I sorta had my heart broken earlier LOL

[DandyFop]

It sucks

LOL

it's a very long story that I'm sick of typing/telling. But let's just say everything was fuckin peaches untill a week ago when I started getting weird vibes (only been seeing eachother a few weeksish). He mentioned the weirdness today and we decided to take a break for a little while, few weeks, see what happens.

I feel like shit. I like him so much and he doesn't like me as much. I know this. I know if we get back together it won't work because of this. I pretty much fell in love with him last week.

I'm a little drunk. I want to call him but I took the number out of my phone cause I knew I'd be tempted.

He said he doesn't like the ball just being in his court, but I told him that's how it has to be, cause I just can' t call him. He has to do it. I know he will call. But I fear this is the end. At least for now I guess.

I'm very sad. I've been crying on and off all day. And nothing makes me cry.

I'll probably delete this in a moment anyway.

[Ace42X]

Dandy, he is gonna call, and it won't be the end. Just be prepared to be his booty-call number.

[ericlee]

nah, keep this thread. Don't delete it.

If you like this guy, you can make it happen.

Just call him out of the blue.

I dunno, you're cool and even if you're drunk, it may be the best time for you to call him, just don't make it too late.

Limitations man, fuck em'.

[Justin]

Message him on here.

Perhaps he would 'open up' more.

[DandyFop]

Dandy, he is gonna call, and it won't be the end. Just be prepared to be his booty-call number.

He's not really like that though. I don't know....he is a guy, I realize. But...yeah


Eric, I can't call him. It just can't work that way. I'm way too fucking insecure about it. Blargh.

[ericlee]

and here it is, the words "I cant'"

fuck those words. I've been living in a world of I can for too long.

I'll ask you this, what makes you incapable of calling him?

You really need to take "I can't" out to dinner and afterwards, fuck it with a 12 inch of "I can" in the ass.

[DandyFop]

I can't call him because I'm fucking in love with him and he isn't with me. Doesn't that make sense?

[Justin]

Love is stupid.

Except with sports. I love sports

[ericlee]

it makes sense but you two have been hanging out a little right?

Who knows what's up with this guy.

Maybe he's been hurt before and he's set his limits as to calling people.

I was like that before, finding some ladies and sorta testing them. It came down to this. If I want you, I really want to call you but my heart is mush.

Believe me, just try to call him. You're the only person stopping this.

Jooo can do it!

[tracky]

you don't really love him you just think you love him

i'm same except subsitute him for her

when are you gonna book that flight to adelaide anyway? i have to keep cancelling my bookings at the church

[DandyFop]

Nah I know it. I've only loved a few people.

Eric, if you knew the whole situation, you'd know that it's not in my place to call. Me calling and sounding more needy/desperate than I already am is NOT an attractive thing.

It'll be okay. The thing is, I can't blame him for anything. He's being honest with me, and we both know that it's better to figure shit out now than let us pretend nothing is happening for a while. Because if things end now, I'll at least be able to see him, and while I'll be sad, it won't be like I have to avoid him for the rest of my life. We run in the same circles, and that would end up being really lame.

[DandyFop]

when are you gonna book that flight to adelaide anyway? i have to keep cancelling my bookings at the church

As soon as I got some bucks

[hitmonlee]

dandy, i don't know if it helps at all, but i'm in love with someone who is not in love with me, and i manage to get through the day. i love him enough so that any time we spend together makes me happy. my friends worry about the day that it all is going to come crashing down, i try not to think about this day.

i'd probably call him if i were you, but i am a weak person with no willpower.

[monkey]

:(

a man that doesnt love you like you want and wish to be loved isnt worth a tear. easier said than done, but true. hold out for the guy that will love you the way you deserve to be loved. (i think beth wrote that once. i get it now)

[Nuzzolese]

What was it that got "weird"? You said you're tired of typing it/telling it, so you don't have to answer.

[ampm]

Nothing patches up a rocky relationship like anal.

