BAD PARENTS

[Pres Zount]

At work they have a fucking playgroud near my area to draw the kids away from McDonalds, and it is always filled with screaming, bogan kids. It has a big sign that tells parents not to leave their children unatended.

Today however, there was just one child in there, and he was running around but he wasn't screaming. He looked about six. I also noticed his parents weren't there.

After about ten mins I hear these wailing sounds intereupted by cries of "daaaadddyyy :( ", so I go and say hello to the boy with the aim of taking him to the front where we can call his parents.

I take his hand and ask him his name, and he ignores me. He goes limp and he sits on the floor. I try to talk to him, but before I get far I hear behind me "HOW THE FUCK DID YOU GET OUT?!"

It was the boys dad, and I say that he was crying for his parents, he says I shouldn't have let him out of the playground because...

"HE HAS AUTISM."

And apparantley that means you can leave your child whenever you want to look around a store. Maybe they thought he was alone in his brain so he might as well be alone all the time. This stuff really makes my blood boil.

Tell me your bad parent stories. You may even be a bad parent yourself.

[ericlee]

Just before I left for Kuwait, my ex and I only had one car because she totaled my other one.

I told her that I needed the car because I wanted to take my daughter around since I leave 2 days after.

She told me no and she went to my house and took the license plates off.

One other time at about 10 oclock at night, I went over to her house unexpected because I was missing my daughter and I told her that I wanted her to stay overnight.

Her boyfriend was there and drunk as fuck. She told me that she's (my daughter) is sleeping and I told her I don't care, it's ok.

After I told her that, her boyfriend got real irate. My ex went into the bedroom and got my daughter for me and I was holding her in my arms waiting for my ex to get her things for the next couple of days and her boyfriend was trying to start a fight with me while I had my daughter in my arms. He was getting all in my face and saying curse words real loud and my daughter started crying.

[enree erzweglle]

Parents who...

...berate their kids; play favorites; compare siblings

...don't know how to shut down temper tantrums

...work such long hours that they never see their kids

...let siblings do the parenting of younger kids

[enree erzweglle]

I know people who don't have human kids; they consider their offspring to be their dogs. They actually call them that and they're serious.

They expect their own parents to consider the dogs to be their grandkids.

I guess it's okay if those dogs fill some void, but it's weird when the dog-parents sort of expect me to acknowledge their weird dog-kid/dog-parent relationship.

It's creepy when they don't call off their kid as he's like jumping and humping me, slobbering me up, & putting grass and probably dog-shit-skidmarks on my clothes. The dog-ma smiles proudly, like this is something I want in my life.

[ericlee]

Parents who...

...berate their kids; play favorites; compare siblings

...don't know how to shut down temper tantrums

...work such long hours that they never see their kids

...let siblings do the parenting of younger kids

I can agree with all but the work long hours. I have to work long hours to pay for child support right now and untill I can get custody.

I also took up the job offer in the mid east because my ex put me in such a bind that it would take too long to get things straightened out if I worked a normal job in the states.

[enree erzweglle]

I can agree with all but the work long hours. I have to work long hours to pay for child support right now and untill I can get custody.

I also took up the job offer in the mid east because my ex put me in such a bind that it would take too long to get things straightened out if I worked a normal job in the states.Oh, sorry! I was referring to power-hungry people. People who are focussed on their careers, who work long hours--many more than they probably need to to support their family.

It's essentially a choice that they make: the job over their kids.

That's what I meant, although there was no way for you to know that. I was trying to be succinct in my previous post and I'm not too skilled in that sense. :o

[ericlee]

Oh, sorry! I was referring to power-hungry people. People who are focussed on their careers, who work long hours--many more than they probably need to to support their family.

It's essentially a choice that they make: the job over their kids.

That's what I meant, although there was no way for you to know that. I was trying to be succinct in my previous post and I'm not too skilled in that sense. :o

Ok now I gotcha. Fuck the live to work theory. I see. Kids always come first.

Me, I've had a hard life before and I know I put it on myself.

Now that I've worked in the mid east, I have enough saved that I can really live comfortable without even working for at least 10 years.

I still work for stability and I work long long hours. I still see my daughter though, 5 times a week and I sometimes don't even sleep when she's with me.

