ADULTERY

[Lex Diamonds]

So I fucked my friend's girlfriend on Friday.

It's not that simple though. Me and her have had a thing since we were kiddies and we were neighbours and our parents used to try and set us up... and we never liked each other til like a year ago, and we started getting with each other every time we went out and shit. Then she started dating this annoying rich-boy try-hard dickhead from my school who I've had beef with since we were like 11 years old.

But anyway he obviously wasn't satisfying her in the bedroom and we carried on getting together and he found out and got all upset and pissed off at me and broke up with her. So a few months passed and we were both getting with each other every couple of weeks but still not properly together and still having fun with other people. And then on New Year's Eve, one of my (ex) best friends suddenly decided he liked her. So he started being all charming and she was being all drunk and he fucked her, and it went on from there and now they're going out and he's all good at guitar and in a band and doing well at college and all playing sports and shit. And I'm just some scruffily dressed stoner who's never serious and fucks around (in more ways than one) so she would never want to start going out with me. Which is cool because I like being single and I'm not even that into her anymore. Anyway, me and this boy went from being good buddies, like brothers, to being sort of awkward friends.

But yeah she obviously can't get enough of my huge 12 incher because she came back to mine after a party on Friday with two of our best friends who are together and we boned all night. It's all good though cuz I texted her the morning after saying no one will ever know. Maybe we can carry it on and have a lil affair thingy. That would be pretty cool.

Anyone here ever done that? Or ever had an affair?


ps
This girl has the best ass I've ever seen. (y)

[TurdBerglar]

do you have any pics of said ass?

[Planetary]

haha. well done (y)

[ms.peachy]

Nope.

Regardless of whatever may happen in the future between myself and my husband, I would hope that I will always have enough integrity to respect him as a man and as a person, and not do that to him.

[Lex Diamonds]

do you have any pics of said ass?
Yeah I've got a sick picture actually but I aint sending it to you.

And it aint my fault if she don't respect him. He didn't even get her anything for Valentine's day. She was obviously lacking the loving.

[Guy Incognito]

Sounds like the effect this girl's havin on you has aleady tarnished your friendship with your buddy and it will only get worse - all 3 of you will end up worse off - it'll get messy by the sounds of it. If you carry it on - you'll get caught.It all depends on whether you'll risk friendship and reputation for a nice bum.
God - I'm soundin like me dad again!
Seriously - I been on the recievin end of this shit - its fuckin awful

[ms.peachy]

And it aint my fault if she don't respect him. He didn't even get her anything for Valentine's day. She was obviously lacking the loving.
Oh I'd say she lacks love, alright.

Listen mate, you do what you like. But, you know, what goes around comes around. Maybe not tomorrow, maybe not next week, but eventually. You choose who and what you want to bring into your life.

[Guy Incognito]

But, you know, what goes around comes around. Maybe not tomorrow, maybe not next week, but eventually. You choose who and what you want to bring into your life.

(y)

Thats damn good advice, plus if this girls capable of cheatin on your mate for you then even if she starts summat with you then whats to say..

god i feel old

[Lex Diamonds]

Oh I'd say she lacks love, alright.

Listen mate, you do what you like. But, you know, what goes around comes around. Maybe not tomorrow, maybe not next week, but eventually. You choose who and what you want to bring into your life.
Yeah I get what you're saying and I understand how it could fuck a lot of shit up for a few different people, but when you look at it simply I like her, she obviously likes me, and this guy has been a bit of a prick to both of us. Besides, I honestly believe he will never find out.

I guess the main problem for me is the morality of it but I don't feel bad seeing as he knew I liked her and the night he first fucked her he told me he'd never touch her. And anyway, it's not like they're married or anything. They've been casually going out for about 2 months. Maybe I'm being stupid or something but it's like in a way me and her go deeper than that, and it's nice you know. You don't have to be "together" with someone to have a connection.

[na§tee]

nope. i have never had an affair.
what the fuck is the point?
obviously if i ever thought about having an affair i would realise something was missing from a relationship, and end it before i started anything.
doing it with one person who in a relationship is pretty fucked up too, and i hope you enjoy the buzz before it disappears altogether and you realise you're just shagging some random who used to date someone who.. used to be a friend.
not :cool:.

