I think this is what being devastated must feel like

[hpdrifter]

I told him straight out that I needed him and he didn't reply. I asked if he got the message and he said yes, I'm trying to forget.

Its sort of like throwing up. For a long time you just feel sort of generally uncomfortable. Then all of a sudden, you don't know when its coming, you just have to run to the bathroom and your body spasms. And then you go back to feeling generally uncomfortable for a little while until it happens again.

I feel numb.

[beastiegirrl101]

care to explain what happened?

[b i o n i c]

being devestated feels sort of like the feeling you get if you stand at a ledge when you're afraid of heights.

[enree erzweglle]

I told him straight out that I needed him and he didn't reply. I asked if he got the message and he said yes, I'm trying to forget.

Its sort of like throwing up. For a long time you just feel sort of generally uncomfortable. Then all of a sudden, you don't know when its coming, you just have to run to the bathroom and your body spasms. And then you go back to feeling generally uncomfortable for a little while until it happens again.

I feel numb.
:( Maybe it's too much too soon for him after his dad's death?

Some guys and their dads. When their dads die--especially if the relationship wasn't that great or had some bad history to it--those deaths are so often catalysts for other things. For this one guy that I know, his dad died and it forced this shift in him and he proposed (!). He, after some contemplation, wanted the whole family life thing--add water to enree and stir: voila, family time!! Maybe it's an escape, maybe it really is just a thing that forces a shift in foundation, a prompt to realign things. But I think the death of a dad or a parent in general, man, can really cause those sorts of deep contemplative jags, maybe cause you to disconnect a little.

Anyway, maybe it's that or maybe it's just a little too much to hear for him right now or in general.

Whatever, I am sorry that that happened and if it's any comfort, that's what Leia maybe felt like when she told Han and you can take comfort because that all turned out just fine. (Bad attempt to make you :) and disclaimer: I am not a SW fan. :p)

[cookiepuss]

for me devestation feels lke having the wind knocked out of you, unable to stand. broken glass. drowning.

[mickill]

If you want my opinion, I don't think he was really much of a catch to beigin with. You may have already known this.

[hpdrifter]

I just found out he was out drinking last night and that's why he wasn't responding.

Long story short

I've been going through some stuff with my mom. I called him to talk about it and he said he had to call me back in 5 min (he was buying weed). So he called back and I told him I thought that was wack and he got mad and said some mean stuff. We started texting, I told him I needed him and didnt hear back from him until this morning.

The text read: "I hope you're not still mad."

Now the question is how should I break up with him? Is sending an email to his work address mean enough?

[cookiepuss]

girl you pm me you phone number I'm calling you right now!:eek:

[Knuckles]

If you want my opinion, I don't think he was really much of a catch to beigin with. You may have already known this.
We share the same opinion...




















and occasionally the same underwear.

[Auton]

this thread has just taken a turn for the hot

[hpdrifter]

I have never wanted to hurt someone so bad in my life.

[DandyFop]

Now the question is how should I break up with him? Is sending an email to his work address mean enough?

I would take the high road as far as this goes....I don't think doing it in an email is bad because it will help you get out everything you need to say, but don't be nasty, because he probably isn't worth it. And that way you'll have no reason to ever guilt yourself about being mean when you dumped him (i've done this before, and used it as an excuse to be nice to the motherfucker later). He'll also have no reason to hit back with the same kind of bullshit.

[cookiepuss]

and when you check your voice mail you'll find that my advice is...silence. don't talk to him again today. don't go away with him this weekend. go away this weekend but take a girlfriend instead. don't take his calls (if he even bothers). take time for yourself and to process everything before you do anything rash. if on monday you feel the same way. break it off.

most of the time saying nothing...says more than words can. ;)

[cosmo105]

oh crap. i don't know a damn thing about your relationship with him but i do know that no one should be making you feel like this.

buying weed was his excuse for not responding?! yeah, i'm gonna agree with mike and andy here. doesn't sound like the best catch in the pond.

on a side note, the guy diagonal to me in the computer lab is totally wearing tootsie roll boxers and they're sticking out. they're bright yellow with the owl saying "how many licks." hopefully that brightens your day. and this too.

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[marsdaddy]

I have never wanted to hurt someone so bad in my life.You probably know the answers to your questions, then. Hang in there.

And, to what enree said -- nuzz said it too in heiress' thread -- dads have a special role in their kids' life surrounding protection. He might be feeling vunerable and testing those around him to see if they'll abandon him. But, that doesn't mean you should accept being treated like shit.

[hpdrifter]

Thanks guys.

I wish I didn't have to be at work. My sister was going to come for lunch and now she's not.

I wish I could just be asleep or otherwise unconcious (sp?) until this is over.

I have never wished so bad that the thing in Eternal Sunshine was real.

[cosmo105]

yeah, but what if you ended up forgetting him and then meeting again like in the movie and you guys started dating again only to end up miserable again? WHAT IF THAT HAPPENED?!


i know, i wish that could happen too sometimes. but all that bullshit about it being an important experience you learn from and you appreciate the good shit more and all that other crap.

[mickill]

Yeah, and what if it erased certain movies you'd already seen from your memory? You could end up renting things twice. It'd be a waste.

[Lex Diamonds]

Maybe it was all a secret ploy by Blockbuster?

[cosmo105]

Yeah, and what if it erased certain movies you'd already seen from your memory? You could end up renting things twice. It'd be a waste.
i can't imagine having to sit through the planet of the apes remake twice in one life.

actually, i have. i saw it in theaters years ago and one of my friends was so angry at the ending that he screamed at the other people watching it, CAN YOU BELIEVE THIS CRAP?! and then a few weeks ago i saw it on tbs or some crap and just had to sit through it again to laugh. when i got up from the couch i felt dirty.

[hpdrifter]

Yeah, that's true. God, I wouldn't want to relive it.

Hell no.

How sucky. I was so looking forward to this weekend. We were going up to Whistler. Now I'll have 5 days off to sit and stew about it.

Its just so wierd. It really is unlike him to be this mean. I never thought he'd be the type to react this way, he's always been the one who was more "into it" I guess. He wants to spend all kinds of time together, he doesn't ever want me to leave.

I think mostly I'm just really shocked that he's being this way.

[TAL]

Be happy soon again. Ok?

[hardnox71]

hp,

my grandfather told me something once a long time ago and I never forgot it.

One of the worst things in life is that nothing lasts forever.

One of the best things in life is that nothing lasts forever.

This too shall pass. Until it does find things to occupy your mind and your time. Sitting around dwelling on it is doing nothing but damage to yourself. You deserve better than that.

Chin up.



Now, I want to hear more about mickill and Knucks sharing unmentionables. Oooh-la-la!!:D :D

[paul jones]

sorry about all the commotions and stuff

[Randetica]

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that made me laugh :confused:

[TAL]

There was a time when you were away that there was lots of bunnies here.

[Freebasser]

i can't imagine having to sit through the planet of the apes remake twice in one life.

I still can't believe I watched Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind.