some guy just told me he spent $15,000 on his daughters wedding [Archive]

The Notorious LOL

07-20-2006, 01:43 PM

well to me it doesnt make any sense whatsoever. Maybe it doesnt because my parents had a dirty hippie wedding that consisted of my uncle, my grandparents, my parents, and a pastor.

Its not any sort of testament of love, its merely a status symbol to some.

The Notorious LOL

07-20-2006, 01:44 PM

beastiegrrl are you one of those "I need a big diamond" kinds of girls?

Rock

07-20-2006, 01:45 PM

Waus

07-20-2006, 01:47 PM

to some yes. but for me, it was my parents being so happy that i wasn't gay that they decided to go all out.

Hahahahahahahahaha

Rock

07-20-2006, 01:47 PM

beastiegrrl are you one of those "I need a big diamond" kinds of girls?
my wife said she wasn't going to be satisfied with the diamond unless i got a little african kid's hand with it for certification purposes.

abcdefz

07-20-2006, 01:48 PM

I can see spending money on the rings more than I can the wedding, really. I don't think anyone has 200 of my closest friends that need to witness their "special day." And, as a distant friend or relative, I feel kind of insulted if you're too busy with life to speak with me for a year or two but now suddenly "want me there." :rolleyes:

Fuck it: use the money for a down payment on a house, or your first kid's first semester of college. :D

beastiegirrl101

07-20-2006, 01:48 PM

beastiegrrl are you one of those "I need a big diamond" kinds of girls?

To be honest, I used to be when I was dating this guy about 2 years ago that I really didnt like. He was perfect in every way and if I ended up with him I would have had everything I wanted but would have been in a loveless marriage. I had a "2 carat" rule...but then realized that it was just an excuse and when I finally meet "the one" the size really wont matter to me at all.

Do I come off that way? :(

abcdefz

07-20-2006, 01:49 PM

most reception halls cost 15k alone, thats actually a small basic wedding......

That's insane. We used to rent a really nice, newly-reburbished hall which sat almost 300 at tables: that's San Francisco Bay Area, early 21st century, for $800 for six hours.

Rock

07-20-2006, 01:50 PM

it can also be a cultural thing. like in the pakistani culture...the whole neighborhood is invited. which gets to be expensive but not a status symbol.

here, a lot of the paki weddings carry on the tradition of huge weddings.

Rock

07-20-2006, 01:51 PM

the size really wont matter to me at all.
thats what my wife said too. luckily she was talking about the ring and my penis.

beastiegirrl101

07-20-2006, 01:53 PM

thats what my wife said too. luckily she was talking about the ring and my penis.

it's not the size it's what you can do with it. BUT...I did date an Asian dude once and the rumors are true. So, if I married an Asain....it'd have to be a really, really big diamond.

b i o n i c

07-20-2006, 01:53 PM

my italian cousin had a 6 figure wedding and got six figures in gifts. its sorta good business

Rock

07-20-2006, 01:55 PM

it's not the size it's what you can do with it. BUT...I did date an Asian dude once and the rumors are true. So, if I married an Asain....it'd have to be a really, really big diamond.
Not true. A lady I know that has been around the block said the biggest penis she had ever seen was from an Asian guy.

The Notorious LOL

07-20-2006, 01:55 PM

well any sort of an established rule on the size of a diamond does seem superficial as hell, but if it was more or less due to the lackluster relationship I suppose that makes sense.

I dunno, I dont know you so I was asking and judging by your first response, yes I did get that impression.

beastiegirrl101

07-20-2006, 01:55 PM

Not true. A lady I know that has been around the block said the biggest penis she had ever seen was from an Asian guy.

she's obviously a liar.

abcdefz

07-20-2006, 01:57 PM

it's not the size it's what you can do with it. BUT...I did date an Asian dude once and the rumors are true.

she's obviously a liar.

I knew a girl in colege, who said the biggest guy she ever had, penis-wise, was Asian (Japanese? don't remember) and the second smallest guy she ever had was a black guy.