[enree erzweglle]

I still work for stability and I work long long hours. I still see my daughter though, 5 times a week and I sometimes don't even sleep when she's with me.
I love that. That is just so sweet.

In the 90s, my kid was young and most of my co-workers were my age but they were into building their careers. I used to get grief from them for not working 12-15 hour days.

It wasn't overt grief--overt is easier to deal with. It was caddy comments, stuff said behind my back, snickers when I'd adjust my schedule to be with my kid. Condescending attitudes when I'd sign up for a project: "Are you sure you have the TIME for a project like this?!"

It was a matter of time and patience until they had kids of their own, until their kids were sick, and until it became a choice for them: career over kids?

The choice was never entirely that for me because I never quite wanted a career--I wanted a job and there's a difference.

A lot of people don't get that--they look at you like you're nuts when you are at the same job, when you don't climb the corporate ladder. They nod approvingly when you say that you'd rather have time for your kid or your non-work life, but you can see a look flash in their eyes that they're maybe nodding because they know that kids/happiness are supposed to trump careers but maybe they thought I was a little simple for having made that decision anyway.

[beastiegirrl101]

I know people who don't have human kids; they consider their offspring to be their dogs. They actually call them that and they're serious.

They expect their own parents to consider the dogs to be their grandkids.

I guess it's okay if those dogs fill some void, but it's weird when the dog-parents sort of expect me to acknowledge their weird dog-kid/dog-parent relationship.

It's creepy when they don't call off their kid as he's like jumping and humping me, slobbering me up, & putting grass and probably dog-shit-skidmarks on my clothes. The dog-ma smiles proudly, like this is something I want in my life.


YES! My aunt calls her dogs her Fur kids.

[Rock]

This guy I used to smoke a lot of pot with would let his 3 year old daughter run around the room that had all the paraphenlia in it. One time she took the hose from the hookah and put it in her mouth. Mimicking what she had seen him do. Him and his girlfriend just started laughing.
This is the same girlfriend that smoked pot throughout all 3 of her pregnancies. I don't know about you all...but if I was pregnant, I wouldn't put any foreign substance in my body.
It makes no sense to me.
This dude will bring his daughter to the local brew pub and just sit her in a chair and do his thing. Once after about 5 or 6 beers he was like "have any of you seen Julie?" Luckily she just went to the bathroom..but still....what the fuck? And then he drove home in that condition and caused a fuss when I said I would take his daughter home since he had a good amount of beer.
It makes no sense to me.

[beastiegirrl101]

I was out with the girls for lunch last sunday and we go to this place the Choclate Cafe after for some hot chocolate...well Sunday's nanny's have off and there was this woman who was all decked out, dress, heals, pashmena, like waaay to glam for a sunday. She was parading her new born around the cafe in one arm with the kids head just dangling around, no support whatsoever. It was obvious that since her nanny had off, this lady was clearly using her kid as an accessory.

[cj hood]

parents suck......you need a license to drive, a license to get married......but anyone could have children..........ill!!!

[enree erzweglle]

YES! My aunt calls her dogs her Fur kids.
Does she expect you to kiss them right on the mouth?

[enree erzweglle]

At my son's birthday party, one of the mom's dropped off her son, and instead of saying good bye or something she said "Me love you long time." Uh...WTF?! I don't know if this counts as "bad parenting" but I'm pretty sure it's going to fuck the kid up later on in life.I hate babytalk too. Sort of turns my stomach. I more hate it when adults do it to other adults, but it's bad no matter who is doing it, really.

[ms.peachy]

I hate babytalk too. Sort of turns my stomach. I more hate it when adults do it to other adults, but it's bad no matter who is doing it, really.
I think he referring more to the sexual subtext, considering the origin of the phrase...

[enree erzweglle]

I think he referring more to the sexual subtext, considering the origin of the phrase...
Oh you know what, I totally missed that! Yes, like happy ending.

Yes, WTF. That *and* baby talk. :)

[beastiegirrl101]

Does she expect you to kiss them right on the mouth?

No, thank god, but it wouldn't surprise me.

[ms.peachy]

This guy I used to smoke a lot of pot with would let his 3 year old daughter run around the room that had all the paraphenlia in it. One time she took the hose from the hookah and put it in her mouth. Mimicking what she had seen him do. Him and his girlfriend just started laughing.

