I can't decide what to do with my life.

[Sarky Devotchka]

Here are my choices:

1. stay at my framing job working not enough hours until may when they open a new store and I'll get full time. the perks being it's easy and I'm good at it, and I can have a place to show my art and sell it.

2. get a completely new job, possibly at an internet marketing firm where one of my friends works. she hates it there, but she makes a lot of money and her job seems easy.

3. become a nanny. I'm highly qualified for it and I could make up to 50,000/year, but it's a big commitment.

4. become a real teacher in a school. I went to college for it, I'm good at it, I'm certified...but there's a lot of bullshit beauracracy involved.

5. start my own business/gallery.

okay, now that it's written out, maybe I should do the nanny thing for like 2 years, then go to grad school, then start my own business? or I could be a teacher. why oh why didn't I just go to technical school for mechanical engineering like I wanted to when I was 18? grr, argh.

[paul jones]

yeah,do the nanny thing first then marry me then I'll win the lotto(y)

[abcdefz]

I'd waste it. But that's just me.

[cosmo105]

be a teacher. there aren't enough. and you're smart. you'd be good at it. GO TEACH SHIT.

[sab0tage]

At least you have some options. I'm 32 have a job that pays the bills but I don't love it (don't hate it either) and am the most indecisive person in the world......or am I..........yes I am........I'm not sure

[mp-seventythree]

At least you have some options. I'm 32 have a job that pays the bills but I don't love it (don't hate it either) and am the most indecisive person in the world......or am I..........yes I am........I'm not sure

That was me until fairly recently, then I sort of fell into a job I love. I'm the same age as you, so don't sweat it.

I used to be indecisive, but now I'm not so sure...

[sab0tage]

That was me until fairly recently, then I sort of fell into a job I love. I'm the same age as you, so don't sweat it.

I used to be indecisive, but now I'm not so sure...

I've done jobs I love but these generally had no real prospects in terms of a career so I decided to get a "real job". I guess I'll get there in the end(y)

[Ace42X]

Here are my choices:

Where are the crack-whore and suicide options?

[abcdefz]

be a teacher. there aren't enough. and you're smart. you'd be good at it. GO TEACH SHIT.


NO! Don't encourage her to be a teacher. Can you imagine her with the impressionable young ones?


*sarky enters*

SARKY: Sorry I'm late, kids, but oh my god Cort and I were in this bar last night BOOBS! and then this wanker was there but he was really cute, meh....




The kids would just be sitting there -- eyes glazed, mouths gaping, spit running down their chins -- until the final bell rang.

[mickill]

Go into making porn, it pays well, and you meet a lot of interesting people.(y)
OH HAHAHAHAHA! HAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAH!

OH HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!


You should start your own business. Always the right move. As long as your business doesn't suck. If your business is gonna suck you should just become a teacher instead. At least it can be rewarding...you know, shaping young minds and providng the youth with guidance/knowledge and shit like that.

[Nuzzolese]

After this thread you can't say we never did anything to help you.


I don't know what I want to do with my life either. I lack initiative and my self defeating self image is self fulfilling.

[Qdrop]

OH HAHAHAHAHA! HAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAH!

OH HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!

see?
you can just sense the "Toucan" in Cmute growing....

[mickill]

It...was....just....TOO....FUNNY! OMG I'M DYING HERE!

[Qdrop]

That's right. Jump in board whore. Sitting there with fingers crossed, ass spread, just hoping someone will give you some cock. .

could you be any more freudian?
closet case.

[Sarky Devotchka]

NO! Don't encourage her to be a teacher. Can you imagine her with the impressionable young ones?


*sarky enters*

SARKY: Sorry I'm late, kids, but oh my god Cort and I were in this bar last night BOOBS! and then this wanker was there but he was really cute, meh....