[Lex Diamonds]

nope. i have never had an affair.
what the fuck is the point?
obviously if i ever thought about having an affair i would realise something was missing from a relationship, and end it before i started anything.
doing it with one person who in a relationship is pretty fucked up too, and i hope you enjoy the buzz before it disappears altogether and you realise you're just shagging some random who used to date someone who.. used to be a friend.
not :cool:.
What you mean? There aint a buzz. I told ya, we've been doing it for more than a year, through a whole other relationship with someone else. Whatever we do it for, if you want to call it a buzz, obviously hasn't gone away. And I also explained she aint some random girl... I've known her longer than I've known this friend of mine.

PS
Surely there's something missing from every relationship? Romance is rarely perfect.

[enree erzweglle]

I wouldn't let his actions dictate my own. If she's involved with someone, leave her alone until it's over between them.

Otherwise, chances are that if you get involved with her, she'll cheat on you and you'll become the guy that she complains about to the next guy.

BTW, I often hear that argument from people about the other woman or the other guy. "She treats him like shit." "He doesn't appreciate her." As if that's somehow license for external people to traipse all over the relationship, crummy as it might be.

[ToucanSpam]

Padster,


I usually don't garner much respect for someone who cheats, or someone who is involved with cheating, but this is a much more detailed scenario than the norm, it seems. Now, I personally don't think it's cool, but you have a right to do what you want when you want. My advice is just be careful about this, the last thing anyone wants is you or someone else to get hurt (physically or mentally) because of this.

What goes around will come around, but hopefully when you get yours it won't hurt too bad...

[na§tee]

you say she isn't some random and have known her longer than this friend etc;
so you are alluding to some sort of meaningful history with her? i'm sure she'd be really happy that you are using such delightful language as "boned" and "fucked". wahoo!

it doesnae matter.
on another note, who is totally stoked that it's national roast a chicken weekend (http://www.britishqualitychicken.co.uk/weekend.aspx) this weekend? i'm inviting people over and having a roast; anyone else?

[ms.peachy]

Surely there's something missing from every relationship? Romance is rarely perfect.
So, tell us about your parents.

[Planetary]

:eek: i did'nt even know that existed!

that's a cool holiday. i wanna roast a chicken

[DandyFop]

Which is cool because I like being single and I'm not even that into her anymore.

So do you like her, or not?

[miss soul fire]

This thread is just a lame excuse to brag about your penis, Padster!:p

Nope, I've never done that. I despise people who do that. (n) :D

[Lex Diamonds]

na$tee: I was trying to give this thread a light-hearted tone and that's why I used those words. Plus I don't like admitting to myself that I like this girl, cuz it's kind of depressing. I'm sorry if you think that what I type on an internet message board has any relation to my actual deep-seated emotional feelings for people in real life.
So, tell us about your parents.
My father was a womaniser and my mother was in love with him from the moment she met him, he was 15 years older and was never that interested in her until he got her pregnant with my older sister so they gave it a go. They split up when I was 6, now he's living 200 miles away in hospital with brain damage from a stroke which happened nearly 2 years ago due to too much drinking (I was alone with him at the time, by the way), and my mum is still seeing a man who she had a passionate affair with whilst she was married to my father about 15 years ago. Why do you want to know?

DandyFop: Yeah I like her but I try not to cuz it's bad for me.

MSF: Yeah I have a large member and I'm proud. Is that so bad?

[Lex Diamonds]

Padster,


I usually don't garner much respect for someone who cheats, or someone who is involved with cheating, but this is a much more detailed scenario than the norm, it seems. Now, I personally don't think it's cool, but you have a right to do what you want when you want. My advice is just be careful about this, the last thing anyone wants is you or someone else to get hurt (physically or mentally) because of this.

What goes around will come around, but hopefully when you get yours it won't hurt too bad...
Cheers bro.

