from my heaviest weight, I've lost 121 pounds. [Archive]

cookiepuss

07-12-2006, 10:52 AM

first of all congrats.

second. I think thats normal. My mom has been struggling for years with weight and as one of her therapist explained...fat is as much of an emotional insulator as it is a physical one. you could hide behind your weight, but now that you don't have it, you have to deal with being you. hang in there though. I thnk you will become comfortable in your new skin.

ms.peachy

07-12-2006, 10:52 AM

That's quite an accomplishment. It's like you're a whole different person in some ways I imagine, and that's no doubt where the insecurity comes from. When you were heavier, if someone was rude to you or didn't like you, as crappy as it might have made you feel, you could put it down to the weight. But now if someone rejects you, you have to wonder if it might actually be about YOU as a person, and that's kind of a tough thing to face.

Just my theory, that - I may be completely wrong.

b i o n i c

07-12-2006, 10:54 AM

^^^
intersting, peachy

i have a friend whos getting gastric bypass and i'm really wondering what it will do to her personality

g-mile7

07-12-2006, 10:54 AM

Congrats you have done something that is trully remarkable in this day and age.

Qdrop would be proud.....well WE on the BBMB who are cool with you are proud!!

abcdefz

07-12-2006, 10:54 AM

One acheivement at a time, al. Congratulations!

enree erzweglle

07-12-2006, 10:56 AM

Why did you lose the weight? What motivated you to do that amazing thing?

When you were heavier, I wonder if you blamed the weight for an underlying self-esteem problem. Like you maybe thought that you had the self-esteem problem because you were heavier but actually, maybe it's that you were heavier because you had a self-esteem problem. I apologize if that's way too doctor phil.

alruggs

07-12-2006, 11:04 AM

I was pretty confident when I was heavier.

I'd always wanted to lose the weight but I always felt pressured to do it for other people so it's sort of like I kept it on out of defiance. I gained most of it while I was engaged to a personal trainer. I finally got to a point where I knew I was doing it for me and only me.

I'm very proud of myself for doing it the right way. No surgery, no pills, no nothing. Just a whole lot of hard work.

beastiegirrl101

07-12-2006, 11:06 AM

Wow, I am SO proud of you...you lost a whole Natalie!

cookiepuss

07-12-2006, 11:15 AM

Wow, I am SO proud of you...you lost a whole Natalie!

you weigh 121? I hate you now, because we are the same height and my goal weight has always been 125. but I never can get below 130.:mad: damn you Nat! *shakes fist*

beastiegirrl101

07-12-2006, 11:20 AM

you weigh 121? I hate you now, because we are the same height and my goal weight has always been 125. but I never can get below 130.:mad: damn you Nat! *shakes fist*

I'm sorry...You know what I'm NOT SORRY! I am sick of feeling bad for being small....all my friends are "bigger" and they are always making the "you're so skinny comments" so now I have started to feel bad for being little. I can't help it, its my genetic make up, I'll never be big or fat...its just me.

Sorry to flip out SJ...it's not you...I have amazing friends but skinny jokes can be just as annoying as fat jokes ya know?

Actually I weigh 116 if you want to get technical. So there...hi5.

g-mile7

07-12-2006, 11:22 AM

hahaha at lookin too skinny

Dr Deaf

07-12-2006, 11:27 AM

wow. that's amazing, congrats. maybe you just need time to adjust to the new you? i got a haircut recently (which i love) and i sort of feel like i've lost a bit of uniqueness.

i'm looking to shed a few pounds myself. i'm hoping biking 120 miles a month will do it. i'd like to get down to around 160-165 from 172.4.

b i o n i c

07-12-2006, 11:34 AM

cookiepuss

07-12-2006, 11:34 AM

I'm sorry...You know what I'm NOT SORRY! I am sick of feeling bad for being small....all my friends are "bigger" and they are always making the "you're so skinny comments" so now I have started to feel bad for being little. I can't help it, its my genetic make up, I'll never be big or fat...its just me.

Sorry to flip out SJ...it's not you...I have amazing friends but skinny jokes can be just as annoying as fat jokes ya know?

Actually I weigh 116 if you want to get technical. So there...hi5.

I tease, I tease. actually it's not so bad for me, cause my boobs weight like 8 pounds a peice, so I really should just subtract 16 pounds from my current weight.

It's not really about what you weight. weight is just a number. you can be a slim person but weight alot if you have alot of musscle. I don't even own a scale any more. fuck scales. I currently guage my weight by what size clothing I wear. the only time I get a weight reading is at the doctors office.

g-mile7

07-12-2006, 11:36 AM

I've been trying to GAIN weight for years least since 2003'(y)

Dr Deaf

07-12-2006, 11:36 AM

wow. not to be a jerk, but i can lose that in a couple of days.

how?

i've been really, really inactive for the last 12 mos. i peaked out at 183 lbs in january. so it has come down a bit, somehow.

monkey

07-12-2006, 11:36 AM

congrats andrea. seriously, it's such an amazement to see someone to it right. :) as for feeling less than your best... i sorta know how that's like. at my thinnest (which wasnt achieved healthfully by any means), i felt stupidly ugly. perhaps you need time to get used to your new body.

anyway, you should know that i (and im sure a whole lotta people here, as witnessed above) are incredibly proud of you and your attempt at healthiness.

DandyFop

07-12-2006, 11:46 AM

I tease, I tease. actually it's not so bad for me, cause my boobs weight like 8 pounds a peice, so I really should just subtract 16 pounds from my current weight.

