I found out i'm superficial:(

[miss soul fire]

So I'm going out with this great guy, but sometimes he says that his sister is beautiful and that she has green eyes and this and that. I feel so damn ugly. I know this is stupid, but it would be nice to feel beautiful (even not being true) next to someone you like. Cute would be good and more real too.

Am I too superficial to feel that way?

Today he commented about his sister again and I told him "why don't you date her?" in a joking way, but every joke has its true part.

Anyway...:o:(

[TurdBerglar]

so he has the hots for his sister?

[miss soul fire]

so he has the hots for his sister?
Anyone would!

[Lindsey_1535]

ewwwww sister lovin

[fucktopgirl]

that guy is weird!talking about how his sister is beautiful,beware of him!

[TurdBerglar]

maybe you should makeout with his sister

[miss soul fire]

Let's stick to the point! Do you guys feel that way too? I mean, would ya?

It's like talking about an ex-gilfriend.

[fucktopgirl]

i fucking tell ya,,its weird!

[Bob]

no no, let's go back to that thing turd said

[miss soul fire]

I'm living my teenagerhood, be patient with me!:p

[miss soul fire]

Why do beautiful girls make us feel so bad?:(
Why do guys only care about that??? It's always been like that.

[kll]

msf- i find it odd that he has mentioned his sister's beauty more times than once and that it has affected you to the point of making a comment/joke about it...

does he ever give you compliments?

[kaiser soze]

if this guy talks about how hot his sister is

then sadly, he already boinked her

[marsdaddy]

I think you're confusing "superficial" with "filled with low self-esteem." Either ask him directly why he talks about his sister and not your beauty, or kick him to the curb.

[miss soul fire]

msf- i find it odd that he has mentioned his sister's beauty more times than once and that it has affected you to the point of making a comment/joke about it...

does he ever give you compliments?
Yeah, he does, but he's not the type of guy that says that, maybe about other girls or his sister. He goes like "did you know my sister is beautiful? She has like green eyes". He's never euphoric about it, but still...

It seems that he knows that I'm not and that we're cool about it, ya know? I didn't ask him his opionon on my looks, but I told him "I'm not beautiful, I know" and he didn't say anything and I changed subject quickly because if he had something to say he wouldn't have words...ya know...I just didn't want to hear him saying it, although I know how he does.

Once he told me I was beautiful, but not that I really was. I was at that day. That's the way I felt.

[tracky]

I've said it once and I'll say it again, you're gorgeous MSF. Any guy that's dating you and doesn't tell you that doesn't deserve you.

[miss soul fire]

I think you're confusing "superficial" with "filled with low self-esteem." Either ask him directly why he talks about his sister and not your beauty, or kick him to the curb.
Sometimes I'm so cool about it, but his sister seems like she's so envolved with her own beauty that it seems that she's better than me because of that, which I know it's not true and I don't mind not being the best, but you know...I hate competitions, especially beauty contests, because I know I'll never win them.

I don't know what I'm saying anymore.

[miss soul fire]

I've said it once and I'll say it again, you're gorgeous MSF. Any guy that's dating you and doesn't tell you that doesn't deserve you.
Thanks tracky. That's way too nice of you to say.

I know I've always started stupid superficial threads about looks, but you have no idea how my country is with that this. It's been proved. I wish it wasn't that way, but when you are surrounded by people who thinks about that then it sucks.

He's really nice and he doesn't care THAT much about beauty. I feel he likes me. It's not that, but it sucks to feel ugly around him, ya know. He talks about my skin and he even likes my hair when it's curly, but I just feel damn ugly with him!

[TurdBerglar]

no no, let's go back to that thing turd said


bob knows

[synch]

That's not being superficial, that's being insecure.

Frankly I don't think there is a way not to feel insecure or at least weird about a guy you are dating always talking about how hot his sister is.

Or as lindsey put it very eloquently "ewwwwwwwww".

