my friend's dad went missing 3 weeks ago

[HEIRESS]

and was found in the river last night

he's been ill for years and had spent the last 6 months not moving from her couch and some weeks eating only maple syrup from the jar

last year he took off and lived in his truck for a few months, when they finallly coaxed him to come home her brother had to hose him off in the yard like a dog and his dirty dead skin was comin off in sheets so badly that her brother actually threw up

he was on paxil but I know peoples moms who are on a higher dosage just to help deal with empty nest syndrome and such

people thought he was bipolar or a manic depressive but no diagnosis was ever made

more money needs to be spent on counselling and aid for the mentally ill

we live in such a disposable society where humans are thrown away like one time use bic shavers

today fucking sucks

[abcdefz]

...it's conclusively suicide? That's hard. :(

[Mr Films]

jesus

[HEIRESS]

they had a 5 day search when he took off because he was wearing only a tshirt and shorts and had no ID or anything and the temperature was still going below zero back then

they had helicopters going non-stop and dogs out searching but the last sighting of him was of a man matching his description crossing the train tracks and going towards the river

he was always saying "they are watching me" and stuff of the sort

sometimes he'd pop out of his episodes and act normal and actually hold down jobs

I dunno

this is two friends in a year and a half whose fathers have committed suicide

fuck

[Kid Presentable]

Fuck, that's terrible.

Sorry mon.

[Bob]

jesus, that's fucked up. sorry to hear it :(

[abcdefz]

Hopefully he's out of his pain now, but I'm sorry about what that means to the friends and family. It's very sad.

[enree erzweglle]

How horrible for everyone, poor guy must have had a really rough time in life. :( :(

[ampm]

some weeks eating only maple syrup from the jar

I used to eat peanut butter out of the jar with my fingers like Dee from "What's Happening."

[cookiepuss]

they had a 5 day search when he took off because he was wearing only a tshirt and shorts and had no ID or anything and the temperature was still going below zero back then

they had helicopters going non-stop and dogs out searching but the last sighting of him was of a man matching his description crossing the train tracks and going towards the river

he was always saying "they are watching me" and stuff of the sort
sometimes he'd pop out of his episodes and act normal and actually hold down jobs

I dunno

this is two friends in a year and a half whose fathers have committed suicide

fuck

oh man, that is really sad. I'm sorry. the watching me part sounds a little more like paranoid schtophrenia (sorry I can't spell), so maybe bi-polar wasn't quite accurate..or this devolped in conjuction with that.

I agree that more funding needs to go to treating mental illness and facilites that can house/treat them. Here in the good old USA, we have quite a few mentally ill people, but we call them "homeless". :(

[cosmo105]

^before the 80's there was a very low homeless population, only the odd drunkard out and about like that one guy that always ended up in jail on the andy griffith show

then fucking reaganomics dumped all the mentally ill out of the institutions onto the streets so people could save a little on their taxes and now i see dozens of people huddled up and shivering in their sleep in the doorways of shops on my way home every night.

LET'S HEAR IT FOR CUTTING BACK ON BIG GOVERNMENT PEOPLE!


p.s. shit sons that's horrible to hear. hope your friend's ok :(

[beastieangel01]

I don't know what to say. :( I'm so sorry.

[b i o n i c]

that is a tragedy and it really angers me to read. its true, the mentally are treated like trash and it blows. i know someone else involved in a similar story, minus the big police searches and that. im sorry to hear about this

[monkey]

im sorry that happened. it's so scary to see the really desperate side of untreated mental illnesses. my prayers go out to your friend and you too :(

[Planetary]

wow, that's terrible, must be really hard. :(

[Nuzzolese]

I'm sorry. That's a sad story for everyone. I feel so sad for his kids now. Your dad is the one who's supposed to take care of you. It's too bad.