The kids would just be sitting there -- eyes glazed, mouths gaping, spit running down their chins -- until the final bell rang.

dude, please. teachers are human beings, not saints. I know this guy who has a sister that's a dominatrix and she said that lots of her clients are teachers. gross. also, the girls in my elementary ed program were some of the biggest partiers I knew in college.

[abcdefz]

dude, please. teachers are human beings, not saints. I know this guy who has a sister that's a dominatrix and she said that lots of her clients are teachers. gross. also, the girls in my elementary ed program were some of the biggest partiers I knew in college.



....and did they bring this stuff up for show and tell each day? That's the scenario I was laying out. ;)

[mickill]

My female law class teacher in high school and this other dorky male teacher used to flirt with eachother occasionally. It was kinda uncomfortable to watch.

[abcdefz]

My female law class teacher in high school and this other dorky male teacher used to flirt with eachother occasionally. It was kinda uncomfortable to watch.



...that's the point where you climb back down into your own stall. (y)

[mickill]

Where do you think I went to school? Porky's High?

[Sarky Devotchka]

peep holes!

[mickill]

Ahh. If only life/high school were truly like that.

[na§tee]

i made myself a nice cup of chocolate-mexican spice tea just so i could sit down and answer this properly for you, sarks, yes i did! [sips].

well.
first of all, i don't think you should ever go into a job that you don't really like, don't really want to do, or are only doing for the money. think about it - this is your life that you are talking about! i don't believe in having a job - i believe in having a career. a career that you want and desire and you don't hate getting up in the morning to go to. a job that isn't even like "working" per se as it is what motivates you as a person, ya get me?

do you like teaching? if it's what you are qualified to do, then you stand a good chance there. you could teach art and sell.
otherwise, i think opening yr own business is pretty cool. your terms. your products/services. your kudos if it succeeds. plus, as a young person i think there are lots of funding/grant opportunities out there for people to start their own enterprise, so there is financial assistance and help out there.
you mentioned that you didn't do what you "wanted" to do when you were 18 - hey, why not go back? why not start mechanical engineering?

s'up to you. having multiple options is very hard, but at least you have some.

i find myself in a similar situation. i think it's time to crack-on. how long have you been graduated for? i only graduated in the summer, but i think it's time for some big decisions in my career. [my career in that i know i want to work in film - and possibly as a producer, then director].

so, i graduated. i got a job, through my contacts, as a production trainee on a film called red road, which was fantastic. superb! thing is, films finish. three months and everyone went on to their next job. freelancers here tend to employ the same wee team again and again so it wasn't really a personal diss to me that i wasn't brought onto their next projects - it's just that they've been employing jane or whoever for the last 8 years and that's the way it is blah blah.. so, i've been temping since christmas.

i recently applied for a 15-month training course with the body here in scotland who distributes all the government money for the arts etc etc. i would work in production, and get short term placements in factual/drama television and film and also get to do formal short courses. i would be taught production, assistant directing and location skills and they look after you well, i think. they basically prepare you for work as a freelancer and you are exposed to many different teams so chances for employment afterwards are high. i find out about this application on thursday - i was selected for interview and had it last week, so, we'll see!

thing is, i'm not sure if this is the right route for me. i really, really, don't want to spend 10 years in a production office just doing crappy admin tasks that anyone off the street can. i want to be IN CONTROL OF CREATIVE DECISIONS, GODDAMNIT! sure, i know you have to make the tea and do crap tasks in this industry but here in scotland everyone just gets so stuck in their ways - it's so parochial - that i know i will just be some glorified secretary or co-ordinator, not a producer.

so, i recently discovered a production masters course at the national film and television school in london/beaconsfield which markets itself as a proper "fast-track" way to become one; most of its graduates get jobs as associate/assistant producers immediately after. it would teach me all the skills the big bosses have, not just about photocopying and who a gaffer is and pishposh like the training course. it's two years. starts each january.

