Playing House...

[Loppfessor]

Okay so this girl that I dated for like 6 months a while back has been having a lot of drama in her life. Well the other night she calls me in tears and asks if I can come pick her up. So I do and she stays the night with me. Well I won’t go into details but it’s really in her best interest to stay where she lives now so I told her she could stay with me as long as she needed to.

So the past few days we have pretty much been playing house. When we dated I never let her stay over on weeknights (long story) but the past few days we’ve been falling asleep together and waking up getting ready for work together, then planning what we want for dinner and stuff after work. It’s been great just laughing and having someone there. I mean we NEVER got along this well when we were dating. We have both commented on how we wish things were like this when we were together. I mean aside from the lack of sex we’re behaving like a happy little couple.

Basically I know that nothing that is going on right now is “real”. She is just under and immense amount of stress right now and has pretty much been betrayed by everyone but me. Plus I’m just coming off something pretty traumatic in my life and am really lonely. Still I can’t help but notice how wonderful things have been and I think I might be developing feelings for her again. Is this little game of house we’re playing that bad? I mean I know it’s not healthy but right now it’s making both of us feel better so it can’t be that bad right?

[Dorothy Wood]

you guys are gonna bang soon, then it'll either be all awkward, or super cool. you won't know until after.

[Loppfessor]

I dunno I mean the sex was INCREDIBLE when we were dating and I'm still very sexually attracted to her so you never know. I just feel guilty about this situation and am not really sure why

[Justin]

I think your doing the right thing for being there for her as a friend. You shouldnt feel guilty.

[Loppfessor]

^ I guess it's cus the whole time we sit there and bitch about our exes I"m thinking "Why the hell did we even break up anyway?" I mean I lost my fiance over this girl and for the longest time I didn't think it was worth it but now I'm startin to think otherwise...

[Pres Zount]

Don't let your actual feelings guilt you out.

[Loppfessor]

Don't let your actual feelings guilt you out.


I don't even know what I feel. I mean this girl is the queen of the crazy girls I've dated. She put me through hell and almost ruined my life but I've always loved her and had a very special place in my heart for her. Right now I think we're both just feeling a need in each other's life...

[Pres Zount]

then just ride it out for moment. you sound like you're not sure you need each other after the current circumstances, so just wait.

[Loppfessor]

We shall see, I guess she makes me feel needed which is always nice. Too bad she's going to be SOL in 2 weeks when I go back to the states....maybe we should just get married hmmm

[jennyb]

you guys are gonna bang soon, then it'll either be all awkward, or super cool. you won't know until after.
what she said

[Kid Presentable]

We shall see, I guess she makes me feel needed which is always nice. Too bad she's going to be SOL in 2 weeks when I go back to the states....maybe we should just get married hmmm
If you get married, you could do sex in a wheelbarrow position. Assuming you haven't already.

Have you?

[Loppfessor]

^Umm a modifies wheelbarrow...I fell in love with her ass the first time I saw it so I was into any position from behind....but I don't mean to make it sound cheap or tawdry

[enree erzweglle]

I fell in love with her ass the first time I saw it so I was into any position from behind....but I don't mean to make it sound cheap or tawdryWomen love romance so you could go with that and just tell her: `I fell in love with your ass the first time I saw it. Now I think I'm starting to love the rest of you too.'

(Otherwise, what Dorothy Wood & jennygirl said. You'll figure things out after you've had maybe six more more-intimate months together.

I've usually had a sort of gut feeling when I knew that things would be + or -, or + but only with some adjustments. The hardest times for me have been when I've had that gut feeling to go with a thing or not go with it and when I don't listen to myself and then try to force a thing to happen or not happen against its will. I've more learned to listen to the instinct but I have to force myself to do that sometimes and even then, I don't do it consistently. This relates to a lot of stuff, stuff that's not confined just to intimate relationships. You know yourself best.)