[jackrock]

I'm so sorry, that's too sad:(

[g-mile7]

never mind the politics this is all bout the family and friends affected. I hope they are able to make it through this hard time, your friend is going need your strength and friendship even more now. Now is the time to show that you are a true friend and let her know you are there and her father is at peace. I am sorry I hope you know that, e-net or not, you have people here for you.....that for damn sure the real ones know this.

[CrankItUp!]

That was a very unnecessary and uncalled tragedy to have happened to a person in such dire need of help.

[marsdaddy]

Your dad is the one who's supposed to take care of you. It's too bad.:(

It's horrible to watch someone suffer with mental illness. I'm not sure anyone can appreciate this now, but maybe there is some solice in that he is not suffering any longer.

Be there for your friend.

[Sarky Devotchka]

that's terrible, I'm so sorry heiress.

[HEIRESS]

human services is picking up the tab for the cremation, little too late to be all generous with the aid

she has closure now atleast, Im so glad for that
the last three weeks have just been full of anxiety because she didnt know what had happened to him, if he was holed up somewhere, or had come to harm at someone elses hands
it was just brutal

she just doesnt deserve this, and she did all she could for him FUCK
poor Court :( (http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v88/HEIRESS/shat/courtneeeeey.jpg)

[b i o n i c]

poor Court :( (http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v88/HEIRESS/shat/courtneeeeey.jpg)

:................ .. . . . . . .(

[Freebasser]

:(

[ms.peachy]

That's such a sad story, H. I am truly sorry that your friend is having to deal with this.

I quite often wonder, when I see people (esp. 'older' people) out on the street, whether or not they have family somewhere who are heartsick for them but powerless to help, or if they are truly alone in the world. It's hard to know which is the sadder situation.

[enree erzweglle]

That's such a sad story, H. I am truly sorry that your friend is having to deal with this.

I quite often wonder, when I see people (esp. 'older' people) out on the street, whether or not they have family somewhere who are heartsick for them but powerless to help, or if they are truly alone in the world. It's hard to know which is the sadder situation.I've wondered that too, but in time, I've come to understand that sometimes you have absolutely no influence over another person regardless of your relationship with them. People think in terms of "where is their family/friends?" but sometimes family/friends can do absolutely nothing when a person who is sick wants to do the destructive things that they're doing.

I know two people who each were related to someone who had serious, serious problems. One person was a lifetime alcoholic with caring friends and family; the other person was doing something that caused him to lose his job/money/posessions and to become homeless and suicidal; he also had caring friends/family.

In the first case, the relatives did everything they could to save that guy, but it was hard because the only people he had use for were the ones who facilitated his drinking or who he had very "hi how are you" casual types of relationships with. If a person got too close to him or tried to get him away from drinking, he systematically pushed them away and after several years, they let him go and he was murdered outside of a bar a few years later. In the other case, the family intervened and basically took control of that guy so that he did not have access to money--anyone's money or assets--and they controlled him to the point where he had a "normal" life. He had to be given money in tiny increments and monitored & controlled to crazy degrees. He survived that way and did not wind up homeless, but wow. In both situations, the families/friends got their people involved with professionals and did everything they could. It was heart-wrenching for them all.

I guess what I'm saying is that sometimes the only way to fix a problem is to control every single move a person makes, and sometimes even then, some people still find a way to do the hurtful and destructive things they want to do. :(

[Randetica]

im sorry puppsie


on the board are some death and new life stories at the same time

circle of life i guess

[buddylee]

^
then fucking reaganomics dumped all the mentally ill out of the institutions onto the streets so people could save a little on their taxes and now i see dozens of people huddled up and shivering in their sleep in the doorways of shops on my way home every night.

LET'S HEAR IT FOR CUTTING BACK ON BIG GOVERNMENT PEOPLE!


p.s. shit sons that's horrible to hear. hope your friend's ok :(

he was a great asshole

[na§tee]

oh man, h, that sounds awful. i'm sure you'll be a great support for your friend.
i'm sorta useless with advise for shit like that so good luck.