View Full Version : Well, it's been one week since the event and two days since the burial
ericlee
05-15-2006, 10:36 AM
Of my best friend. Him and his brothers are the closest of friends, closer than my real brother will ever be. Sad to say but true.
I've known Jer (http://portclintonnewsherald.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20060510/OBITUARIES/605100305/1023/NEWS17) since I was 9 and he lived in our house for 3 years because of complications within his family. Spent pretty much everyday with him till I joined the army.
The hardest part was over, the showing. That's not how I'll remember him. I'll just reminisce of the earlier days, I know that's what he wants and that's how I want people to feel once I'm gone.
Don't worry, this thread isn't a sympathy collection. I'm just stating that I've grown to except the fact that there's nothing I can do about it. I'm hurt but what's done is done and his brothers are taking this well too.
Kid Presentable
05-15-2006, 10:38 AM
I didn't realise. Sorry, man.
abcdefz
05-15-2006, 10:43 AM
What the hell? What happened?
"Died suddenly" at 29?
Randetica
05-15-2006, 10:43 AM
shit
sorry to hear
ericlee
05-15-2006, 10:50 AM
What the hell? What happened?
"Died suddenly" at 29?
well, there's a lawsuit pending but as of now, his Mom is still mending.
He was on prescribed anti-depressants and pain medication. Both prescribed. His doctor decided to change his anti-depressants and gave him directons on the proper dosage he should be taking since he's on 2 medications.
He followed his doctor's orders, was at work, started sweating profusely, went home to take a nap and his fiance found him in bed. Not breathing.
He had a fatal reaction from the meds.
Kid Presentable
05-15-2006, 10:53 AM
well, there's a lawsuit pending but as of now, his Mom is still mending.
He was on prescribed anti-depressants and pain medication. Both prescribed. His doctor decided to change his anti-depressants and gave him directons on the proper dosage he should be taking since he's on 2 medications.
He followed his doctor's orders, was at work, started sweating profusely, went home to take a nap and his fiance found him in bed. Not breathing.
He had a fatal reaction from the meds.
That's awful.
Randetica
05-15-2006, 10:53 AM
damn!
P of R
05-15-2006, 10:58 AM
So sorry to hear.
abcdefz
05-15-2006, 11:00 AM
well, there's a lawsuit pending but as of now, his Mom is still mending.
He was on prescribed anti-depressants and pain medication. Both prescribed. His doctor decided to change his anti-depressants and gave him directons on the proper dosage he should be taking since he's on 2 medications.
He followed his doctor's orders, was at work, started sweating profusely, went home to take a nap and his fiance found him in bed. Not breathing.
He had a fatal reaction from the meds.
Holy shit!
What?
That's insane.
That really, really sucks. And he had a family. 29. My God. My God. I can't even imagine what a shock that would be. My condolences. That's awful.
cosmo105
05-15-2006, 01:57 PM
that's beyond terrible, man. i can't imagine how rough it must be for you and his fam. death is a funny thing sometimes, the way it changes the way you look at your life...to rip off tnlol, it makes you realize just how permanent death is and how short your time on this earth is. big ups, g. big ups.
voltanapricot
05-15-2006, 02:15 PM
I'm very sorry to about this, fella. Still, you're lucky to have that relationship with his brothers where you can support eachother through this sad, sad time. Take care.
synch
05-15-2006, 02:25 PM
My condoleances man.
About the showing... it sucks... it's hard... but it does give you some realisation that it's all really happening. Death can be a very abstract thing in your mind and seeing the person (as horrible as it is...) can help you deal with the fact.
Obviously we all deal with it in a different way though.
Hang in there.
ericlee
05-15-2006, 02:46 PM
I just got back from his Mom's house, trying to be there. She's a mess, she's doing ok but still she's taking it by stride.
It's very difficult for her right now because if you didn't notice, his birthday was yesterday, on Mother's day.
My wife is playing a very big role right now and taking time off her work just to be there with his fiance.
Yeah, cos, you're right. It changes how you look at things. I've seen it too many times. I was affected, just slighty though because it was very expectant and in the occupation I've had, we didn't really call each other friends. Just associates because having special ties with someone with that kind of job hurts too much.
As said, this guy grew up with me and he's the closest thing to blood as can get. We never saw this coming but there's nothing that can be done.
I'm not religious but if there is a heaven then it's undoubtfull that he's already found his place there. He was a damn good guy.
g-mile7
05-15-2006, 04:34 PM
You know the real got you....never forget that man. You a good soul from what I can tell you will get through this just let us know whats up and how we can help sometimes just being there can be good thearpy
ericlee
05-15-2006, 04:37 PM
My condoleances man.
About the showing... it sucks... it's hard... but it does give you some realisation that it's all really happening. Death can be a very abstract thing in your mind and seeing the person (as horrible as it is...) can help you deal with the fact.
Obviously we all deal with it in a different way though.
Hang in there.
yeah, the showing was the hardest part but you are absolutely right. I needed that, everybody needed that because it was all way to surreal for the reality to take affect till that day.
After we saw, it was complete assurance.
Thanks for the support as well as everyone else. I do appreciate it everyone.
steve-onpoint
05-15-2006, 04:50 PM
My condolences. Take care.
hardnox71
05-16-2006, 10:41 PM
He followed his doctor's orders, was at work, started sweating profusely, went home to take a nap and his fiance found him in bed. Not breathing.
He had a fatal reaction from the meds.
First of all, I am sorry to read about your boy, man.
Secondly, I hope his family sues the hell out of the doctor, the hospital and anyone else that is involved in this first year medical school fuck up.
They should get all the money they can but it's not even about that. They should get the fucker's medical license. Have him barred from practicing. If they take his money, he figures, "Fuck it. I'm a doctor. I can always make more money." But if they get his license, too?......then he's got real problems.
far out dude, that's heavy.
condolences from over my way, bro
Sorry to hear about this. Keep your head up.
trailerprincess
05-17-2006, 10:14 AM
Makes me realise how small my problems are in the bigger scale of things, my condolences to you
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