I think the real statistics have things averaging out more than folklore tells us.

Yeti

07-20-2006, 01:58 PM

I should have married his daughter. My in-laws are always in debt so we didn't even ask and they didn't offer. We paid for our own wedding which ended up costing 20k. We paid it off in a year and a half. It was a nice fun wedding. I saved a bunch of money. I know a beer and wine guy so he helped. We made a 5 cd compliation and hit play. A friend was dj to announce the wedding party and play some requests here and there. A friend that owns a pub hired an Elvis impersonator for our gift. He was announced after the 1st dance and people got at the food. He bought a $5,000 original Elvis leather suit and was really really bad which made it good. He took himself very seriously. My Uncle even made us pink beer coolies with--I saw Elvis at Steve and Krista's wedding. We put them all around several Elvis busts. He actually got the reception/party started and was a hit to our surprise. Then the drinking and dancing commenced. He even milled around and people were loving taking photos with him. Thank God Elvis left the building in about 45 minutes and we could get back to partying with friends. I was a bit worried that a nice classy room and reception would turn into a scene from a John Waters movie. Anyway..................
I could not believe how much cakes, food, catering, etc cost. It is a huge racket and $ can be saved by creating your on centerpieces and knowing the right people and it will still cost you over $20k

beastiegirrl101

07-20-2006, 01:59 PM

I knew a girl in colege, who said the biggest guy she ever had, penis-wise, was Asian (Japanese? don't remember) and the second smallest guy she ever had was a black guy.

I think the real statistics have things averaging out more than folklore tells us.

are you telling me I have to do more "field work" then?

abcdefz

07-20-2006, 02:01 PM

are you telling me I have to do more "field work" then?

Nope -- I'm just reporting.

The fact that the Asian guy had, like, an 11 or 12 inch fat old dong didn't surprise me so much as she said the black guy was probably about 3". Imagining a frat boy with a 3" erection just kind of seemed like perfect justice to me.

I bet he had a HUGE truck, too. Just guessing.

hardnox71

07-20-2006, 02:01 PM

my wife said she wasn't going to be satisfied with the diamond unless i got a little african kid's hand with it for certification purposes.
That is fucked up. Have your wife watch the documentary Diamonds of Sierra Leone when it comes out. It's about the diamond trade in Africa and all the cutthroat shit that goes on while trying to get the diamonds mined and sold.

b i o n i c

07-20-2006, 02:02 PM

right on, even steven.

word. you get a big fancy wedding, get to show off, invite business associates and then have all the guests pay for it. (y)

Rock

07-20-2006, 02:07 PM

That is fucked up. Have your wife watch the documentary Diamonds of Sierra Leone when it comes out. It's about the diamond trade in Africa and all the cutthroat shit that goes on while trying to get the diamonds mined and sold.
Whats even more fucked up is that I couldn't get the hand from the place I bought the ring, so I had to go find a hand myself. Poor kid.

beastiegirrl101

07-20-2006, 02:08 PM

$1000 isn't a wedding my friend, it's a kegger party.

or two decent pairs of shoes!

hardnox71

07-20-2006, 02:08 PM

Whats even more fucked up is that I couldn't get the hand from the place I bought the ring, so I had to go find a hand myself. Poor kid.
Silly.

The Notorious LOL

07-20-2006, 02:14 PM

or two decent pairs of shoes!

$1000? the hell planet are you from? Thats 8-10 pairs of shoes.

beastiegirrl101

07-20-2006, 02:17 PM

$1000? the hell planet are you from? Thats 8-10 pairs of shoes.

http://www.bergdorfgoodman.com/store/catalog/prod.jhtml?itemId=prod11010018&parentId=cat100007&masterId=cat50001&index=1&cmCat=cat000000cat200648cat203100cat203102cat50001 cat100007

they aren't an urban myth.

price tag.

mickill

07-20-2006, 02:19 PM

My wife's aunt and uncle shelled out $75,000 for each of the weddings for their 2 daughters. Not including the $10,000 for their engagement parties. And the showers. And then paid for the honeymoons. They're not even really that well off. I think they had to remortgage their house to do it. My wife's uncle is Italian, though. I think extravagant weddings are pretty common among a lot of Italians. But I remember the lobster tail at the reception being kinda dry.

