men are ridiculous

[Sarky Devotchka]

seriously. cort's boyfriend broke up with her last night. never had a fight, they were perfect together. he just showed up and told her "I don't think we should be boyfriend and girlfriend anymore, I've lost the spark" and then proceeded to tell her "I love you so much" and it was the first time he'd ever used the L-word...while dumping her!

none of it makes sense. cordy is the best girl in the world. he acted like he wanted to marry her.

I want to kill him, I want to stab him in his fucking face. I hope he gets butt raped by an orangutan and that some sort of bug crawls up his urethra.

[bigblu89]

Wow, Imagine what you'd do to him if he dumped you.

[Randetica]

shitcunt

[Freebasser]

Coming soon, from the makers of All Men Are Wankers and Men Are Ridiculous...

Sheep Are Fun!

[Sarky Devotchka]

Wow, Imagine what you'd do to him if he dumped you.


well, I don't love him. it's easier to murder someone you hate.

when I got dumped in college, I screamed and cried. but it had a lot to do with the fact that I was going to dump him and he beat me to it. break ups are crap all around though.

this "lost the spark" shit though, who fucking says that? especially when two days before they were having sex all day and he wanted to have more, but they ran out of condoms. god I want to stab him!

[ampm]

seriously. cort's boyfriend broke up with her last night. never had a fight, they were perfect together. he just showed up and told her "I don't think we should be boyfriend and girlfriend anymore, I've lost the spark" and then proceeded to tell her "I love you so much" and it was the first time he'd ever used the L-word...while dumping her!

none of it makes sense. cordy is the best girl in the world. he acted like he wanted to marry her.

I want to kill him, I want to stab him in his fucking face. I hope he gets butt raped by an orangutan and that some sort of bug crawls up his urethra.


Did this happen in a middle school setting?

[Sarky Devotchka]

no, this is serious you jerks. she's a much more mature individual than me, they had a regular adult relationship with no bumps other than him suddenly breaking up with her. it could have something to do with the fact that he hasn't found a job since moving here 3 months ago, and that he's an insomniac.

I really can't figure it out. she wrote him an email with some questions and he wrote back this morning not really answering any of them other than to say it doesn't have to do with his ex. at the end he said, "hope all is well". uhh, all is not well, you fuck!

this wasn't supposed to happen. she was supposed to get sick of him and find him annoying and then dump him. my precious cordy does not deserve this.

[Rock]

Haha! I bet he wanted to have more because he knew he was going to break up with her.
(y)

it could have something to do with the fact that he hasn't found a job since moving here 3 months ago

so wait...they have only been together for 3 months? That ain't shit to freak out about....its only 3 fucking months.

I bet he has other poonani lined up somewhere.

[Tzar]

I want to kill him, I want to stab him in his fucking face. I hope he gets butt raped by an orangutan and that some sort of bug crawls up his urethra.
w00t! :)

[Qdrop]

seriously. cort's boyfriend broke up with her last night. never had a fight, they were perfect together. he just showed up and told her "I don't think we should be boyfriend and girlfriend anymore, I've lost the spark" and then proceeded to tell her "I love you so much" and it was the first time he'd ever used the L-word...while dumping her!

none of it makes sense. cordy is the best girl in the world. he acted like he wanted to marry her.

I want to kill him, I want to stab him in his fucking face. I hope he gets butt raped by an orangutan and that some sort of bug crawls up his urethra.

women can never understand how a guy can "just not be that into you".

he was into her at first. she was entertaining. it was good sex. he probably had doubts, but remained outwardly positive in case he was just scaring himself.
but upon reflection, he just wasn't feeling it enough....this wasn't somone he wanted a long-term thing with, and certainly not marriage.

and you can love someone and care about them deeply...but not be "in" love with them.

and fuck sake...it was only 3 months.

i've been in the exact same spot as this guy.

[bigblu89]

this wasn't supposed to happen. she was supposed to get sick of him and find him annoying and then dump him. my precious cordy does not deserve this.

Oh, so you're more pissed of the fact that he beat her to the punch.

He found her sick and annoying first, and that pisses you off.

Plus, if it really was only 3 months, getting over him should be cake.

For both her AND you.

[Sarky Devotchka]

women can never understand how a guy can "just not be that into you".

he was into her at first. she was entertaining. it was good sex. he probably had doubts, but remained outwardly positive in case he was just scaring himself.
but upon reflection, he just wasn't feeling it enough....this wasn't somone he wanted a long-term thing with, and certainly not marriage.

and you can love someone and care about them deeply...but not be "in" love with them.

and fuck sake...it was only 3 months.

i've been in the exact same spot as this guy.

okay, so why would he do that to her? why would he be the one who defined their relationship so quickly? he's just a plain old asshole? he said, "you're the best thing that's happened to me in a long time" and, "I want you to still be in my life", "you're beautiful". but like, "yeah, I don't like you anymore" what?!

it's just a shock is all. everyone thought they were the perfect couple. he introduced her to his whole god damn family! he said he wanted to take a vacation with her! like a couple of weeks ago!

whatever he's an unemployed douche bag who probably lives in a fantasy world. he portrayed himself as some sensitive caring guy, but really he's just an asshole.

