i have a phobia of women over 18 years of age.

[vickista]

i don't know wtf it is but they make me all intimidated & nervous and stuttery and uncomfortable, females under 18 are fine i can make conversation and everything perfectly, males any age its all good.
but with women over 18 i fuck up, i can't look them in the eye, i get all shy and embarrased, i try to avoid them at all cost, if i go to a restraunt or something and we get a female waitress i'll tell my mum in greek really quietly what i want so that i don't have to talk to her. and one on one situations are excruciating, they walk away thinking i have some kind of antisocial behaivioural problem.

and the thing that really pisses me off is i have no idea why.
what is so unlikable about females over the age of 18 that makes me unable to even talk to them?

[ericlee]

I find if perfectly normal. It kinda goes with job interviews or just meeting a person who's already gotten 2 times your experience on a topic.

I clam up alot too. For instance, my cousin is the guy who showed me the world of music. He'll jam on guitar with his eyes closed and just play so fluently. He's played in many bands and gets props everywhere he goes.

I was hanging with him the other night and he asked me to jam some of my songs and I tried but just clammed up. He's my cousin and I shouldn't feel like that but knowing he's got so many years over me on guitar just made me nervous.

Maybe just look at these older females with respect. Like the saying "respect your elders" and it wouldn't be so hard. If you respect someone then their point of view may be easier for you to follow.

[QueenAdrock]

Hey, you can talk to me. I'll be 23 next week! I swear I don't act a day over the age of 17. (y)

[jabumbo]

i think its the opposite for me

[ericlee]

Hey, you can talk to me. I'll be 23 next week! I swear I don't act a day over the age of 17. (y)

I was just going to bring this factor in as a matter of fact.

She posts on this m.b. and gets some reactions for ladies that are over the age of 18 and there's really not much difference. At least, I don't think so. My IRL persona isn't much different than my internet persona and I belive other people here are the same.

Vikcista, maybe if you would view these older people as being people on this m.b. then things may be easier for you?

[vickista]

well its not like i disrespect them, i just try to treat em like normal people, - it doesn't really work though-but yeah like the even my god mother who like i see all the time and shes really nice and looks after me and stuff i got alot of respect for her coz shes been through alot, but still i can't speak to her i clam, and i've known her since the day i was born, and its even a bit like that with mum, my own mother whos uterus i spent 9 months in. and it was always a bit of a problem but it seems to be getting worse as i get older:(

[QueenAdrock]

It's really easy to view women over 18 as being under 18, most of the time. There's not much of a maturity change regarding a lot of things. Sure, they get full-time jobs and move outta their parents' houses and stuff, but they still like to go out and drink and get silly and talk about boys. That doesn't change for a while...not till they get married.

I think, at least.

[vickista]

Vikcista, maybe if you would view these older people as being people on this m.b. then things may be easier for you?


lol like the underwear thing, i dno coz with u guys i never see a post or like a real personality, i just see posts. but i spose i could try imaging a person im comfortable with.

[QueenAdrock]

Do you think it'll go away once you're 18?

[vickista]

It's really easy to view women over 18 as being under 18, most of the time. There's not much of a maturity change regarding a lot of things. Sure, they get full-time jobs and move outta their parents' houses and stuff, but they still like to go out and drink and get silly and talk about boys. That doesn't change for a while...not till they get married.

I think, at least.


yeah i guess i see them as people who are going to judge me (i know thats really dumb but yeah) and i've gotta prove myself to them and then i guess i feel pressure from that and thats where it all goes wrong.

[vickista]

Do you think it'll go away once you're 18?
i dont think so, i think i'll be more confident and stuff but theres gonna be a diff age barrier.

[ericlee]

She's letting people's outter shell override their inner shell, I suppose.

Kinda like the way people view me. I look 18 still but I hardly smile and my wife's friends as well as some people that don't really know me tell me that I look like a hard mofo because I rarely smile. I've just been through alot.

I'm the exact opposite as how people view me. In my mind it's nothing but, "Kibbles and bits, Kibbles and Bits" and people who frequent this m.b. kinda get an insight on how I really am because IRL, I don't take the time to let anybody know.

Believe it or not, I'd say that the majority of people out there are just the same as me.

I kinda think of people as being on the same wavelength as me which makes things easier. I've worked in stressfull environments where I'm a foreigner and pretty much a piece of shit to them and almost all of my work experiences has been dealing with people that are not just older than me but, a whole different culture as well.

There's just times when you have to think of the whole "every man is created equal" quote and go from there.

[QueenAdrock]

yeah i guess i see them as people who are going to judge me (i know thats really dumb but yeah) and i've gotta prove myself to them and then i guess i feel pressure from that and thats where it all goes wrong.

Nah, I see how it can be intimidating sometimes. But you're 13, right? I think, that's what I can tell judging from your profile. At your age, I was terrified of judgement too...until I realized that majority of people are also equally as terrified of being judged, too. It may not be fear of being judged by someone older, but it could be fear of judgement from friends, family, boyfriend's family, friend's boyfriends, boyfriend's friends, etc etc. The list is very long. I'm still very scared of being judged by the boyfriend's family, just because it's happened before in a previous relationship, and therefore still a strong possibility of happening again in my mind. So while you're afraid of them, they're probably afraid of someone else, too.

[zorra_chiflada]

be afraid!
when i see annoying teenage girls around town speaking loudly about inane shit and generally being skinny bitches, i tell them to shut up. the moral of the story is, don't be annoying.

[ericlee]

lol like the underwear thing, i dno coz with u guys i never see a post or like a real personality, i just see posts. but i spose i could try imaging a person im comfortable with.

Well, I wouldn't go that far. I mean, with Turd's underwear, you could probably hang them over a lightbulb and spin them and it would have the same effect as a discoball with all the holes from moths.

[vickista]

Nah, I see how it can be intimidating sometimes. But you're 13, right? I think, that's what I can tell judging from your profile. At your age, I was terrified of judgement too...until I realized that majority of people are also equally as terrified of being judged, too. It may not be fear of being judged by someone older, but it could be fear of judgement from friends, family, boyfriend's family, friend's boyfriends, boyfriend's friends, etc etc. The list is very long. I'm still very scared of being judged by the boyfriend's family, just because it's happened before in a previous relationship, and therefore still a strong possibility of happening again in my mind. So while you're afraid of them, they're probably afraid of someone else, too.


yeah true, i guess because i spend alot of time with girls (siblings are girls, all girl school etc.) and well y'all know we can be a bit bitchy and judgemental from time to time, maybe when because under 18 is my age bracket i feel like its alrite coz we equal, but i see anything older as above me in terms of authority etc. and so i fear giving them a bad impression of myself incase thet're as quick to judge as us youngsters can be sometimes.

i like that idea though, "while you're afraid of them, they're probably afraid of someone else" suddenly i feel like instead of being an ant and them being a kid with a magnifying glass i am now a large beetle.:p it's not much but it a start, ima gonna use that though there afraid of someone else, the next time i can't look someone in the eye.

[vickista]

be afraid!
when i see annoying teenage girls around town speaking loudly about inane shit and generally being skinny bitches, i tell them to shut up. the moral of the story is, don't be annoying.


we ain't all that bad.

[icy manipulator]

my first thought when i saw the title of this thread was that it was started by paul jones