Swearing

[Waus]

Okay. My parents took a pretty strong stance against any sort of swearing when I was a kid, even saying "that sucks" got you reprimanded.

As I've gotten older I've picked up a bit of swearing now and again, but I try not to overdo it. I try to refrain while I'm doing youthwork etc, but letting the strategic word drop in certain situations I think lets people know you're authentic.

I was reading this interview earlier - -

"I don't trust people who don't use profanity. If people make an effort not to say 'fuck' or 'shit,' et cetera, I feel like they're not being real. Come on, this is how we talk. It's not hurting anyone. Who cares? I've felt that way since I was a kid, being around other kids' families where people would have to put a dime in the cookie jar if they used profanity. What was that about?"
-Mark Oliver Everett

What do you think?

[cosmo105]

i find that i do it more when i'm around my friends that do it a lot. i don't do it that often in my speech, and NEVER at work. it always makes me really nervous when this one coworker i have cusses up a storm, because i think, what if a customer's right there?

i feel a little embarassed and crude if i let it slip around people i respect...but eh, they're just words. i don't put much thought into it.

i still have trouble saying "ass" or even "hell" around my mom. :o


she NEVER cusses. i mean, not that she's a prude or anything, she just doesn't. the funniest thing was one time when my brother and i were helping her carry something and it dropped on her toe and she screamed all loud GOD DAMNIT and we were both :eek: GASP and looked at each other and said OH MY GOD! haha. hearing your parents cuss when you're not used to it is the greatest. oh, and when my ex had that whole crazy break-in thing, and she was screaming at him to shut the fuck up, i couldn't help but laugh in the middle of the craziness.

[abcdefz]

"I don't trust people who don't use profanity. If people make an effort not to say 'fuck' or 'shit,' et cetera, I feel like they're not being real. Come on, this is how we talk. It's not hurting anyone. Who cares? I've felt that way since I was a kid, being around other kids' families where people would have to put a dime in the cookie jar if they used profanity. What was that about?"
-Mark Oliver Everett

What do you think?



...so: exhibiting self-control is a bad thing, because then you're not "keeping it real"?

Bah.

Also, swearing, to some people -- it's just anathema. The same way that some folks could never imagine smoking a cigarette.

I swear online and in person right now, but just because I'm not trying not to. I went for years without swearing, and still communicate clearly and authentically.

So: fuck that guy and his narrow, unimaginative worldview.

[Waus]

I guess if most people I knew couldn't talk authentically without using swear words then I'd think people who could were lying too. I think that's really a matter of past experience.

Usually for me swearing is more of a joke than anything. Like - it's funnier if squirrels collect "nuts and shit" than collect "nuts and stuff."

Maybe it's just me.

[The Notorious LOL]

haha nuts and shit!

[jabumbo]

i don't really ever swear, and don't really ever feel the need too. the only time i do is usually directed at myself like if i stub my toe or something like that

[cosmo105]

same here, beck. i use it more for jokes than in my regular vocabulary.

[Dorothy Wood]

I swear all the time, but not in front of my mom or other family members. occasionally I've thrown in an "ass" or "asshole" when fighting with my mom, but only in referring to myself, i.e. "I'll look like an ass!", "yeah yeah, I'm an asshole!"

I've heard her say "shit" a couple of times, and "bitch". one time she said, "fuck you" when she was really really angry and it knocked the wind out of me.
It was because I'd left her house at night to drive back to college (about an hour and a half drive) and she told me to call her when I got home...but I forgot. I guess she was calling, but the phone was off the hook. I woke up to her pounding on my front door, foaming at the mouth at like 6 a.m. "I'VE BEEN UP ALL NIGHT! WHY DIDN'T YOU CALL! I THOUGHT SOMETHING HAPPENED TO YOU! YOU'RE SO SELFISH!" and I said, "calm down, ma, I just forgot, I was tired". and then, "FUCK YOU!" and she stormed off and drove back to her house.


I was always taught that swearing was disrespectful and a sign of someone with no class or not enough intelligence to use other words to convey the same meaning. but I think the more you say the words, the less power they have to be hurtful. and they're just words. but I think that people can and should try to monitor themselves in public, because those words are crass and not everyone wants to hear them.

[beastiegirrl101]

people who swear, can't find a better word.

[The Notorious LOL]

if there is a better word than "fuck", please enlighten me.

[Bob]

if there is a better word than "fuck", please enlighten me.

"cunt"

it's like fuck, but backwards

[Dorothy Wood]

cunty whore

[Bob]

cuntfucker

[ms.peachy]

Mr.p and I are making an effort to stop sort of 'everyday' casual swearing (as in, "Where is the goddamn remote", "Who is fucking calling us during dinner") and use it only when it's really neccesary for impact. We figure eventually this kid's going to start talking, and of course little ones just parrot everything they hear, so it's best we start toning it down now so by that time it won't be an issue.

[abcdefz]

I remember the first time I called my mom a "fucking cunt" to her face. She and Dad kept yelling at me, but neither could argue the point. :D

[Waus]

I think the only time I ever heard my mom swear, she was reprimanding me for leaving around a few issues of "The Walking Dead" for my brother to read.

I didn't really pay attention to the language in them. My brother's 17 anyways, so I didn't really think about it having any important impact on him. So, my mom randomly sees one flipped open in my room while I'm home for a weekend from college.