[Sarky Devotchka]

Oh, so you're more pissed of the fact that he beat her to the punch.

He found her sick and annoying first, and that pisses you off.

Plus, if it really was only 3 months, getting over him should be cake.

For both her AND you.


no, I just meant that if they were going to break up at all, that would be my ideal scenario for them. cort is the antithesis of annoying.

3 months is short, but not when it was your first everything.

[bigblu89]

whatever he's an unemployed douche bag who probably lives in a fantasy world. he portrayed himself as some sensitive caring guy, but really he's just an asshole.


With the way you just described him, you would think he'd fit perfecty in that artsy-fartsy fantasy world you live in.

[bigblu89]

cort is the antithesis of annoying.

To you she is.

What if she gives really bad head?

That can get very annoying VERY quickly.

[Sarky Devotchka]

With the way you just described him, you would think he'd fit perfecty in that artsy-fartsy fantasy world you live in.

yeah, you'd think. except my "artsy-fartsy" friends let you know that they're assholes up front. I'm just sick of men shitting on people I love. and some of you are just getting defensive because you're men and I called you ridiculous. get over it. fucking pussies.

[bigblu89]

yeah, you'd think. except my "artsy-fartsy" friends let you know that they're assholes up front. I'm just sick of men shitting on people I love. and some of you are just getting defensive because you're men and I called you ridiculous. get over it. fucking pussies.

Fucking Pussies?

I'll take 2.

If you and your friends let the assholes know that they're assholes, where were you 3 moths ago?

[Qdrop]

okay, so why would he do that to her? why would he be the one who defined their relationship so quickly? he's just a plain old asshole? he said, "you're the best thing that's happened to me in a long time" and, "I want you to still be in my life", "you're beautiful". but like, "yeah, I don't like you anymore" what?!

it's just a shock is all. everyone thought they were the perfect couple. he introduced her to his whole god damn family! he said he wanted to take a vacation with her! like a couple of weeks ago!

whatever he's an unemployed douche bag who probably lives in a fantasy world. he portrayed himself as some sensitive caring guy, but really he's just an asshole.

well, none of us really know this guy...
maybe he is a complete neurotic nutjob.

or maybe he honestly DID like her ALOT at first.
or maybe he wasn't sure if he did....but just wanted to be real positive and impulsive when he felt a good thing between them.
and then maybe he was equally honest when he felt them fade.

and maybe Cort isn't as great a catch as you think.

fuck why do i care? i hate this section.

[Kid Presentable]

She's probably narcissistic.

edit: Women are always asking "Why?" Men are always asking "Who's Next?"

[Yeti]

Women never unceremoniously dump men?

[Sarky Devotchka]

well, none of us really know this guy...
maybe he is a complete neurotic nutjob.

or maybe he honestly DID like her ALOT at first.
or maybe he wasn't sure if he did....but just wanted to be real positive and impulsive when he felt a good thing between them.
and then maybe he was equally honest when he felt them fade.

and maybe Cort isn't as great a catch as you think.

fuck why do i care? i hate this section.

well, the first two parts seem about right. I dunno, I've been friends with cort for 6 years and lived with her for 4. I've never gotten sick of her. so I just can't really see why anyone wouldn't love her. if anything, she's too nice I guess. maybe he needs someone to kick his ass or something. who knows? it just sucks to see your best friend hurting so bad.

[Sarky Devotchka]

Fucking Pussies?

I'll take 2.

If you and your friends let the assholes know that they're assholes, where were you 3 moths ago?

I said the people I know are assholes upfront. HE WAS A SECRET ASSHOLE!

I had my doubts about him, mainly because he was too gentle-speaking and seemed like kind of a pussy, and I told her that, but she liked him anyway. also, I don't trust librarians or people who move around a lot to places like alaska just because.

[bigblu89]

who knows? it just sucks to see your best friend hurting so bad.

There you go, if you made that the point of this thread, it would be more understandable.

Worry about Cort being in the dumps for a few days/weeks, and not about how much of a dickwad the guy is.

And now that she's single, findout if her inability to give head really was the annoying part of their relationship.

[TAL]

And you have a party on Saturday to think about.

[Kid Presentable]

Sarky, you should climb into her bed and give her a cuddle. And smell the back of her neck.

[na§tee]

oh, men are curious. that sucks. sorry for cort.
but i remember 3 months ago you making a thread about how your wife was all loved up and taken away from you, hehe! now, you can have her back. but in a slightly crushed form. at least for now. i'm sure you will look after her fabulously. go for cocktails.

[Kid Presentable]

Awwww...

Kid P, you're as sweet as pie.
Ok, cool. I won't type the rest of my advice.

[TurdBerglar]

a buddy of mine as this habit of obtaining great girlfriends then suddenly just looses interest in the relationship. eventually he has to breakup with her for his own good of being totally not interested in the relationship anymore. meanwhile the girl is expecting to spend the rest of her life with the guy and is completely destroyed when he suddenly breaks it off.


for whatever reason he just gets bored and looses all interest and wants a new girlfriend. it's not like he's an asshole or anything. it just happens... and happens and happens...

