has anyone here settled??

[DapperDiverge]

and by settle, not necessarily marry.... i mean has anyone gone out on a date with someone you weren't really into just to say you got somebody for the moment...just not to feel alone or pathetic??

i mean beggars can't be choosers.... i think many people are attracted to people outta their league... being one, perhaps i should stop setting my standards so high... i guess i need to realize i'm never going to meet "Mr. Right" and should just settle for the next smuck that i come accross that'll probably be a scrub, leeching off me for $, being his mother and take a chance at probably ruining the rest of my life

this sucks!! and it seems like the whole world is chasing after those few, perfect, beautiful people... damn high expectations(n)

[Justin]

I set very high standards also and you should! Im sure you would be able to find something wrong with everyone.

I guess it depends on what kind of standards you set..?

Mine are...

Looks..(I cant go out with anyone im not attracted to physically)
Fun.....(can have fun no matter what the situation)
Career.( Has her own life and wont expect me to live for her)
Good sense of style
Talkative, not shy
Openminded about new things..(music, sports, travelling)

And

Probably the most weird one of all, just feeling right around her. You know? When you get that feeling around her that you cant describe to her, yourself or your friends

[enree erzweglle]

You get to a point where you realize that spending time alone is a better alternative than having to extract yourself from a shitty situation with someone that you didn't get on with in the first place.

[Bitchamachacha]

I spent six years of my life unhappy and settled.

It sucked.

I'm happy now, though. My happy is happy too.

[ms.peachy]

i guess i need to realize i'm never going to meet "Mr. Right" and should just settle for the next smuck that i come accross
I think the whole "Mr. (or Ms.) Right" concept needs to be thrown out the window. becase this is where we all get this stupid idea that somewhere, out there, beneath the pale moonlight, there's this one perfect person out there just for us and if only we could find him or her, everything else would just fall into place and we'd know, because we'd feel it, that this is the one we've been waiting for.

Because the problem is, that is a steaming great load of crap.

I'm not saying, we should all just settle for any one who comes along, but we have to realise that actually maybe there is not one "perfect" person who fits all our criteria, but that actually maybe there are dozens of people right in front of us who - not unlike ourselves - may be slightly flawed ordinary human beings but who are in fact rather nice and perfectly suitable and might even be capable of making us very happy, if only we would stop looking at our internal checklist trying to work out all of the things they are not rather than looking at them and appreciating them for what they are.

[miss soul fire]

This phase shall pass.
Just try to forget about it and live your life. I've done it many times of my life, although I've had my phases. And I gotta tell you that Mr Right comes when you least expect it. It does. Or if it doesn't it's because it wasn't meant to be. It's hard to deal with it, but if you really want one, believe it, just believe it and meanwhile have fun with the smucks!!!:D

[trailerprincess]

I am currently in semi-serious discussions about marriage to a homeless, brown and crack user who's just come out of prison. But he makes me laugh and he likes me. Some people might say I deserve better, but if that was the case, maybe I should have met them by now. Fuck it. He makes me laugh.

[kaiser soze]

I'm single and keeping it that way until I find someone who meets my needs and vice versa

I broke a short term relationship with a cute horny girl because she didn't give me happiness and i wasn't going to lead her on or stay in it just for the sex

i like a whole package

[BangkokB]

Listen to what TrailerPrincess has to say.

I didn't read it but the screen name is up there with
$2 Haircut
Penicilin Rockstar
Scratchy Ballz
Tight Rash
Cure 4 No1
Athomeperm
Keep Pressing On

Just make sure whoever it is loves you for who you are~says Rikki Lake on every episode

[trailerprincess]

Listen to what TrailerPrincess has to say.

I didn't read it but the screen name is up there with
$2 Haircut
Penicilin Rockstar
Scratchy Ballz
Tight Rash
Cure 4 No1
Athomeperm
Keep Pressing On

Just make sure whoever it is loves you for who you are~says Rikki Lake on every episode

I was more of a Montell Jordan kind of girl but I take your point... I like the name, always have. And in true trailer fashion, my whole family use variations of the same - my momma is trailerqueen, poppa is trailerking, by stepbrother is trailerprince. my sister is trailerho but we don't talk about her....

[Kid Presentable]

It's like you could have sex with a sheep, or you could have sex with a sheep and then cook it for Sunday Roast.

One is settling, the other is love.

[Sarky Devotchka]

I sort of settled with my college boyfriend. we really were not good together, I just tried to make it work because he was my first serious relationship and I was horny. some days I'd just look at him and want to kill him. ah, but he was good practice I guess.

ha ha, just thinking of him makes me laugh.

[kaiser soze]

I once settled for my hand and found out the bitch was cheating on me

[hpdrifter]

I think the whole "Mr. (or Ms.) Right" concept needs to be thrown out the window. becase this is where we all get this stupid idea that somewhere, out there, beneath the pale moonlight, there's this one perfect person out there just for us and if only we could find him or her, everything else would just fall into place and we'd know, because we'd feel it, that this is the one we've been waiting for.

Because the problem is, that is a steaming great load of crap.

I'm not saying, we should all just settle for any one who comes along, but we have to realise that actually maybe there is not one "perfect" person who fits all our criteria, but that actually maybe there are dozens of people right in front of us who - not unlike ourselves - may be slightly flawed ordinary human beings but who are in fact rather nice and perfectly suitable and might even be capable of making us very happy, if only we would stop looking at our internal checklist trying to work out all of the things they are not rather than looking at them and appreciating them for what they are.

I agree. I've been in love several times. And I believe that they were/are all real love. I don't believe in the one person/soul mate thing.

I am guity of looking for the bad things, though. I'm doing that somewhat in my current relationship. I think its because I am totally in love with this guy and I'm scared and may or may not, in fact, be freaking out. Not because I expect to find someone perfect.

I haven't settled in terms of a relationship but I have gone on dates with people I wasn't particularly attracted to.

[Sarky Devotchka]

kaiser gives you hand jobs?

[kaiser soze]

no

my hand did

:confused:

[Sarky Devotchka]

You are the best!;)

this part looks really cute.

[paul jones]

never mind settling down. All I want is a good fuck, but I can't even get that these days