when a woman proposes marriage...

[cookiepuss]

Ladies- have any of you done this or considered doing it? know someone who has?
Guys- How do you feel about woman proposing? would you rather be the one to do it? For those of you who are married...was it you or her who did the asking?

[Waus]

I don't think it's wrong for the girl to ask, but I do have some (PC 'outdated') views that make me think that the guy should generally be a sort of leader.

Women tend to question the relationship more (in my experience), and it seems to me that the guy not having asked her first would lead to some uncertainty that could be damaging to the relationship further down the line.

[kaiser soze]

I don't care...I think it would be easier and cheaper if she bought herself the ring!

[cookiepuss]

I've never ever seen myself as the asking type. but today I was thinking about it and I kinda wanted to. so yeah I wanna hear opinions, good bad or ugly.


i'm a huge puss though so kinda doubt I'll be the one to do the asking.

[beastiegirrl101]

my aunt asked my uncle....and everyone in my family still tries to fit it into a joke at every holiday party.

[fucktopgirl]

I don't care...I think it would be easier and cheaper if she bought herself the ring!

hahaha

i think that it does not matter who ask, they will have to pay together for it so...

[bigblu89]

Of the married couples I know, the guy has asked.

At the time I asked my wife, if it was the other way around, I would've said yes.

[cookiepuss]

it's not like we haven't talked about it. we have. I think he wants to be he one to do it though. and he wants to be able to get me the ring I want and stuff like that, which is why he hasn't asked yet. but I want to elope anyway and I'm almost thinking lets do this, buy me the diamond later. I guess that's where I'm coming from.

but since i suspect that he would prefer to be the asker I should just sit tight. because it would be terrible if it made him feel bad because i asked first.

[kll]

I had a girl friend who was starting to feel desperate that her b/f wasn't going to propose. She was feeling the baby clock ticking and really want to get the commitment. She considered buying him a ring and proposing, but ended up taking her b/f to the bank where she opened up a joint safe-deposit box. In it, she put her grandmother's diamond ring and told him that should he feel the need to "pop the question", he just needed to take the ring out of the box. She figured it would speed up the process by giving him the ring, so he didn't have to save up for it -or at least use that as his excuse.

[b i o n i c]

this would be my dream girl to do something like that.

[b i o n i c]

KLL did that work for yer friend?

[cookiepuss]

^that's interesting.

but my baby clock is not ticking. I threw my biological clock down a flight of stairs and it doesn't keep time anymore. no babies=me happy:D

no I think I'm just coming to the realization that I'm ready to get married. I wasn't before, and I'm still not in a hurry but it is something I want to do.

so KLL, what's the best wedding chappel in Tahoe? just for future reference.

[b i o n i c]

i dont think i represent most guys but if a woman proposed to me i think i'd HAVE to marry her

[cookiepuss]

^ bionic is a sure thing. slut.

[b i o n i c]

listen here, hooker.... she'd have to be someone who i was dating for a while, i thought was understood.

(i am a slut though)

[g-mile7]

this would be my dream girl to do something like that.


sounds too good to be true'

[kll]

KLL did that work for yer friend?

it did! the fucker got off without having to pay for a diamond, but after the proposal, he did pay to have it reset in a setting of her choice...

it took him about 4 months after they set up the box to actually propose and a lot of will power on her part to not look to see if it was missing...

[kll]

^that's interesting.

but my baby clock is not ticking. I threw my biological clock down a flight of stairs and it doesn't keep time anymore. no babies=me happy:D

no I think I'm just coming to the realization that I'm ready to get married. I wasn't before, and I'm still not in a hurry but it is something I want to do.

so KLL, what's the best wedding chappel in Tahoe? just for future reference.


ha! i can't help you out with chapels... only actual sites. oddly enough, with all the wedding chapels availabe to us 24/7, i've only known and attended weddings on the lake in the outdoors either at private lakefront homes or at the beach...

[ericlee]

my wife did the proposing. We both knew it was on our minds but she figured since my previous marriage was a disaster, I'd be too afraid to propose.

[cookiepuss]

my wife did the proposing. We both knew it was on our minds but she figured since my previous marriage was a disaster, I'd be too afraid to propose.

awe. sweet. my man's previous marriage was a disaster too, so I can relate to what she was thinking there.

actuall KLL--on the lake/waterfront would be better than the chapel o' love. I prefer outdoors to indoors of course. but I imagine you gotta rent up those kinda spot perty early. So if I actually have time to plan it out I'll do that.

