explanation

[Dorothy Wood]

let's let that other thread die, shall we?

I said some mean things about my roommate. she found the thread. she said it just "popped up". she confronted me. there was crying. and now there's silence. she emailed me and called me a coward among other things. I wrote her back explaining why I may have said the things I did. no response yet. I set up separate password-protected user accounts for my computer, so she can't access my histories or any documents I have saved. neither can my other roommate, who you all know, but will remain nameless from here on out.

so I just have to figure out how to share the itunes with them, so I don't come off as a complete dick.

if there are any further questions, please defer to the pm feature.

[King PSYZ]

Wow, invasion of privacy sucks... though a public forum isn't quite private, you know how we all get confortable and when someone does confront us on something said here it's jarring.

I have been confronted about comments I made here and didn't like having to explain context and whatnot of my statement, but I also let that person know if they want to know how I feel about something, ask me, don't go snooping around.

[cookiepuss]

living with people is hard. everyone bitches about thier roommate. not everyone gets caught, but as someones roommate if you don't know that you do things that annoy them then you're kinda naive. anyway, you should find a new roomy...or just wait, she'll want to move out soon anyway. that's what I think, not that it matters since I'm a bystander who doesn't have to live with any of the decisions you make. heh.

[alexandra]

this will probably happen to me one day.

[abcdefz]

Girls :rolleyes:

[The Notorious LOL]

I just post my woes over my roommates here, then IM them the URL and say "see, cookiepuss pauli toucan spam and qdrop take my side on this!"

[enree erzweglle]

I just post my woes over my roommates here, then IM them the URL and say "see, cookiepuss pauli toucan spam and qdrop take my side on this!":D

[enree erzweglle]

Girls :rolleyes:a-z :rolleyes:

[HEIRESS]

my ex-boyfriend starting reading the board awhile ago

and probably still is

:/

[cosmo105]

^i always prayed my ex wouldn't. i think he started to at one point, but lost interest/couldn't keep up.


it's weird living with someone that reads the board too. sometime's we'll go, omg, did you see that video/pic/link so-and-so posted? it's hilarious! and then we both feel like huge nerds.

[miss soul fire]

My future boyfriends will never ever know I post on message boards.(n)

[Bob]

My future boyfriends will never ever know I post on message boards.(n)

not for me. my girlfriends will all have to register accounts and introduce themselves on the board for approval. if she's not cool with that then she's out the door baby cuz that's how i roll

[miss soul fire]

not for me. my girlfriends will all have to register accounts and introduce themselves on the board for approval. if she's not cool with that then she's out the door baby cuz that's how i roll
Yeah yeah, sure.:p

[abcdefz]

I have one friend who followed me to the boards a few years back. I still refer to "the board" in front of him now and then, and I just assume that he may or may not be reading. I really don't know.

The fact that he's also my boss now adds another dimension or two. :D

[Bob]

Yeah yeah, sure.:p

in reality though, i try very hard to not mention the board in real life. not because i'm afraid people will think i'm a nerd (they know that already), but because i don't want my two worlds to collide. i've built a very comfortable little world in here, i don't need the real world coming in and interfering with it.

[The Notorious LOL]

I have one friend who followed me to the boards a few years back. I still refer to "the board" in front of him now and then, and I just assume that he may or may not be reading. I really don't know.

The fact that he's also my boss now adds another dimension or two. :D



his name was BearPipes or something like that wasnt it?

[enree erzweglle]

in reality though, i try very hard to not mention the board in real life. not because i'm afraid people will think i'm a nerd (they know that already), but because i don't want my two worlds to collide. i've built a very comfortable little world in here, i don't need the real world coming in and interfering with it.I do that too for the most part, although sometimes, I'll let something out about one of the forums and then my friends roll their eyes. Some of those friends were (and still are to an extent) convinced that this one person I was talking to online last year was online from within prison and just never fessed up. :p :eek: :)

But then you think about it and it's like--wow, some people are on here a whole, whole lot and who has that kind of time to kill. :)

[abcdefz]

his name was BearPipes or something like that wasnt it?



You rememebr that!? Whoa.

Yeah. A Cal Berkeley alum.

[Keith Richards]

this is weird dorothy. i'm having a similar thing happening to me (as you know)... so i'm not using my old acount anymore -- the one whose name was inspired by the goddess of love (just don't say the V word).

i wanted to set up another account as dorothy parker, but the computer said "no".

[abcdefz]

i wanted to set up another account as dorothy parker, but the computer said "no".




...you might as well live. :D

[miss soul fire]

in reality though, i try very hard to not mention the board in real life. not because i'm afraid people will think i'm a nerd (they know that already), but because i don't want my two worlds to collide. i've built a very comfortable little world in here, i don't need the real world coming in and interfering with it.
Yeah, I know what you mean. I also don't care if people will think I'm a nerd. I just don't want my privacy to be invaded like that. I also shouldn't have talked about my personal life so much. I shouldn't even let people refer to my real name here, but what can I do now? Ok, leave, but I won't. The damage is done, baby!:p

[g-mile7]

I try to keep most of my personel stuff off here cause it would just be a burden and its better to leave people speculating.