i wonder, if i get the training course, if it's the wrong decision? should i just go and try out for the masters? but then again, i haven't researched it properly, i haven't applied for funding. i think, if i get the training course, what would be a good decision is to take it [after all george clooney himself could personally headhunt me during those 15months] as the experience will still be worthwhile and it would also help me for funding/the masters application itself, and then apply for the masters after it.

i could visit their open day with the boyfriend next easter and it would be exciting and meet lord attenborough and we would figure out where to live in london! and then i would have two years of blissful education/professional experience again.

it's just the whole going back to uni thing - damn! i would feel like i'm taking a step back, i dunno. i know it won't be as it's a masters and it's more "professional preparation" but still. i have this awful burden of timetimetime pressing at me as suddenly i won't be young enough to do all the things i want to do - and i only turn 23 in july! but i think - hey, i might as well do this masters two years "late" then not at all. goddamnit, i should stop thinking of the "late-ness" factor [WHAT LATENESS FACTOR?!] as a negative - think of all the mothers who go back to university to be doctors for fuck's sake, claire.

er.. i went on a massive career rant there, oops!
the underlying fear is that i really want to be able to say, 10 years from now, "i am [blank]" instead of "i work in [blank]". sounds weird, but it makes sense to me.

good luck whatever you decide! but decide, regardless!

[mickill]

I agree.

[Nuzzolese]

I agree. And I wish I was so driven and decisive. I feel that any job I go for would just be for money and not for love. I feel that I am not trained or qualified to do anything, that I only have a basic skill in anything, no more than the average person. I don't feel like I've ever found something that seemed like a good fit for me...and trying out too many different things feels irresponsible. I have interests but they are like hobbies, no real talents or skills. I can do a number of jobs decently but what makes one better than another besides an absence of unpleasantness? I enjoy my life usually, I have a wide range of interests. I just don't really do anything impressive and probably never will.

Sarky, do you ever feel like you are letting someone down somewhere? Like there's something you're supposed to be doing, and you are letting someone down...but it's just a general sense, not something specific you were supposed to do?

[Planetary]

get a completely new job

get the most experience from life :)

[Freebasser]

Get a crush on someone rich and maybe he'll reciprocate.

No guarantees, mind...

[thegoodmrbrodie!]

dont do number two. that would be rubbish.

be a teacher. that wouldnt be rubbish.

[Sarky Devotchka]

I agree. And I wish I was so driven and decisive. I feel that any job I go for would just be for money and not for love. I feel that I am not trained or qualified to do anything, that I only have a basic skill in anything, no more than the average person. I don't feel like I've ever found something that seemed like a good fit for me...and trying out too many different things feels irresponsible. I have interests but they are like hobbies, no real talents or skills. I can do a number of jobs decently but what makes one better than another besides an absence of unpleasantness? I enjoy my life usually, I have a wide range of interests. I just don't really do anything impressive and probably never will.

Sarky, do you ever feel like you are letting someone down somewhere? Like there's something you're supposed to be doing, and you are letting someone down...but it's just a general sense, not something specific you were supposed to do?


yeah, to all of that. I feel like I'm letting down my high school counselors that thought I'd be super successful by now. and my architecture school classmates who thought I was talented and got upset when I dropped out of the program. I mostly let myself down though, because I'm not really motivated to do much of anything, but I know that I could do a lot of things. I feel like I took the easy road in college, because I was shy and lazy and basically just uniformed about what it really takes to be successful in life. I mean, I chose a liberal arts school so I could have more options, but I actually think I was limited because everything was so general.

I'm a jack of all trades, master of none.

[sab0tage]

I'm a jack of all trades, master of none.