[fucktopgirl]

JUst let the dude come to you!If not,well he can suck is own dick,ya know!
BUT when the feeling of love is not equal,it is doomed to hurt someone in the relationship.Do you want to be hurt?And you said that YOu know that he does not love you the same as you do!So,,,

Just drop this act,not worthy.YOu are worth to receive the same amount of love that you give!JUst saying!

[Knuckles]

I'm sorry Dandy. :( I know someone who might be able to help (http://pics.worldofautographs.com/ted%20lange%20isaac%20love%20boat%20(jd).jpg).

[Sarky Devotchka]

ugh, what a crap heap. I'm really in no position to give advice on such things. seems like you're doing the right thing by not calling though. boys can make you cry so hard sometimes, stupid jerks.

[cookiepuss]

He doesn't like the ball being in his court? what kinda pussy shit is that? I'm sorry but if you wanna be a grown up man you have to make decisions even if they make you uncomfortable. sheesh. I know you are heartbroken and that's normal...but me thinks you can do better than this guy.

guys who can't make decisions are not worth your time.

[DandyFop]

What was it that got "weird"? You said you're tired of typing it/telling it, so you don't have to answer.

Well, before it was like every chance we got, we'd hang out. But the last week it was always me calling him, and I had to actually say "so do you want to do something?", he wouldn't ever suggest it. Just last weekend he came home a day early from a camping trip because he missed me. So the change was odd.

As far as everyone telling me to call him, I'm not going to, but it's okay. He said he will in a week or so, let's just take a break right now and see where it lands us in a little while. It's only been a short time like I said, but it feels like more because we saw each other almost every day.

Also, I'm just sad and all of you don't know him so please try not to make assumptions about the situation or him. It's actually not that bad, we're both being very honest and that's all I can really ask right now.

[Nuzzolese]

If he felt like his space was being intruded upon and he felt smothered, then you're probably right not to call him. Maybe things were going too fast for him. There's always time. Even if it doesn't pick up again as soon as you would like, it doesn't have to be the END end. You could always give it a try later on down the road. If you're like me, then you get neurotic and flustered when things aren't going swell every single second. And most of the sadness and despair is out of fear of things going sour in the future, than it is about being upset by the current state of things. I get worried a lot, maybe you do too. It's hard to just let things take time when you want reassurance right now that you two are going to be married happily ever after and have three kids and a dog and great sex forever.

[Lex Diamonds]

I'm just sad and all of you don't know him so please try not to make assumptions about the situation or him. It's actually not that bad, we're both being very honest and that's all I can really ask right now.
Surely making a thread about it and making your emotions and the situation vulnerable to criticism is one of the worst things you could do then?

[DandyFop]

I was drunk and looking for an e-shoulder to cry on Padster. So go fuck yourself.

Nuzz, you hit the nail exactly on the head. The last week, every time we were together, I was fine, but when we weren't I was a wreck, thinking about when he was going call, etc. etc. So, yeah it's not necessarily the end, but at the moment it was happening it felt like such complete shit.

Thanks for the positive vibes though yall. I appreciate it.

[Lex Diamonds]

I was drunk and looking for an e-shoulder to cry on Padster. So go fuck yourself.
Don't tell me to go fuck myself. There's so much shit about you I could use in retaliation, but I'm not that low. I was just making an observation, sharing my opinions. No need to start with insults.

Play nice.

[DandyFop]

There's so much shit you could use about me in retaliation? I don't even know you. Obviously I realize people are going to give their opinions on the situation, but I was trying to emphasize that it's hard to explain everything and he is a good person. If your only intention was to say something like you did in your first post in this thread, what was the point? Did you expect me to get something out of it?

[Lex Diamonds]

There's so much shit you could use about me in retaliation? I don't even know you.
Er that was my point... every time you have the smallest problem with yourself or your life you post it up on here, then claim you don't want people's help or advice. I'm just saying stop being an attention whore.

[ampm]

I'm just saying stop being an attention whore.


Can I use this as my sig?