[beastiegirrl101]

was she on your personal computer or was this a community apartment computer? Hmmmm. . .

[The Notorious LOL]

I dont think most people I know are aware I use this MB. Im not embarassed about it or feel like I am censoring myself in any format because I generally try to resolve any conflict or issue with people I know/care about up front. I can understand why some people need the format thats somewhat anonymous to blow off steam though.

[Documad]

in reality though, i try very hard to not mention the board in real life. not because i'm afraid people will think i'm a nerd (they know that already), but because i don't want my two worlds to collide. i've built a very comfortable little world in here, i don't need the real world coming in and interfering with it.

I never would have had trouble except for the tour. I mentioned to a couple of friends that set lists were posted on the message board and that fans made comments after the concerts. After I had seen a bunch of shows on the tour, a friend followed me in. I believe her that she did it at first as a kind of puzzle to see if she could figure out who I was (which was easy). What bugged me is that she joined and read everything I'd posted. One of the things she read was something I said about her and a trip we had taken with friends. It was all truthful and positive and I didn't post any details. I was glad that it happened because it was a reminder not to post anything personal.

When you stop to think about friends, loved ones, and coworkers reading what you say about them, you don't post much about the things that affect you most day to day. It's a funny internet world. What's funny is how often I can't post about things that I know the most about, but I can give my opinion on things that I know nothing about. :rolleyes: As we get closer to November, I might have to quit posting altogether because I have a difficult time controlling myself.

[g-mile7]

all the stuff that on the net (porn, myspace) I say this should be the least of things you'd want to hide from people that you want to respect you

[King PSYZ]

this is weird dorothy. i'm having a similar thing happening to me (as you know)... so i'm not using my old acount anymore -- the one whose name was inspired by the goddess of love (just don't say the V word).

i wanted to set up another account as dorothy parker, but the computer said "no".
intrigued and puzzled is I

[Documad]

all the stuff that on the net (porn, myspace) I say this should be the least of things you'd want to hide from people that you want to respect you
Depends on what you do for a living and who your friends are. No one I work with would be on myspace.

I always try to say things even to friends that I could be comfortable saying in the newspaper. Because you never know who your friends are going to talk to. I'm not successful, but it's a standard. I never get used to seeing things about me in print so it's probably a bad standard for me but it's all I've got. :p

[g-mile7]

Depends on what you do for a living and who your friends are. No one I work with would be on myspace.

I always try to say things even to friends that I could be comfortable saying in the newspaper. Because you never know who your friends are going to talk to. I'm not successful, but it's a standard. I never get used to seeing things about me in print so it's probably a bad standard for me but it's all I've got. :p


That is true, my example is this board (as towards the thread starter) should be the least of your worries of your friends finding you on.

[Documad]

That is true, my example is this board (as towards the thread starter) should be the least of your worries of your friends finding you on.
Yeah, but I'd also be worried about things that had been posted that were potentially more harmful than bitching about tiny stuff with roommates.

Hypothetically speaking, I wouldn't post anything about what a friend and I did at a concert because that friend's girlfriend could be reading for instance. And hypothetically I wouldn't post about my nephew's recent history and what a disappointment he has been to his mother because it's a small small world and maybe he would read it.

[g-mile7]

it just some get TOO personel online....maybe it's better that the friends or whatver see it, address the sitution with them and stop the chit chat behind their backs

[DandyFop]

For me, I really do value the opinions of a lot of people on here, which is why I've often posted about personal things going on, to get the perspective of someone who isn't already involved in the situation. But yeah, I have talked about the board and if I was one of my friends I would probably be tempted to come find it...Ah well, what can you do. Hasn't happened yet, at least.

[beastieangel01]

not for me. my girlfriends will all have to register accounts and introduce themselves on the board for approval. if she's not cool with that then she's out the door baby cuz that's how i roll

I lol'd a lot :D

[tracky]

A couple of my work mates and the guy I live with know that I post on here. I really don't care. I know where my housemate goes on forums and I don't go reading his forums, and I'm pretty sure he doesn't have the time or inclination to stalk me here either. Besides that I don't really think I've said anything here I wouldn't say to someones face, so I don't care either way.

[Ace42X]

I set up separate password-protected user accounts for my computer, so she can't access my histories or any documents I have saved.

You do realise that the windows password (the one that comes up when windows start) and accounts are *not secure* - they only really protect profile settings (desktop, colour scheme, start menu layout, etc) and does not prevent access to files or folders on the harddrive, yah?

[QueenAdrock]

my ex-boyfriend starting reading the board awhile ago

and probably still is

:/

Yeah, that's the scary thing to me. Wayne knew about the board and used to read it from time to time, and could still know what's up with my life just through this board.