DipDipDive

07-20-2006, 02:19 PM

I hate money and people, therefore, fuck a wedding.

I'm so eloping.

The Notorious LOL

07-20-2006, 02:21 PM

http://www.bergdorfgoodman.com/store/catalog/prod.jhtml?itemId=prod11010018&parentId=cat100007&masterId=cat50001&index=1&cmCat=cat000000cat200648cat203100cat203102cat50001 cat100007

they aren't an urban myth.

price tag.

those shoes are stupid

DipDipDive

07-20-2006, 02:22 PM

I guess after reading this thread you pretty much have little choice in the matter.

Edit: Nevermind. I misread your post.

beastiegirrl101

07-20-2006, 02:23 PM

those shoes are stupid

they are quite ugly....but that was just to prove a point.

beastieangel01

07-20-2006, 02:38 PM

holy lord.

I hope I never spend that much. And if I do it better because I flew myself, the groom, and our closest friends and family down to some nice small beach town in Mexico to have our wedding. Then paid the hotel to have an open bar and get ridiclous on the beach.

And I really think it STILL wouldn't be that much money.

ericlee

07-20-2006, 02:55 PM

my actual wedding in China sucked. It costed $50 and they had me sign a paper, had her sign the same one and then they stamped it. It was a 5 minute wedding and very upsetting for both of us.

When I went there March of this year though, her family had organized the full traditional Chinese style wedding for us in which 250 of her relatives showed up.

That shit was awesome and in tradition, I as the groom had to go around all of her relatives and she had to introduce me to them and then I had to hand them a lucky cigarette and light it for them while it was in their mouth. Even if they didn't smoke, it's part of tradition and they have special cigarettes and matches for it.

My wife said it put her parents back just $1,000 but it's considered to be a huge ammount of cash in China.

cookiepuss

07-20-2006, 03:06 PM

My boyfriend just told me that he doesn't want to get married. so I guess I'm not going to ever have to worry about this.:(

Rock

07-20-2006, 03:09 PM

My boyfriend just told me that he doesn't want to get married. so I guess I'm not going to ever have to worry about this.:(
do you think that will change your relationship? Is marriage something you have always wanted?

cookiepuss

07-20-2006, 03:15 PM

I don't know yet. no it's not something I've always wanted, but I was starting to want it with him. so. i have no idea. I haven't made any decisions yet. actually neither has he. this discussion happened last night and it's still an open discussion at the moment.

but right now at this very moment I'm pretty upset.

Rock

07-20-2006, 03:17 PM

its only a piece of paper saying you are married. you don't need paper to make that commitment, ya know. i wouldn't get all pissy about it.

cookiepuss

07-20-2006, 03:20 PM

;) such a man thing to say, Rock. no I know. what you're saying and that's kinda what he's feeling too. he's divorced so that's what part of this is about, I don't think he feels marriage works.

when I say upset i don't actually mean mad. I mean hurt. it's not like I actually wanted a wedding. I what I really had in mind was eloping. that's more romantic to me.

ampm

07-20-2006, 03:22 PM

They'll spend a lot more on the divorce.

Dorothy Wood

07-20-2006, 04:25 PM

beastieangel01

07-20-2006, 04:29 PM

I want a cubic zirconia ring. like this

http://www.cubic-zirconia-cz-platinum-jewelry.com/images/3up/6265E.jpg

it's like $250. white gold band. seriously, who's gonna fuckin know it's not a diamond?

and I want to elope or something. I don't know. I just can't see spending a shit ton of money on one single day. although you do get lots of presents when you have a big wedding. :/

(y) yep. And even $250 I cringe at but exactly. Who cares? I care more about the person loving me as much as I love them, and being a good person, more than how much money is spent on a ring or a wedding.

kll

07-20-2006, 04:33 PM

If you were going to throw a big fancy party with dinner, music, flowers, etc for anything from a charity benefit to a birthday party, it's gonna cost money... just because it's a wedding doesn't change the fact that any sort of rental costs money and so does food and drink... period.

