So I'm really god damn nervous

[DandyFop]

So, I thought I was gonna see my dude last Saturday at a mutual friend's band gig, but he wasn't there. (I talked about it in this dumb drunk post) (http://www.beastieboys.com/bbs/showthread.php?t=66380)I knew I would end up drunk dialing him that night because, yeah, it was just gonna happen because I couldn't handle it any longer (even though I had taken his number out of my phone, but I had it memorized somehow even though I don't think I ever dialed it before). So I called him earlier in the night when I was at least still composed, and left a message saying the show was fun or some such jazz.

I called him again later but we couldn't hear each other and he said he'd call back Sunday. So he called and asked if I "want to go get coffee or something" on Tuesday after he works. Sure. So that's tomorrow and I'm nervous as all fuck about it.

I have no idea which way this is going to go. It could be that we just needed this little break and now we're gonna get back together and see how it goes. It could be that he's thought about it over this time and decided it's now gonna work out, or vice versa. I've got no god damn clue, and I just want to fucking know! I'll be so happy to get it over with.

It sucks, after I talked to him I felt fantastic. I was thinking, yeah, you know, I'm totally fine either way, it's cool. But I realized I felt so fucking great because I missed him and got to talk actually talk to him for the first time in a week (seriously, we had the best small conversation, and it just felt so good).

I know, I know, bla bla if he doesn't want me he isn't worth it, bla bla, but fuck I hope he does :/

Sorry to be all blabby about this here, but it's all I can think about...I would ask for advice but I don't know that there's any to give really. The thing is, if he decides to not keep it going, it will suck because I'm pretty sure I know why it got weird last time, which is that I liked him so so much that I was all paranoid he didn't like me (I get like that) and it was kind of fucking with things. So I know that next time I just have to get over it. eeeeeeeee.

I need to look great though. Like...beautiful, not sexy...but without trying too hard. Hrm.

edit: Oh yes, I forgot to add...I'm fairly positive that if we don't end up getting back together, that we'll just see each other at some party in a month and make out/have sex anyway, thus perhaps starting it all over again. I realize this isn't the smartest thing, but sometimes you do stupid things if it means you'll have any way at all of being with someone.

[GetYourWarOn]

yeah, i don't really have any advice...but good luck:)

[CJM]

jeans, shirt, and zip-up hoodie.

[GetYourWarOn]

my advice wouldve sucked anyways. we're all better off that i didn't have any to offer.(y)

[DandyFop]

jeans, shirt, and zip-up hoodie.

I'm trying to decide if I should wear a skirt to show off my gams...don't know...I used to wear it around him all the time so it wouldn't be like it was anything too fancy.

[CJM]

skirts look good.

[TonsOfFun]

If I was to give any advice on anything just to stick my nose in where it is not wanted or welcome I would say...

...jeans with a good top (to show off at least something) - make sure they go tho. If you like to wear trainers then, choose them to.

I've met up girls who I wear casual to (which is the only dress code I know anyway) the girl wears something overly stunning and its for just coffee it kinda shows that one of the persons has got it wrong. Which can be awkward.

Which is what you said anyway. And then that advice is normally when you're at the beginning of a relationship.

I dunno. Ignore me. Good Luck all the same tho

*shakes pom poms*

[Tzar]

yeah i wouldn't try to be over-the-top sexy. just dress smart and casual. if you rock in attire that pretty much has "fuck me now" written all over it, he probably won't go for it. just be cool for this meeting... if another meeting gets planned out, fuck him! literally..(y)

[Qdrop]

I realize this isn't the smartest thing, but sometimes you do stupid things if it means you'll have any way at all of being with someone.

?

[HEIRESS]

^
I understand that statement of hers totally
fully
completely
all encompassingly

[fucktopgirl]

you seem to have an issue everytime you go out on a date on how you will dressed yourself!just dress yourself with some clothes ,man!

[Qdrop]

^
I understand that statement of hers totally
fully
completely
all encompassingly

it's less about "understanding it" and more about "why would you want to drop to that level..."

[DandyFop]

There's too many ways to answer that question.

T-minus 5 hours and counting...

[enree erzweglle]

it's less about "understanding it" and more about "why would you want to drop to that level..."
I see it that way as well. Sorry. I don't mean to judge because I know that it's hard. I'm thinking that if I did what you said, I would feel like crap about treating someone like that and treating myself like that.

[Qdrop]

TI realize this isn't the smartest thing, but sometimes you do stupid things if it means you'll have any way at all of being with someone.


it just sounds rather desparate...or even pathetic.
and it's not romantic to the guy involved...TRUST ME.

if anything, it quickly becomes sad and creepy.


you're ALOT better than that, barb.

[DandyFop]

I know it's hard for some people to understand. But, sometimes it's just the way it goes. I don't even want to try to get into explaining it.

[Qdrop]

I know it's hard for some people to understand.no, it's not. most of us have been EXACTLY where you are now.
the whole teenage "you just don't understand me, DAD!" thing doesn't apply here.
your situation is not isolated or original....nor are the vast majority of personal relationship issues posted about on this board.

But, sometimes it's just the way it goes. that's just the way people CHOOSE it to go.

but hey, i guess the best way to learn is through real experiance....not by taking advice from people on a messag board. so good luck.

perhaps years later....when you are wiser....you may still be on this board or whatever....and you'll see someone in the same situation....and you'll try to appeal to them...and they'll just tell you "YOU don't understand..."

full circle..

[DandyFop]

perhaps years later....when you are wiser....you may still be on this board or whatever....and you'll see someone in the same situation....and you'll try to appeal to them...and they'll just tell you "YOU don't understand..."


Yes, perhaps.