[DandyFop]

Hahahaha. Oh man. You don't know the half of it.

Have I even mentioned this guy until now?

I don't even come close to posting about everything in my life, believe me. And when I do post, I do ask for advice. This is just the time when I was trying to get out some emotion cause I felt crappy. Is that not allowed, your highness?

I just went out with another guy that I really liked that lived in NY and I never posted about that either.

Would you like me to list the various things I've chosen not to discuss on here? I bet not. So, ta ta for now.

[Lex Diamonds]

I wouldn't know what you do and do not whine about on here because I usually choose not to read it. However putting that you had your "heart broken" in the thread title made it seem like this thread could be something important. Too bad I was wrong and it was just another plea for internet recognition. I mean, if you'd really had your heart broken you wouldn't be trying to argue with me about it right now, and you certainly wouldn't be spending so much time on a message board.

[DandyFop]

So I guess your whole argument about me always talking about my life on here has no real basis, since you don't read any of it, right?

[Lex Diamonds]

Yep.

[DandyFop]

What would I be doing if I had "really had my heart broken"? Should I be watching sad movies and eating ice cream or some other caricature? You are also spending your time here arguing with me, and by the way, you won't win.

[Lex Diamonds]

What would I be doing if I had "really had my heart broken"? Should I be watching sad movies and eating ice cream or some other caricature? You are also spending your time here arguing with me, and by the way, you won't win.
You're right, it IS a waste of time arguing with people on the internet. Good job you realised that before me, and now you can go and do something worthwhile with your life like fix broken relationships.

[ericlee]

ok, I see now. I understand why you won't call him.

It may just be beneficial for the break between you too. You both can think of things to make it work out.

He said he'll call you and I'm really hoping for a thread saying the good news about him calling you.

[DandyFop]

Thanks eric :) You're a good dude.

I am worried about it all, very much so. But we'll see what happens...could turn out great, who knows!

[Planetary]

Nothing patches up a rocky relationship like anal.

ahahaha. nice.

[beastiegirrl101]

Thanks eric :) You're a good dude.

I am worried about it all, very much so. But we'll see what happens...could turn out great, who knows!


when you think about calling him, call me...I'll make you laugh.


PLUS I hear you have a sexy voice.

[DandyFop]

Laughing is seriously the best medicine. I've been watching Kids in the Hall today (y)

My voice is sooo not sexy. But I'll take you up on the offer anyway

[cosmo105]

:(

a man that doesnt love you like you want and wish to be loved isnt worth a tear. easier said than done, but true. hold out for the guy that will love you the way you deserve to be loved. (i think beth wrote that once. i get it now)
mm. it's very true.

[zippo]

just wanted to say good luck with you and your guy dandy...from what ive read, good idea on not calling him again, we crazy fuking women can go nuts thinking about shit they ponder for a series of 5 minutes per week. never let yourself totally go in a relationship cuz itll serve you well in the long term. men are men and women are women.

[ToucanSpam]

That's too bad that he doesn't like you as much as you like him, I know all about that kind of thing, from experience and from experiences that involved my friends as well. The only thing you can do is just, let him come to you, don't let him know how much you mean to him until he comes to you. If he's not willing to go out of his way to talk to you, he is not worth it.


Also, it really sucks to hear you cried. it really does.:(

[QueenAdrock]

I can't call him because I'm fucking in love with him and he isn't with me. Doesn't that make sense?

Yeah. I'm sorry, sweetheart. It does really hurt, and it does really suck. And it's totally cliche to say, but there is someone else out there. It's not what you want to hear because he's the only guy you can think about right now, and the only one you want, but it will happen. I loved Wayne soooo deeply for 5 years of my life, I thought we were getting married. When he broke it off, I was beyond devestated. If I can get over that and move on, anyone can. It'll suck. A lot. But give it a while. Cry your eyes out, curl into a ball and shut everyone out and sleep, that's totally normal. Just set small goals for yourself every day to stop thinking about it.

And remember I'm just a PM away. :)