Why can't people act like grown ups sometimes?

[Loppfessor]

Okay so I met a wonderful girl over the weekend and we have spent every evening since together. So far as I can tell she is a "nice" girl and I've been a perfect gentleman so far. It's funny because I haven't had these butterfly goofy smile days in a while. It feels really nice.

Anyway last night we decided to go to the club to do some dancing and just hang out. So we walked in and I go to the bar to order drinks. Well right next to me is this other female who I was talking to a month or so ago for like two weeks. Now this girl happened to be completely crazy. She was extremely needy and clingy. Plus she told me she was in love with me after 10 days. Needless to say I cut it off.

So at the bar she was already drunk and hanging on me. I was still trying to be polite and kind of brushed her off. Then she's like "Are you here with a girl??!!" and I’m like "yeah" so she spent the rest of the night dancing with random guys, fake laughing and carrying on, right in front of me in what I can only assume was an attempt to make me jealous. Whatever though I was with someone special and stayed focused on her.

So then this afternoon we had a work function at the bowling alley and I saw her and her little group of friends. I smiled politely and said "Hi ladies" of course all I got was dirty looks and then the kept pointing and laughing the rest of the afternoon. This whole thing is stupid because I had heard from a few people that the past few weekends she had been at the pub making out with other dudes and stuff. I didn't say anything cus it's not my business. I liked her as a friend but now am completely turned off by this high school behavior.

I really don't think I did anything wrong and really don't deserve that kind of shabby treatment? What do you think?

[mikizee]

One thing i've learned in life is that 95% of people are jerks. dont waste your time putting in 1 thought about this stupid little girl. focus on your new girl, and don't forget to smile!!

[Loppfessor]

Good advice....I am going to focus on the new one. She really is something special

[jackrock]

I'm glad you found someone :)

[mikizee]

finding someone new and special in your life sure does make the days a bit sunnier! enjoy it (y)

[Loppfessor]

Sadly since it is me and the universe hates me there is a terrible downside.....I leave here in like 3 weeks :( Isn't that always the way? My life has been shit for months and now I have finally started to be happy again and now it's time to leave.

[mikizee]

Man, that sucks.

[Loppfessor]

Sure does...but like I said the universe or God or whatever hates me...

[QueenAdrock]

God, women can be so catty sometimes. I think that's the way they deal with being dissed. I think the way guys deal with being dissed is not even acknowledging they've been dissed. For example, went on a few dates with a guy, flirted, whatever, it sizzled out and I didn't talk to him very much for about 2 months. Meet Brett, like him, start dating him. Guy finds out, and starts acting like Brett's and my relationship isn't serious, or at least not as serious as he and I should have been or whatever. Calls Brett "forum boy" and kept saying how FAR away Canada was (yeah like moving isn't an option :rolleyes:). And then he goes on and tells me how beautiful I am, gets drunk, and starts massaging my back and it was awkward.

I wish there was a happy medium, where people don't feel insulted when they don't live up to someone else's expectations, chalk it up to "there's someone else out there that I'd be good with" and SUCK IT UP AND DEAL WITH IT.

[mikizee]

Word.

[abcdefz]

I really don't think I did anything wrong and really don't deserve that kind of shabby treatment? What do you think?



Much of the time, women take things a lot more personally than men do. With men, "it didn't work out," with women, they were "rejected." And if this girl was needy to begin with... yeah, she's behaving badly, trying to hurt your feelings. Don't take it to heart.

[skra75]

yeah so you did nothing wrong but I'd watch it with that girl she sounds really dangerous. for real, like she may slash your tires.

[abcdefz]

...where did he say "seriously involved"?

In fact, if the "perfect gentleman so far" means what I think it means, he hasn't even been making promises with his body, so to speak.

[miss soul fire]

You did nothing wrong, but this sure bothers you. Maybe you should go see a shrink or just talk to her, but that would be stupid since she IS stupid, so just ignore her and she'll go away, away, away...

