I'm nothing but an S!

[venusvenus123]

yesterday some mail came through the door... for me. but i didn't realise it was for me, because it was a printed label with my husband's name on it... and a teeny little s added to his Mr in blue biro.

it was from his mum, unsurprisingly.

i'm happy to take his name and all, so that we all have the same surname in our family... but please can i also keep my first name too?? :(

[TAL]

No, you're just an s.

[Praying Mantis]

My grandparents ant great aunt do that whenever they address things for my wife. I guess that its an old school thing.

[venusvenus123]

No, you're just an s.
yeah, you're write!:p

it was a faint s too, as the biro obviously had run out of ink.

[venusvenus123]

My grandparents ant great aunt do that whenever they address things for my wife. I guess that its an old school thing.
yeah i know. it's just weird. especially as it contained a nice letter for me plus some nice goodies. i never would have opened it myself. just thought it was some kind of official stuff for my man.

[Praying Mantis]

There has been a couple times that I have opened my wifes mail because i see my name and just dodn't notice the Mrs. in front of it.

[na§tee]

exert your independence venus! ya see, if i was married, i would be offended to be called mrs stewart, but it would offend me more for someone to label me mrs (mans name) stewart. that shit is so old fashioned and pisses me off. of course, it would be highly unlikely that i meet and marry a man who has the same surname as me!

i think i would like to not take my husband's surname if i got married. there is only one boy in the family now (my brother) and 6 girls, and i'm really sorta proud and patriotic about our clan and its connections. i don't want it to die out. i know that sounds really cheesy, but hey. it's a scottish thang!

[TurdBerglar]

so would your kids have a hyphenated last name? then their kids to have a hyphenated last name? it would just get ridiculous

[na§tee]

so would your kids have a hyphenated last name? then their kids to have a hyphenated last name? it would just get ridiculous
no, not at all.
i was wondering about that. hmm. you would have to have a wee bit of a discussion about the whole kids thing. obviously i would like a stewart in there, but i'm not a fan of double-barrelling. my cousin is stewart-harding and it sounds (n).
i would need a very diplomatic husband, that is all! or one with a really cool surname that i wouldn't mind doubling up with. maybe, say, stewart-superstar, stewart-phoenix, stewart-rod, ya know?

[mickill]

I wanted my wife to hyphenate her last name . But that's because I like her maiden name. She said that she'd do it if I did the same, which in some ways made sense. But she just ended up taking my name in the end, which is unfortunate.

[na§tee]

yeah, i read recently about a growing trend for men to take their wife's name. not double barrelled, the whole hog! very interesting.
i'm thinking maybe my kids can just have names like ronaldo and pele and then we won't have this problem? no... no?

[beastieangel01]

Ugh. Yeah, I would hate that. If anyone calls me by my husbands first AND last name, a pencil is getting stuck straight in their eye.

[mickill]

Well, Pele was just a nickname. His real name is Edson or something, which doesn't have quite the same ring to it, I guess. And Ronaldo's last name is de Lima. Maybe we should just all go by nicknames, though.

[na§tee]

YES, MICKILL! :rolleyes: i know they have surnames and real names and christian names and nazi names and what not, but they are generally known by a nickname. apparently this is the norm in brazil because of the country's illiteracy rate. but sshh, don't tell msf! puta vagabunda! :cool:

i think it's coolio. we should all go by nicknames. are you sticking to mickill, uh, mickill, or shall we think of something more fruity?

[venusvenus123]

yeah, i only took my husband's surname when we had el bambino. there was much umming and whatever-ing, but it's quite sensible to all have the same name in a family... especially when you're travelling and your son's passport has expired :o

[Echewta]

Your son is always to lazy to get his passport renewed. When is he going to learn that lesson?

[venusvenus123]

i dunno. he's too busy watching the simpsons and eating cheesy poofs!

lazy tike

[abcdefz]

exert your independence venus! ya see, if i was married, i would be offended to be called mrs stewart, but it would offend me more for someone to label me mrs (mans name) stewart. that shit is so old fashioned and pisses me off.




It is old-fashioned, but cut the old folks some slack: for a ceratin older generation, that "Mrs. (Man's name) (Man's surname)" is an honorarium. Accept it gracefully, and at some point note or mention to the person that you prefer to be addressed as (whatever your preference is). If that request isn't honored, then I think it's fair to get a little miffed, but I wouldn't jump to feeling slighted right off the bat.

[na§tee]

man, i hate wotsits!
my brother used to chase me around the house with those horrible orangey cheesy fingers! yack!

[Lex Diamonds]

man, i hate wotsits!
my brother used to chase me around the house with those horrible orangey cheesy fingers! yack!
Do you remember when they made those special ones that made your tongue/fingers blue?

Whatever chemical it was that did that must have been some cancerous shit.

[na§tee]

It is old-fashioned, but cut the old folks some slack: for a ceratin older generation, that "Mrs. (Man's name) (Man's surname)" is an honorarium. Accept it gracefully, and at some point note or mention to the person that you prefer to be addressed as (whatever your preference is). If that request isn't honored, then I think it's fair to get a little miffed, but I wouldn't jump to feeling slighted right off the bat.
i didn't say who would be calling me mrs x stewart.
of course i wouldn't be so rude to just get angry to someone of an older generation, because i do have the brains, believe it or not, to understand that that was just their way of life!
i was assuming, in that comment, someone like the bank, or your gas provider, or mobile phone company. companies who are current and modern and, you know, meant to be forward-thinking.
not individuals of a certain generation.

[venusvenus123]

It is old-fashioned, but cut the old folks some slack: for a ceratin older generation, that "Mrs. (Man's name) (Man's surname)" is an honorarium. Accept it gracefully, and at some point note or mention to the person that you prefer to be addressed as (whatever your preference is). If that request isn't honored, then I think it's fair to get a little miffed, but I wouldn't jump to feeling slighted right off the bat.
it's really ok! i'm just commenting on the phenomenon of becoming and "s" when you get married. i told my own mother it annoyed me... but i wouldn't bother with the in-laws. besides she was sending me a gift!:cool:


edit: sorry, i thought that was directed at me. oh i'm so egotistical! :o

[cosmo105]

i saw the brunette version of venus today. i wonder if she was confused as to why a stranger was staring at her with a deer-in-the-headlights look.

[venusvenus123]

i saw the brunette version of venus today. i wonder if she was confused as to why a stranger was staring at her with a deer-in-the-headlights look.
:eek:... was she just as stunning as me?? :p

btw, please can you pm/myspace me that link to your chrons (sp) page as i've yet to fulfill my promise. ta xx
i'm away for a week tho, but will do it on return... promise!

[cosmo105]

right here, sweet thang ! (https://www.kintera.org/faf/donorReg/donorPledge.asp?ievent=144569&lis=1&kntae144569=C540F2C9DBAF46A185D80311BFE5332A&supId=137645364)

[paul jones]

I like it when you get mail from something that you've said to whoever on the phone and the address comes wrongly spelt(y)