Hey, didn't you know pot is harmless? Perfectly safe stuff; you can feel completely comfortable letting your kids ride around in a car with someone who's had a few bong hits. Don't worry about it, man.

[wanton wench]

i have seen alot of bad parents but this one always sticks with me. i dont believe in spanking and this is a good example of why i dont think it works.

i'm at the store. in line at the register. a lady in front of me is holding her small child. he's maybe 3. he's in a good mood, singing, having fun and all. he starts flailing his arms and ends up slapping him mom right across the face. it was a total accident. she gets real mad. hits him in the arm (sounded pretty hard to me) while saying "no hitting" WTF is that??? c'mon, do you really expect your child to listen to your hypocritical dumb ass. so now he is screaming and crying (probably from the pain in his arm) she puts him in the seat thingy on the shopping cart and he ends up hitting her again. HA! you deserve it you stupid woman. i feel so bad for children. look at the example he has to learn from.

[enree erzweglle]

I hate babytalk as well, but "Me love you long time" is what the prostitues in "Full Metal Jacket" were saying. It was also used by 2Live Crew in "Me So Horny". Babytalk? That's bad. Talking to your child like a Vietnamese prostitute? That's beyond fucked up.I kind of forgot about that. ms.peachy reminded me. :o

It is very weird. I wonder--when it happened, did you do a double-take and stare at that mom?

Another bad parenting thing: taking a kid to the theater to see a movie like Kalifornia or Eyes Wide Shut. :confused:

[instigator7022]

My dad leaves his weed all over the house.

[Kid Presentable]

My friends mothers all try to have sex with me.

[instigator7022]

My friends mothers all try to have sex with me.


like that Mom from georgia who married a 14 year old friend of her son or something like that and now shes with child they want to throw her in jail...

[Kid Presentable]

like that Mom from georgia who married a 14 year old friend of her son or something like that and now shes with child they want to throw her in jail...

I know, and I tried to reason with the cops and all......

[Kid Presentable]

Oh man, don't even get me started, one of neighbors has a son who is seven, so naturally, Noah and him are friends. Anyway, we were over at there house, and they were like watch the movie "Saw". Haha...huh? They were serious. It's a good thing my wife was there because she handles things more tactfully then I do. She politely said no thank you, and offered to take the kids to the park, all while sitting there just staring at them.

And with the other mom, I just looked at wife with a confused, what the fuck kind of look. You know the kind that a dog might give after coming home from the vet, and discovering that his balls are missing.

We used to sit in the lounge at my friends place watching two women have sex with three men.....In a porn flick.

The parents, man. They didn't give a shit.

I was fucking freaked out by these sweaty people going up and down, licking each other 'Down There'. I must have been like 4, 5 tops.

[instigator7022]

We used to sit in the lounge at my friends place watching two women have sex with three men.....In a porn flick.

The parents, man. They didn't give a shit.

I was fucking freaked out by these sweaty people going up and down, licking each other 'Down There'. I must have been like 4, 5 tops.


that^ i think would mess a kid up but i dont see where excessive violence could do anything but give the kid nightmares. Just explain it's fake! I watched horror movies all the time when i was a kid and i'm fine.

[Kid Presentable]

:eek:

There are several things that I wish I could "un-see" but it doesn't work that way.

You remember Kenneth Parnell in that 'I know my name is Stephen' shit? If it wasn't Kid Presentable, my s/n was going to be Ken_Parnell.

Glad it's not. (y)

[cosmo105]

once hanging outside a store in the mall as a friend was shopping...

i noticed a woman walking around a beauty supply store, not paying much attention to her children. the smallest of them, a gorgeous little girl of not more than three years, bobbled out of the store into the retailer next door. my eyes got huge and i glared at the woman. she was still ignoring her screaming kids, reading labels on hairspray. i thought maybe she'd realize in a minute or two.

