"just freinds"

[sercomdj01]

Ok! So i know this sounds stupid cause ive only known this girl 5 days. We've become like best freinds, incepperable. Do everything together. Well yeah, we've been growing close. And then we're planning to go to this traffic light party thing. And i was all paranoid that she'd meet someone there and id never get my chance to tell her how i feel.
So yesterday at a club i took her to one side and said that i didn't want it to spoil our freindship and told her how i felt. And she said she was "really glad i told her" and then we went and danced more.
Then we got back to our flats and went to hers to watch south park. And then we were both tiered so she said "just sleep here" so i put my arms round her and we held each other and went to sleep all nigh.
Next day i kissed her cheek and said "bye" cause she needed more sleep cause she felt ill. We didn't snog or do anything like. Then when i went back for cofee she was like asif nothing had happened.
This was bugging me cause i was trying to sleep, so i sent a message "i'm confused" and "i don't know how to act or what to do, and how you feel and i do really like you"
And then on msn just now she told me that she didn't want a boyfreind so soon and that for now we should just be freinds.

What does that mean? for now? god i'm so confused! Atleast i won't worry about the fucking traffic light party though.

[Freebasser]

I thought every bloke knew what "just friends" meant? :(

[befsquire]

it means you are always going to be "just friends" with her.

[Ally Al]

dude, aren't you the one thats been at uni for like 5 minutes ?

i'm sure you'll have plenty of other opportunities, go and enjoy yourself

[Planetary]

nevermind, G.

[Caribou]

Jesus. :rolleyes:

[yooooo]

yes, son?

[Lex Diamonds]

A bitch is a bitch.

[yooooo]

yes, son.

[Planetary]

A bitch is a bitch.

but a dog is a man's best friend?

[Tone Capone]

wow dude... sounds like are you trapped in the friend zone.

[Tone Capone]

On the bright side. She might try to hook you up with her hot friends?

[zorra_chiflada]

she's the blonde one yeah?

[Planetary]

On the bright side. She might try to hook you up with her hot friends?

haha. that's a good episode of friends.

[Lex Diamonds]

haha. that's a good episode of friends.
A good episode of "Freinds" don't you mean LMAO!!!1

[Planetary]

ROTLMFAONTF!!!111

[yooooo]

ha.

[yeahwho]

dude your spelling is atrocious, that means something coming from me. Drop the bitch and start cracking your books. I thought you were going to school or some such nonsense.

Focus on your own mind and the rest will follow.

I don't think any relationship is worth bad spelling.

[Planetary]

im pretty sure he's dyslexic.

[yeahwho]

im pretty sure he's dyslexic.

Will then, quit partying all the time and slober up.

[Tone Capone]

Will then, quit partying all the time and slober up.

Why quit partying just to "slober up"???? That doesn't make sense :confused:

[Lex Diamonds]

Why quit partying just to "slober up"???? That doesn't make sense :confused:
lol (y)

[ericlee]

It means that me and her are shagging so scram!!

[SandyLove]

A bitch is a bitch.

Are guys even capable of just being a girls' friend..... I was kind of let down when some of my highschool "buds" who i thought really were my friends, wanted more and wanted to get into my pants..... This is what it kinda feels like: one of your homies surprises you by planting a kiss on you.... and its like everything changes!!! "Dude are you like gay or something?" You know what I'm sayin'?

[Jitters]

Are guys even capable of just being a girls' friend..... I was kind of let down when some of my highschool "buds" who i thought really were my friends, wanted more and wanted to get into my pants..... This is what it kinda feels like: one of your homies surprises you by planting a kiss on you.... and its like everything changes!!! "Dude are you like gay or something?" You know what I'm sayin'?

I can't speak for EVERY guy but can you really blame us? If you meet a guy and were friends with feelings for him you would want to be with him, wouldn't you? I'm talking to a girl right now who I've been friends with for a few short months and I have really started to get strong feelings for her. I don't want to "get in her pants" (I'm not that kind of guy) but I definitely want to see what could come of a relationship since she likes me too.

[SandyLove]

Sometimes when feelings are rushing in (some) women (like Me) can't always think straight and might send out complicated, wacky signals especially if she really saw you as a true friend, and she really just doesn't know whether the friendship should be taken to another level. Believe it or not.... having that male friend to chat with on the phone or loiter with in the park to drink beer with underage, is actually enough for a girl and comforting to know she's accepted as one of the boys. Suddenly there's a pressure of you being the attractive opposite sex and the expectation or worry to make a choice! If she dates u and takes it to the next level and then say it doesn't work out or the relationship fizzles away, The friendship could be lost forever. I made out with one of my buddies before, it was okay... but it went nowhere, luckily he was cool and we continued to be friends and hang out, but still in the back of mind there was that awkward memory.... and its still unknown to me if he bragged about it to all his friends.

[Dr Deaf]

in 3 mos or less she will become your girlfriend. your relationship will last 3-6 mos at which point you will return to the friend zone. occasionally, you'll both be wasted and get your sex on. you'll think there's still a chance. she'll write it off as a drunken escapade.

you'll hurt, but remain friends. repeat 3 more times. eventually the friendship will end but you'll still exchange pleasantries when you run in to one another at communal events.

a lesson learned, but not for the last time.