I get a long lecture on my influence. "do you even realize that it says words like 'fucker' and 'motherfucker' again and again in there Matt?!?"

Ack. Seeing her face make those words is like watching babies get stabbed.

[burbboi]

I see being able to 'turn on/off' swearing as a bit of a skill. I'll throw around expletives with friends and such but at work and with relatives it's all clean.

Sure, it's easy to substitute a meaningful adjective with 'fucking' or 'shitty' or something, but in the long run many people are missing out on expanding their vocabularies instead opting to lace their speech with garbage all the time.

[Miho Mingu]

I don't feel strongly about swearing, and have never swore excessively like some people, but I swear on some occasions when deemed suitable. More recently, I like to use words that are rarely used, like "jagoff", which is a play on "jack off", except the former is used against someone, as opposed to the latter, which is referred to as an activity obviously.

[Slimboy Fat]

Fucking whining non-swearing cunts.

[Whatitis]

Shit Fuck,
Shit Fuck,
Hell Damn Shit Fuck!

[ggirlballa]

i sometimes try to not cuss but it slips sumtimes too.:o

& sometimes i don't care:p

[zorra_chiflada]

i came from a household of a lot of swearing - i never got in trouble for doing it. i was the kid at school that taught the words to other kids. i actually have to make a concious effort not to do it. i'm not a commoner! my parents are well educated people! but my dad was a sailor and my mum's from jersey city.

[TurdBerglar]

when i started to go to school in the suburbs the kids thought i was evil or something becuase i swore. they would gasp and through their hands over their mouths. i never understood what the big deal was.

[QueenAdrock]

I admit I swear a good deal, but I sound practically Mormon next to a girl I met last night. She's a fag hag of one of my gay friends, and it was fuck this, fuck that. Here's a bit of what she ACTUALLY said:

"Fuck that fucking diet coke shit. Fucking diet pepsi vanilla is where it's fucking at. I mean, I just want to fucking go out to the store and buy like 6 fucking handles of it. Crystal, you fuckin' tranny! Go flush out your fucking box!"

That's right. At the end of those retarded thoughts was her telling a girl that she was a transvestite that needed to clean her vaginal area. CLASSY. (n)

(And no, she was not drunk. It's how she talks. I hope she never has kids.)

[Waus]

It seems like people with a limited vocabulary tend to throw in a lot more cuss words than most.

Just an observation.

[Ace42X]

Interestingly, "cunt" derives from "quaint" - a commonly used euphemism for vagina throughout the middle ages and renaissance.

[zorra_chiflada]

I admit I swear a good deal, but I sound practically Mormon next to a girl I met last night. She's a fag hag of one of my gay friends, and it was fuck this, fuck that. Here's a bit of what she ACTUALLY said:

"Fuck that fucking diet coke shit. Fucking diet pepsi vanilla is where it's fucking at. I mean, I just want to fucking go out to the store and buy like 6 fucking handles of it. Crystal, you fuckin' tranny! Go flush out your fucking box!"

That's right. At the end of those retarded thoughts was her telling a girl that she was a transvestite that needed to clean her vaginal area. CLASSY. (n)

(And no, she was not drunk. It's how she talks. I hope she never has kids.)

when i've had a few, i start to sound like that. i'm sorry. i know how bad it looks. i'm a fucking dirty mouthed bitch.

[*shorty*]

Well in my house my parents don't care about swearing. With that being said its not like we use it in every sentance, basicly only when we are pissed off. But the odd thing is that there are 4 words that absolutely no one is allowed saying in the house.

1) Hate.
2) Idiot.
3) Stupid
4) Shut-up.

All my friends know not to say them when they are around my mother. Does anyone else find that weird??:confused:

[Waus]

there are 4 words that absolutely no one is allowed saying in the house.

1) Hate.
2) Idiot.
3) Stupid
4) Shut-up.

All my friends know not to say them when they are around my mother. Does anyone else find that weird??

Nah. My mom hated it when we told eachother to shut up (me and my brother that is). Couldn't call him stupid either.

I think that's actually not a bad rule to have...I'll probably instill that rule in my house when I'm older - if I ever have kids etc.

[mikizee]

hehe. reminds me of eddie murphy in delirious. here's a transcript for you guys playing at home.


And I remember when I first went to my first
contact with a white family, it freaked me out.
And I was there, I found some white kids
can curse around the house ! That fucked me up !
Coz I couldn't even say "dagg" around my house,
my momma said "sounds too much like damn."
I got in trouble for saying shit the wrong way.
I was in the house with Tom Kildez.
His mother said "Tom you're a little late. He said
"Come on mom I'm moving as fast as I can, shit.
And I was standing like this: :eek:
And if I tried to pull some shit like that
in my house? "Ed, you're a little late !"
"Oh, come on, pop, shit, what is this!
Come on, damn !" My pop just go:
*Pulls out handgun from jacket and fires*
"That motherfucker's crazy !"

[Loppfessor]

Well in my house my parents don't care about swearing. With that being said its not like we use it in every sentance, basicly only when we are pissed off. But the odd thing is that there are 4 words that absolutely no one is allowed saying in the house.

1) Hate.
2) Idiot.
3) Stupid
4) Shut-up.

All my friends know not to say them when they are around my mother. Does anyone else find that weird??:confused:


You're mom also hates the term "DP" cus it brings back painful memories