D'you think people tell the truth when drunk?

[Teh]

Seriously, i know i talk 100 bullshit when i am, but that's just me. Most of my mates tend not to talk shite when they're pissed, or at least no more shite than they'd talk if they were sober.

So?

[Freebasser]

You're my best mate, you are.

[skra75]

Oh yes man. Absolutely. I get into serious trouble sometimes bc of this factor.

[Teh]

You're my best mate, you are.

Shut it you smelly manchester bastard.

Love ya really though :o ;)

[Lex Diamonds]

I often tell people what I really think of them and then the next day just say "I was drunk you know I didn't mean it".

[enree erzweglle]

In a Mel-Gibson-related thread, Q had an excellent analysis about this. It's about shifting up your inhibitions, adjusting your normal filters.

I think I've only been drunk a couple of times in my life and even then, it wasn't drunk-drunk but maybe a more-happy kind of drunk and I got much more happy and gregarious.

I've only known--just casually--two alcoholics. The one, it turns out, I knew more when he was drunk than when he wasn't drunk. (In other words, drunk, for him, was status quo.) By the time I realized that, I didn't know what was truth and what wasn't. The other alcoholic that I knew changed a lot when he was drinking but I don't think he ever realized that and wasn't particularly open to hearing about the shifts in his personality. And I never exactly pinpointed when he was actually drunk, but one side of him was happy/thrilled and the other side of him was just flat-seeming and dull. I don't know that he became more/less truthful when he drank. I do know that when he was on the verge of drinking, he was like a kid, nearly ecstatic and you could nearly see the visible shift in his attitude about life when he was close to the drinking hours. Fridays were really, really good days for him.

I had someone staying in my house a few times and when I got home from work, we'd talk and it was great--time flew and we'd get into a wide range of things and it was just perfect. Then one visit, he was not the him that I'd gotten to know before and I forget why, but I eventually realized that all of the other times when we talked after I got home from work, he was talking with me after having spent the day in a bar. The "not himself" him was actually the real him, just a non-drunk him and he was so markedly different. I wonder if serious drinkers realize that about themselves, do they feel those pronounced differences and shifts in personality, do they realize that other people are aware of the shifts, I wonder.

[Teh]

I often tell people what I really think of them and then the next day just say "I was drunk you know I didn't mean it".

I think that's what i mean, like you have the confidence to get things out that you'd think twice about saying when sober, maybe if it was personal, or embarrasing, etc.

[QueenAdrock]

I definitely am overly friendly and compliment everyone because I'm feeling it at the time. Later on, I'm like, meh, she's not THAT great. Not really lying, but definitely exaggeration.

[icy manipulator]

oh yeah, and it's always the horrible truth too

[Dorothy Wood]

I had someone staying in my house a few times and when I got home from work, we'd talk and it was great--time flew and we'd get into a wide range of things and it was just perfect. Then one visit, he was not the him that I'd gotten to know before and I forget why, but I eventually realized that all of the other times when we talked after I got home from work, he was talking with me after having spent the day in a bar. The "not himself" him was actually the real him, just a non-drunk him and he was so markedly different. I wonder if serious drinkers realize that about themselves, do they feel those pronounced differences and shifts in personality, do they realize that other people are aware of the shifts, I wonder.


I think that some of that personality shift is why people start drinking regularly in the first place. to cope...even if the coping is just to deal with a boring personality. I feel that sometimes...like I'm funnier and talk much more easily when drunk...or at least tipsy. but then sometimes I'm not drunk and I'll say something that gets a reaction, and my confidence goes up and I can keep going, cracking jokes or waxing philosophical without any liquor. it's an inhibition issue really.

anyway, I think for a lot of people, they say what they really want/feel when they're drunk, but those feelings/wants are exaggerated.

[mickill]

It just lowers your inhibitions. I don't think alcohol is necessarily any kind of a truth serum, though.

[Teh]

Well she came clean and wasn't lying but it's now become a tad complicated. Boo.

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

The people I know (including myself) tend to tell the truth. I know that when I used to drink you could ask me a question and I'd answer truthfully no matter what. I was also ten times braver drunk then sober.

[beastieangel01]

depends on the person.

[icy manipulator]

well, lets put this to the test. i'm pretty blind atm. ask me a question and i shall answer truthfully

[like2_drink]

i always tell the truth to people, alot more so when drunk

[enree erzweglle]

I agree with this, but I think this applies to emotions as well. One of my very best friends was shit-faced drunk, and trying stay longer at his girlfriends house, and I told him that we needed to leave because I needed to get Tricia home. He tried to get me to come back and pick him, and I said no it's too late,let's roll. Well the whole way home he was saying that he didn't have real friends outside of football(I played basketball), not any friends that cared about him. Tricia asked him what about Mute, and he said I don't have any friends outside of football. This is a guy that I have gotten into fights for, picked his drunk ass up, cleaned up, and covered up many things up, and now he is saying that I'm not his friend. He was just pissed(angry) and was venting, he couldn't stop his emotions. It's not like this how he really felt about, just maybe how he felt at that moment of anger, and couldn't edit himself. So even though it was the truth, but not the real truth.I wonder if he has an underlying insecurity or anxiety about that--maybe he normally hides it and because his filters were off--because he couldn't self-edit--it surfaced.

I don't have a lot of experience being drunk but when you don't drink and you're out with people who do, you get to watch and you come to learn about that stuff a little bit. That and too many psychology courses. :)

[AdRockGRL]

Uh damn...i'm totally convinced that when we are drunk we say the truth....because in the last months I often get drunk and I always say exactly what i think...and this is scary because I had lots of fights with a lot of persons because of this!

[Documad]

I think that some of that personality shift is why people start drinking regularly in the first place. to cope...even if the coping is just to deal with a boring personality. I feel that sometimes...like I'm funnier and talk much more easily when drunk...or at least tipsy. but then sometimes I'm not drunk and I'll say something that gets a reaction, and my confidence goes up and I can keep going, cracking jokes or waxing philosophical without any liquor. it's an inhibition issue really.

This is the exact situation with the alcoholics in my family.

I tell the complete and utter truth when I drink (I also tend to punch people playfully in the upper arm--it's an ugly sight). I am able to censor myself better when I'm sober. So I agree with enree and apparently with qdrop as well.

[roosta]

ive done both, sometimes ive let people know shit which was the truth which i kept secret other times i have told complete and utter porkies...