[little j]

i think everyone wants to feel beautiful to the person they are with. the important thing is to feel beautiful to yourself. I dont always feel beautiful to myself and so i dont think that seth thinks i am beautiful either. i think beauty truely comes from loving yourself. if you love yourself and love your body you will be beautiful to the world. and many will say that they dont care what the world thinks, but they will probably care what their people think. i pretend like i dont care what others think, but i still suck in my tummy when walking through the office, and i still wear cute shoes and a sweet smile most of the time.

so i guess what im saying is that i am superficial too and we should start an exclusive club of superficialites.:o

[miss soul fire]

i think everyone wants to feel beautiful to the person they are with. the important thing is to feel beautiful to yourself. I dont always feel beautiful to myself and so i dont think that seth thinks i am beautiful either. i think beauty truely comes from loving yourself. if you love yourself and love your body you will be beautiful to the world. and many will say that they dont care what the world thinks, but they will probably care what their people think. i pretend like i dont care what others think, but i still suck in my tummy when walking through the office, and i still wear cute shoes and a sweet smile most of the time.

so i guess what im saying is that i am superficial too and we should start an exclusive club of superficialites.:o
Thanks, little j! That post really cheered me up! It REALLY did. You are so damn lovely!!! :o:oI should be more confident I know, but sometimes I can't.

[hardnox71]

but I just feel damn ugly with him!
Sweetheart, you just answered your own question. If you don't feel good about yourself when you're with someone, then why be with them? Go find a guy who makes you feel like you're the queen of the fucking universe. Go be happy.

btw-I, also, think there is something extremely strange about this guy constantly talking about how pretty his sister is. That is just not normal.

[miss soul fire]

I like him so much. The only guy I feel beautiful is a drunkhead. That's why he thinks I'm beautiful.:pI don't need to feel beautiful with anyone. That's just silly.

[miss soul fire]

He didn't say many about how beautiful his sister was. It was twice, but it bugged the hell outta me.

[Justin]

Maybe, its not really his sister:eek:

[zorra_chiflada]

that's pretty wrong of him to talk about his sister like that. in all aspects. even if it wasn't his sister, it would still be bad. you're not superficial, you're just human.

[Loppfessor]

I don't think you're giving us much info on the context of what he's saying. I mean does he gush on and on about how hot his siter is or is it more like yeah my sister is a beautiful girl.

[miss soul fire]

I don't think you're giving us much info on the context of what he's saying. I mean does he gush on and on about how hot his siter is or is it more like yeah my sister is a beautiful girl.
He said "my sister is beautiful, did you know that? She's got green eyes" and that's it. It's more like "I'm proud of her for being beautiful" which is good because it seems he likes his sister, that he treats her well, but I feel ugly at the same time...my bro thinks I'm ugly. I guess I would like my brother to say the same thing about me, but it wouldn't be true. Anyway, I feel better today, but eventually I feel bad about it. I thought I had overcome this, but I haven't yet. He's not the first guy who I go out with who says that about the sister. Once I went out with a guy who used to say the same thing about his. Oh damn!

[Nuzzolese]

It would be nice to feel beautiful, but it would be even nicer to not care about how beautiful you are. That's the trick, isn't it?

It's gotta be tough in Brazil, I can't believe people have such high standards! There's no way most of the people there are as good looking as you. Now all those Victoria's Secret supermodels are Brazilian and anytime you hear about a Brazilian woman, you automatically (I do anyway) think of gorgeous bone structure and such. And with that in mind I completely think that you embody the stereotype of the dark, stunning, sexy Brazilian girl in the way you look. American opinions may not count for much because we're all pretty fugly, but there it is.

Some guys just aren't very complimentary to their dates. Remember Heiress's Italian guy? She once said that he rarely told her she looked good, and it was only like, "yeah you look cute" if she asked. But Heiress is beautiful. But she doesn't seem to care.

What's that TLC song? We need to play it for this thread..."you can buy all the makeup that man can make...but if you don't look inside you, find out something something, be in the position to make you feel so damn unpretty" I don't even know what that means but it sounds positive.