The sad true sucks!

[miss soul fire]

I hate those people who say it in front of you!!!!

Like today, this girl said to me "Oh, you gained weight! You looked so skinny a few months ago! And I don't understand it, you don't eat anything!"

Just because I don't eat much in front of people it doesn't mean I don't eat a lot when I come back home, plus we rarely see each other so she wouldn't know how much I eat.

But it does suck! I already knew I had gained some weight and that I needed to lose it, but when somebody else says it...well, it's terrible!(n)

[enree erzweglle]

Ah, just try to ignore that person because they're maybe unthinking/uncaring and you're not and who's ahead when you see it like that. (They have more to learn in that regard than you do--not to belittle them, but to put it into a different perspective.)

It's funny how people associate skinny with goodness. They assume maybe because they have trouble keeping weight off or losing it that it's a good thing when another person loses weight.

I work with a young woman who is fighting cancer. Right now, she's in experimental therapy, the sort of last hope for her. When she's in remission, she tends to be kind of squishy. Not fat at all but not stick bony. Anyway, people who don't know about her cancer will see her, when she's in therapy and she's lost a lot of weight and they'll say YOU'VE LOST SO MUCH WEIGHT! YOU LOOK GREAT!! and they absolutely don't read her expression to see how much that hurts her.