about five minutes later, teeny girl is still wandering around other store, strangers bumping into her and stepping around her. i'm fed up so i go inside, take her hand, and say, "you'd better stay by your mommy, sweetie. you don't want to get lost." and i lead her to her mother next door. when i walk up to her, she shrieks as she sees me holding her daughter's hand and screams at her to stay by her side. i was so fucking mad. i mean, shit, i know it's rough if you have a bunch of kids. that's why you have to either have someone help you or make them your FIRST PRIORITY. shopping can wait! this little girl could have so easily been just taken from that mall and it would have been ten minutes before that woman even noticed. ugh.

and then there's always the people that will be shopping in my store completely ignoring their kids on those fucking wheelies and they'll come start asking me a question and their kids will be screaming DADDYDADDYDADDYDADDYDADDYLOOKATMEDADDY and i can't answer because i'm watching your seven-year-old knock things off shelves and play with GLASS BOTTLES of expensive extracts and keep looking back at me to see if i'm watching him. PLEASE! pay attention to your kids! i'd be more than happy to wait a minute for you to gather them up and make sure they're under control than to have to listen to you tell me your problems as your offspring destroy our wares. FUCK!

[zorra_chiflada]

At work they have a fucking playgroud near my area to draw the kids away from McDonalds, and it is always filled with screaming, bogan kids. It has a big sign that tells parents not to leave their children unatended.

Today however, there was just one child in there, and he was running around but he wasn't screaming. He looked about six. I also noticed his parents weren't there.

After about ten mins I hear these wailing sounds intereupted by cries of "daaaadddyyy :( ", so I go and say hello to the boy with the aim of taking him to the front where we can call his parents.

I take his hand and ask him his name, and he ignores me. He goes limp and he sits on the floor. I try to talk to him, but before I get far I hear behind me "HOW THE FUCK DID YOU GET OUT?!"

It was the boys dad, and I say that he was crying for his parents, he says I shouldn't have let him out of the playground because...

"HE HAS AUTISM."

And apparantley that means you can leave your child whenever you want to look around a store. Maybe they thought he was alone in his brain so he might as well be alone all the time. This stuff really makes my blood boil.

Tell me your bad parent stories. You may even be a bad parent yourself.


this is such a sad story. that kid may never have the chance to live a normal productive life because of his piece of shit parents.

i'm glad that we're gonna be good parents together. :)


come on! everyone go AWWWWWWWWWW! full house style!

[DapperDiverge]

I know people who don't have human kids; they consider their offspring to be their dogs. They actually call them that and they're serious.

They expect their own parents to consider the dogs to be their grandkids.

I guess it's okay if those dogs fill some void, but it's weird when the dog-parents sort of expect me to acknowledge their weird dog-kid/dog-parent relationship.

It's creepy when they don't call off their kid as he's like jumping and humping me, slobbering me up, & putting grass and probably dog-shit-skidmarks on my clothes. The dog-ma smiles proudly, like this is something I want in my life.

i always felt that my mom loved her dogs more than she did me as kid... like if the dogs chewed up something of hers, she'd get mad for like one second and then start hugging and kissing them and making those baby noises... but if i accidently broke something of hers, she'd whip me hard and not talk to me for like a couple of days...

but they're dead now!! haha!!... but i still feel the same

i hated it when she sent me to daycare... i felt like a dog being left at the dog kennel or something... the people that work there never give a damn...

this shouldn't even happen to a dog! :mad:

[Sarky Devotchka]

tonight this lady and her son came in and the kid (who seemed about 11) was on those rollerblade shoe things and kept rolling around the store, bumping into things and going back into the shop where there's artwork and sharp things. the mom wasn't saying anything, just kind of looking around and I had to be like, "uh, hey man, I don't want you to hurt yourself, I'm gonna have to ask you to come out here". and the mom said nothing. when it came time to frame, she let the kid pick out stuff and influence her because she was such a flake. then she took a cell phone call for like 10 minutes while the kid just banged shit around.

anyway, my boss was working with them and excused himself to the bathroom, then slipped me a note that said, "I'm gonna fucking kill that kid". heh.

that child's going to turn into a major asshole adult.

[miss_bhaven]

I work relief at my aunt's child care centre and I had a parent come in to pick up one of their kids, I turned around to the parent striking the child over the head and screaming 'you little bitch'. I was disgusted. Most parents at this child care centre honestly shouldn't of bothered giving birth - harsh but it's true if you were to see how they treat their children.