my friends - how did i become friends with these people?

[zorra_chiflada]

well, i think it's because i know them from high school BUT ANYWAY.

i am nothing like them. hung out with them last night. they were all dressed up. (my friends are hot girls) and then there was me.
they talked about their dozens and dozens of sexual partners. and they wonder why they're so unhappy and unsatisfied. yet, i get the feeling they're patronising to me and my relationship ("aww, that's so cute" etc)
what else? oh yeah, they're all about looking good, picking up, drinking, (one of them takes a lot of pills as well)
they're all nice people, these are the last fucking people i'd ever make friends with.
oh dear

[Waus]

Been there. I still love a bunch of my friends from highschool, but if I'd met them at this point in life I'd probably hate them.

I always go home to bare witness to absurd amounts of drinking, boring, and sluttery.

[zorra_chiflada]

and they're all like "haha, susan's such a nerd"
yes, well at least i don't have unprotected sex with multiple partners

[Waus]

That's lame.

My friends are still cool with me, I'm pretty sure that a lot of us would still drop anything to help eachother out in a time of need.

[zorra_chiflada]

two of my friends are fighting over this uber lame guy. their problems are petty. i want to tell them to shut up, but i don't.

[cosmo105]

i know what you mean. i've been buds with my girls since...as long as i can remember. and i'm not the greatest at making new friends, because i'm really picky about people. one of them got so into designer clothes and money and stuff, that if we met now, we really wouldn't be friends. but we know each other so well and have been through so much, that we still do a lot together. my best friend, though...i grew up with her, and she understands me pretty well. a while back she was dating a real idiot and hanging out with all his idiot friends, and we drifted apart, but now she's dating a guy i really like. yay!

the whole group likes to go out dancing and flirting and all that and i just can't get into that. i'll have a few drinks with them, but i really only like hanging out with them...i'm not into clubs or any of that other crap.

[zorra_chiflada]

well this thread seems to suck.

[Lex Diamonds]

Fuck Friendz. (http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/2pac/fuckfriendz.html)

[icy manipulator]

argh, i was going to have a good response to this thread, but i've had too much vodka to remember everything i was going to say. best leave it til tomorow when i can remember everything, lol :cool:

[zorra_chiflada]

there's a few other things i'd just like to put out there:

one of them said that i have 'this lesbian vibe about me' so i don't know what the fuck she was getting at there. i wasn't aware of a giant flashing sign that says DYKE over my head. or is that some way of saying "you're not as pretty as me"? whatever.
another one of them sent me an angry text message today whining about some shit or something.
yes i need new friends.

[DandyFop]

"lesbian vibe"? hahahaha

It's hard breaking things off when you've been friends with people for so long. Basically all the people in my close group of friends are from high school. It's been fine so far, but lately I've been kind of...I don't know what it is. Most of them are okay, but one girl in particular that I am close with, it's hard to still put up with her immaturity and extreme selfishness this far down the road, you know? But not being friends with her feels like it would be more complicated, because of awkwardness, hurt feelings, etc. etc.

[alexandra]

i've grown tired of typical girls (it just doesn't work anymore), so i only have one real female friend now (= someone i can call anytime, someone who cares, etc). i'm very careful of her. don't want anything to mess up our friendship.

[zorra_chiflada]

well, i probably don't really have any anymore. so yeah. that feels great.

[alexandra]

then appreciate what you have. you'll make new friends your whole life, so don't worry.

[zorra_chiflada]

yeah, i know :)

[alexandra]

good. let's have some cake now.

[zorra_chiflada]

fuck yes.

[beastieangel01]

I am bad at making new friends for the most part. And even the few girls I have befriended lately, if I was being picky there is no way I'd be friends with them either. The friends I've had since high school I would have stopped being friends with too if I became more picky.

I think all I want in a friend is someone that is geniune and doesn't mind making an ass of themselves from time to time simply because doing so can be lots of fun.