[SoundScientist]

pretty girls make graves

[Justin]

"just friends" just means that...........she hates being with you every second of the day, but she still wants random sex.

[paul jones]

Ok! So i know this sounds stupid cause ive only known this girl 5 days. We've become like best freinds, incepperable. Do everything together. Well yeah, we've been growing close. And then we're planning to go to this traffic light party thing. And i was all paranoid that she'd meet someone there and id never get my chance to tell her how i feel.
So yesterday at a club i took her to one side and said that i didn't want it to spoil our freindship and told her how i felt. And she said she was "really glad i told her" and then we went and danced more.
Then we got back to our flats and went to hers to watch south park. And then we were both tiered so she said "just sleep here" so i put my arms round her and we held each other and went to sleep all nigh.
Next day i kissed her cheek and said "bye" cause she needed more sleep cause she felt ill. We didn't snog or do anything like. Then when i went back for cofee she was like asif nothing had happened.
This was bugging me cause i was trying to sleep, so i sent a message "i'm confused" and "i don't know how to act or what to do, and how you feel and i do really like you"
And then on msn just now she told me that she didn't want a boyfreind so soon and that for now we should just be freinds.

What does that mean? for now? god i'm so confused! Atleast i won't worry about the fucking traffic light party though.

do some robotic dancing for her whilst you have a cardboard box on your head with a smiley face drawn on it


see what happens(y)

[tracky]

I hate that phrase "just friends" i've heard it too many times in my life. How can you girls be so fucking stupid and blind? Do you not realise that when I ask you out it's not because I want to be "just friends"? Or are you saying yes out of pity or sympathy or something? Or were you interested before, but I did something to change your mind? WHAT?!? TELL ME WTF IS GOING ON!??

[sercomdj01]

so we slept together last night aswell :confused:

[tracky]

just sleeping?

[ericlee]

Just take it from us old guys man. We've all been on that same route. I can't even remember how many times I've been told the just friends bit.

Leave it at that man. If you twos are still "sleeping" together then be happy with it and eventually she might pull out of that stage. The word commitment may seem too deep for her at the moment.

As much as it hurts, she may still be looking. It happens man. Just don't be too pushy because it's bound to just ruin things in the end.

[sercomdj01]

:confused: just sleeping?
Yeah! But like i don't usually sleep with my best mates

[Ally Al]

:confused:
Yeah! But like i don't usually sleep with my best mates


sounds to me like she's comfortable enough to have you in her bed but that doesn't mean it'll develop into anything else. If i'm being really honest, you're not coming across like you're emotionally equipped to deal with a just friends relationship with a girl you fancy. Like eric says i'd just chill with it and enjoy her company, if you apply the pressure she'll probably totally back off

[Tone Capone]

:confused:
Yeah! But like i don't usually sleep with my best mates

Seriously man, try not to read too far into things. That's the worst mistake you could make. If I were you, I would stop sleeping with her like that too unless you want to become one of her "girlfriends". You know what I mean?

[tracky]

I reckon Tones knows what he's talking about here. not that i've ever gotten into that situation, but now that you mention it I never will (!) If there's gonna be sleeping there's gonna be sexing before the sleeping. Or I walk. I say that now... :(

[Tone Capone]

I reckon Tones knows what he's talking about here. not that i've ever gotten into that situation, but now that you mention it I never will (!) If there's gonna be sleeping there's gonna be sexing before the sleeping. Or I walk. I say that now... :(

It's common sense, you can't get a woman to take you seriously if you act like one of her sisters.

[yooooo]

^ word!

[ILLMIX]

read this link about the 'Ladder theory' it will clear a lot of things up and you can go about living your life. My conclusion is the thoery is true 99.5 %. (y)

http://www.laddertheory.com/

[Jitters]

in 3 mos or less she will become your girlfriend. your relationship will last 3-6 mos at which point you will return to the friend zone. occasionally, you'll both be wasted and get your sex on. you'll think there's still a chance. she'll write it off as a drunken escapade.

you'll hurt, but remain friends. repeat 3 more times. eventually the friendship will end but you'll still exchange pleasantries when you run in to one another at communal events.

a lesson learned, but not for the last time.

If that was directed at me then allow me to debunk that theory. First off, neither of us drink so we won't be drunk and neither of us have ever or plan to sleep with anyone so that won't be happening either. When you cut sex out of a relationship it's usually a lot more meaningful so even though it might not last forever I definitely think we could date for a while.

[Tone Capone]

If that was directed at me then allow me to debunk that theory. First off, neither of us drink so we won't be drunk and neither of us have ever or plan to sleep with anyone so that won't be happening either. When you cut sex out of a relationship it's usually a lot more meaningful so even though it might not last forever I definitely think we could date for a while.

Did you say that you NEVER plan to sleep with anyone?????

[The Notorious LOL]

I wouldnt put it past him, he also ebayed every single cd he had by any artist who has ever "sold out"


sounds like the thread starter has acheived the "dick in a glass case" standing.

[Tone Capone]

sounds like the thread starter has acheived the "dick in a glass case" standing.