[Loppfessor]

^ LOL I was just kidding about the ass thing, well kinda but I know what you're saying. Anyway the reason this situation is so weird is because I met this girl back in the day when I was still doing the long distance thing with my ex. We had a fling that got out of control and a LOT of drama went down. I came clean with my ex and we tried hard to work through it and even wound up engaged. Things fell apart shortly after that especially once I found out she was seeing someone in the States (at least it eased my guilt a bit)

So now here I am somehow the fates have thrown girl 2 and myself into this situation. I just can't take the irony of it all. The girl who was supposed to be a cheap little fling is still in my life and I'm not even on speaking terms with the one I thought was my soulmate/future wife. My head is just spinning right now.

[enree erzweglle]

^ LOL I was just kidding about the ass thing, well kinda but I know what you're saying. Anyway the reason this situation is so weird is because I met this girl back in the day when I was still doing the long distance thing with my ex. We had a fling that got out of control and a LOT of drama went down. I came clean with my ex and we tried hard to work through it and even wound up engaged. Things fell apart shortly after that especially once I found out she was seeing someone in the States (at least it eased my guilt a bit)

So now here I am somehow the fates have thrown girl 2 and myself into this situation. I just can't take the irony of it all. The girl who was supposed to be a cheap little fling is still in my life and I'm not even on speaking terms with the one I thought was my soulmate/future wife. My head is just spinning right now.It is an irony, huh? I can imagine that it's confusing. I'd just try to ride it out and do what feels like the right thing, don't try to push it or overthink it. Which is hard, I know.

You mentioned that with this woman, the sex was great and it sounds like there's some sexual tension there now, maybe as you both remember how it was during the drama--I wonder how it would be now, given the relative safety of things...?

Sometimes the incredibleness of the sex is directly proportional to the level of drama in the relationship. It's like if there's big drama, there's big passion and that often manifests via great sex.

[Loppfessor]

^You are so smart....anyway I don't really think anything is going to come of it. We're both heading back to the States in a few weeks and although I'm sure we will stay friends that's about it. I have just enjoyed the past few days so much. Plus it makes me feel good that I'm "there" for her in this time of need.

[Nuzzolese]

What happened to the special girl you just started seeing? Or was that an old thread that got bumped?

[Loppfessor]

^Just in case anyone cared for an update here goes. Friday night I met up with the boys a while after work to shoot some pool, throw some darts and drink a few beers. After that I was supposed to meet up with new girl at some house party. Well I wound up staying at the Pub a lot longer than I had planned on got pretty drunk. Anyway my friend and I get to the party and were pretty surprised.

You see the host of the party is an aircraft mechanic and works with a bunch of rough and tough meat head types. They refer to anyone who doesn’t work on the flight line as “noners” me being a lame Comm geek definitely qualifies me as a noner. Anyway so I’m expecting a bunch of rowdy mechanic types when we get there. So to my surprise the place is packed with a bunch of gay dudes and other miscellaneous people that I could only describe as hipsters and swingers.

I’m a social guy so I sit down with new girl and start chilling. She’s pretty wasted and so am I but we were having fun. The whole place was just giving me a weird vibe though. I mean she and her friends are close but a little too close you know what I mean? We wind up driving her and 2 friends home. One friend is a dude who I’m 82% sure is bi and the other is a girl. Like I said their whole little group is just a little too close to be normal. So we drop them off at new girl’s house and I don’t even get asked to stay the night. Not that I was expecting sex but at least allowing me to stay over would’ve been nice.

Long story short (kinda) my homegirl who introduced me to all these people called the next day and asked me if I would anything weird about that party and I agreed. I guess it turns out that a lot of them kind of share lovers and such. Now I don’t know if new girl is like that but I’m definitely disappointed now. She seemed to have it all. Now I’m not a prude or anything and I’ve been mixed up in my share of crazy sex-related situations but I’m just not about any of that crazy shit anymore. I really think sex should just be between a man and a woman (well just two people if you’re gay) but that’s it. Who knows what comes next cus short of a few phone calls I haven’t heard from her.

[Kid Presentable]

^Umm a modifies wheelbarrow...I fell in love with her ass the first time I saw it so I was into any position from behind....but I don't mean to make it sound cheap or tawdry
Oh no, please do. How old is she?

[Loppfessor]

She was 20 when we dated but 21 now....

[Kid Presentable]

Landing strip? Curly Hair?

[Loppfessor]

^ Oh jeebus, nevermind KP I don't see how any of that is important