It's not really about what you weight. weight is just a number. you can be a slim person but weight alot if you have alot of musscle. I don't even own a scale any more. fuck scales. I currently guage my weight by what size clothing I wear. the only time I get a weight reading is at the doctors office.

I feel like my boobs weigh a lot also. hmmmm.

Randetica

07-12-2006, 11:49 AM

i wanna know how much my boobs weigh godammit!

yeahwho

07-12-2006, 11:52 AM

I find my confidence drops as my expectations increase. It's sort of like life's check valve, if you live and let live around you, it will help you find your place and not that of others expectations.

The accomplishment of being true to yourself is all you really need. The rest will follow.

b i o n i c

07-12-2006, 12:19 PM

how?

i've been really, really inactive for the last 12 mos. i peaked out at 183 lbs in january. so it has come down a bit, somehow.

i just dont eat.

I tease, I tease. actually it's not so bad for me, cause my boobs weight like 8 pounds a peice,.

why did you have to say that?????

cosmo105

07-12-2006, 12:22 PM

you shouldn't be insecure in the least. i've always thought of you as one of the most confident ladies i knew. and it is so inspiring and awesome that you've done what you've done. only you can figure out what it is that's getting you down, and when you do, get past it. i know you will. you're the ruggs. :cool:

alruggs

07-12-2006, 04:25 PM

I did it the old fashioned way. Ate less, exercised more. I hit a plateau recently but I started eating more fiber and less bad carbs and I started losing again.

beastieangel01

07-12-2006, 04:30 PM

the carbs do a lot. I am a carb monster, bad carbs :o For me I just want muscle tone and I can see a big difference just in taking out bad carbs.

but congrats miss. You looked good last year so I cannot imagine how you look now!

:)

befsquire

07-12-2006, 06:02 PM

that's fantastic about the loss, but sad about the confidence. i'm pretty sure i saw your confidence in the desk in the other room of my apartment. could you come and get it? i'm trying to reorganize.

kthnx

kaiser soze

07-12-2006, 06:27 PM

wow, that's awesome and congrats

be aware it was quite an accomplishment and wear it proudly!

Documad

07-12-2006, 11:22 PM

Congratulations. That's a huge accomplishment. Remember that you have to work just as hard to keep it off. You don't ever want to do this again.

I think it's funny that people assume that fat people have self esteem problems. I don't and a lot of fat people I know don't. I have quite the opposite problem. I have such high self esteem that I don't work to improve myself. :p When people don't like me, as far as I can tell, it's been because I did something to deserve it. :D

I have no idea what you're going through. Maybe you're not enjoying all the attention? Have people said things that indicate that THEY thought there was something wrong with you before? People mean well, but they say a lot of stupid shit when they notice you've been losing weight. The way you're feeling could also be completely unrelated to the weight I suppose. Anything else that's changed in your life?

Dorothy Wood

07-12-2006, 11:31 PM

I tell you what, I'm not enjoying the extra floppiness of my upper arms after losing weight. or the fact that my vintage levi's are too big for me now, when before I couldn't even fit them over my butt.

I think that as you get thinner, you start getting discouraged that even though you're healthier and you've worked hard, you're still not perfect. so it's like, "I did all this work, but my life's not that different". I don't know if that goes for you or not, but it sort of goes that way for me.

QueenAdrock

07-13-2006, 12:00 AM

Yeah dude, I was 165 freshman year. Then I lost a shitload of weight and my thinnest was 125. 40 pounds! I then remembered men staring a lot more, which made me uncomfortable. I got wanted and UNwanted attention, which I hadn't even thought of.

Either way, I gained 10 pounds since then and I'm a happy 135-140. I fluctuate, but for the most part I think it's a good weight because I look healthier. When I was 125 I looked very pale and thin. I'm rounded out now with curves, which I like.

CONGRATS, DRE!

Justin

07-13-2006, 12:02 AM

After my french fries and bottle of root beer i'm a mean, lean 164 3/8 lbs.

Randetica

07-13-2006, 02:18 AM

195 lbs was my record weight

venusvenus123

07-13-2006, 03:23 AM

wow, that's amazing andrea and, without sounding like a patronising cow, well done!

i wonder if you're self-esteem issue is linked to the idea that you thought you might automatically be happier when you were slimmer? everything in our society says, "be thin and you'll be happy", which is bollocks really. it just depends on each person, and what shape makes them happy.

na§tee

07-13-2006, 03:30 AM

congratulations, girl! well done. no matter how you feel you can't knock that as a massive achievement. must have taken some pretty big balls. nuff respect to you.

i'd second sarks for what she said. losing weight, and when i do i lose it quickly then get bored with the total banality of the gym then put small amounts on again - that really doesn't do anything for your skin. man, my arms! dear sweet jesus. i don't think i'll ever wear a vest comfortably again, man.

this is a brand new you and a brand new body - it'll take a while to come to terms with it, i guess. good luck!

alruggs

07-13-2006, 11:29 AM

I have no idea what you're going through. Maybe you're not enjoying all the attention? Have people said things that indicate that THEY thought there was something wrong with you before? People mean well, but they say a lot of stupid shit when they notice you've been losing weight. The way you're feeling could also be completely unrelated to the weight I suppose. Anything else that's changed in your life?

For the most part, people have been really cool. I get a lot of comments on a daily basis. People make comments when I'm paying for something and I show them my ID which still has my old picture. I had one salesman at work say, "You're going to be really pretty when you lose more weight."

I think part of it is that I'm still not happy with my body. I've worked my ass off (literally and figuratively) and I'm not really any more happy with it. Like Sarky said, I'm not happy with the flabbiness I've now created. My boobs are starting to look like plastic bags with rocks in them.

Something's got to give though.