[miss soul fire]

MSF: Yeah I have a large member and I'm proud. Is that so bad?
Nope. I was just saying. It's typical, especially on this message board, isn't it?!:p

[DandyFop]

Even if, in your opinion, you and her having sex doesn't matter this time, I think it will give you the false pretense that it's okay as long as there's some kind of excuse. If not for yourself, if you like her that much maybe you should be trying to stay away in order to help her not fuck up her head about her relationships, know what I mean? Once people start down this kind of path it's generally very hard for them to get involved in a real relationship because this option isn't closed to them.

I've never had an "affair". I've done a few stupid things, yes, but mostly it boiled down to liking someone else while I was with another person. Just happened, I guess. I can't say that if the opportunity presented itself in a few of those situations, that I wouldn't have done anything. Though I will say, I recently gave up a night of debauchery in favor of my feelings for someone else, and I was so thrilled with my decision because it I realized how much I really liked the one guy.

[Ace42X]

what the fuck is the point?

It's purple, kinda domed at one end, and about 8 inches long.

[roosta]

So I fucked my friend's girlfriend on Friday.

Maybe we can carry it on and have a lil affair thingy. That would be pretty cool.


that's not cool. not cool at all.

[mickill]

Isn't this considered TWEENERY?

When you grow up a bit, maybe you'll realize how ridiculous you sound right now, Paddy.

[Ally Al]

Isn't this considered TWEENERY?

When you grow up a bit, maybe you'll realize how ridiculous you sound right now, Paddy.



exactly, adultery!!! gtfohwtbs

yeh me like wit me big dick 4 real, ali g wannabee

like the mick says grow up soldier

[burbboi]

I haven't done that personally. I'm 'down' with monogamy and have never been much of a swinger or wished to be one. I have to say, from what you briefly described, this 'friendly neighbour' of yours sounds like she's easy.

Whatever suits your fancy is the right answer really. Watch your weenie for adverse side-effects!

[GreenEarthAl]

I find it unfortunate that the young lady in question can't just be honest and take a step back in her relationship. Just tell her fellow that she doesn't want to see him exclusively right now. That way he doesn't have to meander along obliviously under the mistaken impression that he's under some exclusivity pact that doesn't really exist. It would also give him important information about whether or not he's really half-interested in continuing with her or not-at-all interested.

Deceiving people is mad negative, and as many people here have stated in one way or another, it often snaps back and bites you in ways you don't expect.

[Tzar]

Isn't this considered TWEENERY?

When you grow up a bit, maybe you'll realize how ridiculous you sound right now, Paddy.
word.

you're following in your father's footsteps - cept swap the booze with the reefa

[SobaViolence]

Padster.


you aren't forcing her (at least, i hope not) to do anything she doesn't want to do. she's doing this(you) voluntarily. you are not in a relationship. on that front, you're in the clear.

the friend. well, hey, friend's come and go. and the term friend isn't exactly that easy to define.

if the friend meant something, you wouldn't(again, i hope so), but you did/are.

so, do what you want, man. :)

[Anne Lauren]

What you mean? There aint a buzz. I told ya, we've been doing it for more than a year, through a whole other relationship with someone else. Whatever we do it for, if you want to call it a buzz, obviously hasn't gone away. And I also explained she aint some random girl... I've known her longer than I've known this friend of mine.

PS
Surely there's something missing from every relationship? Romance is rarely perfect.

Yeah, but think about it...if she likes you so much and you all have this "bond" because you two grew up together and you're so awsome in the sack because of your 12 incher...then why are you always the "mistress" in her life? Why is she always making it "official" with some other dude and sneaking around with you?

It sounds like she just might be using you as some sort of self-esteem booster in her life...whenever she's feeling down in the dumps and needs to feel wanted and hot...she just tracks you down. And yeah you say that's fine with you and all, that it can just be about sex because she has the finest booty you've ever seen or whatever...but, are you really OK with that, though? Just from what I've gathered, you seem to have a little crush on this girl...she's grown on you in a way.