[Kid Presentable]

a buddy of mine as this habit of obtaining great girlfriends then suddenly just looses interest in the relationship. eventually he has to breakup with her for his own good of being totally not interested in the relationship anymore. meanwhile the girl is expecting to spend the rest of her life with the guy and is completely destroyed when he suddenly breaks it off.


for whatever reason he just gets bored and looses all interest and wants a new girlfriend. it's not like he's an asshole or anything. it just happens... and happens and happens...
He's probably gay. Do you find yourself getting into his bed and giving him a cuddle? What does the back of his neck smell like?

[marsdaddy]

he portrayed himself as some sensitive caring guy, but really he's just an asshole.That's pretty much true for most people, isn't it? We're mostly selfish.

Sucks that Cort (and you) are hurt. At least now you have a good nickname for someone else -- "fear of commitment" guy.

Anger is easier to feel than shock, confusion, and sadness.

[TurdBerglar]

He's probably gay. Do you find yourself getting into his bed and giving him a cuddle? What does the back of his neck smell like?


no but i know what his feet smell like

[abcdefz]

no but i know what his feet smell like


...you're one of those!?

[Kid Presentable]

...you're one of those!?
Yeah, I know. What a depraved lifestyle choice.(n)

[TurdBerglar]

sure feet rock


i like to take his foot and a cheese grater and make this killer coating for cakes similar to shaved coconut.

[abcdefz]

Ok, cool. I won't type the rest of my advice.


Tim: "I'd never thought I'd say this, but can I hear more from Gareth please?" :D

[Echewta]

Do secret assholes carry an official badge?

[beastieangel01]

stab him in the jugular.

[abcdefz]

sure feet rock


i like to take his foot and a cheese grater and make this killer coating for cakes similar to shaved coconut.



Well. I'm sure you two will be very something together.

[Kid Presentable]

Tim: "I'd never thought I'd say this, but can I hear more from Gareth please?" :D
hahaha.(y)

[kaiser soze]

poor cort :(

I can't imagine how she would handle being dumped after a couple years!

pre-emptive suicide is her only solution :)

[Kid Presentable]

poor cort :(

I can't imagine how she would handle being dumped after a couple years!

pre-emptive suicide is her only solution :)
haha Toucan, wtf?

[DandyFop]

and fuck sake...it was only 3 months.


This angle of argument some of you are going for is truly lame. Especially when, like Sarky said, it's cort's first real thing. The time doesn't matter. It's more vital at this point because, it's when you readjust your life to include this new person in it. What if they spent hours every single day together? That's a lot of time to be with someone to just have it cut out from underneath you.

God, you must think I'm pathetic then for being upset about someone I've been with for a month. But, I'm not. What happened to me sounds eerily like what's going on with Cort also, just out of the blue. It sucks, and we can't help it that we have vaginas and actually give a FUCK.

Sarky I think it's great that you care so much for your friend. She's lucky at least to have someone like you there that can take care of her right now.

[cookiepuss]

what? this is bollocks!

this sounds like a scared confusion thing on his part. this same dude will probably be begging to get back with her in two weeks. moron.

[ericlee]

I bet he has other poonani lined up somewhere.

That's the same thing I'm thinking. Hence the "I love you" crap when breaking up.

He probably feels guilty that he's breaking up with her for that reason and by saying that, he's thinking he could patch things up.

[Kid Presentable]

That's the same thing I'm thinking. Hence the "I love you" crap when breaking up.

He probably feels guilty that he's breaking up with her for that reason and by saying that, he's thinking he could patch things up.
Keep her lined up for later...

[Echewta]

I keep hearing LL Cool J saying "its so ridiculous" when i read the title of this thread.

[ericlee]

Keep her lined up for later...

Exactly. Now he's thinking he could test the new girl and if things don't work, then he's got himself a rebound.

[Rock]

This angle of argument some of you are going for is truly lame. Especially when, like Sarky said, it's cort's first real thing. The time doesn't matter. It's more vital at this point because, it's when you readjust your life to include this new person in it. What if they spent hours every single day together? That's a lot of time to be with someone to just have it cut out from underneath you.
I didn't know that it was her "first real thing" until after I said its only been 3 months. That does change it in this case.

But in most other scenarios, I think the time frame does matter.

Yes, it is when you START to readjust your life to include the other person, but its just a start. 3 months isn't enough time to make that change, and 3 months isn't enough time to be set in the ways of making those readjustments so getting back to normal life won't be as hard.

Yeah it hurts and so on and so forth, but a 3 month relationship recovery time is peanuts (thats right, I said peanuts) compared to something that was more long term.

So basically, I'm saying "That ain't shit to freak out about....its only 3 fucking months."

[Qdrop]

This angle of argument some of you are going for is truly lame. Especially when, like Sarky said, it's cort's first real thing. The time doesn't matter. It's more vital at this point because, it's when you readjust your life to include this new person in it. What if they spent hours every single day together? That's a lot of time to be with someone to just have it cut out from underneath you.

God, you must think I'm pathetic then for being upset about someone I've been with for a month. But, I'm not. What happened to me sounds eerily like what's going on with Cort also, just out of the blue. It sucks, and we can't help it that we have vaginas and actually give a FUCK.


may i be so bold as to say....perhaps you girls should stop falling for guys so fast. particularly in first couple months..and particularly when you and the guy are in their early 20's.

