what is love?

[b i o n i c]

baby dont hurt me.... don't hurt me... no moe'... ok i hate that song.

WHAT IS LOVE????

is it a choice?

are we at its mercy?

can we will it?

are we powerless to it?

...

what does love mean to you? im not talking about friendly or family love, but the romantic type.

how do you define it?

how do you express it?

how do you know you are loved?

[monkey]

"love means never having to say youre sorry" although while in love, i tend to say im sorry a lot. because im a fuck up that does fucked up things. i think love is one of those things that you feel in your bones and it makes your brain mushy and makes you want to protect the one you love at all costs. and if it's good love, and your heart and your brain are thinking the same thing... there's no doubt. im rambling.

i know he loves me because of the way he looks at me. he looks at me with different eyes than he looks at anyone else. cheeeeeesy. but true.

[QueenAdrock]

That song ran through my head too. But unlike you, I <3 IT.

For me, love can happen between two people that share a connection. You don't have to feel it like *BAM* when you first meet them. It's nice to have an initial spark, but it doesn't always have to be there. Love (for me at least) is a process that takes a while to develop and blossom, I'm very cautious when I fall in love. I have several friends that have broken up with boyfriends they've "loved" yet been able to recover in weeks and move on, which I don't get. Falling in and out of love is a long process for me.

Love to me is when two people can tell what the other person is thinking or feeling by just being in their presence; knowing them so well that they can at any point know what's going on with the other emotionally/mentally. Having that connection. Being able to be out with each other and not needing other people around, just being with one another is more than enough. Having someone who compliments/completes you.

I know that it happens when the person preoccupies majority of my thoughts. I can tell that this happens because I have wicked bad ADD sometimes so when I talk it's "So-and-so this, so-and-so that," and then I think, goddammit I have to put a filter on it. It's when I'm thinking about the other person, just wondering what they're up to, or wondering if they're thinking of me at the same time.

It's hard to express it sometimes, but sometimes you just FEEL it when you hold each other. Gay, I know, but it's true.

Also, when you're able to sit in comfortable silence and not feel the need to blab to fill the silence. Comfortable silences where you can enjoy each other's presence is something that's definitely very solid in a relationship.

[na§tee]

love is over-rated.

[Otis Driftwood]

it's not love if you feel the need to put it in words (or worse verse or song)

[paul jones]

Howard Jones and Deee-lite also have songs called 'What Is Love'

Foreigner wanted to know what love is and Tina Turner wondered 'what's love got to do with it'

the band LOVE have an album which everyone should own called 'Forever changes'

'Love is all around' by the Troggs was covered,sorry mutilated by Wet Wet Wet for some shitty film

Donna Summer claimed to feel love over a Giorgio Moreoder track

See,I'm good in a pub quiz for the music questions

[icy manipulator]

that Haddaway song is my ringtone :(

and the Chaser's war on Everything taught me that if you sing that song to a girl then offer her a chocolate milkshake you're prolly not going to get her number

[yooooo]

Also, when you're able to sit in comfortable silence and not feel the need to blab to fill the silence. Comfortable silences where you can enjoy each other's presence is something that's definitely very solid in a relationship.

werd(y)

its probably the best in a relationship.
except sex, well... depends

[miss soul fire]

Once I heard this woman saying that it was a decision and I patially agree with her because you choose to risk all your feelings on someone else. You have no idea if it's gonna work or not....you know what?! WHATEVER! I'm tired. Hihihihi.

[b i o n i c]

i sometimes i agree with that ^^^ that its a decision, but a decision that one should hold themselves to. unconditional love? can people really practice this? sometimes i think that my standards for love are a little too high, maybe too idealistic. the older i get the more i believe that the ideas i had just dont exist. people react according to circumstance, especially in love.

[beastieangel01]

if you sing that song to a girl then offer her a chocolate milkshake you're prolly not going to get her number

I am the kind of girl that would love that. A lot. Given the chocolate in the milkshake is with chocolate ice cream, not vanilla with chocolate syrup. Not the same thing, yo.