[Documad]

This thread is just a lame excuse to brag about your penis, Padster!:p
Ha! Agreed! :)

My father was a womaniser and my mother was in love with him from the moment she met him, he was 15 years older and was never that interested in her until he got her pregnant with my older sister so they gave it a go. They split up when I was 6, now he's living 200 miles away in hospital with brain damage from a stroke which happened nearly 2 years ago due to too much drinking (I was alone with him at the time, by the way), and my mum is still seeing a man who she had a passionate affair with whilst she was married to my father about 15 years ago. Why do you want to know?
I'm not speaking for Ms. Peachy, but you gave the sort of answer I'd expect. Kids tend to replicate what they see at home, in one way or another, whether they want to or not. At least, that's what Dr. Drew always says.

Now, what's HER family situation like?

[steve-onpoint]

But, you know, what goes around comes around. Maybe not tomorrow, maybe not next week, but eventually.

right.

[Lex Diamonds]

Yeah, thanks for the responses.

Most of you are cunts.

[Justin]

who are you

[DandyFop]

Yeah get her pregnant. Of course, you probably wouldn't know which guy is the father...

[ms.peachy]

You put it out there, man. You can't be surprised at the reaction you get. You come on like you're bragging about 'boning' this chick who claim to have a good history with behind the back of someone you call a 'friend'. So in one fell swoop, you pretty much demonstrated that you have no respect for anyone involved, including yourself. What did you expect, to be congratulated?

Obviously in the grand scheme of things it's none of my (or anyone else here's) business, except that you brought it to the table for discussion. So, it's being dicussed. You can think we're all 'cunts' because we don't look at you and think "Hey, what a player!" but instead think "what a sad, delusional boy." But at the end of the day, if you are not willing to take an honest look in the mirror that's being held up for you here and see how what you're doing is a bit pathetic and unfortunately predictable, well, it's your lesson lost, no one else's.

[Lex Diamonds]

You put it out there, man. You can't be surprised at the reaction you get. You come on like you're bragging about 'boning' this chick who claim to have a good history with behind the back of someone you call a 'friend'. So in one fell swoop, you pretty much demonstrated that you have no respect for anyone involved, including yourself. What did you expect, to be congratulated?

Obviously in the grand scheme of things it's none of my (or anyone else here's) business, except that you brought it to the table for discussion. So, it's being dicussed. You can think we're all 'cunts' because we don't look at you and think "Hey, what a player!" but instead think "what a sad, delusional boy." But at the end of the day, if you are not willing to take an honest look in the mirror that's being held up for you here and see how what you're doing is a bit pathetic and unfortunately predictable, well, it's your lesson lost, no one else's.
Fuck's sake, you have no clue. I didn't post this for validation or to look cool, or like a player, that's not why I go on this board. I posted it because I wanted to get it off my chest. This is something that's actually weighing on my mind, the kind of thing that fucks a person up and makes them depressed. Yeah I write with a lot of slang, and don't seem too serious, that's just how I write on this board. Plus it's a stream of consciousness, the story was long enough to tell as it was without spending hours proof-reading it to ensure the smart-arse BBMB language police don't start getting at me.

I am a real person, not just a piece of the internet, you know. I'm not delusional, I do understand the full weight of my situation, and if I'm "following in my father's footsteps" then good, because he was the most intelligent, charming, witty, and selfless person I ever met. Don't ever judge me or my father ever again.

Like I said, no one else in the world knows about this shit. I didn't ask for judgement, and I didn't want a load of snide comments about my penis, my age, or the fact I appear not to care about other people. I just wanted to tell someone. The fact that most of you reacted with insults towards me just proves the point that there are no such thing as manners on the internet.

You don't have to reply.

[DandyFop]

I think there were generally enough comments from people that were actually trying to give you real advice on the manner. As for the rest of it, obviously, you knew that would happen.

[Justin]

I havent read this whole post, but I like the Funky M&M guy.

[ms.peachy]

You don't have to reply.
Of course I don't "have to", I don't "have to" do anything on this board, none of us do.

Please take this in the spirit it is intended: Go back and read your original post, and then your most recent one to me, and see if you can't figure out why you got the response that you did. Because you didn't come here saying "I've gotten myself into this situation, and I'm feeling kind of conflicted about it, and not sure what to do," did you?

What I'm suggesting, and the reason I brought up your parents, is that I strongly suspect that there's a whole lot more underlying your actions and your beliefs about 'relationships' than you are willing to acknowledge. I'd go further and suggest that maybe a goofy message board isn't the best place to try and work through them, either, but I suspect it's pointless to try and urge you to examine them in a more professional setting so I won't bother.