NEWSFLASH: guys in thier teens and early 20's like to fuck alot of girls and keep thier options open as much as possible.
even the really nice guys who buy flowers and say sweet things on the phone and want to come home early cause they miss you.
yes even those guys.
they like to fuck alot. they have an innate urge for variety and impulsive mating.
shit, some guys in thier 30's are still like that.
yes, even the nice ones.

having an intense sexual/romantic relationship for a month or so (when you are young and in your sexual prime)...and then moving on does not make you an asshole....it makes you a male human.
this is evolutionary biology 101.
this is psychology 101.
this is "i've lived some life" 101.

the statistics of any ONE relationship succeeding to a long term relationship (including marriage) are ridiculously low.

you need to emotionally protect yourself.

thinking that you found "the one" after 4 weeks and some great sex and funny phone calls is foolish....and you have no one to blame but yourself.

you should probably expand you qualifications for being "the one" to include "has he been stable with me for a least a year?"...otherwise, temper your expectations.

^this isn't Qdrop being an asshole. that's just the truth. you can take that or leave it....but you are unfortunately gonna be smacked in the face with that truth for the next 5-10 years....whether you wanna believe it or not.

you can either understand it and temper your expectations....or continue to get your heart ripped out until you're downing 5 Paxil a day.

[DandyFop]

I still don't think that 3 months is that much to scoff at. Just because you've been in a relationship forever, you don't get it I guess.

that was directed at Rock, btw.

[Qdrop]

I still don't think that 3 months is that much to scoff at. Just because you've been in a relationship forever, you don't get it I guess.



umm....telling a married man that he just "doesn't get" a 3 month relationship is pretty naive....and just plain silly.

[DandyFop]

may i be so bold as to say....perhaps you girls should stop falling for guys so fast. particularly in first couple months..and particularly when you and the guy are in their early 20's.

NEWSFLASH: guys in thier teens and early 20's like to fuck alot of girls and keep thier options open as much as possible.
even the really nice guys who buy flowers and say sweet things on the phone and want to come home early cause they miss you.
yes even those guys.
they like to fuck alot. they have an innate urge for variety and impulsive mating.
shit, some guys in thier 30's are still like that.
yes, even the nice ones.

having an intense sexual/romantic relationship for a month or so (when you are young and in your sexual prime)...and then moving on does not make you an asshole....it makes you a male human.
this is evolutionary biology 101.
this is psychology 101.
this is "i've lived some life" 101.

the statistics of any ONE relationship succeeding to a long term relationship (including marriage) are ridiculously low.

you need to emotionally protect yourself.

thinking that you found "the one" after 4 weeks and some great sex and funny phone calls is foolish....and you have no one to blame but yourself.

you should probably expand you qualifications for being "the one" to include "has he been stable with me for a least a year?"...otherwise, temper your expectations.

^this isn't Qdrop being an asshole. that's just the truth. you can take that or leave it....but you are unfortunately gonna be smacked in the face with that truth for the next 5-10 years....whether you wanna believe it or not.

you can either understand it and temper your expectations....or continue to get your heart ripped out until you're downing 5 Paxil a day.

Why is it required that EVERYTHING is about fucking? Don't act like you know what the fuck is going on in other people's relationships Q. Because guess what - YOU DON'T. You DON'T know everything, you don't know the people in question, you don't know me, or cort, or sarky, or anyone.

Why should we have to adjust our expectations? Why shouldn't men have to be the ones to do it? Because they are male and should automatically have control over the situation?

I'm not an idiot. I didn't think I found "the one". But it doesn't mean that it didn't hurt like fuck, and it's not fair to assume that I'm the one who needs to fucking change who I am just to adjust to some little alpha male need to fuck some more cunts.

[Qdrop]

Why is it required that EVERYTHING is about fucking? Don't act like you know what the fuck is going on in other people's relationships Q. Because guess what - YOU DON'T. You DON'T know everything, you don't know the people in question, you don't know me, or cort, or sarky, or anyone.

Why should we have to adjust our expectations? Why shouldn't men have to be the ones to do it? Because they are male and should automatically have control over the situation?

I'm not an idiot. I didn't think I found "the one". But it doesn't mean that it didn't hurt like fuck, and it's not fair to assume that I'm the one who needs to fucking change who I am just to adjust to some little alpha male need to fuck some more cunts.

the next 5-10 years of your life are going to be very difficult for you then.

and it's nothing personal...i think you truly are a great chick.

[ampm]

Has Cort considered introducing anal?

[HotAndWet]

wtf is with everyone being mean? Her best friend just got dumped and she's upset, it's normal.

[Kid Presentable]

wtf is with everyone being mean? Her best friend just got dumped and she's upset, it's normal.
But, why do we care?

[Yeti]

When I was in college I would sex it up with a woman until I found a better one. I guess I treated women like cars. I would trade up for a better ride. One time I was riding a VW Van and next thing you know I was driving a Ferrari. Of course, sometimes I would crash the Ferrari and pick-up a used Dodge Dynasty.

[marsdaddy]

When I was in college I would sex it up with a woman until I found a better one. I guess I treated women like cars. I would trade up for a better ride. One time I was riding a VW Van and next thing you know I was driving a Ferrari. Of course, sometimes I would crash the Ferrari and pick-up a used Dodge Dynasty.Moral of this story: Don't drink and drive.