Thats me too. Having loads of interests and not being ruthless enought to give any up and concentrate on one or two things has been my downfall so far

[Sarky Devotchka]

i made myself a nice cup of chocolate-mexican spice tea just so i could sit down and answer this properly for you, sarks, yes i did! [sips].

well.
first of all, i don't think you should ever go into a job that you don't really like, don't really want to do, or are only doing for the money. think about it - this is your life that you are talking about! i don't believe in having a job - i believe in having a career. a career that you want and desire and you don't hate getting up in the morning to go to. a job that isn't even like "working" per se as it is what motivates you as a person, ya get me?

do you like teaching? if it's what you are qualified to do, then you stand a good chance there. you could teach art and sell.
otherwise, i think opening yr own business is pretty cool. your terms. your products/services. your kudos if it succeeds. plus, as a young person i think there are lots of funding/grant opportunities out there for people to start their own enterprise, so there is financial assistance and help out there.
you mentioned that you didn't do what you "wanted" to do when you were 18 - hey, why not go back? why not start mechanical engineering?

s'up to you. having multiple options is very hard, but at least you have some.

i find myself in a similar situation. i think it's time to crack-on. how long have you been graduated for? i only graduated in the summer, but i think it's time for some big decisions in my career. [my career in that i know i want to work in film - and possibly as a producer, then director].

so, i graduated. i got a job, through my contacts, as a production trainee on a film called red road, which was fantastic. superb! thing is, films finish. three months and everyone went on to their next job. freelancers here tend to employ the same wee team again and again so it wasn't really a personal diss to me that i wasn't brought onto their next projects - it's just that they've been employing jane or whoever for the last 8 years and that's the way it is blah blah.. so, i've been temping since christmas.

i recently applied for a 15-month training course with the body here in scotland who distributes all the government money for the arts etc etc. i would work in production, and get short term placements in factual/drama television and film and also get to do formal short courses. i would be taught production, assistant directing and location skills and they look after you well, i think. they basically prepare you for work as a freelancer and you are exposed to many different teams so chances for employment afterwards are high. i find out about this application on thursday - i was selected for interview and had it last week, so, we'll see!

thing is, i'm not sure if this is the right route for me. i really, really, don't want to spend 10 years in a production office just doing crappy admin tasks that anyone off the street can. i want to be IN CONTROL OF CREATIVE DECISIONS, GODDAMNIT! sure, i know you have to make the tea and do crap tasks in this industry but here in scotland everyone just gets so stuck in their ways - it's so parochial - that i know i will just be some glorified secretary or co-ordinator, not a producer.

so, i recently discovered a production masters course at the national film and television school in london/beaconsfield which markets itself as a proper "fast-track" way to become one; most of its graduates get jobs as associate/assistant producers immediately after. it would teach me all the skills the big bosses have, not just about photocopying and who a gaffer is and pishposh like the training course. it's two years. starts each january.

i wonder, if i get the training course, if it's the wrong decision? should i just go and try out for the masters? but then again, i haven't researched it properly, i haven't applied for funding. i think, if i get the training course, what would be a good decision is to take it [after all george clooney himself could personally headhunt me during those 15months] as the experience will still be worthwhile and it would also help me for funding/the masters application itself, and then apply for the masters after it.

i could visit their open day with the boyfriend next easter and it would be exciting and meet lord attenborough and we would figure out where to live in london! and then i would have two years of blissful education/professional experience again.

it's just the whole going back to uni thing - damn! i would feel like i'm taking a step back, i dunno. i know it won't be as it's a masters and it's more "professional preparation" but still. i have this awful burden of timetimetime pressing at me as suddenly i won't be young enough to do all the things i want to do - and i only turn 23 in july! but i think - hey, i might as well do this masters two years "late" then not at all. goddamnit, i should stop thinking of the "late-ness" factor [WHAT LATENESS FACTOR?!] as a negative - think of all the mothers who go back to university to be doctors for fuck's sake, claire.

er.. i went on a massive career rant there, oops!
the underlying fear is that i really want to be able to say, 10 years from now, "i am [blank]" instead of "i work in [blank]". sounds weird, but it makes sense to me.

good luck whatever you decide! but decide, regardless!

ah, it sounds like you have a decent start on something at least! I wouldn't worry about being "late".