[monkey]

i did. he said no(t yet). he gave a good reason. i said ok.

no harm. no foul.

[fucktopgirl]

I personally as a female wouldn't do it. Not because I against women in leadership positions, but because I'd prefer him to want me more than I want him.

Yea that make sense! Seriously i applaud you and yes i am being sarcastic!

[monkey]

dont you people talk about this shit while you're dating? something along the lines of: "when we're old and have 8 kids all named george, do you wanna live in a farm or a commune?"

or

"it would be so cool if we got married in an s&m club"

eh... with the relationships ive had, theres always been marriage talk. it seems sorta logical when you date someone for a long time.

[fucktopgirl]

I am with my bf for 7 yaers and never talk about marriage as i dont care to getting married. I dont really believe in that !

[cookiepuss]

dont you people talk about this shit while you're dating? something along the lines of: "when we're old and have 8 kids all named george, do you wanna live in a farm or a commune?"

or

"it would be so cool if we got married in an s&m club"

eh... with the relationships ive had, theres always been marriage talk. it seems sorta logical when you date someone for a long time.

yeah exactly. I suppose I wouldn't dream of making a proposal if we hadn't already talked marriage. but since we have and i know it is something he sees for the future, I'm taking it into consideration as a possibility that I might actually be the one who officially asks.

[fucktopgirl]

And yes, you've actually learned how to spell! Well, kind of. :rolleyes:

ha.. well you see maybe my spelling still suck but i dont really say insanity like you... well maybe i do sometime!

I mean, saying that you want the Man to want you more then YOU want him , it did not really sound right. MAybe you did not express yourself with the right words! MAybe...

[iceygirl]

*it probably WILL make him feel bad if you ask first
*make sure he knows that 'the perfect ring' isnt a necessity right now (the perfect ring should arrive around some anniversary in the future anyway) and if he wants to marry you, he will ask

sidenote edit: i have and never would ever propose marriage. im old fashioned and i think its the guys job - and its a job i think they pretty much like having in their court

[DandyFop]

dont you people talk about this shit while you're dating? something along the lines of: "when we're old and have 8 kids all named george, do you wanna live in a farm or a commune?"

or

"it would be so cool if we got married in an s&m club"

eh... with the relationships ive had, theres always been marriage talk. it seems sorta logical when you date someone for a long time.

That's happened to me but only a few times...I haven't had too many serious relationships though.

I can't ever really see that happening with the current bf though. I don't know...I certainly love him and I'm pretty sure vice versa, but we are both so young that I don't even really think about marriage at all at this stage. I guess I might start to in a few years or so.

[b i o n i c]

... but because I'd prefer <her>to want me more than I want <her>.

that's why i'd accept.


:D This is just the opportunity that Ma Banks has been waiting for!

*faith drops to one knee (she's wearing capris today, not a skirt so don't get any ideas). Faith takes bionic's hand in her's. "Bionic, baby we've been on the same message board for I don't know about 2 months. I think it's time to take our relationship to the next level". Bionic stares open mouthed. Ma Banks reaches into her purse and whips out a ring! A great and glorious ring! It is of white gold and mystic fire topaz and has come from Kohl's! Faith slides the ring onto Bionic's trembling finger. "What say you?" Faith askes. "Yes faith, yes!" Bionic squeals, "I've been waiting for this moment since I was a little boy. I always dreamed it would be like this...I'd be swept off my feet by a dashing and handsome young criminal and we'd live happily ever after". Dreams do come true. :)


YES, FAITH, YES!!!!! Wait... hasn't anyone here told you i'm 47, bald and weigh 350lbs?! You're joking?! You insolent bastard!

[fucktopgirl]

I meant that if he is more into me than I am into him, maybe then it's extra insurance that he'll stay and do right. It's when a woman is giving her all to keep a man who is not really into the her or whole marriage or relationship that problems occur.

YOU see , this is where youre saying are wrong. MAke no sense, are you on pills or something? I mean no offense but....

You might be the one leaving as you are not into him as he is into you!

Just gotta find a man who is into you as you are into him.
gotta be equal or else it is doomed to failed.
Juts logical and simple!

[cookiepuss]

You might be the one leaving as you are not into him as he is into you!

Just gotta find a man who is into you as you are into him.
gotta be equal or else it is doomed to failed.
Juts logical and simple!

oh shit. that DOES sorta make sense.:eek:

[QueenAdrock]

My best friend's mom asked her dad. They were drunk at a bar and just like "So, are we ever gonna get married or what?" And her dad was like "Sure." and that was that. (y)