[Yeti]

Moral of this story: Don't drink and drive.


I never went to bed with an ugly woman but I woke up with a few:eek:

[Kid Presentable]

When I was in college I would sex it up with a woman until I found a better one. I guess I treated women like cars. I would trade up for a better ride. One time I was riding a VW Van and next thing you know I was driving a Ferrari. Of course, sometimes I would crash the Ferrari and pick-up a used Dodge Dynasty.
Bleurgh, I hope you never had to syphon.

[Yeti]

Bleurgh, I hope you never had to syphon.

An oil change every 3,000 miles worked just fine.

[Kid Presentable]

An oil change every 3,000 miles worked just fine.
Hold-up. I've never changed oil. Is that a euphimism for beating off? Or putting a tray under her and getting her to push? Does some guy in blue coveralls come over and say "She's fucked mate, but we'll do it for $250."?

[beastiegirrl101]

women can never understand how a guy can "just not be that into you".

he was into her at first. she was entertaining. it was good sex. he probably had doubts, but remained outwardly positive in case he was just scaring himself.
but upon reflection, he just wasn't feeling it enough....this wasn't somone he wanted a long-term thing with, and certainly not marriage.

and you can love someone and care about them deeply...but not be "in" love with them.

and fuck sake...it was only 3 months.

i've been in the exact same spot as this guy.


so then what keeps all of you coming back to the same girl, those of you who have been / are ...in long term relationships.

[Kid Presentable]

so then what keeps all of you coming back to the same girl, those of you who have been / are ...in long term relationships.
Them not leaving us.

[abcdefz]

so then what keeps all of you coming back to the same girl, those of you who have been / are ...in long term relationships.



What keeps me with a woman -- not that I've ever had any LONG LONG term relationships -- is when the woman is a friend and we're sanctuary for each other. The world's hard enough -- I want someone I don't have to be wrestling with all the time. Partners are supposed to be helpmates, and that sort of compaionship is nourishing and invigorating; I don't stick long with someone who is a drain.

[Qdrop]

so then what keeps all of you coming back to the same girl, those of you who have been / are ...in long term relationships.

maturity- which comes at differant times for differant people. it's difficult for men to stay completely monogamous during thier sexual peak years (17-26 or so). many MANY women who think thier 22 year old boyfriend is completely loyal will later find out otherwise.

interest in monogomy - some men, while recongnizing it's virtue, are just happier playing the field and keeping relationships short. some men are more comfortable with monogamy.

effort - if they are more interested in monogamy, some guys will put more effort in staying the course and remaining loyal. some will not.
this is THE hardest thing for both men AND women to do.

[bigblu89]

so then what keeps all of you coming back to the same girl, those of you who have been / are ...in long term relationships.

For me, and this may sound "piggish" or very "man-like", but I'm trying to say it the best I can...

After the whole newness and lovey-dovey part of the new relationship faded away, I still loved her being around.

Most "guys" aren't into romance and all that crap you see in chick flicks, so if a woman can still see the goodness in you after the whole "buying her stuff and not farting in front of her" phase is over, then she's a keeper.

It's kinda hard putting it into words, but sometimes you just know when it's gonna be a good thing.

[cosmo105]

sometimes a nice sleazy jerk is a good thing to have around (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MyslDEFl0Rc)


that's right, i put that video up again

you can't stop me

[Kid Presentable]

For me, and this may sound "piggish" or very "man-like", but I'm trying to say it the best I can...

After the whole newness and lovey-dovey part of the new relationship faded away, I still loved her being around.

Most "guys" aren't into romance and all that crap you see in chick flicks, so if a woman can still see the goodness in you after the whole "buying her stuff and not farting in front of her" phase is over, then she's a keeper.

It's kinda hard putting it into words, but sometimes you just know when it's gonna be a good thing.
That's a good way to put it.

[cosmo105]

if there's one thing i've learned from relationships, it's that you can't make someone love you the way you want to be loved. he/she either does or doesn't. there's not much you can do about it.



and that dutch ovens and tickle fights are way better than dramatic high-maintenance sobfests any day.

[kaiser soze]

that whole farting in front of each other thing is still gross

I hated it when she or I had gas in bed....bad times!

cort should try farting with someone else...it might be more fun

[marsdaddy]

maturity...
interest in monogomy...
effort...Actually, honesty is probably the key thing -- with oneself and with others. I guess each of your 3 are wrapped up in honesty, but honesty is the key. You really CAN'T have your cake and eat it, too.

But, believe it or not -- wait for it -- monogamy (and whatever else you decide work for you) is NOT the end all. Look at GEA -- one of the most mature, sincere, and honest people I know. His significant other is clearly not focused on monogamy. Despite your take on what that means, only GEA and those about whom he cares really matter.

[cosmo105]

that whole farting in front of each other thing is still gross

I hated it when she or I had gas in bed....bad times!

cort should try farting with someone else...it might be more fun
when your s.o. has an inflammatory bowel disease, it sort of comes with the territory. might as well have fun with it and make it into a battle.

besides, it's natural! who gives a, um, poot?

