How long do you make someone eat shit for kissing their ex-girlfriend

[DandyFop]

I know how ridiculous this is after posting that other thread.

I don't have the energy to go into details but yeah that happened. I couldn't really react because I was so excited about going to New York so I was just kind like "alright....well I gotta go". And he was all omgg I love you I can't believe I did that it's the biggest mistake I've ever made, I know that i want to be with you. I've been in his shoes and I know how horrible it was. And I know how much it made me appreciate what I had.

So, jesus now the situation has totally changed and it's all in my court. I wanted to forgive him yesterday but obviously that's way too easy and he needs to feel the pain for a while. I'm not trying to be evil, but I think giving in too soon won't be good. But I don't know how long to wait...I've never done anything like this before. He'd better send me flowers or some shit but I don't think he'll even think of that. Not that I need flowers but I'm just saying, some gesture of "please forgive me", instead of just saying it.

There's a shit ton being left out of this story, and I haven't ruled out just breaking up with him but i have a feeling this might improve the situation.

Sorry for the relationship threads lately, but I really am not sure aboot this stuff. He told me right after it happened so I'm glad he didn't hide it. (side note, he shaved his beard and it looked like crap and I was trying not to laugh at it)

[Freebasser]

If he kissed somebody else while he was supposed to be your other half, then why are you even thinking of giving him another chance?

[TurdBerglar]

kiss his ex girlfriend to to make it even(y)

[DandyFop]

If he kissed somebody else while he was supposed to be your other half, then why are you even thinking of giving him another chance?

Because, as I said, I've done what he did before and although it was idiotic and childish, it really made me realize what I had, etc. Which seems to be in the situation he is in.

I'm not here to debate that though, really, because...yeah, whatever. Like I said, I haven't ruled out breaking up with him but I have a feeling everything will be aight now.

[Bob]

i think about a week is industry standard

[DandyFop]

yeah

I don't know if I can wait that long. but it should be. I should just tell him I'll talk to him after I come back from New York. But that feels like an eternity.

[Bob]

don't listen to me by the way, i don't know what i'm talking about

i just like the sight of my own posts

[Laver1969]

A Year And A Day. (lb)

[ET]

Um, I don't know the specifics as to how this all happened but he didn't dick her out. If he couldn't have. So that's something. Unless he would have if he could have. Then that's just wrong.

[HEIRESS]

I kissed my ex ex boyfriend this summer and he broke up with his new girlfriend at the time over it

[abcdefz]

I'm thinking ten days is kind of money. (y)

[Lex Diamonds]

I'd say making someone eat shit for any amount of time would be punishment enough. So, 1-2 seconds should suffice.

[ET]

I'd say making someone eat shit for any amount of time would be punishment enough. So, 1-2 seconds should suffice.

FTW!

[abcdefz]

How long do you make someone eat shit for being in a John Waters movie?


Oh wait.

[DandyFop]

He called me today freaking out and I felt bad. I mean, not bad... but just. He sounded so desperate I've never really heard him like that. He was like can we talk today...and I said, I don't know, I've got stuff to do...(thank god). He was like Well, if you don't want to talk to me bladey blahhh, all wiggin' out. I was like, hey...it's going to be okay. I didn't want to but I don't want him to like throw himself in front of a horseless carriage.

So I guess I am going to talk to him soon. I still gotta hold out though! Be strong! It will be easy with how crappy he looks without a beard.

[afronaut]

Psh, how long do you make someone eat shit for fucking two of their ex boyfriends.

[DandyFop]

Psh, how long do you make someone eat shit for fucking two of their ex boyfriends.

I didn't even know you had one ex boyfriend, much less two

[venusvenus123]

my advice: make him wait till you back from NYC... or at least a week! i think it's only fair that you tell him you need some time to think.

[beastiegirrl101]

He was man enough to tell you about it but why should he have to kiss someone else to know what he has with you? I'm sorry Dandy...once a cheat, always a cheat. You've been in his shoes yes...but you deserve to be with someone who knows what he wants...and knows how to communicate that. I know you love him, but don't settle.

[cosmo105]

why are you telling yourself this will make "everything ok"? everything's not okay, and it's not going to be. a relationship isn't JUST about being madly in love with someone. not at our age. it's got to have more than that. you guys aren't working. he fucking cheated on you. i don't care how much you think you love him. dump him.

[DandyFop]

why are you telling yourself this will make "everything ok"? everything's not okay, and it's not going to be. a relationship isn't JUST about being madly in love with someone. not at our age. it's got to have more than that. you guys aren't working. he fucking cheated on you. i don't care how much you think you love him. dump him.

uh. if everything was black and white it'd be sweet. but it ain't.

[DandyFop]

He was man enough to tell you about it but why should he have to kiss someone else to know what he has with you? I'm sorry Dandy...once a cheat, always a cheat. You've been in his shoes yes...but you deserve to be with someone who knows what he wants...and knows how to communicate that. I know you love him, but don't settle.

Yes, and as I said, I have been in his shoes, completely. And honestly, I did totally realize afterwards what the fuck was going on. Did that make it any better that it happened? Should I have done it? Why did I need that to realize what was going on with me? I have no fucking clue, honestly. But ehhh yeah. It's really hard to explain what my head is oozing.

[cosmo105]

uh. if everything was black and white it'd be sweet. but it ain't.
well, that's the judgement i can cast given what info's been presented. i dunno barb, you're not painting the prettiest picture of this relationship. i'm sure it's more complex than that, but you see what i have to work with...

[DandyFop]

well yeah, of course. I have no way near the energy to go into massive detail, this is the bare minimum.

