I dislike

[beastieangel01]

when you are mad at the person you live with and share a bed with. Especially if you are angry right at bed time.

It makes me stay up all night because I cannot stand being next to the person if they are going to insist on keeping up a fight with anything I try to say or do.

[zorra_chiflada]

resolve it before you go to sleep. i'm serious. if you're having an argument with someon you're close to, you should resolve it as soon as possible. even if you're certain that they're in the wrong, its worth to just say "sorry, i got mad at you." this will probably give them the opportunity to apologise too, and then you can talk over things. and then you can have makeup sex.

[Kid Presentable]

I lie on the floor. Usually makes it worse. Then we have makeup sex.

[beastieangel01]

resolve it before you go to sleep. i'm serious. if you're having an argument with someon you're close to, you should resolve it as soon as possible. even if you're certain that they're in the wrong, its worth to just say "sorry, i got mad at you." this will probably give them the opportunity to apologise too, and then you can talk over things. and then you can have makeup sex.

Yeah this is how I feel too about these types of situation.

I said I was sorry and tried to get him to turn over (his back was to me). He just peered over and said "I'm comfortable"

then ignored me :/

[zorra_chiflada]

Yeah this is how I feel too about these types of situation.

I said I was sorry and tried to get him to turn over (his back was to me). He just peered over and said "I'm comfortable"

then ignored me :/

ah geez. that's more difficult. in that case, it is often better to just leave it, and try to sleep. it is very likely they'll feel better in the morning.

[beastieangel01]

I just hate sleeping next to the person that is ignoring me. Hence I'm awake and away ;/ I may become sleepy enough soon though to return.

I'm sure I've been a jerk like that too before, though.

[zorra_chiflada]

I just hate sleeping next to the person that is ignoring me. Hence I'm awake and away ;/ I may become sleepy enough soon though to return.

I'm sure I've been a jerk like that too before, though.

yeah, i know, i've been in similar situations (most of the time i'm in the wrong) but thinking it over and stuff makes me feel worse. you just gotta do your best to forget about it, and remember that they'll feel better in the morning.

[hitmonlee]

we have a spare bed in the loft. i've had to use it once. was too late to resolve anything. i needed sleep.

[Echewta]

If he ignores you instead of trying to deal with the issue before going to sleep, go back out into the front room and watch tv and laugh really loudly.

[Freebasser]

I hate make-up sex.

Mascara gets everywhere.

[na§tee]

that's pretty crappy, c.
obviously, as has already been mentioned, it's much better to resolve it before you share a bed. otherwise be prepared for much teeth-grinding action and tense muscle-age.
if he's not open to conversation and is being a big pooh-pooh head about things i normally make it very clear that i shall not be having any of this nonsense and either
a) chuck him out of the bed - depending on whose bed it is, of course. i would only do it if the bed was mine. and say something along the lines of "well if you're not prepared to talk like an adult and let me go to sleep peacefully in my own bed GETTHEHELLOUTTAHERE!"
b) remove yourself from the situation and sleep somewhere else, quietly
c) remove yourself from the situation and stay awake somewhere else, loudly and angrily.

[Nuzzolese]

No no, that just makes it worse. Sometimes a person is angry but not angry enough to leave, they just want to be left in peace for a few hours. They'll feel better in the morning, they may even feel better before morning. Leaving or kicking them out ruins any chance of that. But I guess it depends on how bad the fight is. If you apologize and they won't accept it, don't kick them out I say. I say give them some more time to lie there next to you at least. Leaving might even make them more angry.

[enree erzweglle]

In time, you get to this point where you know which arguments are worth having and which aren't. You know? I think most of the arguments I've had in my long-term relationships were over silly, avoidable things and that "don't go to bed angry" advice really just gave me circles under the eyes--that staying up stuff usually just made us both tired after we'd get into circular/tangential arguments.

For the silly types of arguments, you'll get to a point where you recognize each other's trends--you'll realize that you're pushing buttons or that he's pushing buttons or that one of you is tired, or upset or stressed about something else. Those things, you'll learn to ignore or at least recognize for what they are and that'll help you to do the right thing.

This stuff takes time and practice and you both have to be bought into it all.

When I can't let something go as easily as I should, the best thing for me, I swear, is to take a long walk. Not where there are shops and consumery sorts of distractions. Doesn't have to be a zen garden, but something that's not going to tempt you away from walking. Anything >30-40 minutes seems to clear my head of the crap and helps me distill things back to the root problem.

For me, the trick to that is to try not to dwell on the problem during the walk because it seems that when I've gotten my mind away from the problem is usually exactly when a solution to that problem pops into my head or when I feel peace about it. It's like I'll start out walking and I'll be upset and I'll be doing a sort of replay of the argument and maybe after a mile or two, I might stop to notice something in someone's yard or some bug, something or on the street, I might start to talk to someone and that's totally when the bad stuff drains away and some solution usually replaces it and it's weird sounding, yes, but it's absolutely predictable for me. Sometimes the solution that I get is this: enree, go back and apologize because you were wrong.

[marsdaddy]

Put a body pillow between you and him. Get a deep, meditative sleep.

[beastiegirrl101]

never go to bed angry....it makes for crazy dreams.

[drizl]

i cant stand fighting with my girlfriend, id voluntarily go to the couch. she'd kick my ass in a second.:(

[adam_f]

I dislike bed bugs. A lot.

[alexandra]

i bet the thread title was "i hate" at first, but then you [beastieangel01] realized that it's not so bad after all.

i like having physical fights with my dude, 'cause i always hit harder, no matter how angry he seems. he still doesn't wanna hurt me.

[enree erzweglle]

I hate (hate) this. Where my kid is at right now, I can send handwritten letters to him, but I cannot send articles and certainly, I cannot send books. Which is making him crazy. I have this one long chapter in a book that I'm reading that I know he'd enjoy, so I am copying it by hand and when I say "copying it by hand" I mean that I am reading a phrase in the text and then I'm using a pen to write that phrase word-for-word onto sheets of looseleaf paper. God, I should use a quill and ink on parchment.

So I basically hate 1) the army and 2) that my writer's lump is returning because with the advent of computers and printers, that thing had basically atrophied to flatness.

[beastieangel01]

i bet the thread title was "i hate" at first, but then you [beastieangel01] realized that it's not so bad after all.

i like having physical fights with my dude, 'cause i always hit harder, no matter how angry he seems. he still doesn't wanna hurt me.

it wasn't hate at all. Hate was too much of a strong word for this situation.

Anyways, he stopped being a dumb head. No worries. I just really dislike anytime this happens. Not that it's the end of the world, but still, it's no fun. I rather sleep next to my lover without us being angry at each other.

[cosmo105]

we made a pact a long time ago to never go to bed angry. sometimes it means being up until the wee hours hashing it all out, but i can't imagine going to bed still upset. i think it works.

[little j]

sometimes you cant help but be angry right before bed. If i really cant sleep because im still mad but he's not...i'll go to the couch maybe cry a little and then sleep like a baby. these nights generally happen when im pmsy...

luckily my couch is super comfy.