[Yeti]

that whole farting in front of each other thing is still gross

Are you calling my typical Friday night gross?

[Nuzzolese]

DandyFop, I like what you said about being true to yourself and your emotions and not wanting to change who you are and your style of caring about relationships. But I do see what Qdrop is saying about how opening yourself up like that brings in the bad with the good. Changing yourself to accomodate others won't bring you happiness and you know that. I mean, remaining so open like you are may not bring you happiness either but at least it leaves you with your integrity and honesty. Wouldn't you rather live a life of hurt and pain and being true to yourself than to become jaded and cold? I think YOU would. I mean, once you have found someone to love, a little intellectual detachment goes a long way, but changing yourself to accomodate one individual is worth it. Changing to accomodate what Qdrop says comprises the world of men, is futile.

[Qdrop]

Changing to accomodate what Qdrop says comprises the world of men, is futile.

it's not what "Qdrop says" sweetheart.

if you wanna believe i'm just pulling this shit out of my ass....go for it.

these questions and complaints have been issued since man could first speak....and centuries of introspecition, writings, and now studies and comprehensive research have gone into understanding why men and women do what they do.

many still choose to avoid such studies and generalizations...for fear that it de-humanizes relationships and induces a cold, jaded attitude toward the world.
if you think a deeper understanding of the human condition causes detachement, you must go about much of your life with your hands covering your ears.

generalizations of a large group are not inherantly evil....nor are they usually wrong (anyone looking to cram a racist attack or "Hitler" comment can shove it up thier ass).

i think it far more immature to prefer to pratle about and attempt to gain strength from same-gender make-shift support groups that delight in degrading the opposite sex, and seem to actually delight in anouncing thier un-ending ability to understand them...as if this gives them strength.

and understanding does NOT equal acceptance.
but it does provide a nice "work-around".

[cosmo105]

generalizations of any kinds are always faulty. i've never liked men r lame or women r bitches arguments. because, guh, that's not universally true. assholes exist in both sexes.

i think dandy has every right to be exactly the way she wants to be in relationships. when the right person to be with her comes into her life, then that'll be awesome. i don't think it's fair, though, to say that all people of one gender are flawed, though...i mean, fuck, we all are. sure, you could say that many, or even most women would care about this and that more than many or most men do, but nothing's true 100% of the time for 100% of the people.

it's not that men are jerks or that women let themselves get treated like crap and care too much too fast. it's that people hurt each other all the time. everybody hurts...sometimes...everybody cries...

[abcdefz]

OW! MY TOE!

[g-mile7]

it's not what "Qdrop says" sweetheart.

if you wanna believe i'm just pulling this shit out of my ass....go for it.

these questions and complaints have been issued since man could first speak....and centuries of introspecition, writings, and now studies and comprehensive research have gone into understanding why men and women do what they do.

many still choose to avoid such studies and generalizations...for fear that it de-humanizes relationships and induces a cold, jaded attitude toward the world.
if you think a deeper understanding of the human condition causes detachement, you must go about much of your life with your hands covering your ears.

generalizations of a large group are not inherantly evil....nor are they usually wrong (anyone looking to cram a racist attack or "Hitler" comment can shove it up thier ass).

i think it far more immature to prefer to pratle about and attempt to gain strength from same-gender make-shift support groups that delight in degrading the opposite sex, and seem to actually delight in anouncing thier un-ending ability to understand them...as if this gives them strength.

and understanding does NOT equal acceptance.
but it does provide a nice "work-around".

You speak truth, maybe one day the majority will listen.

[kaiser soze]

OW! MY TOE!

OW! MY TOE TOO!

jesus christ what the hell is going on?

[abcdefz]

Everybody hurts. Sometimes.

So hold on. Hold on. Hold on. Hold on.

[g-mile7]

when your expectations are:

Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will stay awake just to watch you sleep. Wait for the guy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you. Wait for the one who turns to his friends and says, "that's her."


and

Leave her cute text messages.
Kiss her in front of your friends.
Trust her over everyone else.
Tell her she looks beautiful.
Look her in the eye when you talk to her.
Tell her stupid jokes to make her laugh.
Let her mess with your hair.
Just walk around with her.
Include her in everything you do.
When she crys do whatever to make her smile.
Forgive her for her mistakes.
Look at her like she's the only girl you see.
Tickle her even if she says stop.
When she starts swearing at you tell her you love her.
Let her fall asleep in your arms.
Get her mad, then kiss her.
Tease her and let her tease you back.
Stay up with her all night when she's sick.
Watch her favorite movie.
kiss her forehead.
Give her the world.
Write her letters.
Let her wear your clothes.
When she's sad, hang out with her.
Let her know she is important.
Let her take all the photos of you she wants.
Kiss her in the rain.
And when you fall in love with her, tell her.
And when you do tell her.. Love her like you never loved before.


then you pretty fucked over espically when the guy you want might just be the one you view under the "friend" radar.

[Sarky Devotchka]

he actually did most of those things above. that's why everything's so shocking.

