argh family issues are fucked up!

[ggirlballa]

my mom says my dad is cheating on her she brings it up almost evryday. i just brush it off & say she's going thru a mid-life crisis or sumthing cuz i don't wanna hear that.

but my dad says she's going crazy. i really don't know who to believe! she brings it up all the time like if we were in the car listening to the radio or sumthing & someone brings up dinner. she'll say sumthing like "Oh dinner? why don't u take me to where u take her out to eat" she always says "her":confused:

my dad kinda started yelling and breaking down and said that he's tired of her being a downer on his life

my mom threw a banana at him (yes a banana she's thrown glass before so i'm happy it was a banana)
and started crying so i sat down with her & she says hates fighting while i'm watching:(

idk both of my parents are crazy but i feel that my mom is crazier she gets very angery & violent & denies that she has problems

when my dad paid for a marriage counsler my mom quit after a few sessions cuz she said that my dad paid the guy to agree with him cuz he had said she has a lot of problems she needs to deal with

they still love each other i know it just yesterday they both grossed me & my brother out cuz we found out they were showering together:eek: (we didn't see them thank god but we saw them both go into the bathroom & lock the door)


thank you for letting me get this out i feel slightly better:o

[ggirlballa]

oh thank god for the Beastie Boys they have really helped me get thru this i'm listening to them right now(y) :D

[alexandra]

"fuck this, let's take a shower together!"

[monkey]

you know, your parents are people with problems, just like all of us. and for married people, sometimes it's hard to keep it together. but rest assured that your mom is not trying to hurt you or your brother or even your dad. she may just be insecure and hurting herself and doesnt know how to deal. and your dad is trying to deal with it. it would probably help if you all got counseling. and regardless of the outcome, you should know that any problems your parents have are completely separate from how much they love you and how much they care for you.

[skra75]

whatever you do know that this shit isn't your fault at all.

If you feel upset, try to extract yourself from the situation. Go for a walk, listen to music, whatever. It's +not right+ for them to vent their feelings in front of you, ask them to take it outside or wait until you go to bed because you don't need it. And they most certainly don't need to drag you into it and force you to choose alliances - you're the kid and again you don't fukcing deserve their weights. Just pull out of the situation, relax, do something for yourself.

love, Backwoods.

[Randetica]

hah my dad cheated on my mum with other guys

:rolleyes: :mad:

[Videodrome]

whoa!

[ScarySquirrel]

Wow... this post yielded a lot more touching responses than I would've expected from the BBMB. Good job(?), I guess.

[GetYourWarOn]

lol @ your dad saying your mom is going crazy. my dad says that too...actually they all do, i think.

[GetYourWarOn]

hah my dad cheated on my mum with other guys

:rolleyes: :mad:

does jerry springer's show air in europe?

[like2_drink]

hmm..*breaths deeply*

doooes..*exhails*..this happen abouuuut * breaths in again *...say once a month?

[Randetica]

does jerry springer's show air in europe?


my whole life is a jerry springer show
though i dont pull up my shirt that often

[ampm]

That sucks. Is there a family member that can help you out?

[Loppfessor]

Wow... this post yielded a lot more touching responses than I would've expected from the BBMB. Good job(?), I guess.

Seriously...ggirlballa all I can say is hang in there. You can be there for your parents but don't become their go to confident. You are the child and they are the adults and they need to recognize that. I came from a pretty jacked up home life and the best advice I can give is to just find your escapes (i.e. Beastie Boys, movies, friends etc) Nothing that is going on is your fault and remember that

[hardnox71]

Wow... this post yielded a lot more touching responses than I would've expected from the BBMB.
Not everyone is a cynical smartass.



ggirl, I don't know what to tell you first. I guess, first of all, keep your head up. Shit at home might be kind of uncertain right now but it will all work out and for the best. Trust me on this. I had two stepmothers and had been to six different grade schools by the time I was ten. My shit was pretty uncertain when I was your age, too, but it worked out. I may not have liiked what the outcome was but it was for the best. It always is.

p.s. Don't use what's going on at home as an excuse to go out and start fucking up, ya' dig?

[ampm]

Wow... this post yielded a lot more touching responses than I would've expected from the BBMB. Good job(?), I guess.

She's only 13 years old. It'd be nice to help her now before she turns into a Dandy, Dorothy or a Pauli.

[ggirlballa]

thanks to all who responded with advice & even the jerry springer post made me lol a little bit.:p

well things seem to be getting a lot better so thats good(y)

[hitmonlee]

hey how old is your mum?
is it possible she is going through menopause

lots of my friends and i have had parents issues, and they all turned out to be mothers going through menopause.

[ggirlballa]

hey how old is your mum?
.

she's 41

[Justin]

yo. I had to deal with the same problem when i lived at home before college. My dad was always at work and my mom was one of those "stay at home mom's) which was cool cause i always got breakfast dinner and supper hehe.

But my mom would always bring up ridiculous situations blaming my father. Whatever he said she would always turn it around to make it sound like he was lying and that she was always right.

She doesnt seem like that now, but i believe that she just wanted more attention from my father.

I really believe that with me moving away probably saved the marriage because it cut there responsibility in half.

[Justin]

I was an only child and a spoiled bastard.

[hitmonlee]

she's 41

bit early for menopause, and its a sensitive issue with older women, but could be a possibility.

[Loppfessor]

she's 41


Is she a MILF???

[hardnox71]

Is she a MILF???
Lopp, play nice. We're talking to a thirteen year old here.

[beastiegirrl101]

am I the only one who thinks that the parents should not have gotten her involved in their issues?

[hardnox71]

am I the only one who thinks that the parents should not have gotten her involved in their issues?
In a confrontation, we all like to have an ally so we don't feel that we are standing alone, that we have some sort of back-up or support system. Her parents are no different. They are trying to get her to take sides and that is some absolute bullshit. My father used to do that to me. He would try to use guilt, bribery and intimidation. I hated it. It wasn't fair. My dad was an asshole.

I remember once he was fighting with my first stepmother and he started putting his hands on her. The neighbors called the cops. The cops show up and arrest my dad. As they're putting him in the back of the car he's hollering to me to "do something! Don't let them take me to jail!"

Well, the next day he's back home and he's sitting outside eating an apple pie. I asked him if I could have a bite and he looked at me and snarled, "You have the nerve to ask me for some pie after you let the cops take me away last night?"

I was six years old. What was I supposed to do?

My point being, that shit was 29 years ago and I remember it like it was last night and will remember it 29 years from now. What ggirl's parents are doing to her is completely bogus bullshit that she will not forget. They have no idea how this is gonna affect her.

[Loppfessor]

Lopp, play nice. We're talking to a thirteen year old here.

Hey man age 13 is when I started noticing some of my friend's moms....just sayin

am I the only one who thinks that the parents should not have gotten her involved in their issues?

But seriously....that's kind of what I was saying with my whole be there for them but don't become their "go to" type person. My parents pulled/pull that shit all the time

[hardnox71]

Hey man age 13 is when I started noticing some of my friend's moms....just sayin
I feel you on that but did you ever actually ask any of your friends, "Hey, man, is your moms a MILF?" I mean, what kind of response are you expecting? "Yeah, my moms is totally prime. You would definitely want to hit that!"

OK, here's one better. It would be like me asking you the same thing. I dunno. I just kind of think it would be awkward for the other person.

[Justin]

what if you have a g/f and then you find out that her mom is hotter than her?

[hardnox71]

what if you have a g/f and then you find out that her mom is hotter than her?
Sit them both down and see what they want to do.:p