$15,000 is cheap though....

DipDipDive

07-20-2006, 04:34 PM

Diamonds are gross.

JimmyTheScumbag

07-20-2006, 04:54 PM

I had a "2 carat" rule...

Do I come off that way? :(

A little

If I ever dated a girl that said she has a 2 carat rule I would introduce her to my get the hell out of my car rule.

The average wedding costs 21K, we almost spent that much, and I regret nothing. It was the best day of my wife's life.

Bob

07-21-2006, 09:02 AM

those shoes are stupid

if i saw a girl in those shoes, i'd think "nice tits" because i definitely don't notice girls' shoes.

maybe i should start

trailerprincess

07-21-2006, 09:14 AM

One of my closest school friends got married at the weekend - her reception cost £12k. I can't imagine ever wanting to spend that kind of money on anything but I have to admit, it was a lovely party with lots of drink and food and she wanted everyone to have fun. But she paid for it herself too

trailerprincess

07-21-2006, 09:15 AM

Diamonds are gross.

I agree. If someone wanted to give me jewellery, I'd take a nice emerald or ruby over diamonds.

enree erzweglle

07-21-2006, 09:19 AM

$15K for a wedding. That would be some dollar-store wedding according to the people at my gym who have organized weddings for their kids. There, those people are mostly doctors/lawyers/professionals or people who are married to doctors/lawyers/professionals, so you get the picture.

The hall is very important to them. They want to be able to say that their kid is getting married at The Snob House. They won't take some place that isn't on the socialite map. The place itself has to be prestigious, with some history and lots of curb appeal. The rental of that place alone can cost thousands. Thousands for flowers; more for catering--much more and there, as with the hall, it's important to impress people by using an overpriced caterer that everyone knows.

When I was a kid, weddings happened frequently and you were invited by phone and they happened in church and then you'd walk next door to the school's cafeteria or you'd go across the street to the firehall for the reception. At the entrance of the cafeteria or the firehall, there was a cardboard box with white paper stuck to it and a slit in the top and that's where you put your envelope with money inside. When you'd leave, they'd take the slotted box away and put out slices of wedding cake and jordan almonds. In between, you danced and ate homemade food that everyone who was attending the wedding baked beforehand. That's what weddings were when I was little.

Randetica

07-21-2006, 09:20 AM

THESE (http://www.schmuck-ideen.de/images/img_eheringe_left3.jpg)(y)

beastiegirrl101

07-21-2006, 10:01 AM

A little

If I ever dated a girl that said she has a 2 carat rule I would introduce her to my get the hell out of my car rule.

The average wedding costs 21K, we almost spent that much, and I regret nothing. It was the best day of my wife's life.

I said USED TO be that way. 20-24 year old Natalie had princess syndrome.

enree erzweglle

07-21-2006, 10:04 AM

Yeah, just those plain wedding bands alone will run you about $1000.weddingbandsfast.com has them for $36. :)

enree erzweglle

07-21-2006, 11:14 AM

WOW that's cheap. How can you be sure it's real?

It'd be funny to have to explain to your bride why her finger turned green when she wore the ring in the shower.I was sort of kidding. I don't like using the winky face much. :) I originally went to samsclub.com and then I realized that they went into upscale jewlery and yachts and stuff so their pricing wasn't proving my point. So then I googled "cheap wedding bands" and that site came up and voila.

I do like their one band because it's very, very thin. I hate wearing jewelry period, so a wedding band should be as thin as it can be and still be durable and yeah, no green fingers. :)