Tonight I had drinks with my Ex...

[skra75]

after going into debt up to my ears today, my wife (soon to be ex) had a hair-brained idea of going to go shoot pool and drink.

We played pool, listened to metallica songs she played on the jukebox. Good times I suppose. We had a few, she is apparently a lightweight because I drank her sorry ass under the table.

I had to nearly carry her to the car, she was plowed (after only 3 drinks!)

On the way home, we stopped at the gas station and I ran in to grab something. When I came back, she was crying. I asked "what's wrong?". she said "I still fucking love you".

So now I"m like what the fuck. I hate hate hate this person for what she did to me.

what the hell is wrong with me that I set myself up for this kind of shit?

:mad: :mad: :mad:

[b i o n i c]

did shit finally fall apart with the other dude or did is she choosing you?

[SobaViolence]

girls...


dude. my sympathy.

[kaiser soze]

be careful how much you talk about this...Qdrop might record every word to try to use against you in the future

anyways, you should've stuffed her in the trunk for the rest of the ride

[acamus]

Dude, I'm going throug the same thing. Known 20 years, married 13 and it's hard as hell. How long were ya'll married?

[skra75]

did shit finally fall apart with the other dude or did is she choosing you?

I don't freaking know. I know she's not good for me and I don't know if I'll ever forgive her for the shit she's done.

[QueenAdrock]

If it was me, I'd say, too bad fuckin' deal with it. You deserve what you get, and you don't deserve me BIIIIIATCHHHH

Then kick her drunk ass to the curb. :mad:

[TurdBerglar]

yeah but fuck her first and then when you finish fart in her face

[QueenAdrock]

you know, i was thinking that but was too classy to say it.

[b i o n i c]

yeah fart in his kids moms face!(y)

[drizl]

it annoys the shit out of me when ex girlfriends do that kind of shit- pretend like they are wasted and then spill their guts. why not just being up front and honest. might work out better in the end.

whatever happens, good luck man.

[beastieangel01]

drinking and someone you are on the rocks with is usually a bad, bad mix.

I would know, from a few experiences unfortunately, and no where near as serious mind you... and it ended up making things worse. Again though, that was my particular experience(s).

best of luck.

[Loppfessor]

I'm not going to tell my whole sob story but I can totally relate. My ex and I have put each other through hell the past few months and it's seriously killing me. The best advice I can give is to just cut all ties. That's what I'm trying to do. Aside from one drunken text message last weekend it's been almost a month since I have had any contact with her.

[enree erzweglle]

It's like maybe she realized that you might be so pissed that you hate her or that you want nothing to do with her and she can't understand that, so she does what she does to hook you again or to try to hook you again. It's about ego. I wonder if it's some of that...I've seen that happen lots.

I don't know, some people can't take not being fawned over by someone who used to fawn a lot. And when they detect that the other person is moving on or has moved on, they'll do what they can to get that person's attention again--they'll pull heartstrings or use sex or morph into some sweet and kind person, be all of the things you love/d about him/her--anything to hook you back in again. (When I've seen this happen, once the one side DOES get hooked again, then usually the other side re-loses interest and re-dumps and that cycle often happens a bunch of times until one time, it sticks.)

[Dr Deaf]

after going into debt up to my ears today, my wife (soon to be ex) had a hair-brained idea of going to go shoot pool and drink.


you out-hair-brained her, when you agreed to go. i feel for you, i really do. lines have been drawn in the sand, its up to you to stay on your side. everytime you hang out with her and it's not directly related to your kids or the settlement, you reset your shot clock. there'll be other tests of your will. as tempting as it may be, to spend time with her... to relive and maybe rekindle the old times, is counter-productive to your new agenda.

people say, time heals all wounds, if that's the case... you need as much time as you can possibly get, away from her.

be strong, rediscover and appreciate yourself. one day at a time, you didn't fall in love overnight and you won't fall out of love overnight either.

i coined this a few years back:

it's not a future lost, it's history gained.

instead of racking your brain going over every minute detail over and over from the moment you wake up, until the moment you eventually fall asleep, just remember:

it's not a future lost, it's history gained.

keep your fucking head up. it's gonna get better.

(y)

[NurfBallJeaneus]

you out-hair-brained her, when you agreed to go. i feel for you, i really do. lines have been drawn in the sand, its up to you to stay on your side. everytime you hang out with her and it's not directly related to your kids or the settlement, you reset your shot clock. there'll be other tests of your will. as tempting as it may be, to spend time with her... to relive and maybe rekindle the old times, is counter-productive to your new agenda.

people say, time heals all wounds, if that's the case... you need as much time as you can possibly get, away from her.

be strong, rediscover and appreciate yourself. one day at a time, you didn't fall in love overnight and you won't fall out of love overnight either.

i coined this a few years back:

it's not a future lost, it's history gained.

instead of racking your brain going over every minute detail over and over from the moment you wake up, until the moment you eventually fall asleep, just remember:

it's not a future lost, it's history gained.

keep your fucking head up. it's gonna get better.

(y)

Very well said.

[skra75]

yeah but fuck her first

I almost went there. But I stopped and said "self...is this really a good idea?". As much as I would like to disconnect the emotional from it there is just way too much baggage and the next day would be awkward as hell.

she's good in bed but, eh.

[skra75]

it's not a future lost, it's history gained.

thanks man(lb)

[beastieangel01]

That's what I'm trying to do. Aside from one drunken text message last weekend it's been almost a month since I have had any contact with her.

it's fun when they send you several of those, every single night, since you've left. sometimes phone calls too! wee.

[Echewta]

Lots of good advise has already been given chimpster. Seriously, try to end it quickly to move on. Don't go out for drinks with her because its the cake and eat it to on her side. :(

[skra75]

Lots of good advise has already been given chimpster. Seriously, try to end it quickly to move on. Don't go out for drinks with her because its the cake and eat it to on her side. :(

you're right man, you're right.
somehow i keep setting myself up to get used. I keep going back, I gotta stand up and take a big step away.

[Bitchamachacha]

Backwoods --- you were married??

I've been separated for a year now, but after the first few months of being apart, we got back together and tried again. I ended up kicking his ass out because even though I cared and we shared a child, I couldn't trust him. I was always waiting for him to fuck up again.

Love is a powerful thing, but it isn't everything. I sometimes miss knowing I'm loved by someone who was like my best friend in the world, but it doesn't hurt nearly as bad as it did when I had to constantly keep tabs on him. Nope..not worth it.

As the Pharcyde one said..there are otha fish in the sea....

Good luck to you. Separation is tough shit.