I sure hope he's read about me and Droppin'. Yeah, you hear that? I've moved on, and he's MORE AWESOMER THAN YOU. Jerkface.

[enree erzweglle]

Depends on what you do for a living and who your friends are. No one I work with would be on myspace.

I always try to say things even to friends that I could be comfortable saying in the newspaper. Because you never know who your friends are going to talk to. I'm not successful, but it's a standard. I never get used to seeing things about me in print so it's probably a bad standard for me but it's all I've got. :p
Right--I don't think anyone at my work would have a myspace account. Maybe one or two people, but they wouldn't & don't talk about it.

I am careful about what I say online just because when you say it, it's there forever PLUS some people get overly attached to you via the things you let on about online. It's creepy when it happens and you don't know it's happening.

I am REALLY careful about what I say about family/friends because it might be easy for people who know me to figure out who I'm talking about and then I've violated the privacy of my friends/family. Usually when I'm talking online (in places like this), I'll just refer to a generic friend or switch the gender or maybe refer to them as a family member when they're not or a friend when they're a family member.

[enree erzweglle]

A couple of my work mates and the guy I live with know that I post on here. I really don't care. I know where my housemate goes on forums and I don't go reading his forums, and I'm pretty sure he doesn't have the time or inclination to stalk me here either. Besides that I don't really think I've said anything here I wouldn't say to someones face, so I don't care either way.
See for me, it's not that I might say something online that I wouldn't say to another person's face. It's not about that or some sort of gossip thing. It's that I might say something here that I might not necessarily want to share with particular face-to-face friends but not out of a sense of wanting to gossip about them or anything.

I'm not explaining this well. Here's an example: this guy that I know is the sort of guy who kind of forces a friendship where there is none. He likes to be in the know about people in the social circles he perceives for himself and he likes to be the first to be in-the-know about the people in those circles. So I've always been a little creeped out by him because he has this tendency to be a little vicarious and it's odd. I've distanced myself from him. We have lunch maybe a time or two a year and that's just a casual thing. But he sensed that I was distancing myself and that fed his need to know, so he followed me around and found me online and then got into a subtle huff for not knowing about a trip I was taking, a book I was reading, a course I was taking, a dinner date that I'd had, etc. The thing is, though, that he couldn't come right out and say that he'd done what he did because it would blow his cover and then he'd have to fess up about having spied around. So he was clever about it or so he thought, but it came out eventually and all because it bothered him that I shared something in a forum and it was a something that he didn't know about. That's creepy.

So I'm careful because of that sort of stuff and just because of basics about concern for privacy of my friends/family/myself given the shelf-life of the stuff that gets posted online. This stuff is here forever and it's the furthest thing in the world from a fixed/closed system.

[Lyman Zerga]

i need a place to bitch about everyone and everything when i want to
a place called internet

if someone who i know ever reads it then bad luck
better luck next time, wankface!

[Dorothy Wood]

You do realise that the windows password (the one that comes up when windows start) and accounts are *not secure* - they only really protect profile settings (desktop, colour scheme, start menu layout, etc) and does not prevent access to files or folders on the harddrive, yah?

I've got a mac, and it's my computer, so I have the original administrator password for it. and I have blocked the other users from accessing my desktop, documents, and other stuff. there are some shared things though. and if someone really wants to dig through my harddrive, be my guest. I don't even have any secret stuff on the computer really. besides stories I've written, letters to my father, etc. Not anything extreme, just a few things I'd rather just show to someone rather than have them find it one day and be like, "oh, hmm, her dad was into incest porn novels, which she found and read when she was 8 years old". which is true, and I don't mind telling people, I just would rather not have someone find it out without me knowing.

I guess I just forgot that people are curious, and when I'm on the internet for a few hours, and they're just walking around the house wondering...it's natural (albeit shitty) to check out my history while I'm in the shower and read something that is apparently about them. I should've just cleared my history. I'm just so used to cord knowing about this place, but respecting my privacy and not looking at it.

[enree erzweglle]

I guess I just forgot that people are curious [...]At my work, we have iTunes on a network so that if you load music there, it'll be shared across that network unless you specifically configure it not to be shared. So this guy at my work :rolleyes: because he'll go from user to user and read about their music collections and that thrills him. It's disturbing when you put something new up and like no time later, he's in your office asking you about why you are listening to that piece or that artist or that band.

People leave their files unprotected and some people that I know like to go snooping through them as well, reading what they can, reading tmp and backup files. I guess these are the same people who poke around in medicine cabinets when they're visiting people.

[alexandra]

I've been with my boy almost as long as i've been coming here...he doesn't know *touch wood* and he won't ever know. No-one in my real life is going to know. Ever.

I'd feel like too big of a nerd.
some of my buddies know. they've even read some shit. but i'm cool with it, 'cause we don't wanna hide stuff from each other. and my family also knows i'm here, but they'd probably freak out if they read some of the stuff i've written.