[fucktopgirl]

yea,it all about your choice.Do you want an empty relationship that rely on nothing but maybe casual sex?
Or maybe you wanted something more meaningfull?As long as you gonna choose meaningless relationship(in the sense that you know that nothing good will come out of it),that will leave no place for mature and worthy relationship!

Or else you know what the score is and you just want to have fun,so then dont take nothing seriously!ANd of course dont let your emotions be taking in hostage in this hopeless situation!

[ericlee]

It should work out just fine. If I'm correct, it was his idea to have a break from each other.

If anything, respect that idea. It means he wants to make it work.

The wife and I take breaks from each other at least every 3 months for 2 weeks to sometimes a month apart from each other. This way, it gives us time to spend more time with the families and also to have creative ideas on how to keep each other happy.

After the break is finished, we go back to each other fully refreshed.

It should work just fine.

[ampm]

This guy better run to the hills like iron maiden!

[DandyFop]

Fah! Hasn't called yet. Call call call call call!

[marsdaddy]

I think she is "sowing her seeds" as it were. Doesn't mean she is "sinking to a level" so much as she is figuring out how she wants to be treated, exactly.

[DandyFop]

Eeee. Sorry I know none of you care, but he just called. We're gonna meet in a few hours because he's exhausted from work and needs a nap.

We're meeting at a coffee shop, and me being the girly overanalyzer, am a little worried about the choice because we've never just met somewhere. He comes to get me or I go meet him at his place. I can't can't can't start crying this time especially if it's in public. Whew.

[voltanapricot]

/comfort

[DandyFop]

So we just saw each other and it was still pretty damn ambiguous. We didn't really talk about "us", because we were at a coffee shop surrounded by other people. He looked so good :/

We went back to ours cars and I was like so...what's going on...with this? He said he was scared that the same thing would just happen all over again, that it would be great for a few weeks and then something would go wrong. I said, well I think I knew what happened before, just that I was being freaked out for no reason and yeah it was just kind of left at that.

I told my mom this and she's like "that's good!". I said "no mom, it's not. If he wanted to be with me, he would say it". It's true, I know. But it's still kind of ambiguous and I can't fucking handle stuff like that. So I called him and left a message (I knew he wouldn't answer because he wasn't home) and said that I knew what I wanted to say and I just needed to get it out there to make sure I know what's going on. He told me earlier that he didn't have plans tonight, so I'm hoping I can just come over and tell him what I wanted to say, which was that I think we had enough going to give it another shot, and that we'll be able to tell pretty soon whether it's going to work or not I believe. If he says no to that, at least I'll know for sure. I just can't handle this up in the air shit.

Or should I leave it alone? I guess I already made the phone call so I can't really take that back...but I've never been one to stand for wishy-washy bullshit.

[Tzar]

man, this is confusing.
i'm pretty similar when it comes to relationships; i hate sitting on my fuckin' hands and waiting. how fuckin' hard is it for the other person to say "yes i wanna be with you" or "nah i don't want".

[DandyFop]

I know, dude. So lame. That's why I'm just gonna cut straight to the punch, methinks.

And then, as I told cos, we'll make out and there will be rainbows and unicorns and (as she says) Stephen Colbert will dance in a sarong on my front lawn.

:/

[ericlee]

I know, dude. So lame. That's why I'm just gonna cut straight to the punch, methinks.

And then, as I told cos, we'll make out and there will be rainbows and unicorns and (as she says) Stephen Colbert will dance in a sarong on my front lawn.

:/

pixplsthx. Not of you guys making out but, the other stuff.

[DandyFop]

Wellll...

I went over there to kinda try to clear the air and just tell him that I kinda needed to know what was up either way. Eventually it was a "I donno" thing, and we both knew that it wasn't good that he was having this hesitation.

So I was like, well alright I'll finish this beer and go. And then he said, well I kinda don't want you to....mostly just because neither of us had anything to do so we might as well hang out right?

It was extremely odd though, we watched a movie, and it was the first time where we weren't cuddling or something like that. But we were sitting really close, and I was pretty sure I could feel the sexual tension vibes. But I didn't make any moves. I don't know though, before I knew it we were giving each other these intense looks. And the movie ended. He kissed me. and...yeah. The night ended well :)

And leaving, I felt like I just was like "alright, cool". As though, I knew that might be the end of it, and I was okay with that, at least knowing it might be the end (though who am I kidding, it probably won't be). But I didn't feel a need to stay, or anything, it just felt different...like I feel like I won't be all freaking out untill he calls me. I don't know. Maybe that's just how I feel tonight.

[Tzar]

that's all cool and stuff, but do you feel as if you're back at square one?
i mean, you hooked up and stuff but from what you've just told us, he didn't really say anything. he just sorta gave you the idea that everything is 'ok'.
you even said so just then, it's probably not the end of it all.

it took me, like, 4 times to read through that last paragraph for it to make sense to me. not your fault though.

[DandyFop]

I don't know...it was interesting. He was saying something about how he'd missed me so much earlier in the week and had wanted to call me :confused:
But regardless, there's a different vibe now, I believe. I don't know how to explain it...but I think everything's gonna be good whether we stay together or not.

[DandyFop]

OKay, to anyone who read about this lameness, it's all good now. He kinda backtracked and was like "I'm dumb. I'm sorry". I said as long as we're okay now, if that needed to happen (the break we took), I'm alright.

Yay :)

Thanks for the positive vibes, those who sent them (y)

[ericlee]

I posted this in the first thread that you've made about this guy:

He said he'll call you and I'm really hoping for a thread saying the good news about him calling you.

mission complete, good job m'lady(y)

*tips hat*