I was resisting posting this because I knew that most people would be like 'you dumb bitch, dump him!" Because no doubt I'd be saying the exact same thing.

Meh we'll see.

[ampm]

Take more mushrooms. If that doesn't work try anal.

[beastiegirrl101]

well yeah, of course. I have no way near the energy to go into massive detail, this is the bare minimum.

I was resisting posting this because I knew that most people would be like 'you dumb bitch, dump him!" Because no doubt I'd be saying the exact same thing.

Meh we'll see.

don't ask the question when you already know the answer.

Seriously though, I think all of us have been in your shoes and when you're on the outside looking in it all seems so clear ya know?

[QueenAdrock]

If you absolutely think he is truly sorry and will never do it again, give him a chance in about a week. I personally wouldn't forgive someone for kissing their ex-girlfriend (no matter what the excuse), but we're different people. If you can tell he's genuinely upset about it and just wants to be with you, so be it. Be prepared to have it hanging over the relationship though, and it pretty much means he can't see his ex-girlfriend ever again because if he did we all know how you'd feel about that. So, just some things to consider.

[The Notorious LOL]

that would be a relationship ender to me, personally.

if you need to kiss someone else to re-establish how fortunate you are to have what you do, its not really as good as you think it is.

[DandyFop]

To all those who say it is a relationship-ender, have you been in that situation? I'm just curious, because it seems more complicated to me than that. But it perhaps shouldn't be. Maybe I'm just much weaker. I really don't know.

[hpdrifter]

See I don't know, I guess it depends on why he kissed her.

I mean, I love the guy I am with and my ex is like a brother to me now so I can't imagine kissing him.

I'm not sure what I'd do in this situation. I agree that the desire to kiss someone else is a signal that something is wrong.

But at the same time, I mean, its a kiss, it seems so dramatic to get so freaked out by it.

I don't know.

[The Notorious LOL]

its not a linear thing anyway. You asked opinions and got them, some people have different boundaries in the context of a relationship.


If you want to forgive him, then go for it, but if you do...dont bring it up later.

[DandyFop]

Whatever. I'm going to Chili's tonight.

Awesome blossum. Extra awesome.

[The Notorious LOL]

wtf d00d you asked.

[DandyFop]

No, I didn't mean whatever to you. I meant, whatever, I'll figure it out. You know, that kind of whatever.

[The Notorious LOL]

gotcha. Dont sweat it too much...just ask why.

[hpdrifter]

I want to use the Notorious LOL as my myspace name.

Make people think I'm funnier than I am.

[The Notorious LOL]

I already used it on mine a long time ago.

[hpdrifter]

Cool, Imm go change it now.

Done and done.

[The Notorious LOL]

no dont its mine.

[befsquire]

if the relationship is important enough to you to work past this and build toward the future, and you feel you'll be able to get past it just fine, then he can stop eating shit as soon as you come to that decision.

the only thing i would ask you to think about is "why am i staying with him / taking him back?" if it's because it sucks being single and it's easier to be with him than to meet someone new, then you shouldn't keep him in your life romantically.

my answer doesn't really matter though, because i'm not part of the relationship. :)

[Kid Presentable]

I know how ridiculous this is after posting that other thread.

I don't have the energy to go into details but yeah that happened. I couldn't really react because I was so excited about going to New York so I was just kind like "alright....well I gotta go". And he was all omgg I love you I can't believe I did that it's the biggest mistake I've ever made, I know that i want to be with you. I've been in his shoes and I know how horrible it was. And I know how much it made me appreciate what I had.

So, jesus now the situation has totally changed and it's all in my court. I wanted to forgive him yesterday but obviously that's way too easy and he needs to feel the pain for a while. I'm not trying to be evil, but I think giving in too soon won't be good. But I don't know how long to wait...I've never done anything like this before. He'd better send me flowers or some shit but I don't think he'll even think of that. Not that I need flowers but I'm just saying, some gesture of "please forgive me", instead of just saying it.

There's a shit ton being left out of this story, and I haven't ruled out just breaking up with him but i have a feeling this might improve the situation.

Sorry for the relationship threads lately, but I really am not sure aboot this stuff. He told me right after it happened so I'm glad he didn't hide it. (side note, he shaved his beard and it looked like crap and I was trying not to laugh at it)

Sorry to hear this.

[cosmo105]

one thing to take into account, though...do you think you can still trust him after this? completely, wholeheartedly?

[kate]

i'm surprised no one's said anything about it being his ex-girlfriend of all people. that makes it worse i think. so his time should be doubled. and you should also give him a bad case of blue balls as a little extra punishment.

[DandyFop]

It's gonna be okay. Sorry to bother ya'll about all of this. Still taking some time off to consider things, but I'm alright.

[b i o n i c]

make out with the beastie boys and take pics. that'll learn him

[wanton wench]

If he kissed somebody else while he was supposed to be your other half, then why are you even thinking of giving him another chance?
to me, this is the only thing that needs to be said in this thread.

[DandyFop]

make out with the beastie boys and take pics. that'll learn him

Considering I'll be seeing them in less than two weeks (eeeeeeeeeeeeee), that ain't a bad idea

[venusvenus123]

you should probably just cut his dick off. i mean really, that's the only solution.

[DandyFop]

No I should really just be like "it's cool, but for every bj I give, you have to go down on me 10 times".

[mickill]

No, I agree, you should just cut it off and then pickle it.

[b i o n i c]

or just have a gangbang with the beastie boys and never tell

[beastieangel01]

you should probably just cut his dick off. i mean really, that's the only solution.

this is how I solve all my male related problems.