[monkey]

i often feel the same way when i hang out with my old highschool friends. they're all very involved in weekend binge drinking and partying, having too many guys go through them, and read way too many glossies. i figure everyone goes through a phase like that, but i kinda went through it quickly and came out the other side. i guess im just more low key. as for new friends, as soon as you do something you like, you make friends in that same vein.
but yea, they call me the hermit cause i dont do that shit anymore. i just dont find it pleasurable to wake up nursing a hangover next to a stranger i have to kick out.

[GetYourWarOn]

well this thread seems to suck.

welcome to my world

[iceygirl]

its not hard breaking ties with people
just quit calling them and quit answering the phone when they call you
they will get the hint

[zorra_chiflada]

yes, i have done that.
after the abusive text message, i decided that was it. :)

[zorra_chiflada]

OH AND ANOTHER THING i was just reminded of then: when it was my birthday last year, none of them could be bothered coming out or even seeing me.

[GetYourWarOn]

OH AND ANOTHER THING i was just reminded of then: when it was my birthday last year, none of them could be bothered coming out or even seeing me.


bitches. forget them you're better off.

[GetYourWarOn]

happy belated birthday zorra

[icy manipulator]

if i was to meet my oldest friend now we prolly wouldn't get along. there's some fundamental differences.
he left school after grade 11, i'm doing a dual degree with honours.
he's a plasterer, i'm planing on a cushy office job
he pops pills like pringles, i just drink
his current girlfriend is 25 years older than him, my last one was 2 years younger
and our ideas of a night out on the town are totally opposite

he's still a good bloke tho, but the reason we're still friends is because we've literally known each other all our lives. only thing i hate about him is that he's got the solidest body. cunt, lol

[ma belle]

i change and i grow - circles come and go, i maintain the flow tho.
leaveing all behind, frees me to find new friends with which to bind.
its like a river - it doesnt matter how much comes and goes, there's always the flow.(y)

[hitmonlee]

when on holidays with my friends i felt a bit alone at times in regards to conversation.

they were all complaining about their weight (im fatter than them), they all wear gstrings (i like to be comfortable), they all like rove (i really wonder how i can be friends with anyone who likes this show), they are all girly girls, they all watch desperate housewives and the OC.

:confused:

but i still love them.

one of them was over last night and we were having lovely superficial conversations about boys, while my housemate/good friend was in the kitchen with her friend. i went in to make dinner and overheard them discussing how they could "get the word out" about how evil nuclear power is, and how people who are in favour of it clearly know nothing about it. talk moved onto how they could encourage people to put less shit stuff down the drain (washing detergent and crap) and maybe they could put notices up in the street, altough maybe messages on people's bins would be more effective.

etc.

i'm glad to have both types of friends. both drive me crazy at times, and i feel i am in a happy middleground. i like to have fun and be superficial at times, and at times i like to recycle. too much of either i can't stand.


zorra your friends sound exactly like normal people. they may grow and begin to care about more important things, or this may be the path they take for the rest of their lives.

[milleson]

I want some friends.

[enree erzweglle]

Don't most marriages, casual friendships, deep friendships go through growing pains. People in those relationships change at different rates so it's sometimes disjointed.

The weird thing is the people who don't change much or at all in bunches of years. They get to be my age and they're still circling in the exact same pattern they were in 20-25 years ago. Nothing about them has changed. Which maybe is a good thing for/to them but it's a problem when they look at you funny for having changed.

I'd be absolutely crazed if across, say, 20 years, I'd experienced no significant personal growth. And I've been uncomfortable when I've had the sorts of friends who not only couldn't encourage me in the things that I was doing and exploring but they'd actively DIScourage me from stretching beyond myself. They more wanted to keep me in a vacuum and those friends and I eventually parted ways because we grew to have so little in common over time.

[SobaViolence]

a couple friends from high school drifted apart because i was growing and also because i was on a different path and that frightened them.

when i took a yr off uni, one was actually upset and didn't talk to me for months, and pretty much killed our friendship and the other just became an acquaintance.

people come and go.
it's part luck, part patience.
no need to suffer just to have 'friends'
i'd rather be by myself.