I thought it was a joke at first. I dunno, it took my ex and I like a month to break up. First he said he needed some space and that I was preventing him from getting his life together. We took a break, but he still showed up to my birthday party so people wouldn't think he was a jerk, and I got really angry. Then he up and went on a road trip for two weeks with his dog. in the middle he called and said that he loved me and missed me and wanted to be with me when he got back, but I didn't call him back. After several drunken bitch fests with my girlfriends, I decided that I didn't need him anyhow, but when he came back I decided to give it a go. However, two days into it when he wouldn't come to bed because he was looking at ebay, I decided it was over. the next morning, I said, "maybe we shouldn't talk anymore", which was pretty shitty of me I guess.

the whole thing was torture, looking back, I can barely remember the details though. we're friends now. we still love eachother, but we're not good together.

so I guess I'm saying that if you really care about someone, breaking up should be something you discuss and mull over a bit before actually doing it. especially if you know that you're the person's first serious boyfriend/sexual partner and had acted previously like you'd be together for a long time, you should have the common decency to come up with a better explanation than "the spark is gone".


and yeah, I'm sorry I'm generalizing about men. I love men, but sometimes they make a me soooo angry! actually, a coworker of mine had a girlfriend that dumped her, but said, "I love you and I want you in my life, but we can't be together". INFURIATING! man did I ever get an earful...I'm still getting earfuls actually. girl-girl drama is a mess.

[zorra_chiflada]

relationship farts rule.
toilet humour is deeply ingrained in our relationship.

[g-mile7]

he actually did most of those things above. that's why everything's so shocking.

I thought it was a joke at first. I dunno, it took my ex and I like a month to break up. First he said he needed some space and that I was preventing him from getting his life together. We took a break, but he still showed up to my birthday party so people wouldn't think he was a jerk, and I got really angry. Then he up and went on a road trip for two weeks with his dog. in the middle he called and said that he loved me and missed me and wanted to be with me when he got back, but I didn't call him back. After several drunken bitch fests with my girlfriends, I decided that I didn't need him anyhow, but when he came back I decided to give it a go. However, two days into it when he wouldn't come to bed because he was looking at ebay, I decided it was over. the next morning, I said, "maybe we shouldn't talk anymore", which was pretty shitty of me I guess.

the whole thing was torture, looking back, I can barely remember the details though. we're friends now. we still love eachother, but we're not good together.

so I guess I'm saying that if you really care about someone, breaking up should be something you discuss and mull over a bit before actually doing it. especially if you know that you're the person's first serious boyfriend/sexual partner and had acted previously like you'd be together for a long time, you should have the common decency to come up with a better explanation than "the spark is gone".


and yeah, I'm sorry I'm generalizing about men. I love men, but sometimes they make a me soooo angry! actually, a coworker of mine had a girlfriend that dumped her, but said, "I love you and I want you in my life, but we can't be together". INFURIATING! man did I ever get an earful...I'm still getting earfuls actually. girl-girl drama is a mess.


LOng as you know it isn't all men then it's all good.

[cosmo105]

relationship farts rule.
toilet humour is deeply ingrained in our relationship.
oh totally. when he tickles me so much that i laugh so hard i poot, and it frightens me, and he laughs even harder about it? that's the holy trifecta right there.

[zorra_chiflada]

oh totally. when he tickles me so much that i laugh so hard i poot, and it frightens me, and he laughs even harder about it? that's the holy trifecta right there.

haha. ok, maybe TMI here, but we classify our farts into categories according to sound and smell. :(

[cosmo105]

hahaha. what are the categories? do you have a scoreboard with dry erase markers?

[zorra_chiflada]

hahaha. what are the categories? do you have a scoreboard with dry erase markers?

ok well. joe or me will yell after a fart "oooh, that was an egg!"
or "that was a whiner!" "that was a poot"

we're gonna be doing this when we're 80.

[Kid Presentable]

haha. ok, maybe TMI here, but we classify our farts into categories according to sound and smell. :(
Then you send them to independent scrutineers.;)

[Sarky Devotchka]

okay, so the murder's called off. he called her and said he thinks he did the wrong thing.

I still hate him.

[fucktopgirl]

man with their hormones,cannot make their mind!

[g-mile7]

man with their hormones,cannot make their mind!


that's just someone in general...cant make up there damn mind (both men and women) if that was the case I woudln't be single (if she make up her mind)

[Sarky Devotchka]

I can sorta understand why he said those things when he broke up with her - you can still love and respect an ex and want them in your life.

"losing the spark" is probably hard for him to come to terms with as well - how do you tell someone you still care about that things have changed? When is the right time to tell someone that your feelings aren't the same? It has to be said at some point, and it's better to be honest than try to fix things and persist with a relationship that can only go downhill.
What if he had decided to take a different path, where he looked for ways to break up with her, instead of standing up and admitting his feelings had changed? What if he had cheated on her as a way of getting out?

I wonder what is wrong with women when this shit happens. Sure, it's upsetting to know that he doesn't feel that way anymore - it's natural - and it's confusing to hear him say he loves you while he's dumping you, but really, how bad is that? Would you rather be told he's sleeping with another girl, or that his problem with you is the way you look or act?

I had a close friend who found out her boyfriend was planning on dumping her. She asked him if it was true, and he told her that his feelings had changed months ago...he had thought about dumping her for a very long time (which is why he was taking his ex out to dinner, and not her). That, in my opinion, is much worse - she felt secure enough not to be bothered that he was meeting up with his ex, when in reality he was a coward who couldn't stand up and admit that he had "lost the spark".