As I said, this is all a mirror for you. You can get angry at the reflection you're getting if you want, but you created it. Be a man and be willing to own that. Or, be a boy and whine about it. Your choice.

[Lex Diamonds]

I think there were generally enough comments from people that were actually trying to give you real advice on the manner. As for the rest of it, obviously, you knew that would happen.
Yeah I guess I should have expected it, but sometimes I like to think that people here actually care about what others have to say. Evidently not, it's all just an online popularity contest. It's all about who can be the most patronising (mickill, peachy), or who can look like they care the least about others (Anders + other aliases). Fuck knows why I keep on coming back here.

To all the people who said something nice, eg. Toucan, GEA, SobaV: cheers.

[Lex Diamonds]

Of course I don't "have to", I don't "have to" do anything on this board, none of us do.

Please take this in the spirit it is intended: Go back and read your original post, and then your most recent one to me, and see if you can't figure out why you got the response that you did. Because you didn't come here saying "I've gotten myself into this situation, and I'm feeling kind of conflicted about it, and not sure what to do," did you?

What I'm suggesting, and the reason I brought up your parents, is that I strongly suspect that there's a whole lot more underlying your actions and your beliefs about 'relationships' than you are willing to acknowledge. I'd go further and suggest that maybe a goofy message board isn't the best place to try and work through them, either, but I suspect it's pointless to try and urge you to examine them in a more professional setting so I won't bother.

As I said, this is all a mirror for you. You can get angry at the reflection you're getting if you want, but you created it. Be a man and be willing to own that. Or, be a boy and whine about it. Your choice.
You're contradicting yourself though. You're saying to come here and say "I've gotten myself into it, I don't know what to do.", yet you're also saying if I do that I'm not being a man, and I'm whining about it? I was trying to be light-hearted, but fuck it, in future I'll be a manic depressive emo. Thanks for all your wonderful advice.

[ms.peachy]

I'm sorry that you feel patronised. I am only telling you the truth as I see it, based on your own words.

[ms.peachy]

You're contradicting yourself though. You're saying to come here and say "I've gotten myself into it, I don't know what to do.", yet you're also saying if I do that I'm not being a man, and I'm whining about it? I was trying to be light-hearted, but fuck it, in future I'll be a manic depressive emo. Thanks for all your wonderful advice.

You know, you have to make a choice - either it's light, or it's heavy, you know? You seem to be upset with me because I am not able to predict your real frame of mind from your ambiguous statements.

I am not contradicting myself. If you had started out by saying, "I've gotten myself into this situation that's kind of fucked up and I don't know what to do from here" I would not call that whining, I would in fact call that being a man and acknowledging your responsibility in the situation. But that isn't what you did; what you did was come in saying "yeah this chick, she can't get enough of my big dick, blah blah, she's going out with a freind of mine but seeing me behind his back, blah blah, hey it's not my fault if she doesn't respect him, blah blah, he obviously isn't banging her fine ass as well as I can, blah blah." So from that, we were supposed to gather that you take this very seriously and are feeling really conflicted about it? What am I, fucking psychic?

[DandyFop]

To all the people who said something nice, eg. Toucan, GEA, SobaV: cheers.

Plenty of other people spoke up also to give advice - just because maybe they didn't think what you did was a good idea, doesn't mean that they are being dickheads.

Ms. Peachy is one of the most intelligent people you will be lucky enough to encounter in the internet world, and she seems to know how to read people and situations well. I'm not trying to add to your accusation of this place being a popularity contest, I'm just saying I would take her advice to heart if I were you. She's not petty, she's not here to patronize you or anyone else.

[ms.peachy]

She's not petty, she's not here to patronize you or anyone else.
Oh, don't give me too much credit, I do have my smaller moments, here as in the 'real' world.

However, this isn't one of them.