No that's the friend that comes over to hook up the stereo. Not the one you have slumber parties with.

[SandyLove]

I wouldnt put it past him, he also ebayed every single cd he had by any artist who has ever "sold out"


sounds like the thread starter has acheived the "dick in a glass case" standing.

"dick in a glass case" standing.
I've never heard that term before.... Is it something like "being left sitting there with your dick in your hand"

And as for Tracky it appears as though women serve only one purpose for you, anything else would be a waste of your time!! Not cool(n)

[Jitters]

Did you say that you NEVER plan to sleep with anyone?????

I didn't say that, I'm not sleeping with anyone until I meet the right person, get married, da da da da dah etc.

[Tone Capone]

I didn't say that, I'm not sleeping with anyone until I meet the right person, get married, da da da da dah etc.

Oh that's cool I guess. Have you always been waiting or did you use to be active and then stop one day?

[SandyLove]

I didn't say that, I'm not sleeping with anyone until I meet the right person, get married, da da da da dah etc.

maybe I'm just too much of a modern day girl, but i couldn't marry someone I've never had sex with.... what if on the wedding night I find out he can't perform or has this abnormally tiny penis!!!!!! :eek: Am i the only one who thinks this way?:confused:

[Jitters]

Oh that's cool I guess. Have you always been waiting or did you use to be active and then stop one day?

I've always been waiting to get married. People have wanted to sleep with me before but I turn them down. I've even had girls try to "trick" me into sleeping with them.

Sorry about that mix up though, I've never been active, just waiting. What do you take me for a nerd that sits around on the internet that can't get a girl? ;)

[Jitters]

maybe I'm just too much of a modern day girl, but i couldn't marry someone I've never had sex with.... what if on the wedding night I find out he can't perform or has this abnormally tiny penis!!!!!! :eek: Am i the only one who thinks this way?:confused:

Maybe I'm just an old fashioned guy but sex doesn't matter much to me. If I get married to someone it's going to be because I love her and like to spend time with her, so her "performance" isn't going to bother me much.

[Tone Capone]

Sorry about that mix up though, I've never been active, just waiting. What do you take me for a nerd that sits around on the internet that can't get a girl? ;)

I don't have to answer that. I'm not on trial here.
(Phew! dodged a bullet there!)

[The Notorious LOL]

Maybe I'm just an old fashioned guy but sex doesn't matter much to me.



uhhhh....


"Old Fashioned" guys are bigger perverts than most guys in their 20s.

[Freebasser]

this abnormally tiny penis

You keep an abnormally tiny penis next to you while online?

[HEIRESS]

give him a break, he just wants a thoughtful vagina

[SandyLove]

Maybe I'm just an old fashioned guy but sex doesn't matter much to me. If I get married to someone it's going to be because I love her and like to spend time with her, so her "performance" isn't going to bother me much.

You're Naive to think that sex doesn't matter or that its not important...... I'm not saying you should be obsessed with it (cuz some guys are) But its all about balance..... don't ask me how i know this stuff, i read alot of pamphlets!:cool:

[yooooo]

Maybe I'm just an old fashioned guy but sex doesn't matter much to me. If I get married to someone it's going to be because I love her and like to spend time with her, so her "performance" isn't going to bother me much.

you are a liar.
or gay.

[SandyLove]

You keep an abnormally tiny penis next to you while online?

Why u ask Freebasser were u in the midst of shopping for one on Ebay????

[Freebasser]

No.

I was typing about cheesecake in another thread.

[Jitters]

you are a liar.
or gay.

Okay, well allow me to elaborate. I want to be with a girl just as much as the next guy but when it comes to sex it really doesn't matter to me because like I said in my other post I'm waiting.

[yooooo]

:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

[SandyLove]

Just a tip of advice Jitters you don't want to become a 40 year old virgin, because what'll happen is once u found that special someone who you'll plow for the first time you'll wonder whats its like to plow every girl in sight..... and then you'll be like "oh why was i waiting that whole time?, I just want to carve a bunch of notches on my bed post with my cool swiss army knife until I've reached a satisfied count of hmmmm....let's see at least 100 women"

ha ha ha ha ha ha!

[ILLMIX]

c'mon guys. the ladder theory, u know it makes sense.:)

[QueenAdrock]

maybe I'm just too much of a modern day girl, but i couldn't marry someone I've never had sex with.... what if on the wedding night I find out he can't perform or has this abnormally tiny penis!!!!!! :eek: Am i the only one who thinks this way?:confused:

(y) You gotta test-drive the vehicle before you buy it.

[Teh]

Dan, you're a bit of a fanny.

[yooooo]

lolz, bump(y)

[Junker]

do some robotic dancing for her whilst you have a cardboard box on your head with a smiley face drawn on it


see what happens(y)


Oh man.....you've just revealed the secret to get easy sex.

[wanton wench]

there is a boy in my life right now that is getting the "lets just be friends" line from me............sorry man i dont think you have much of a chance.

[abcdefz]

I don't think any relationship is worth bad spelling.


(y)

[steve-onpoint]

Be true. It's not always easy. Happiness to you.