Tell your friend that she should be glad that the relationship was great from beginning to end. The end might have been confusing, but it could have been much worse. Just keep supporting her - soon, she'll understand.



yeah well, she just left to go across the street to meet him for drinks at a pub. turns out he's been crying all day. boo hoo. fuck him. but, alas, they love eachother. too bad he lost all my respect.

[g-mile7]

the ones who have no respect from the outsiders are the ones the girl always falls in love with...at least it seems like this, untill more girls styart speaking out bout this and trying to change it this stereotype will remain. The power of change we have unless we just stand by and shut up and act like this is right.

[ericlee]

okay, so the murder's called off. he called her and said he thinks he did the wrong thing.

I still hate him.

see? This shit just sounds too fishy to me. I bet you anything that if you try to dig in for the reasons why he tried dumping her in the first place is because he thought he had another girl lined up.

It just fucks things up when people decide to say something like they don't want to be with them anymore.

I know for one thing, if I'm told that I'm not wanted then it's time for me to scoot.

[Sarky Devotchka]

see? This shit just sounds too fishy to me. I bet you anything that if you try to dig in for the reasons why he tried dumping her in the first place is because he thought he had another girl lined up.

It just fucks things up when people decide to say something like they don't want to be with them anymore.

I know for one thing, if I'm told that I'm not wanted then it's time for me to scoot.

yeah, there's no other girl. It had more to do with the fact that cort was sort of complacent. like I said, they never fought. he's also struggling with being unemployed and she's been taking up his job-searching time, and he should've said something but he didn't. it's all very childish. so now's the time when they have to be adults. turns out they don't really know eachother at all.

[ericlee]

hmm, ok. It just did sound kinda fishy but if there's no other, it's all good.

I just think that people really need to think before even saying something about not wanting to be with each other. It just drops the morale down way too low to even have feelings for them anymore.

[DandyFop]

Yeah, it's strange that he wasn't like "hey, something's up" instead of "hey I love you but see ya later!".

It sounds like he might do it again in a week. I hope not.

[Sarky Devotchka]

yeah, I'm scared for her. I fucking hate how people can just hold your heart in the palm of their hand. she's being cautious though. I don't know. I was really upset when she came out of her room earlier from being on the phone with him and said, "we're going on a date". I wanted to fucking puke. and then I cried, heh and felt stupid. we talked about it though. I told her that he broke everyone's trust and he's gonna have prove himself before I'll even tolerate him being around.

cort's like family to me, when she gets hurt I just feel like someone's punched me in the gut.

also I'm kinda sick and on cold medication, so I'm a little loopy. at work today I was really mad and delirious and kept writing things backwards. and this lady on the phone asked me to spell my boss' last name and I put like 3 extra letters in there and had to start over and apologize. heh. his last name is mack. ha ha. well, his fake last name. he gave it to himself. cheeky monkey.

[QueenAdrock]

Yeah, you'll often see men being unsure and breaking up and coming back. If he does it once and comes back, don't be surprised if he does it again.

Or they can just do the whole "I love you and you were the best thing to ever happen to me but if I marry you my family will disown me so maybe we should never talk again because it hurts too badly" bullshit. Cutting it off cold turkey sucks really badly, but in the long run maybe it was for the best.

[Qdrop]

just talk about the elephant in the room:

he's trying to bone another chick, but he's hedging his bets.

this has NOTHING to do with "hindering his job searching".
if you buy that, you're an idiot.

[Sarky Devotchka]

just talk about the elephant in the room:

he's trying to bone another chick, but he's hedging his bets.

this has NOTHING to do with "hindering his job searching".
if you buy that, you're an idiot.


okay, well, I don't think it was another girl. if anything, we thought it was the ex-girlfriend, but he vehemently denies it. according to his roommate (who is dating my other roommate), he's been moping around and he got real drunk with his best friend the night he broke it off. He wasn't like, "woo! now I can fuck that girl I met at the bar!"

apparently they just weren't communicating, they were sailing along as a happy couple, but not really discussing anything real...no intellectual stimulation. anyway, cort went home with him last night after the bar.

he gave her a card to give to me. it says, "Please don't hate me. Love, Jerkface" with a werthers original in it. a nice gesture, yes, but I'm still mad.

[abcdefz]

ok well. joe or me will yell after a fart "oooh, that was an egg!"
or "that was a whiner!" "that was a poot"

we're gonna be doing this when we're 80.



Dementia will be very, very good to you.

No so great for your hospice workers, but, you know.

[abcdefz]

yeah, I'm scared for her. I fucking hate how people can just hold your heart in the palm of their hand. she's being cautious though. I don't know. I was really upset when she came out of her room earlier from being on the phone with him and said, "we're going on a date". I wanted to fucking puke. and then I cried, heh and felt stupid. we talked about it though. I told her that he broke everyone's trust and he's gonna have prove himself before I'll even tolerate him being around.

cort's like family to me, when she gets hurt I just feel like someone's punched me in the gut.




Wow. Wow. She's really asking for it.

If I were Cort, I'd demand a cooling off period, at the very least; he's got five of his six legs out the door.