A Difficult Situation; To Be Or Not to Be, An Idiot.

[ToucanSpam]

Okay, I don't like to do this on the board anymore, but since some of you have actually put forth effort in answering my questions and tackling my scenarios, I figure I will give it a shot.


As the school year winds down, I'm faced with the dilemma of saying goodbye to some of my friends who live away. That itself is pretty easy; adios, I'll see you in the fall. However, this year I've had a pretty rocky relationship with one of my friends in particular. We both had very shitty Septembers and while I turned things around, she didn't. I spent a better part of the year getting closer and closer to this person, to the point where I sort of fell for her. Well, unfortunetly for your hero here, she's still stuck back in September when she was dumped and hurt bad. Our friendship has taken a nasty turn for the worst with a couple of fights where I have rather hastily accused her of being a wet blanket, and critisized her for being a bit of a crybaby when anything remotely bad happens to her.

Now, with the year winding down, we both regret the fighting and we're trying to get over that before she leaves, possibly for good. There's part of me that really wants to be a bastard and tell her to fuck off and tell her I dont want her to come back, but the other part would probably be crazy bummed out if she didn't come back. Hence my problem.

With the back story in mind, granted it was from a biased perspective, wat would you people do in this situation? Should I be a dick and simply tell her where to go, given the terrible roller coaster ride she sent me on? Or should I let it go and just do my best to be friends, even if it might be the last time I see them?

Is there even a question of what to do in the first place?

[Qdrop]

i wanna know what Sarky thinks.

[abcdefz]

Can't you just wish her well, and say that "if you come back in the fall, I hope we can start off again on the right foot"? Something like that.

[King of Rock $]

I went with being an idiot and look where it got me

[Ace42X]

Bah, don't be an intellectual whore. Stick up for yourself.

[ericlee]

Man, don't burn any bridges. She may be the one. Not all relationships start with a good start, not saying you will go out with each other but everybody needs friends.

[roosta]

There's part of me that really wants to be a bastard and tell her to fuck off and tell her I dont want her to come back,

i don't understand...why would you want to do this...i thought you cleared things up....?

[enree erzweglle]

It's not going to help anyone by being mean.

Be civil, wish her well. Don't have any expectations.

It's not easy to say goodbye to someone that you thought of as a friend or to watch a friendship die off.

[ToucanSpam]

i don't understand...why would you want to do this...i thought you cleared things up....?
Because sometimes I feel like I've been wronged and I do things like that. I'm just asking you all if there is no logic in that choice. Judging by your responce, I'm thinking there is none.

[enree erzweglle]

Because sometimes I feel like I've been wronged and I do things like that. I'm just asking you all if there is no logic in that choice. Judging by your responce, I'm thinking there is none.Yeah, but it's no good if you want to or need to talk about it and she won't or if she bullies you into feeling bad for bringing up something that's a legitimate concern to you.

You've probably got to deal with that stuff yourself (without her) because saying it to her likely won't do either of you any good unless you're both bought into things, you know?

[roosta]

Because sometimes I feel like I've been wronged and I do things like that. I'm just asking you all if there is no logic in that choice. Judging by your responce, I'm thinking there is none.

based on what i've read..none at all.

if your'e just saying it to make yourself feel better don't. Sometimes you want to say shitty things to people cuz you think it will give you a release...but if that's the only reason then it's not worth it. But if you'd be "bummed" (1) if she never came back..then don't say nothing of the sort.

its very rare roosta gives serious advice, so listen up. i am a man of the world.

1. By "bummed" i assume you mean upset, and not having a penis inserted in your rectum.

[cosmo105]

^hahaha

why would you need to tell her off? that'd be stupid and you'd look like a baby. just relax, whatever will be will be.

[Sarky Devotchka]

yeah, I don't really understand the problem. there doesn't need to be some sort of dramatic end to the friendship...if it fizzles out, it fizzles out. such is life.

[Qdrop]

yeah, I don't really understand the problem. there doesn't need to be some sort of dramatic end to the friendship...if it fizzles out, it fizzles out. such is life.

listen to Sarky.
Sarky knows drama.

[ms.peachy]

Can't you just wish her well, and say that "if you come back in the fall, I hope we can start off again on the right foot"? Something like that.
yeah, what he said^^^

[jabumbo]

kick her in the junk


if that doesn't turn her on, then you have no hope

[DIGI]

you gotta play it cool, man. just walk up to her and be all "hey, i really hope i get to see you next fall." then look down and be all "whoops!" she'll notice you're penis hanging out of your pants and appreciate your courage. trust me, dude. it works.

[ToucanSpam]

I understand what I should do now. Thank you very much, BBMB.

[Freebasser]

Have a wank.

[Auton]

a good, furious wank will do you good

[Monsieur Decuts]

u just wanted her and it didn't work and now you're bitter i know that feeling.

don't burn any bridges. Leave her wanting more...you yell at her andyou give her closure

[synch]

I understand what I should do now. Thank you very much, BBMB.
This post scares me considering that you posted it right after this:

you gotta play it cool, man. just walk up to her and be all "hey, i really hope i get to see you next fall." then look down and be all "whoops!" she'll notice you're penis hanging out of your pants and appreciate your courage. trust me, dude. it works.

[roosta]

edit : this deserves it own thread.

er, tell her you want to bum her

[ToucanSpam]

I believe that the immediate issue of the friendship is now resolved.


Roosta, why you gotta be a playa hata? Can't a fellow brutha get some slack, yo?

[ericlee]

so DIGI's advice did work then..

Awesome!