so and so. Not an emergency, but just a 3 minute call to touch base. Those kinds of calls, I don't mind. It's the stuff that's really meant to be private that irritates me.

And language, too. Tonight for example there was another girl, I don't know who she was talking to, and it was not a long call, but she was like "I just got off the phone with Joe. Man he is so fucking pissed off... I know, he's a complete arsehole. What a fucking joke... Well I didn't tell him that so I don't know why he thinks that, but I don't fucking care, he can go fuck himself... yeah I'm almost home... yeah, I'll see ya later." Casual as anything, right there on the stairs in between the upper and lower decks, so the whole damn bus now knows what a fucking arsehole Joe is, he can go fuck himself :rolleyes: I'm sure that was really nice for old lady sitting next to me to hear, or the woman with the kid in the pushchair, eh?

[Planetary]

i think it's funny when people talk with their bluetooth headsets on and it looks like they're talking to themselves...

[Nuzzolese]

Oh, the language. It doesn't bother me personally but the principle of it does. One time when I was at Barnes and Noble a man was there shopping with his young son, talking loudly and profanely on his phone about some "asshole cop" and this town having "dickheads in charge" and he was in the children's section of the store. I was sort of afraid to say anything to him...big man, pissed off...

[enree erzweglle]

^^^ yes about language and about content and tone in general. Little kids are listening to this stuff. Even if they don't know what the words are, they can parse the tone, the attitude, the disrespect. I know to filter it in the right way. Kids...hmmm.

It's interesting to sit on a campus and watch the clusters of people--usually females--who are obviously one cohesive group, but they're each talking on a phone. They maintain their clusteriness--they move as one unit--but each is doing an obviously individual thing. Like flocks of birds when they fly and shift and move as one, without a cue or a leader.

When I was a kid, we had one phone and it had a spirally cord that kept us tethered us to our houses.

[mickill]

I don't use foul language around kids and old people, just people I don't care about and trashy folks.

[ms.peachy]

I don't use foul language around kids and old people, just people I don't care about and trashy folks.
You mean us, don't you.

[mickill]

Well, yeah. But you're in a special category.

[Sarky Devotchka]

once I was working with a customer who made a phone call just as I was finishing up his order and he started talking really loud about some guy and said, "he's an asshole!" and my boss (who was working with another customer) turned red and said, "please take that call outside!" ha ha!

the guy just turned around and went to another area. he was a jerk.

[hpdrifter]

I will add people who play their music really loudly in their cars and drive with all of their windows down. Sometimes I get embarassed for them.

This chick today was bumping one wish. I felt embarased just walking by her car.

[paul jones]

Next time I have a shit I could open the window and yell 'I'M HAVING A SHIT!!!!!!!!'.

but I won't

[B4BY 4NN]

There was a gansta lady who came into my work for take out the other day...

"He's a dawg. He can have that stank (skank?) ass pussy for'll I care. Stupid ho.

OH, are the bogo clams in here too? Butter? Yeey, thanks."

[na§tee]

when I was at a mall with my mom in arizona we were at a store with a tiny shoe section in the middle by the registers where I was looking for boots.
this is gonna sound weird, but i was quietly reading through this entire thread in my wee flat in glasgow listening to my flatmate and boyfriend play donkey konga to runaway train [never going back! etc etc] and i read this and it seemed so quintessentially american and cute and i made a pact in my head to go travelling after my film training course [if i get it] next summer.
mall! mom! arizona! store! registers!
shopping centre! mum! [glasgow!] shop! till! down here, i'd say.
how lovely.
you just made me want a whole spoonful of americana.
i am getting tired of being here and i want to go explore, so thanks for that.
:cool:

[BangkokB]

Damn. thats a long thread. I got hiccups and I'm almost out of wine
Re: People who don't have the sense to keep their per

[BangkokB]

I'm chiming in here at the end of the 4th Quarter and here's what I've seen.

A Chinese clidkhead kept praddling away while I was on a visa bus ride to get my passport stamped. He felt that he was sooo important that he decided to talk as loud as he could for more than half the trip. This ws a $50 BUS RIDE. Get a clue busguy....If you're riding a bus;no matter how much you want it to be, your conversations aren't really that important--- so spare everyone else Please