[Dorothy Wood]

it hurts my head to think about it. I always just think it means if you'd be destroyed if the person died, you love them. that's my definition.

[skra75]

i believe in unconditional love. absolutely. but then again, i guess i'm on the rebound, i kind of don't know shit right now, except that i think i'm getting a nasty habit for expensive booze and cheap cigars.

[b i o n i c]

it hurts my head to think about it. I always just think it means if you'd be destroyed if the person died, you love them. that's my definition.


your answer would actually be quite interesting, too bad...

[Dorothy Wood]

ha ha. well, I'm beginning to get a cold and I feel kinda cloudy and yucky. I'll think about love today at work and maybe give you a better answer later.

[wanton wench]

"love is giving someone the power to destroy you but trusting them not to."

lately this is making the most sense to me. maybe because i am single right now and finding it really hard to trust someone enough to go beyond one date or maybe because the last person i loved almost destroyed me.

[skra75]

to me love is not something you can describe, it is like the feeling you get when you smell a wet parking lot or you taste the saltwater from the ocean, or the feel of your toes in the grass in your yard. like god, the more you try to define it the futher you get from the point of it. sometimes it hits you in the face and the echo is in your head and you can't do anything to get it out and all you can do is smile. other times, it is gentle like a rustle in the leaves of a tree in november, it's there and you appreciate it and it causes you to stop and listen. it's in the eyes of the other person, an unspoken warmth and truth and pours out and feels good. and when it's gone or broken, the gutting, the cold, the steel hollow echo of it aches and aches like a vital organ has been ripped from your body, emptyness and ache, worthlessness, pain, hot hot pain. amazing how it's easier to describe with words when it's gone then when it's there.

[QueenAdrock]

"love is giving someone the power to destroy you but trusting them not to."

lately this is making the most sense to me. maybe because i am single right now and finding it really hard to trust someone enough to go beyond one date or maybe because the last person i loved almost destroyed me.

I know how that's like. Trust me, I know. Dated the same guy for 5 years and the day before he broke up with me, he told me he loved me and couldn't wait to move back home from graduate school so he could be with me permanently whenever he wanted. THE DAY BEFORE. And two weeks before, I got a pre-engagement ring (a promise ring, if you will). The term "Out of nowhere" doesn't even BEGIN to start explaining the breakup.

Trusting someone else with your heart again is terrifying. My new relationship is going on 4 months and it scares the hell out of me sometimes, just because I don't want the same pain again. My last heartbreak almost destroyed me too, I ended up in the hospital with dehydration and other issues because I couldn't eat for a week. I'd rather put a bullet into my brain than go through that pain again.

But then you gotta realize that you only live once. I'd rather be cautious and careful and find someone new to love, than to live my life alone and "safe." Hopefully you'll come to that realization too. And it is new and scary and terrifying and all of that, but sometimes it's worth it in the end.

[wanton wench]

I know how that's like. Trust me, I know. Dated the same guy for 5 years and the day before he broke up with me, he told me he loved me and couldn't wait to move back home from graduate school so he could be with me permanently whenever he wanted. THE DAY BEFORE. And two weeks before, I got a pre-engagement ring (a promise ring, if you will). The term "Out of nowhere" doesn't even BEGIN to start explaining the breakup.

Trusting someone else with your heart again is terrifying. My new relationship is going on 4 months and it scares the hell out of me sometimes, just because I don't want the same pain again. My last heartbreak almost destroyed me too, I ended up in the hospital with dehydration and other issues because I couldn't eat for a week. I'd rather put a bullet into my brain than go through that pain again.

But then you gotta realize that you only live once. I'd rather be cautious and careful and find someone new to love, than to live my life alone and "safe." Hopefully you'll come to that realization too. And it is new and scary and terrifying and all of that, but sometimes it's worth it in the end.

i dont want to be alone and safe. thats not really what i ment. but i have not met anyone lately that would make me want to take a chance. know what i mean?

[ET]

Y'ALL LOVE DA DEEP DICKIN!

[QueenAdrock]

i dont want to be alone and safe. thats not really what i ment. but i have not met anyone lately that would make me want to take a chance. know what i mean?