[venusvenus123]

padster, this kind of situation always brings out the most righteous and judgmental attitudes -- "i would never cheat on my other" "you're a BAD person" etc etc.

anyway, it doesn't even sound like a classic case of "adultery" as you call it. it actually sounds to me like you like this girl, and you're annoyed that she picks jocks or smarmy blokes over your scruffy, but loveable, self. i haven't got a great deal of time to analyse your situation, sorry about that, but that's my impression. if you're happy with it, and she is too, just see where it leads to. perhaps you'll eventually settle down together, who knows.

ps. a big dick doesn't necessarily make sex better, just different.

[steve-onpoint]

To each his or her own.

[Guy Incognito]

Plenty of other people spoke up also to give advice - just because maybe they didn't think what you did was a good idea, doesn't mean that they are being dickheads.

Ms. Peachy is one of the most intelligent people you will be lucky enough to encounter in the internet world, and she seems to know how to read people and situations well. I'm not trying to add to your accusation of this place being a popularity contest, I'm just saying I would take her advice to heart if I were you. She's not petty, she's not here to patronize you or anyone else.

Just readin thru all this and was going to say the same thing as dandy.
I aint been on here long and I dont know many people on here but i seen enough to know that Ms Peachy knows her onions and would only comment on matters like this if she had something valuable to say. She doesnt strike me as patronizing. I wouldnt say you had to take her advice on the matter but I would take it seriously and not give her a load of shit when she has been nothin but honest with you and tried to be helpful.

[enree erzweglle]

To all the people who said something nice, eg. Toucan, GEA, SobaV: cheers.
What constitutes niceness?

Did you want people to blindly validate whatever it was that you typed. I can write/automate something that will do that for you. Best friend in the world. If that's loyalty.

And not that you're reading this far, but...

I'm not trying to be mean. The people who say things apart from WAY TO GO (y) are maybe the ones to listen to. Even if they didn't comment on the size of your dick.

A friend of mine last week called to complain about another friend of hers who told her what she honestly thought about something after being asked to do so explicitly. The friend looking for honest opinions is now pissed and concludes that the honest friend is jealous of her. :rolleyes:

[iceygirl]

ok so you dont have to be like boyfriend/girlfriend to have a 'relationship' with someone. sounds like you two have some sort of definition of that word for certain. reading the history of your relationship and 'affair' i predict that she has daydreamt on one or two occasions of getting real serious with you but she is probably scared of something. maybe your parents, maybe your self described immaturity or whatever. its not like its been a one night stand, you admittedly really dig her, and she obviously digs you. definitely resolve this in some sort of near future before either of you get to serious with anyone else. you dont want to always wonder about the what-ifs...

[BangkokB]

Technically that's fornication. High 5 though:especially if he was passed out in the same room.
I've never had sex with a friends girl(tried once and that failed miserably) or a coworker bc I think it would feel awkward having to see them again~plus I don't have that 12 rod you're stapped with. I've never had a straight up fuck buddy. Usually my sexcapades end up like that "Goodbye Stranger" song by Supertramp.

[Qdrop]

i think this thread pretty much solidified the fact that Padster is a virgin with a 4" dick.

[mickill]

It's all about who can be the most patronising (mickill, peachy)

What? Hey, hold on a sec here, that's no fair.

My comment was waaaaaay more patronising than any of ms. peachy's. Come on, man. I totally won.

[Knuckles]

I really hope it wasn't this friend's (http://www.bbc.co.uk/totp2/features/wallpaper/images/1024/george_michael.jpg) "girlfriend". :(

[roosta]

the first post was written in a comical/laidback style, you can't blame anyone for not talking it seriously and firing back as a result. it certainly didnt sound like you were trying to get something off your chest, it sounded like you were boasting.

note i said SOUNDED.....apparently that wasn't the intention, but regardless, we can only go on what you write.

[burbboi]

the first post was written in a comical/laidback style

That's why my comment was short and lighthearted. I didn't know what reaction padster expected from that first post. A man should check his penis regularly....that I do know.

[Guy Incognito]

That's why my comment was short and lighthearted. I didn't know what reaction padster expected from that first post. A man should check his penis regularly....that I do know.

Erm - if every man is being completely honest with themselves they would have to say that they check :rolleyes: their penis regularly.

[adam_f]

Yep. Padster is a fuck.