[Loppfessor]

^Well we haven't had sex yet if that's what you guys are asking. And yeah it is probably really stupid to even think of getting attached to someone right before leaving but the honest truth is that I haven't met anyone that made me feel like this in a long long time. I really don't know what's going to happen from here. I have to make it through tonight first cus a new monkey wrench has been thrown in the mix...ugh

[ampm]

Okay so I met a wonderful girl over the weekend and we have spent every evening since together. So far as I can tell she is a "nice" girl and I've been a perfect gentleman so far. It's funny because I haven't had these butterfly goofy smile days in a while. It feels really nice.

Anyway last night we decided to go to the club to do some dancing and just hang out. So we walked in and I go to the bar to order drinks. Well right next to me is this other female who I was talking to a month or so ago for like two weeks. Now this girl happened to be completely crazy. She was extremely needy and clingy. Plus she told me she was in love with me after 10 days. Needless to say I cut it off.

So at the bar she was already drunk and hanging on me. I was still trying to be polite and kind of brushed her off. Then she's like "Are you here with a girl??!!" and I’m like "yeah" so she spent the rest of the night dancing with random guys, fake laughing and carrying on, right in front of me in what I can only assume was an attempt to make me jealous. Whatever though I was with someone special and stayed focused on her.

So then this afternoon we had a work function at the bowling alley and I saw her and her little group of friends. I smiled politely and said "Hi ladies" of course all I got was dirty looks and then the kept pointing and laughing the rest of the afternoon. This whole thing is stupid because I had heard from a few people that the past few weekends she had been at the pub making out with other dudes and stuff. I didn't say anything cus it's not my business. I liked her as a friend but now am completely turned off by this high school behavior.

I really don't think I did anything wrong and really don't deserve that kind of shabby treatment? What do you think?


Dandy could be a bitch sometimes.

[Lex Diamonds]

Why can't YOU act like a grown up sometimes?

Yeah sometimes I just snap out of the whole immature drink/drugs/sex thing and think "what the fuck are we all doing"? But then I realise I'm being a square and carry on getting head whilst drinking Jack Daniels and smoking my blunt.

[HOTWIFE]

I can't stand when girls get like that. They're idiots. Congrats on the new girl Lopp:D

[Loppfessor]

Just in case anyone cared for an update here goes. Friday night I met up with the boys a while after work to shoot some pool, throw some darts and drink a few beers. After that I was supposed to meet up with new girl at some house party. Well I wound up staying at the Pub a lot longer than I had planned on got pretty drunk. Anyway my friend and I get to the party and were pretty surprised.

You see the host of the party is an aircraft mechanic and works with a bunch of rough and tough meat head types. They refer to anyone who doesn’t work on the flight line as “noners” me being a lame Comm geek definitely qualifies me as a noner. Anyway so I’m expecting a bunch of rowdy mechanic types when we get there. So to my surprise the place is packed with a bunch of gay dudes and other miscellaneous people that I could only describe as hipsters and swingers.

I’m a social guy so I sit down with new girl and start chilling. She’s pretty wasted and so am I but we were having fun. The whole place was just giving me a weird vibe though. I mean she and her friends are close but a little too close you know what I mean? We wind up driving her and 2 friends home. One friend is a dude who I’m 82% sure is bi and the other is a girl. Like I said their whole little group is just a little too close to be normal. So we drop them off at new girl’s house and I don’t even get asked to stay the night. Not that I was expecting sex but at least allowing me to stay over would’ve been nice.

Long story short (kinda) my homegirl who introduced me to all these people called the next day and asked me if I would anything weird about that party and I agreed. I guess it turns out that a lot of them kind of share lovers and such. Now I don’t know if new girl is like that but I’m definitely disappointed now. She seemed to have it all. Now I’m not a prude or anything and I’ve been mixed up in my share of crazy sex-related situations but I’m just not about any of that crazy shit anymore. I really think sex should just be between a man and a woman (well just two people if you’re gay) but that’s it. Who knows what comes next cus short of a few phone calls I haven’t heard from her.