Yeah, definitely. Took me 4 months. Just make sure that it's really because they suck and not because of fears that is keeping you away, because that's what got me. Actually, that's not true. The guys I saw in February and March really DID suck. Hmm. Okay, carry on.

[skra75]

a good friend recently told me "hey, you need to run through some hood rats, maybe 2 or 3, you'll be fine"

[ET]

Haha, I think that might be a good idea. If you get 'em the 12" subs they'll be impressed.

[Lyman Zerga]

i wouldnt know :D(y):D(y):(

[icy manipulator]

I am the kind of girl that would love that. A lot. Given the chocolate in the milkshake is with chocolate ice cream, not vanilla with chocolate syrup. Not the same thing, yo.
damn, why cant you live in brisbane :(

[b i o n i c]

"love means never having to say youre sorry" although while in love, i tend to say im sorry a lot. because im a fuck up that does fucked up things. i think love is one of those things that you feel in your bones and it makes your brain mushy and makes you want to protect the one you love at all costs. and if it's good love, and your heart and your brain are thinking the same thing... there's no doubt. im rambling.

i know he loves me because of the way he looks at me. he looks at me with different eyes than he looks at anyone else. cheeeeeesy. but true.

i see what you're saying, but to me love is ALWAYS saying you're sorry when you're wrong. i think people DON'T say sorry enough. at the same time, id rather not hear an apology if its not something that the person means, like a "god bless you" we might throw out insinctively to a stranger... we dont really mean anything by it. the 'never having to say im sorry thing' would translate in my world to be "trusting that an apology is heartfelt, respecting a person for the maturity of admitting fault, not repeating the same mistakes and forgetting about it - never making someone apologize more than once"

a lot of women talk about the protector/protection thing. as a guy, to me that translates into unity. sticking together, being on the same page about things. im making up this example... let's say i was out with my girl at some bar with some other couples and i overhear her exhaggerating about a story of hers, or if she says something really dumb, i would never think to correct her in front of people. thats sort of protective in my book, allowing her to save face. perhaps i might say something to help her save her dumb statement, even though i know she's wrong. saving face, protection, unity.




Love to me is when two people can tell what the other person is thinking or feeling by just being in their presence; knowing them so well that they can at any point know what's going on with the other emotionally/mentally. Having that connection. Being able to be out with each other and not needing other people around, just being with one another is more than enough. Having someone who compliments/completes you.

yes, this is big. of course no one is psychic, but knowing and being able to forecast your partners feelings (for the most part) indicates a level of intimacy that does not come automatically but rather through active observation, caring about them. the whole being comfortable in silence around eachother and going out with eachother alone, well, im able to do that with anyone, it doesnt mean as much to me as it did years ago. it is however an important thing


"love is giving someone the power to destroy you but trusting them not to."

hmmm that made me think. reminds me of something ive read about how love is strongest through complete mutual surrender. then people got all mad thinking it had something to do with weakness, white flag waving and submission but it actually refers to a different meaning/connotation of the word

[monkey]

bionic, are you falling in love?

[steve-onpoint]

i am.

now at least.:o

[zorra_chiflada]

GO BACK TO YTMND.COM!

[QueenAdrock]

Also, that tingly feeling you get in your pants....though I guess that could be lust too.

[b i o n i c]

bionic, are you falling in love?


not at all, i was just thinking about the past

[AdRockGRL]

This is a nice question....what's love for me!?
I dunnow exactly how to define it, anyway I could say that when I'm in love my heart beats very very strongly...and this doesen't happend on saturday night when i go out with my friends and dudes come to me to know me or stuffs....in that cases i get very angry and start fighting...
Anyway I guess I could tell that I'm in love if m mind is totally fixed on "him" since I wake up till I go to sleep again, if my heart beats strongly and if my mind is totally hanged...Usually when I'm in love people talks to me and i don't listen (I realize it when I see someone starin' at me with a glace that claims an answer...and I have no idea what this someone was talkin' about) or i forget things very easilly...my mom used to tell me "remember to breathe!"